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Repeated Exposure to Online Pornographic Material and its Influence on Opposite Sex
Interpersonal Attraction
Kelly Highum
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Abstract
This project examines the normalization of pornography within American society, particularly as
a consequence of the rapid expansion of communication technologies such as the Internet, and
tendencies between men and women. This qualitative thematic analysis examines comments
posted on the NoFap Reddit thread, a support forum for online pornography addicts. Four themes
were identified within the data: loss of interest in sex, loss of communication skills,
objectification [of women], and increased symptoms of ADHD and depression. The data
collected and the subsequent thematic analysis concludes that the consumption of online
alters the enactment of interpersonal communication patterns. The author suggests that more
research about why people initially begin consuming pornography needs to be done, with
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Repeated Exposure to Online Pornographic Material and its Influence on Opposite Sex
Interpersonal Attraction
The context in which people consume erotic material has drastically changed within the
past twenty years due to the emergence of the internet. There is no universally recognized
definition of pornography; however, the conceptual definition used within the following
platform meant to sexually and/or erotically arouse the consumer to a point of orgasmic pleasure.
Pornography, defined as such, has become easily available and widely accessible on the internet.
and physical effects on those consuming internet pornography, and on the consumers
interpersonal relationships with other individuals. Cooper (1998, p. 198) argued that these
technological advances have created a triple A-engine that fuels the increased trend of
and anonymity of pornographic materials on the internet. These technological changes have
allowed for the widespread societal normalization of the sexual and interpersonal scripts
The average American child is first exposed to pornographic images online when they are
twelve years old (UCLA, 2003). However, 87% of youth that intentionally seek out pornographic
material are 14 or older, with only 5% of self-identified searchers being female (Ybarra et al.,
2006, e1172). By age 14, 66% of males and 39% of females reported having seen at least one
piece of sexually explicit media in the past year (Brown & LEngle, 2009, p. 144). The
accessibility, affordability, and anonymity presented by the internet has allowed for young
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years before their first sexual encounter. I intend to demonstrate with the following research that
this exposure to pornographic material has profound effects on the way people especially
young heterosexual boys and men approach sexual situations, interpersonal communication
interactions, and how they experience interpersonal attraction to women (Hooks, 2004). This
study will focus on young heterosexual boys and men and how the consumption of online
The following review examines the themes normalized within online pornographic
material, the implications of internet pornography addiction on the consumers of cybersex habits,
the effect of online pornography consumption on opposite sex interpersonal communication, and
literature will then evaluate the previous themes in relation to opposite sex interpersonal
attraction.
Literature Review
Themes in Pornography
The scenes that young people young heterosexual men, in the majority of cases
(Carroll, et al., 2008, p. 23) are exposed to display unequal power balances between men and
women. Despite the prevalence of misogynistic themes within other modern forms of media,
online pornography is one of the primary forms of media that sexualizes these unequal power
balances, stereotypes racial and sexual minorities, and displays aggressive sexual tendencies.
Bridges et al. (2010) analyzed the content of 304 popular pornographic videos; 88.2% of the
scenes analyzed contained physical aggression, including spanking, gagging, and slapping;
48.7% of the scenes analyzed contained verbal aggression (Bridges, et al., p. 1075). Within the
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scenes analyzed, the most common perpetrator of both verbal and physical aggression was the
male, while the receivers of the aggression were female (Bridges et al., p. 1076). The receivers of
the aggressive behavior often showed pleasure or responded neutrally to the displays of
As stated, gender disparities are often present within pornographic scenes, and are aimed
at reflecting the desires of a male audience (the primary consumers of pornographic material).
Women perform oral sex more often than men within pornographic scenes (McKee, 2005, p.
284). The majority of pornographic sexual scenes end almost immediately after the male in the
scene ejaculates; the connotation promoted by these scenes focuses on male sexual pleasure and
disregards others in the scene as an accessory to male pleasure and ejaculation. Pornography
portrays women as receptacles of male pleasure in the majority of heterosexual scenes, women
are not active participants within the sexual situation (Schauer, 2005, p. 54).
According the PornHubs 2015 Year in Review (2016), the teen genre was the number
two most popular worldwide search on their website. PornHub is one of the largest, most
accessible, and least expensive internet websites that exclusively displays pornographic videos
meant to sexually excite consumers to the point of orgasmic pleasure. For this reason, PornHub
statistics represent a fairly accurate analysis of what people consume when they watch
dehumanization, and objectification of young women within the teen genre. Pornography
coded within the teen genre often contains pedophilic sexual connotations; Peters et al. (2013)
coded 150 of the most popular teen pornographic videos available of three pornographic
websites. They coded for textual, visual, verbal, and behavioral content that carried the
connotation of sexual activity between an adult and a minor. Within the collected sample, 18.7%
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of the scenes contained a disproportionate percent of youth sexualized content (54.2%) (Peters et
al., p. 527); youth sexualized content was coded as cues indicating innocence, sexual
inexperience, loss of virginity, direct and indirect references to the actors youth, and other
behavior meant to further indicate the actor is not of age (Peters et al., p. 537).
Pornographic videos within the teen genre inherently perpetuate the sexualization of
young girls. When men consume online pornographic videos, they are internalizing and
normalizing the sexual acts being displayed (Stack, 2004). In this way, the objectification of
young women as sex objects meant to be consumed by the male gaze is perpetuated by
pornographic material.
Hyperfemininity is the adherence to stereotypical feminine sexual behavior, and consists of three
main concepts: having a relationship with a man, the use of physical characteristics and sexuality
to attract men and build relationships with them, and the expected role of men as the dominant,
When young men are exposed to these types of narratives about women, and what a woman
should look and act like within a sexual situation, these narratives presented within pornography
labeled as feminine within Western culture (Garlick, 2010). Men within pornographic media are
pornography provides a reflection of common societal perceptions of what a man should be, and
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how he should portray that within a sexual situation (Hooks, B., 2004). The connotation dictates
that all men should strive to conform to hegemonic masculinity, especially within sexual
This is not simply a matter of mens domination over women; rather, mainstream
pornography stages a confrontation between man and nature one in which the ongoing
desire to establish control over nature by bringing it to order is central to the status of
hyperfeminine, hypersexual, whose worth stems from her ability to fulfill mens desires. When
young men are exposed to online pornographic media from a young age, their own physical and
interpersonal attraction preferences will shift to conform to the stereotypes about women
Addiction to Pornography
Due to the triple-A engine, people, especially young boys, are able to access online
pornography with relative ease, and without adult supervision. This presents a distinct challenge
for pornography consumers that begin watching online pornography at a young age: internet
to receive a desired result (Negash, S., Sheppard, N. V. N., Lambert, N. M., & Fincham, F. D.,
2016). In the case of IAD, the non-drug related behavior is going online (and in the case of
internet pornography addiction, consuming cybersex content) and the desired result is an escape
from reality (orgasmic pleasure from cybersex content). One of the central mechanisms of a
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behavioral addiction is the need for an increase in stimuli in order to receive the same desired
result. For individuals suffering from IAD, or more specifically, internet pornography addiction,
the internet pornography they are exposed to must increase in the degree of novelty in order for
the consumer to receive the same level of orgasmic pleasure (Koukounas & Over, 2001).
According to Koukounas and Over, the consumer increases that degree of novelty by watching
more taboo forms of pornography (e.i. hardcore or bondage porn, rape porn, etc.) in order to
continue to achieve orgasmic pleasure from online pornographic material. This eventual increase
in stimuli further normalizes misogynistic themes within pornography to the male consumer, and
presents that type of sexual behavior as acceptable by enforcing that belief through orgasmic
The neurobiological dopamine rush associated with sexual arousal and orgasm to online
pornographic material allows for the consumers brain to associate the dopamine reward with a
distinct set of circumstances: being alone, practicing voyeuristic sexual tendencies, multiple
videos with new sexual simulations, and constant novelty (Negash et al., 2016). Koukounas and
Over (2001) conducted three separate experimental procedures exposing three groups of eight
heterosexual men to habitual and novel sexual stimuli. Their research suggests that sexual
arousal is less likely to be habitual if attentional focus remains constant during repeated
stimulation to erotic material (Koukounas and Over, 2001, p. 49). The erections of the men who
participated in the stated study increased when they were exposed to new pornographic videos
The constant novelty offered by online pornographic videos is a new phenomenon, even
within the realm of wider pornography use. Prior to internet pornography, the consumer would
focus on one video, or one picture, to reach the desired end goal an orgasm. With the
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emergence of online pornographic videos, the consumer is able to experience multiple dopamine
surges within the brain, brought on by novel mates (persons within a pornographic video)
Repeated dopamine surges within the brains of online pornography consumers creates an
incentive to recreate the behavior that caused these surges of hormonal pleasure on a
neurobiological level (Negash, et al., 2016). The desire to recreate this behavior (watching online
pornography) is further enforced by the eventual orgasm of the consumer to the online material.
circumstances: being alone, practicing voyeuristic sexual tendencies, multiple videos with new
sexual simulations, and constant novelty. These circumstances do not resemble interpersonal
sexual situations, and the repeated dopamine surges that consumers experience when watching
online pornography cannot be recreated within the reality of sex with another person.
Online pornography consumers obtain immediate sexual reward through the consumption
of online pornography videos (Negash, et al., 2016, p. 696). In a sample of 89 heterosexual male
interpersonal sensitivity, depression, paranoid thinking, and psychoticism were correlated with a
high Internet Addiction Test score (Brand et al., 2011, p. 375). The same study found that time
spent on cybersex sites was not predictive of problems in daily life stemming from IAD. These
results emphasize that higher sexual arousal is linked to a tendency towards being addicted to
pornography and experiencing problems in everyday life, not the amount of pornography
disorder (IAD). Dopamine transporters (DAT) are proteins situated in the presynaptic terminal of
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the brain. Striatal DAT are responsible for active dopamine reuptake and plays a critical role in
striatal dopamine levels (Hou, H., Jia, S., Hu, S., Fan, R., Sun, W., Sun, T., & Zhang, H., 2012, p.
2). Hou et al. (2012) found that individuals with IAD had significantly decreased levels of DAT
expression as measured from brain scans against a control group. IAD is associated with
dysfunctions in the dopaminergic brain structures; this evidence suggests that individuals with
internet addiction disorder share similar neurobiological structural abnormalities with other
Multiple interdisciplinary studies have shown that IAD results in impaired individual
psychological well-being, academic failure and reduced work performance among adolescents
(Flisher, 2010; Scherer, 1997; Young, 1998). Yuan, et al. (2011) found that grey matter volume
changes and white matter fractional anisotropy changes in adolescents with IAD (p. 4). Grey and
white matter in the brain make up the central nervous system; grey matter serves to process
information in the brain, while white matter allows for nerves to communicate, connecting the
The biggest predictor of IAD is the level of sexual arousal gained from consuming
pornographic media. There are an endless number of cybersex videos available online, with
endless amounts of novelty mates available at the click of a button; this phenomenon is
changing the way young heterosexual boys and men think about sexual arousal and sex with
women. IAD is psychologically, physiologically, and socially detrimental for individuals with
this disorder; interpersonal attraction and the reality of sex with another person can be an
intimidating feat for a heterosexual man introduced to sex through online pornographys instant
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Heterosexual pornography promotes a variety of sexual scripts that overtly enforce the
adherence to societal gender roles. As stated, within online pornographic material, men are
overwhelmingly in the dominant position within the sexual scene, while women overwhelmingly
remain submissive. This common theme within online pornography depicts a womans
submission as desirable, as something to be achieved. When young heterosexual boys and men
begin watching online pornography before their first sexual encounter, they begin to internalize
the misogynistic sexuality perpetuated by the mainstream pornography industry (Dines, 2010).
Young boys and men exposed to online pornographic material also internalize the
idealized version of masculinity displayed within cybersex narratives. Within these narratives, to
be a real man, heterosexual boys must always be control of the sexual situation, always be
dominant over the woman, and constantly want sex with women (Hooks, 2004). This narrative
does not leave any room for intimacy, gentleness, or mutual love within a sexual or romantic
situation; pornography promotes the narrative that sex should always be the end goal for opposite
sex interaction, and if it is not, there is something wrong (with the male in the situation) (Hooks,
2004, p. 27).
A longitudinal study examining American students views on sexuality, and their own
sexual experiences examined 1,074 public school middle schools students. For males, exposure
to sexually explicit media when they were 12-14 years old was related to more permissive sexual
norms, more frequent sexual harassment (of women), and having had oral sex and sexual
intercourse by the time they were 14-16 years old (Brown & LEngle, p. 145). Earlier exposure
to pornographic material affected the way young men related to their female peers, both
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In the study, the researchers measured sexual harassment perpetuation as a kind of early
form of sexual aggression. Within this study, self-reports of sexual harassment perpetuation rose
by 20% between the initial report (conducted at the average at of 13.3) and the follow up report
(average age of 15.6). These results suggest that exposure to sexually explicit media in early
adolescence may contribute to the normalization of sexual harassment behaviors within a social
context. Early adolescent exposure was related to more permissive sexual norms, as well as
pornographic videos, a prominent type of sexually explicit material, contributes to the observed
phenomenon (Brown & LEngle, p. 147). Young men confirm and express their masculinity both
internally and externally by adhering to the scripts cybersex promotes: disrespecting women,
rejecting anything deemed as feminine, and having sex with females (Hooks, 2004).
consequences on the way men view sex and sexuality (Hooks, 2004). In 1985, Malamuth and
Check found that men exposed to violent pornography were more likely to perceive rape as
consensual sex (Malamuth & Check, 308). Although the medium in which pornography is
primarily displayed has shifted within the last thirty years, Malamuth and Checks research
remains relevant because the underlying connotations of pornographic material remain the same:
women should always be sexually available to men, even if they are unwilling participants
women was further examined in Mulac, Jansma, & Linz (2002). Three groups of men were
shown three different films: one was explicit and degrading to women, the second was explicit
but non-degrading, and the third was non-sexual (Mulac et. al., p. 311). The men then interacted
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with women in pairs to complete a designated problem-solving challenges. The behavior of the
men who were exposed to a sexual film were coded as more dominant to their female partner;
they also displayed greater anxiety, more often ignored the intellectual contributions of their
partner, and touched their partner more, but looked at her face and body less (Mulac et al., p.
322). Behaviors associated with the communication of dominance were coded within this study
as other-directed eye gaze, proximity, touch, interruptions, and speaking time (Mulac et al., p.
313). In contrast, men who viewed the non-sexual film were more likely to display egalitarian
masculinity requires certain enacted communication tendencies (1982). The men exposed to the
degrading explicit scene felt powerful due to the scenes confirmation of patriarchal masculinity,
and consequently enacted communication dominance behaviors with their female peers. Men
who viewed the explicit pornographic films were more likely to display high levels of anxiety,
shorter periods of eye contact, and a tendency to disregard their female partners contributions
(Mulac et al., p. 323). The men who watched degrading pornography failed to effectively
communicate with their female partner in order to successfully solve problems. The
communication tendencies displayed by the men who had been exposed to the sexual films are
not communication tendencies typically displayed within a respectful, equitable opposite sex
of their exposure to the sexual films; mens viewing of stimuli that enhance their dominance and
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Interpersonal Attraction
verbally and nonverbally in the same setting; essentially, interpersonal communication is face-to-
interpersonal attraction through similarity (Newcome & Svehla, 1937; Sunnafrank, 1983), and
through the process of interpersonal communication, both parties develop a relationship with the
other.
behavior was conducted by Walster, Aronson, Abrahams, & Rottman (1966). They evaluated 376
men and 376 women who purchased tickets to a Friday night dance during the first week of their
undergraduate college career at the University of Minnesota (Walster et al., p. 509). The
researchers hypothesized that an individual being evaluated would be more likely to partner up
with someone of relatively equal social position. However, the results contradicted their
predictions: they found that the only predictive component of the male partners liking for their
date was the womans level of physical attractiveness (Walster et al., p. 508).
Although there are significant ethical flaws within this study (researchers asked objective
bureaucrats to rate the physical attractiveness of participants on a scale from 1-8), it is important
for their conclusions. Men were shown to base the amount of interpersonal attraction they felt
towards a woman solely on her physical attractiveness, thereby ignoring her personality, and
Physical attractiveness was the trait shown to lead to further communication between sexes,
despite the presence of personality similarities between participants (Walster et. al., p. 510).
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who hold similar beliefs or traits, and who express those beliefs or traits in similar ways are more
likely to form friendship and romantic relationship pairs (Newcome & Svehla, 1937, p. 184).
Smith, Byrne, and Fielding (1995) utilize the similarity-attraction paradigm within their own
research by arguing that individuals experience interpersonal attraction for people displaying
The researchers found that men evaluated other men who were similar to themselves in
hypermasculinity levels more positively than men who scored lower on that scale. Men were
found to respond more positively to women who scored similarly on the scales measuring gender
hypertraditionality (Smith, Byrne, and Fielding, p. 167). These results indicate that people who
conform to traditional gender roles are viewed more positively by their peers; both men and
women are more likely to experience interpersonal attraction and enact interpersonal
communication with people who express gender in traditional ways. Further, Smith, Byrne, and
Fielding (1995) found that couples were similar to each other in the levels of hypertraditionality
they displayed, believed, and externally enacted. Men especiallyassumed their partners level
Fielding, p. 169). For the men in the stated study, their female partners conformity to
These results indicate that adherence to traditional societal gender roles plays a major
role in interpersonal attraction between men and women (Smith, Byrne, & Fielding, p. 169).
Patriarchal masculinity requires strict adherence to societal gender norms; men must constantly
confirm their own masculinity in order to be considered real men by others. Gender norms
within a patriarchal society denies men full access to their freedom of will (Hooks, 2004). Men
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are unable to fully experience interpersonal attraction because of the patriarchal, hypertraditional
gender norms enforced within Western societies. Patriarchal hyperfemininity demands that
women mutate into what men are taught to want: submissive, hyperfeminine, and a tool of
masculine expression (Hooks, 2004). As stated, men experience interpersonal attraction towards
Interpersonal attraction becomes a way for men to confirm and enact their own gender identities
As stated, the average person within the United States is exposed to online pornographic
material at twelve years old (UCLA, 2003); this exposure often occurs prior to the consumers
first kiss, or first sexual contact of any kind. The normalization of online pornography as a tool
for teenage masturbation encourages and enforces the notion that young men should conduct and
complete masturbation with the help of online pornography. When young heterosexual boys and
men masturbate to online pornography, the themes within the scenes they are viewing are
normalized within their opinions and mentality about sexuality and sex with women (Dines,
2010). In addition, the cybersex scenes young boys and men consume portray violence,
degradation, and dehumanization of women as something women want and something men
should desire. These scenes portray emotion, gentleness, and intimacy as sexual behaviors that
threaten mens own masculinity and therefore should be avoided (Hooks, 2004, p. 56).
Further, heterosexual boys and men have an elevated risk of developing internet
consumer gains greater levels of sexual pleasure from consuming pornographic content,
regardless of the amount of cybersex consumed (Brand et al., p. 375). Online pornography
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reassures young boys and mens masculine identity, normalizes the misogynistic themes and
behaviors present within online pornographic scenes, and shapes the way they view sex and
sexual relationships (Dines, 2010). The consumption of online pornographic material influences
enacted interpersonal communication patterns. Research conducted by Mulac et al. (2002) found
that men who consumed video pornography were more likely to display dominant and
uncommunicative behaviors with their female peers in comparison with the control group.
Given these findings, there is a noticeable gap in research concerning the consumption of
online pornography in relation to opposite sex interpersonal attraction. This study aims to
tendencies?
The present study aims to examine how the misogynistic themes within pornographic
material influence how young heterosexual men and boys experience, display, and enact
interpersonal attraction and communication dominance towards girls and women. Mainstream
online pornographic content is primarily produced by men for a male audience, and young men
and boys are the primary consumers of online pornography. For these reasons, this study found it
prudent to focus on the online pornography consumption habits of young heterosexual men and
boys in relation to how they experience interpersonal attraction and enact interpersonal
Methods
behaviors discussed on the NoFap Reddit thread, an online support forum for people struggling
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with IAD or sex addiction. NoFap Reddit users voluntarily seek peer support and addiction
recovery through the forum; therefore, they are representative of individuals struggling with
IAD, and of individuals experiencing a shift in interpersonal attraction tendencies due to online
pornography consumption.
Sample
The comments chosen were a minimum of twenty five words in length and were related
to one of the chosen variables. The researcher anonymously collected the data. The researcher
did not interact with Reddit members, and did not comment on Reddit posts. The reported texts
Mandated approval by the IRB board of Winona State University was not required prior
to the conduction of research; this study poses no threats to human subjects, as the commenters
Thematic Analysis
Thematic content analysis was utilized in order to examine the interpersonal attraction
behaviors of young men who have been diagnosed with Internet Addiction Disorder (IAD) by a
content analysis is "a research technique for the objective, systematic and quantitative
description of the manifest content of communication" (Berelson, 1952, p. 4). This method can
be used to analyze the manifest or latent content of a particular communication phenomena. The
manifest content describes the characteristics of the content itself. The latent content describes
interpretations about the content that imply something about the nature of the communicators or
effects on communicators. The content analysis conducted was qualitative in nature; there is no
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statistical significance proven within the given research, rather, a thematic analysis was
conducted in order to examine the interpersonal communication tendencies of men with IAD.
The themes examined within this content analysis included evidence of symptoms of
internet addiction disorder (IAD), evidence of interpersonal attraction tendencies of the sample
with male adolescents diagnosed with IAD include a higher occurrence of ADHD symptoms,
depression, and hostility, as stated Yen, J. Y., Ko, C. H., Yen, C. F., Wu, H. Y., & Yang, M. J.
(2007). Within the same study, hostility was associated with Internet addiction only in male
subjects (Yen et al., 2007). Evidence of interpersonal attraction tendencies included testimonials
of the male subjects own dating rituals, romantic rituals, and the way they experience
interpersonal attraction to women, both before and after repeated exposure to online
included increased other-directed eye gaze, proximity, touch, interruptions, and speaking time
Interpersonal attraction tendencies were operationally defined and coded within this study
as NoFap Reddit thread comments discussing the experience of physical, emotional, and sexual
attraction to women. Changing interpersonal attraction tendencies were coded and operationally
defined as NoFap Reddit thread comments discussing shifting views of women in relation the
as the discussion of increased symptoms of ADHD, depression, and hostility within NoFap
Reddit blog comments. Themes within this category were coded and categorized separately as
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The NoFap Reddit discussion forum primarily functions as a support mechanism for men
or boys who are struggling with sex addiction, pornography addiction, and masturbation
addiction. A total of one-hundred and twenty-three comments on the NoFap Reddit thread were
randomly open-coded for the purpose of this study. One-hundred and one of the open coded
comments were categorized within the stated coding scheme; these comments are attached in
Appendix 2. Although comments were coded into all four of the outlined thematic categories, 97
of the collected comments were coded within the thematic categories of changing interpersonal
attraction tendencies, and symptoms of IAD. Comments were coded in one or more categories;
The reality of sex with another person can be an intimidating feat for a heterosexual man
introduced to sex through online pornographys instant gratification, endless novelty, and
voyeuristic viewing tendencies. The loss of interest in sex with another person was a prominent
theme within the collected comments; sex with another person becomes less appealing when
online pornography consumers can obtain immediate sexual reward through the consumption of
online pornography videos (Negash, et al., 2016, p. 696). Commenters discussed their lack of
desire for real sex, usually with a sense of nostalgia. I used to be confident and desire sex.
Now a days [sic] I just dont want real life sex no more. All of the commenters were unhappy
with their lack of desire for real sex, and wanted to gain back their former sexual urges. Another
commenter, developed symptoms from it [porn addiction] including feeling emotionally numb,
lack of interest in meeting real girls, and social anxiety. Internet pornography addiction shares
similar neurobiological structural abnormalities with other addictive disorders (Hou et al., p.4);
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commenters experienced a loss of interest in real sex because the circumstances in which
consumers watch online pornography do not resemble interpersonal sexual situations. The
repeated dopamine surges that consumers experience when watching online pornography cannot
Another prominent theme concerning the loss of interest in real sex was the discourse
surrounding porn-induced erectile dysfunction (ED). This was not an expected variable but many
of the commenters that discussed a loss of interest in sex specifically discussed their struggles
with porn-induced ED. Im [sic] 26 years old and I have porn induced ED. So my relationship
with my girlfriend is suffering, and is on the verge of utter ruin. Loss of interest in sex was often
connected with a decreased sense of relationship satisfaction for the commenters. Another
member of the NoFap Reddit forum attested to his desire to ask a girl at his gym outbut Im
afraid to, because of the ED and the anxiety I developed because of porn. Anger was a notable
emotion within this particular thematic category. Im 23 I shouldnt have problems sustaining
an erection, nor should I need constant stimulation to stay erect. Another commenter stated:
Porn induced Ed has ruined my relationships with the past 3 girls Ive been with and honestly
Im just mad at myself. Rhetorical expressions of anger and frustration were prevalent within
pornography, a 2016 interdisciplinary review conducted by Park et al. suggests that terminating
the use of pornography can help alleviate the symptoms of ED (Park, et al., 2016). The same
study also discussed the increased prevalence of ED in men under 40 years of age. The 2001
2002 rates for older men 4080 were about 13% in Europe (Nicolosi et al., 2004). By 2011, ED
rates in young Europeans, 1840, ranged from 14%28% (Landripet, & tulhofer, 2015).
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Patriarchal masculinity requires strict adherence to societal gender norms; men must
constantly confirm their own masculinity in order to be considered real men by others. Within
pornographic narratives, to be a real man heterosexual boys must always be control of the
sexual situation, always be dominant over the woman, and constantly want sex with women
(Hooks, B., 2004). One comment coded into this thematic category specifically discussed the
enactment of masculinity through sex. I would sometimes hook up with people but I didnt have
a meaningful relationship with anyone and I was so frustrated as to why. Then I realized, after
being unable to hook up with a girl I sort of liked that porn might be an issue as to why I couldnt
move forward and found myself so desensitized to women. The commenter testifies that the
enactment of masculinity through casual sex was a coping mechanism for him after a breakup;
his exposure to pornography exacerbated his loss of communication skills, and his
desensitization to women.
Commenters also spoke on how PM [porn and masturbation] ruins social abilities, how
some [have] been choosing fapping over family, friends, and my partner, how others realized
they need to nut up and face [the] anxiety and emotions without resorting to porn as a crutch. A
prominent theme within the comments concerning the loss of communication skills was the use
The loss of communication skills, especially with the opposite sex, was a major theme
within the coded comments. The majority of the comments pertaining to this thematic element
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affected by their pornography consumption. One commenter stated: My usage from over the
years still ended up affecting our relationship how the porn had twisted my perception and
expectations of what a woman should do, and how sex should be. Online pornography twists
the consumers perceptions of the reality of sex, and therefore affects the consumers relational
communication skills. Another commented: Lost my girl due to my insecurities because porn
fucked with my emotions. Multiple comments expressed anxiety about how their partner would
react to their porn addiction: I am embarrassed and ashamed to bring this up to her. I am
worried she will think I am disgusting and repulsive. Within patriarchal societies, men are
taught to never be perceived as emotionally weak; the shame that male pornography addicts feel
Objectification
As Smith, Byrne, and Fielding (1995) discuss, adherence to traditional societal gender
roles plays a major role in interpersonal attraction, and therefore, interpersonal communication
between men and women (p. 169). Online pornography normalizes specific standards of sexual
communication patterns as an extension of initial attraction (Walster et al., p. 508). Within the
collected comments, a common theme was the objectification of women. One NoFap commenter
stated: All day my thoughts are just filled with sex, either from real girls or pornIm tired of
looking at girls all the time and just thinking about fucking them. Another forum visitor
expressed shame: I cant even look at women in the same light as menI go straight to porn
mode. The collected comments displayed how repeated exposure to pornography effected the
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This theme within the collected data supports previous research conducted by Mulac,
Jansma, and Linz in 2002; their study concluded that the behavior of the men who were exposed
to a sexual film was more dominant to their female partner, and displayed more dominant
within pornographic media contributes to the objectification of women in the public arena.
The most striking theme identified within the collected comments were the descriptions
of the symptoms of IAD. The global symptom severity of internet pornography addictionas
correlated with the Internet Addiction Test score (Brand et al., p. 375). Increased symptoms of
ADHD, depression, and anxiety are the most common symptoms of IAD, and multiple
interdisciplinary studies have shown that IAD results in impaired individual psychological well-
being, academic failure and reduced work performance among adolescents (Flisher, 2010;
Scherer, 1997; Young, 1998). Within the collected data, the consumption of pornography was
exposure to pornographic materials, combined with repeated orgasmic pleasure under the same
specific circumstances, can transform a coping mechanism into a behavioral addiction (Negash,
Increased symptoms of depression and anxiety were the most common comments within
this theme. [Porn] rewires the brain so that you crave porn and fapping. So, I have in the past 4
years have thought Ive been Depressed, bipolar, etc and Im just now realizing that Im addicted
to porn. Suicidal tendencies were also described within a portion of the data concerning
increased symptoms of depression. Im just broken.this is life I carved out is great but this
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addiction has just destroyed me.life is brutal guys. The majority of commenters on the NoFap
threat are recovering addicts, and many discussed their experiences in the past tense. So because
I kept watching porn for hours everyday [sic]. I became lazy, sensitive, depressed, worried,
dumb, shy, and Sick [sic]. The majority of the comments expressed a desire for IAD to be taken
seriously: I barely survived. Feel depressed for having no pleasure. Man I wish there was a
Anxiety was another prominent theme within the collected data; personal insecurity was
often cited as the catalyst that allowed an addiction to develop, while anxiety was mentioned
almost exclusively as a symptom of addiction. Day 7, high anxiety, seems like my brain is
rewiring itself. Within the collected data, many of the commenters spoke to beginning to
masturbate and consume pornography during early adolescence. Ive been an addict for years
now and Im only 21. Im [sic] sick of it. It makes me feel like a shitty person all the time and my
dick barely works. The underlying narrative throughout the data, identified within the
mechanism for underlying issues: Being someone who regularly used sex as a means of coping
with uneasy feelings its really odd to be having guilt free sex with my wife while maintaining a
desire to not use sex as a means of coping. Learning how to be a healthy sexual being over here.
Many others discussed how [they] would [masturbate] because [they were] lonely and felt
empty. The expression of male emotions is perceived as weak within patriarchal societies;
pornography has become an outlet for men and boys to cope with their underlying insecurities
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The objective of this study was to contribute to the discourse surrounding internet
consumption and its effect on interpersonal communication between men and women. This study
had multiple weaknesses, the first being the small sample size, and the qualitative nature of the
analysis; the results of this study are not statistically significant. This study solely focused on
male experiences with IAD, because men are the primary consumers of online pornographic
material (UCLA, 2004); female experiences with IAD are excluded, and may be entirely
different than their male counterparts. Since the data was collected on an online support forum
for people struggling with IAD, the respondents may have had comparable addiction experiences
due to similar socioeconomic status. The results of this study are not universally applicable, but
this study does contribute to the discussion of internet pornography addiction and its influence on
human behavior.
I suggest the replication of this study in the form of in-depth qualitative interviews in
order to gain a deeper, more significant understanding of the people who are addicted to
pornography and how their addiction effects the individual enactment of interpersonal attraction.
Qualitative interviews will allow the researcher to seek a more representative sample, and will
Conclusion
Sex with another person becomes less appealing when online pornography consumers
can obtain immediate sexual reward through the consumption of online pornography videos
(Negash, et al., 2016, p. 696). For people living with IAD, the reality of sex becomes less
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appealing as their addiction worsens (Hou et al., 2012). The comments coded within this
thematic category reflected the outcomes of previous research; the testimonials of NoFap Reddit
users discussed a lack of desire to have sex with other people, an inability to become aroused
without pornography, and the prevalence of porn-induced erectile dysfunction within the IAD
community.
A prominent theme within the comments concerning the loss of communication skills
form of stress relief, as well as an outlet for men to enact masculinity. Another theme identified
within the data was the shame associated with being a pornography addict, and the NoFap Reddit
users inability to communicate their feelings about their experiences to their friends or romantic
partners. Commenters expressed embarrassment and shame when discussing their addiction;
hyperfeminine women as the epitome of sexual desire. The thematic category concerning the
objectification of women supports previous research conducted by Mulac, Jansma, and Linz in
2002. However, there is a distinct difference between the two studies: the study conducted by
Mulac, Jansma, and Linz (2002) observed men interacting with women directly after they
viewed a pornographic video, while the comments collected within this study are self-
testimonials of men living with IAD. These two studies are comparable, but the comments on the
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NoFap Reddit forum express a desire to cease individual objectification of women, and move
Symptoms of anxiety and depression stemming from the NoFap Reddit users sex
addiction, pornography addiction, and masturbation addiction was the fourth theme identified
within the collected data. The data collected was consistent with the existing research regarding
the symptoms of IAD (Brand et al., 2011, p. 375). Depression and anxiety are widespread within
this online community; suicidal thoughts and tendencies were also identified within the coded
comments. It remains unclear whether depression and anxiety cause people to begin using
important component of this thematic category was the consumption of pornography as a coping
Based on the collected data, and subsequent thematic analysis, I conclude that the
tendencies, and therefore alters the enactment of interpersonal communication patters; this
change cannot be measured statistically, but the examined evidence suggests legitimate
influence. The conduction of further research is necessary in order to examine the connection
between patriarchal gender roles, and the why men initially begin consuming pornography.
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