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Deconstructing
the Fear of Father Absence
Amaryll Perlesz
Dr. Amaryll Perlesz is Senior Lecturer in Family Therapy, The Bouverie Centre, La
Trobe University, Melbourne, Australia. Address correspondence to: The Bouverie Cen-
tre, 50 Flemington Street, Flemington, VIC, 3031 (E-mail: a.perlesz@latrobe.edu.au).
Journal of Feminist Family Therapy, Vol. 16(3) 2004
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and economic outcomes. The political and social pretext that underlines
father absence fear is just that; a pretext to retain the hegemony of pa-
triarchal nuclear family life and restore fathers to their rightful posi-
tions of power and control within families. In developing a conclusion to
this critique, the paper draws on a brief case-study from a lesbian-parented
family research project conducted in Victoria, Australia, and illustrates
implications for family therapists with a brief clinical vignette. [Article
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PREAMBLE
This isnt a paper Ive wanted to write. In fact, this is a paper that Ive
been avoiding writing. Any topic about fathers is a sensitive one for fa-
thers, men, and indeed for women and children in families too. Weve
all had some experience of having or not having fathers who have been
involved in our lives in varying degrees of good, constructive, wonder-
ful, less helpful or downright bad ways. Weve all got opinions about
fathers. As a lesbian parent living in the one lesbian-parented family for
more than twenty years, in a family you could describe as partly de novo
lesbian family and partly lesbian step-family,1 fathers just havent been
my focus of clinical, research, or personal interest. But sometimes the
personal really is political and drawing on personal and unique ways of
doing family2 offers significant insights in my work as a family
therapist and clinical researcher.
This paper is not about trying to prove that it has worked to not have
that much social parenting by a father in our family. If Im working as a
counsellor helping other families, or teaching family therapists about les-
bian family life, I need to be able to answer questions like: do children
need fathers? or from a different angle, why do we fear the absence of
fathers?
This paper is my journey in searching for answers to these kind of
questions. I begin with a personally curious discrepancy in views be-
tween my daughter (18 years old at the time of writing) and myself
Amaryll Perlesz 3
A LESBIAN MOTHER
AND HER DAUGHTER CONSTRUCT THEIR FAMILY
them publicly, and they will have contributed to, and approved of what
is written here.
The point at which our descriptions of family most clearly diverge is
around the prominence of her father in her family life, and the public in-
visibility of her other mother. For her, publicly, her father is a signifi-
cant part of her family jigsaw, yet privately he is less relevant and he
meets few of her direct emotional, social, physical, financial needs. Her
other mother is significant and central privately, yet marginalised pub-
licly. These social constructions are at odds with my daughters every-
day emotional, intimate and functional connections with her non-birth
mother. Together, my partner and I play a significant parenting role for
our daughter as advisors, coaches, consultants (Parke, 2004) and pro-
vide substantial social, financial, moral, practical and emotional sup-
port. We are her social parents, and she would have no hesitation in
sharing this view.
I have never believed that my daughter has needed her father in order
to be well-socialised and to maximise her intellectual, emotional, physi-
cal and spiritual maturation. Though I have suspected that she wants
him there as a significant link in her geneology, and he is useful in her
public and social construction of family as her biological parent rather
than as a social parent (Dempsey, 2004).
Her father and her co-mother legal guardian do not function in oppo-
sition and competition with each other. On the contrary, they co-exist as
significant adults in her life and it is her own social interactions within
the public and private domains that bring them into prominence as legit-
imate family members at different moments in her everyday life as she
interacts with kith and kin, friends and relatives, her wider social net-
work and a wide range of other people.
So this is my starting point. I personally have had a satisfying experience
raising a child pretty much without her fathers assistance or presence. Yet
I have a daughter who values her biological and social connection with her
father. It is the significance that we attach to his presence or otherwise in
her life and her life history where we differ and it is this difference that is re-
flected in the intellectual and emotional debates about whether or not chil-
dren need fathers in families.
for their article Deconstructing the Essential Father which was published
in the American Psychological Associations premier journal, the American
Psychologist. The following year Silverstein and Auerbach were awarded
another APA accolade, this time from the Division devoted to the study of
Men and Masculinity, for their Fatherhood Project.
The study of fathering and the role of fathers in families has become a
popular pastime. But do children need fathers? Dominant discourse and
popular wisdom says yes of course, particularly when raising sons. The
research evidence (Silverstein & Auerbach, 1999) says probably not:
milies and lesbian families created by choice. For instance, the purposeful
creation of lesbian-led families without fathers cannot be compared with
the loss of contact with fathers post-separation and divorce in heterosexual-
parented families. Children may react negatively post-separation and di-
vorce to the economic and social disruption and partial loss of contact with
a significant father to whom they are attached (Smyth, 2004), but one
would not necessarily expect a child to be disadvantaged if they have been
raised from birth in an economically stable, nurturing, low conflict family
without an involved father. Changing family membership midstream is not
comparable to creating fatherless (or minimal social paternity) families.
Moreover, father involvement/absence is not an either/or phenomenon,
and contemporary family life harbours a diversity of father/ child biologi-
cal and social relationships on a continuum that includes fathers caring for
children full-time, to known and unknown sperm donors with full, mini-
mal, or no involvement in their childrens lives.
Towards the end of this paper I address the level of individual experi-
ence by touching on the role family therapists play in articulating and
exploring with their clients particular meanings around father presence
and absence within individual families. The bulk of the paper though
deconstructs more general social discourses around fatherhood in order
to show that although any individual child may or may not have a dem-
onstrated personal need for a particular level of father involvement, so-
cial constructions around both biological and social fathering tend to
rely on widely held social and internalised beliefs and assumptions that
have little empirical substance.
have a preference, but under stress are more likely to seek out their
mothers who, despite increasing participation in the workforce, are still
predominantly the primary caretakers in families. Mothers become sig-
nificantly more competent caregivers because they generally spend
more time looking after their children, and mothers consequently seem
more sensitive to their childrens needs. Mothers are not innately more
sensitive and responsive to their children because of their biological
experiences of pregnancy, birth, and breast-feeding.
The Social Institution of Marriage Has a Civilising Influence
on Men
The argument here has been that if men are not innate nurturers, the
provision of a social structure of marriage will assist in teaching them
the rules of caring and responsibility towards children. An extension of
the Trivers hypothesis is that male primates will not spend time tending
another males offspring, because it is a direct conflict of interest with
their own evolutionary survival (the paternity hypothesis). This hypoth-
esis is generally not borne out, because males in single-male groups
have less paternal involvement than males in multi-male groups. Smuts
and Gubernick (1992) offer an alternative reciprocity hypothesis to
explain male nonhuman primate behaviour. Male care of infants is di-
rectly proportional to the amount of benefits that females can exchange
in return for this offspring care. Thus females in multi-male groups can
provide preferential sexual treatment, and preferential support and po-
litical assistance in dominance ranking and hierarchical status for
particular males within the family group, and thus earn reciprocal child-
care from that male.
Silverstein and Auerbach argue that the reciprocity hypothesis works
for humans as well as primates. Mens involvement in childcare is great-
est in dual-shift, working-class families where both parents incomes are
significant to family stability (Pleck, 1993). Paternal involvement is least
with poor unmarried teenage fathers and upper-class fathers from tradi-
tional nuclear families: the former young men have limited capacity to of-
fer economic security to their children, and in the latter case, it is the
wives who have little to offer economically, and externally paid child-
care is offered by fathers rather than direct paternal involvement. More-
over, as one would expect, employed fathers are much more likely to
financially support non-resident children than unemployed fathers.
The supposedly civilising effects of marriage are clearly not borne out
regarding the statistics on violence and sexual abuse by married men.
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The argument that boys need male role models is probably the position
that holds the greatest social currency (see below for further discussion of
this). The dominant social discourse is that boys need a heterosexual male
parent to establish a male gender identity and a heterosexual sexual orienta-
tion. The empirical research within both heterosexual and homosexual
families does not support this position. For instance, boys raised by lesbian
mothers are just as likely to be heterosexual as their heterosexually raised
male peers, and to develop normal male gender identity (Patterson, 1995).
Whilst the converse is true in that boys raised in strongly heterosexual
households can still develop homosexual identities.
Silverstein and Auerbach conclude that there is no empirical evidence
. . . that fathers make a unique and essential contribution to child
development . . . (yet) . . . it is essential to strengthen the father-child bond
within all family contexts, especially non-marital contexts (pp. 403-404, my
emphasis).
So, herein lies the strange twist within Silverstein and Auerbachs argu-
ment. Despite their persuasive critique of these essentialist myths around
fathering, they actually end up agreeing with the neoconservative position
that they set out to critique: . . . it is preferable for responsible fathers (and
mothers) to be actively involved with their children . . . we share a concern
that many men in U.S. society do not have a feeling of emotional connec-
tion or sense of responsibility toward their children (p. 398) and social
policy should be directed towards . . . achieving the goal of reconnecting
fathers with children (p. 405).
In fact, I am not even sure how particularly conservative this position
is. It seems pretty much the socially dominant discourse of conservatives
and those who like to see themselves as less conservative (see below what
the leaders of the two main political parties in Australia have to say about
male role models). Its more your common, everyday garden wisdom . . .
kids need their dads! But reading between the lines here, men or dads
need their kids too. It is also a dominant intellectual discourse from even
thoughtful critics of gender and family politics that: fathers involve-
ment in families is highly desirable (because) when fathers are actively
involved, they expand the practical, emotional, and social resources
available for parenting (Flood, 2003).
sential, and that children need at least one responsible, caretaking adult
(gender non-specific) with whom they have a positive emotional con-
nection and a consistent relationship. They even declare a clear concern
about the discrimination against cohabiting couples, single mothers,
and gay and lesbian parents and recommend that public policy should
support the legitimacy of family diversity. Yet, at the same time, they
also argue that it is preferable for responsible fathers to be actively in-
volved with their children and that social policy should be directed to-
wards reconnecting fathers with children. So, despite valuing family
diversity, they are placing a higher value on those types of families who
choose to involve fathers.
Theyre saying that even though theyre not needed, its preferable to
have fathers in families if theyre behaving well; that is, not abusing their
wives and children, being consistent parents, providing financial, social,
and/or nurturing support, and being positively emotionally connected with
their children. Fathers are important but not essential. We can do without
them, but its better to have them. The hidden (not so hidden) agenda here
is that it is important for the men to have contact with their children (not just
the other way around). It is important for men to develop their nurturing ca-
pacities and to partake in happy, fulfilling family life.
Implicit in this conclusion is that there is a hierarchy of parenting. It is
preferable to have fathers involved, in preferably two parent families, with
preferable involvement from both mothers and fathers. These subtly articu-
lated preferences embedded in what seems like a radical critique seem little
different from a stated preference for the mythical and idealised well-func-
tioning, heterosexual, nuclear family.5
The public response to their article on Deconstructing the Essential
Father was in some ways predictable. Silverstein (2002) reports that the
public outcry against the article was so intense that the U.S. House of
Representatives debated whether to pass a resolution condemning the
article (p. 59). Politicians were obviously upset that fathers (and moth-
ers) were deemed to be important but not essential to healthy child devel-
opment. But at the same time the paper was awarded the Distinguished
Publication Award by a socially conservative professional bodythe
American Psychological Association. One can only guess that the APA
appreciated the publicly credible recommendations in the papers conclu-
sion to have fathers more socially and emotionally connected with their
children (for the sake of both the men and the children); a rehashing of the
dominant discourse and a re-establishing of patriarchy.
Amaryll Perlesz 13
I am very worried and many people are worried [tape break] boys
out of broken families end up not having effective male role mod-
els, perhaps ever . . . They live with their mother, they dont have
older brothers or uncles or male grandparent(s) with whom they
can identify, and they go to schools now where there are very few
male teachers. They can often be 15 or 16, and perhaps never, be-
fore they find a male role model and it does result in perhaps not
the most balanced upbringing, and thats something that we
should try as a society to see if we can address. (cited in Smyth,
2004, p. 34)
Behind the arguments of Latham and Howard lie sexism and ho-
mophobia. What is this crisis of masculinity we keep hearing so
much about, and where do we locate it? Mark Latham says its
about single-parent families, and you find it where boys grow up
without dads. John Howard says its about same-sex couples
adopting children, and you find it with lesbians raising sons. The
Catholic Church says its about an abundance of women teachers,
and you find it in classrooms without male role models. Scratch
the surface of these arguments, and what you really find is good
old-fashioned sexism and homophobia. The unstated concern
about boys being raised by single mums, living in lesbian house-
holds and taught by female teachers, is the notion that this pro-
duces an effeminisation of males, and the fear it may lead to
homosexuality itself. The myth of the overbearing mother and
distant father as the cause of male homosexuality is alive and
well. Thus, the crisis in masculinity is little more than a diver-
sionary debate that hides what more properly might be regarded
as the real crisis of masculinity. That is, many mens general anxi-
ety about homosexuality and discomfort with female authority.
(The Age, 2 April, 2004)
Who can argue that the government should provide more funding to
families with children? However, a more radical position would be to
recommend that in order to increase family diversity and child-rearing
optionsgiven that heterosexual nuclear parenting does not inevitably
produce good outcomes for childrengovernments should support new
transformative family arrangements and non-patriarchal family forma-
tion. Greater income support should be given to families without fathers
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Lucy and Sarah, both in their 40s, are the birth mother and lesbian
co-parent of Wendy, 13 years old at the time of interview. Lucy and Sa-
rah have been partners for around 15 years, and Lillian, also a lesbian, is
Wendys biological grandmother. All three women and Wendy were
present at the research interview.
In order to create their family, Lucy arranged for an anonymous, al-
truistic sperm donation via a friend. Lucy had spoken to the donor on the
phone at the time she began the process of insemination and she and Sa-
rah had had contact with him only through that short insemination pro-
cess. When Wendy was two and a half, she began asking questions
about her donor (the childs language) and wanted to meet him. They ar-
ranged this through a friend, and that was the first time Lillian and
Wendy had seen him. After the one meeting with Wendy he had no fur-
ther involvement and she never requested to see him again, and they
only hear of him now through friends.
Wendy has never yearned for her biological donor to be a social par-
ent or involved father. In Wendys view its normal to be raised by
lesbians, and when asked about her family by friends and peers at
school, she answers: . . . I just (say) I have two mums. No one in the
family has ever hidden the fact that Wendys parents are lesbian, and the
family is also out at the school:
Lucy: So for us you know weve been told by her teachers to be re-
ally proud of her, like all her teachers say that she is a great per-
son. And so why is she such a great person? And I think, or one of
them is because she just is, you are a great person, and also look-
ing at how we have parented. Weve really um . . .
Lucy: Yeah, and just looking at when the kids start to worry and
get hung up about not having a father and how, and I just think,
that just a little message out there is to really just say who you are
and be proud of your family and um, and to not to hide it. Because I
think once you start hiding it then you feel like there is a secret and
theres something wrong with you, and how can you let your kid
know that this is fine, this is good, this is normal, this is ordinary
but at the same time giving the message that this is a terrible secret
and you mustnt tell anybody.
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It is not just the lesbian parents who embrace this theme of accepting
and being proud of who you are and how youre doing family, but the
grandmother too has a unique way of describing her family as she tries
to reach beyond the boundaries of patriarchy:
Even as early as a five year old, Wendy was clear and open about her
origins:
Interviewer: How do you account for that, that it has been an ab-
solute non-issue?
Sarah: She was born into it I think. When you are born into it you
dont know any different do you really?
Feminist family therapists pay much attention to their biases and as-
sumptions around gender, race, power, class, sexuality, and disenfran-
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I have been seeing a young single mother, Ella, in her late 20s
with her five year-old son, Tommy in therapy. Ella has expressed
concerns about Tommys tantrums. He is bossy at home and at
kindergarten, angry, has few friends, cries and screams and is
constantly demanding of attention. Ella also cries and yells a lot at
home and is worried that she might seriously hurt and frighten
Tommy if she loses her temper with him. Ella has a boyfriend
Frank who is frequently violent when he visits and stays over.
Franks violence is more in his emotional control and intimidation
of both Ella and Tommy (although he did physically beat up the
pizza delivery boy in front of Ella which made her very scared).
Tommy is attached to Frank and enjoys playing with him, but is
scared and anxious about his intimidating behaviour. Ella partic-
ularly likes the fact that Tommy loves Frank, and it is for this rea-
son that she allows Frank to continue to visit. Despite Franks
violence Ella maintains a relationship with him because she be-
lieves that she has let Tommy down by not having a stable fa-
ther-presence in the family. Tommys biological father left a few
weeks after his birth and neither Tommy nor Ella have seen him
since. The therapy focuses on Ellas strengths as a single parent
and her parenting skills. It is in the deconstructing of Ellas beliefs
about the role Frank plays in her family that she becomes more
aware that her desire to have a male role model for her son, even
though he is not a particularly good role model, comes from her
belief that sons should be raised by fathers, not just mothers. At the
point that she is able to relinquish her unsatisfying and dangerous
relationship with Frank she is also beginning to acknowledge that
she may actually have an emotional connectedness with Tommy, a
capacity to play with him and read to him, and competent
parenting skills that make Tommy feel loved, safe, non-scared,
non-anxious, and help him relate better to other children. In the
family therapy we have focussed on the positive attributes of a
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CONCLUDING THOUGHTS
So, here I conclude the paper I didnt want to write! It would be an un-
fortunate ending if the reader believed this to be an anti-male, anti-father
discourse. On the contrary, this story and critique have been set out to
show that father absence is not a monolithic entity and that fathers come
into and out of childrens lives in a myriad of ways, just as they some-
times dont have a presence in family life right from the beginning. When
creating fathering arrangements post heterosexual separation and divorce
and even in heterosexual single mothering, the role of social paternity
should be negotiated on a case-by-case basis. Similarly, lesbian mothers
who choose to parent without involved fathers ought not feel or believe
that they have created a deficit model of family life for their children.
There is no social, psychological or developmental justification to
legislate for father presence. There is no research-based credibility in
promoting patriarchal, nuclear family formation as a preferred social
and family structure to optimise childrens emotional, social, physical,
and economic outcomes. The political and social pretext that underlines
father absence fear is just that; a pretext to retain the hegemony of pa-
triarchal nuclear family life and restore fathers to their rightful posi-
tions of power and control within families. Historically, patriarchal
power and control, or the rule of the father, has had various shapes and
forms, beginning with ownership of women and children, providing
moral authority and economic provision, and more recently co-opted
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NOTES
1. De novo lesbian families refers to lesbian parents who have conceived children
through known or unknown donors in the context of their current lesbian partnership,
whereas children raised by lesbian parents post-heterosexual separation and divorce
are more often described as lesbian step-families. Single lesbians and their children
could have their roots in both de novo and step-family structures. The term de novo
lesbian family was coined by Dr. Ruth McNair (personal communication), though it is
important to note that members of lesbian-parented families are likely to make quite
different distinctions and use different labels for themselves.
2. In counter-point to this essentialist notion of the family is the idea of family as a
verb rather than as a noun (Stiles, 2002) supporting a more fluid, ambiguous, and transi-
tional language around family (Stacey, 1998; Weeks, Heaphy, & Donovan, 2001).
3. This study was funded by an Australian Research Council (ARC) Discovery Grant,
and the Victorian Association of Family Therapists (VAFT). The research method and
participants in this study have been reported on elsewhere (Perlesz et al., 2004).
4. Of course individual beliefs and behaviour are intimately affected and shaped by
internalised social constructions.
5. A nuclear family includes two generations of biologically related people, typi-
cally a man and a woman, who maintain a socially approved sexual relationship, and
one or more children, who are the children of these two adults (Bessant & Watts,
1999:124). Contemporary family arrangements (homosexual or heterosexual) are now
much more diverse and fluid than this.
6. Australian data summarised here has been compiled from such sources as the
Australian Census, the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) figures, and survey data
from family research conducted at the Australian Institute of Family Studies (AIFS).
7. The transcripts quoted in the current paper are from an Australian Research
Council and Victorian Association of Family Therapists funded research project on
lesbian-parented families (research teamAmaryll Perlesz, Rhonda Brown, Ruth
McNair, Jo Lindsay, David de Vaus and Marion Pitts). Full details of the study and
sample are found in Perlesz et al., 2004.
8. Research on school experiences of children raised in lesbian-led families indi-
cates that primary school aged children and children in their late-teens are less con-
cerned about discrimination and harassment at school than teenagers around 13 to 16
years (Lindsay, Perlesz, Brown et al., 2004; Perlesz & McNair, 2004).
Amaryll Perlesz 27
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