Oct 11: Listening

10:00 Keynote setup

10:30 Peer coaching issue

Connect right now with a peer partner for this week.
You may get a new partner each week, or meet with the same person

Website and peer coaching form issue

elizabethwoning.com/bssm2/
Tour the page, see the links etc

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Questions about Connect Coaching ministry, coaching 1 years
Well cross this bridge later

10:45 What constitutes extraordinary listening?

Honor
Presence
Unconditional high regard, listening with no agenda

Three levels of listening (CTI)

Level I: Internal listening

What does this mean to me.
The spotlight is on me. The coach offers their own perspective and experience
while listening.
Level I informs us about ourselves.

Level II: Focused listening

Attention on the coachee, not the outside world. You two are at the center of the
universe
the coach becomes completely aware of the coachee, looking for resonance,
emotion, passion, changes in countenance and body posturenot just info
Info and energy come fr the client and are reflected back and processed by the
coach
You choose what to respond to and how that response impacts the coachee

Level III: Global Listening

universal listening that expands the coaches awareness not only of the coachee
but the coachees circumstances, the atmosphere around them, perhaps the setting
and draws upon intuition.
You draw upon your intuition and spiritual awareness to understand the coachee
You pay attention to the spiritual atmosphere, coachees spirit, and the Holy Spirit

With Level III listening you are able to suspend your self-awareness and lean into the
Holy Spirit to give you questions and insight that will move the coachee forward.

11:00 7 Listening skills. We will look at these in depth during the track
 Articulating: Clients often cant see for themselves what they are doing or saying. Or
perhaps they can see the details but not the bigger picture. With this skill, you share
your observations as clearly as possible, but without judgment. You tell clients what
you see them doing.

Clarifying: Reframing, or mirroring the clients information so they can understand it

better/see it more clearly. This is what I am hearing

Meta-view: Standing on a balcony, or taking a helicopter up. What do you see when
you look down at yourself? What do you see here that you didnt see before?

Metaphor: Paint a picture to give a comparative visual so the coachee can glean new
information. For example, if you could compare this feeling to a color, what would it
be?

Acknowledging: Celebrating the coachees strengths. We often dismiss our victories

out of a false sense of humility. A coach stops us from that reaction.

Affirmation: This is the seed of prophecy. Listening to bring affirmation tunes us in to

both the Holy Spirit and the gold within our coachee.

Resonance: Identifying and utilizing resonance, that moment when one feels alive.
Highlighting passion

11:10 5-10 min Demonstration

11:20 Practice in pairs, 10 min each. Debrief together

11:50 Q&A
PEER COACH connect

Homework:
[Connect with your peer-coaching partner from class to explore the exercise questions below. Plan to meet
for approximately 1 hour. This can be in person, via Skype or phone. Practice coaching for at least 25
minutes each (one peer is a coach, the other is a coachee) and spend 5 minutes debriefing the coaching skills
observed, then switch coach/coachee to repeat the exercise.]

Ask your coachee, when was a time in your life you felt most alive?
In your debrief, observe the feeling in both your spirits as you explored this memory. This is
an experience of resonance. What makes it special? Can it be repeated?

Reflection:
[Each week I will provide a question for reflection. Consider journaling your answers.]

What do you need in your life, or what do you need to have achieved, in order to feel
fulfilled?
Who do you need to be, or become, in order to accomplish your dream?