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We define Interpersonal Communication as a selective, systematic process that allows people to reflect and build personal
knowledge of one another and create shared meanings.
1. I- It communication : We do not acknowledge the humanity of other people; we may not even affirm their existence
2. I You communication: People acknowledge one another as more than objects, but they dont fully engage each
other as unique individuals
3. I Thou communication: When we meet others in their wholeness and individuality
a) selective
b) systemic
c) process that allows people to reflect and build personal knowledge of one to another
d) create shared meaning
Of the many influences, four are particularly critical for building and sustaining satisfying relationships:
1. Investment
2. Commitment
3. Trust
4. Comfort with relational dialectics.
Investments are what we put into relationships that we could not retrieve if the relationship were to end. Investments
cannot be recovered.
Commitment is a decision to remain in a relationship. Notice that commitment is defined as a decision, not a feeling. Unlike
passion or attraction, which arise in the present, commitment links partners together in the future.
Self-disclosure is the act of revealing personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other
ways.
Being comfortable with relational dialectics means opposing forces, or tensions, that are continuous and normal in personal
relationships.
1. Recognition
2. Acknowledgment
3. Endorsement
Win-lose
Win-lose orientations assume that one person wins at the expense of the other.
Win-win
Win-win orientations assume that there are usually ways to resolve differences so that everyone gains.
Responses to conflict
Physical force may be an unfortunate necessity in some situations, such as combat or self-protection. In interpersonal
relationships, however it is a very poor way to deal with conflict.
The exit response
The exit response involves physically walking out or psychologically withdrawing.
Exit responses are associated with lose-lose and win-lose orientations toward conflict.
The neglect response
The neglect response denies or minimizes problems, disagreements, anger, tension, or other matters that could lead to
overt conflict.
The loyalty response
Involves staying committed to a relationship despite differences.
The voice response
Finally the voice response addresses conflict and attempt to resolve it.
Communication patterns during conflict
-Unproductive conflict communication
-Constructive conflict communication
-Conflict management skills
Social media and conflict
Guidelines for effective communication during conflict
-Focus on the overall communication system
-Time conflict purposefully
-Aim for win-win conflict
-Honor yourself your partner and the relationship
-Show grace when appropriate
Chapter 10 Friendships in our lives
Nature of friendship:
1. Willingness to invest
2. Emotional closeness
a) Closeness through dialogue
b) Closeness through doing
3. Acceptance
4. Trust
5. Support
1. Growth stages
2. Deterioration stages.
Relation rules are unspoken understandings that regulate how people interact.
Internal tensions are relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions.
1. Relational dialectics
2. Diverse communication styles
3. Sexual attraction
Friendships may encounter pressures from outside sources. Three such pressures are competing demands, personal
changes and geographic distance.
Cyberbullying is text messages comments rumors embarrassing pictures videos and fake profiles that are meant to hurt
another person and are sent by email or Smartphone or posted on social net-working sites.