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Introduction
Hello,
Back to the topic, let me tell you something. Let’s break a myth here.
You will find women say that they don’t like flirts and flirting. But do
you know what they actually mean by that? What those women
mean is that they don’t like when somebody ‘play’ with them. Yes,
that’s right.
Okay, before you go ahead and think that it might be better to be the
‘nice guy’ then, let me clarify it for you. Different women come with
If you are a player and your being a player works on her, she is
basically insecure and seeks your validation. If she is turned off by
you, she is assured on her own value and disqualifies you because
being a player signals lack of commitment. And lack of commitment
is a dent on your social or sexual value.
Now, I know you are completely confused and you will probably be
thinking that this person is actually preaching NOT TO FLIRT in a
Sexual Flirt Mastery eBook.
No, it’s all about flirting, not about playing. What I am asking of you is
to have an open mind and absorb as much as you can from this book.
And I promise you…
By the end of the report, you will become a much more Attractive
Man who women chase after, a head start you never thought you
could get.
Best of luck,
Ron.
Modern Men’s Dating Guide – Attraction, Sex and Relationships
Table of Contents
A. Introduction.................................................................................................pg.4
B. Table of Contents………………………………………………………………………..………..pg.6
C. What is Flirting……………………………………………………………….……………………..pg.7
D. Why You Should Flirt………………………………………………………………………….pg.10
E. Prerequisites of Flirting……………………………………………………………………..pg.13
F. How to Flirt!..............................................................................................pg.16
G. Universal DO’s of Flirting………………………………………………………………….pg.21
H. Universal DON’Ts of Flirting…………………………………………………………….pg.25
I. Final Words on Flirting………………………………………………………………………pg.28
What is Flirting
The funny thing is that while
men are being labeled as
‘flirts’, hardly do they ever
know how to flirt with
women. Sometimes, stupid
cheesy lines are considered
to be flirting with women.
See the examples below:
Please, men...this is NOT called Flirting. If you think being this cheesy
means being a flirt, you could not be more wrong than this.
Yes, the very first thing that you need to know is what flirting actually
means.
Flirting signals that you are ready to mate and you find her as a
potential mate. Two important aspects of the game here: one, that
you increasing your value and you are increasing her value as well.
This is called the Mutual Value Escalation. This is SO different to the
other pickup methods where you are told to decrease the value of
women to pick them up. That’s not what love, dating and
relationships is all about. You NEVER suck value from someone but
you ADD value to someone’s life. And flirting conveys just that.
way, you are just being NATURAL. In fact, as born in the masculine
sex of the species, you are supposed to act like that.
An important note here: Some of the men out there get SO socially
conditioned that they lose the touch with their innate sexual being.
They stop flirting. In simpler words, they stop sending out mating
signals even if they are sexually ready and they come across a
potential mate. These types of men are called ‘Nice Guys’. And we all
know that these people finish last!
Why You
Should Flirt
In the game of pickup
women,
I know what you are thinking right now. You are thinking what this
sexual tension is and how to create sexual tension.
Well, sexual tension is a very tricky topic. Either you get it or you
don’t. To make it easier for you, let’s say sexual tension is when there
is an unsolved sexual vibe in the air. You can say there’s an unsolved
and controlled aroused state on both side. She feels it and you feel it,
and both of you enjoy it nonetheless. Some advice you to use NLP
(credit Ross Jeffries of Speed Seduction) while some espouse the
focus of intense sexual state (credit Gunwitch and Vin Di Carlo). Yes,
there are many who think teasing or cocky-flirty creates that much-
required sexual tension. I cannot say that all of them are wrong but
they are not totally right. And you know why? It’s because all of them
are busy championing their own method and most of them are trying
to earn money from their products and services. It’s very unfortunate
that they have changed this beautiful Art of Seduction into some
business.
Well, back to the topic anyway, we know now that sexual tension is
that sexual charge in an interaction but without resolution of any
sort. But how do you do that? Of course, one of the best ways to
create sexual tension is through effective flirting with the woman.
basically pushing her down (because you are pulling yourself up).
When you are conveying about your sexual interest in her, you are
pulling her in (because you are pulling her up to your level). Now, this
is very subtle and this doesn’t work on her conscious mind but on her
subconscious mind where flirting is actually supposed to affect.
When you flirt, you are pulling her with your energy, your
demeanor but you are pushing her by being playfully challenging
her. Challenge is a big part of flirting with women, and when you
challenge her, you create that unsolved dissonance in the sexual
atmosphere that you have created.
This works on the mind of the woman. She feels the sexual vibe, she
seeks to solve the confusion in the air and she ends up helplessly
chasing you. Isn’t that what you want, huh?
Prerequisites of Flirting
Ah…this is one of the hardest sections of
write! Prerequisites of flirting with
women! Now what can be the
prerequisites of flirting with women? You
just go and flirt, right? NO. If you just go
and flirt with any woman out there, you
would come across as any other chump
who tries to express their interest in a woman. If you think you can
flirt because you can express your sexual or romantic interest in a
woman BOLDLY, think again because you are wrong.
These are the most BASIC prerequisites when it comes to flirting with
women. Ask me and I would suggest you that even before you think
of flirting, start working on these aspects first.
How to Flirt
No, if you are thinking that I will be giving
you some ‘Top Five’ list (which will there
later on) in this one, you are wrong. In
this section, I will teach you how to flirt
with women. Now, that’s a bird-view that
I am rendering you. You always wanted to
get inside the head of women, don’t you?
That’s what I am doing in this module. Proffering you with a view on
how a woman thinks normally.
Here is a survey chat that I had just now with one of my female
friends. She is 21 and she is pretty much experienced when it comes
to the matter of boys…lol.
Me: Do you flirt with men?
She: Yes, I do…sometimes.
Me: What kind of men do you normally flirt with?
She: Intelligent, witty, the ones who are a bit out of control…not the
weak, clingy ones, those you can match up with me.
Me: What do you mean by flirting?
She: according to me flirting is a bit intimated friendship with a pinch
of romance and seduction...
Me: Do you like the boy to initiate the flirting or do you initiate it?
And how would you normally like him to flirt with you?
She: it actually depends for the first question…it is best when it JUST
happens. Normally it will start with some intimate talking, and then
wherever it goes…as it normally happens, but NEVER too exposed!
Me: thanks mam, for your answers ;-)
Now, here’s another girl, of 21 yrs. She is my friend and she can be
regarded as a HB7 or HB8. If you don’t know what that means, HB
stands for ‘Hot Babe’. By the way, this girl claims that she is ‘different
from the other girls.
Me: Do you like to flirt with men?
She: Never…Have some friends, all of them are same…and one of
them just got special…that’s it.
Me: Do you like when somebody flirts with you? Even if he does that
in a nice graceful way?
She: No, it bugs me now that I’m committed but previously it was
okay.
Me: What do you mean by flirting?
She: umm…don’t know
Me: thanks for your answers, dear.
Now, let’s discuss both the conversation. Look at them. The first girl
seems quite open about the whole romance thingy. She loves flirting
with men and is basically up for an adventure it seems. In the second
case, the girl is bit more restrained and she doesn’t seem to support
flirting, isn’t it?
Well, before I proceed, let me say something. I know these girls very
well and they are my very good friends. In each of the conversation, I
asked them to be completely honest with themselves and then
answer me. If you ask me, I would say that they did.
And let me tell you something, the second girl also loves flirting,
BECAUSE she texts me naughty messages in the middle of the night
and I reply to them.
Firstly, when you are flirting, there should be some sexual charge in
the conversation. Without that charge, it’s no flirting at all. And it
normally starts with exchanged words and your flirtatious vibe, that’s
it. It cannot be too obvious or you are coming on too strong. She
wants to enjoy the whole thing and not be crept out by your
uncontrolled sleazy advances. It’s in the anticipation that the fun lies.
If you kill the anticipation, you don’t have fun. If there’s no fun, it’s
not flirting. It’s plain disturbing or annoying the girl. Flirting equals to
sexual tension. So, it should be sexual and it should have tension.
You convince her to think in a way. And when she does, you
suddenly make her feel she is wrong. This confuses her and she
is compelled to work to SOLVE YOU. That’s called Active
Flirting. Just take this example. The first time when you meet a
woman, you use a lot of sexual innuendos, have fun and totally
convince her that you are into her. And then, when she feels
like you will make a move, you suddenly tell her that she is like
your ‘sister’ and tease her on something. It is just playing with
her mind. You got it?
But in this case, you NEVER overdo it. If you overdo it, she
might lose heart. And the trick to this kind of flirting is NOT to
try. If you seem like you are trying, you are ‘solved’ to her. And
then it’s no flirting at all.
So, be CONFUSING but in a more subtle manner.
You bait her to establish rapport with you, but then you reject
her moves. You DON’T actively break rapport but you don’t let
her build rapport as well. This is actually called Passive Flirting.
In this, let’s say, during the conversation, you tell her how you
enjoyed the ski riding in Switzerland, and when she asks about
that more, you digress to another topic. It just creates more
mystery in her mind. That impels her to act!
Secondly, not all girls are so clear about what they want. It is like that
customer who goes in a showroom but doesn’t know what he wants.
He is actually led to the right purchase by the savvy salesperson.
Well, he is normally led to the most expensive purchase!
In many cases, you will find that she doesn’t consciously comply with
flirting but when you have gained comfort and trust, she is complying
with that. Well, you see the whole flirting thing is what creates THAT
tension. Now, if she is adventurous and confident, she will be up for
it. If she is rather shy and diffident, she will most likely refuse that. If
she is a horny cougar, she will be open to that but if she is a
newlywed bride and satisfied with her husband, she won’t. It all
depends on the person and the situation. But remember, you HAVE
to flirt if you wish to initiate a sexual relationship with ANY woman.
And that’s why we are here, isn’t it?
Confidence. It’s no secret. Ask any woman and she will tell that
the most important quality in any man is his confidence. If he
is confident, that means he is confident in himself as a man.
That decreases his perceived value in the eyes of the woman
and she instantly rejects him as a potential mate. And when it
comes to flirting, o man! You cannot flirt unless you are
confident, because flirting is all about challenging the woman.
If you are not confident, you are not a challenge.
Smile. I cannot stress this enough. If you don’t know how to
smile, you tell her that you are nervous and scared of her, you
are not happy with your life or you just have BAD TEETH. A
genuine smile is adding value to her day and making her life
better. A smile can be the best opener and one single bright
smile is enough to send her that POSITIVITY that nothing can.
Personal Hygiene. How many times will I have to tell the men
that they need to take care of their daily personal hygiene? If
you have big dirty nails, don’t comb your hair or have stains on
your trousers, it all shows that you don’t care much about life
and that life doesn’t care about you. Lack of personal hygiene
(brushing your teeth, taking regular baths, cutting your nails,
etc) brings a sense of negativity into the conversation, which if
you are that hopeful to get into. It is very likely that you blow
you off even before you open your mouth.
Dress Well. Yes, your sense of style is what reveals your
personality to her. It shows that you value yourself and you
proudly carry yourself through this world. Not only that, a
glimpse of your real inside, how you think and what you are
made of, all of these come out through your dressing sense. If
you are not being able to decide what you should wear and
how you should wear, get your female friend to choose for
you. Well, if you have any gay friends, they will also suit for the
job. It’s a peculiar thing that these gay folks have a marvelous
sense of style.
Workout. Well, yes I agree that your attitude and personality is
the most important weapon that you have to attract women.
But your physique does carry some importance, at least in the
eyes of your female counterparts. Here’s why. If you have a
well-toned body, your dress fits you well and you certainly
have a youthful look and stamina, which makes you more
Note: You have to look approachable. Tell you what, girls have grown
balls and DO approach nowadays.
not the only thing that you do. You have to build some rapport
as well because unless you have the necessary level of rapport,
you cannot be playful.
To get some rapport, you should ask open-ended questions,
but it’s NOT as the conversation is all about her. You lose the
sexual tension if you do that. I would suggest you to JUST talk
about BOTH you and her, and have fun over the process. One
of the most important things here is to listen to her.
Remember, it takes consistent work on both rapport and
attraction (read flirting) that leads to seduction.
Observe what signals she gives out. Watch her eyes and her
facial skin tone. Do her eyes dilate? Is her face blushing? Is she
facing you? You might not want to focus TOO MUCH on this
but sure getting a cue or two from it helps you in the long way.
Note: Pay attention to her. She tells you what she feels inside and
wants you to understand her.
Remember, flirting is all about making yourself and the other person
feel good about themselves. So, keep it light and enjoy it. NEVER put
too much pressure on yourself or on the woman.
Final Words on
Flirting
You are now
internationally certified to
FLIRT!
But you see, you now have a lethal weapon in your collection. Go use
it but CAREFULLY!
Remember what you have now is meant to beautify the lives of you
and others.
PLAY IT HARD!
Signing off,
Ron C.
My dating blog: Men’s Online Dating Guide - Attraction, Sex and
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