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AVOID ARGUMENT
Set yourself apart by avoiding the arguments that most people would jump into with both feet.
B
e willing to question your motives and methods. Is what you are about to do going to gain you favorable or
unfavorable attention? Can you gain respect as well?
S
uccessful negotiators know that few arguments change peoples minds. Learn to value interdependence more
than independence and being right.
O
bserve the arguments of others to see where there are possibilities for mutual insights and individual personal
growth. What can you do to encourage them to use grace and goodwill?
S
ocial media can be a powerful tool to escalate an argument or to promote mutual understanding. Look for
examples when people could have taken the high road, but didnt.
ACCESS AFFINITY
D
igital media allows us to look for commonality and connection points before we ever say, hello. Think about
possible connection points you have with others and reach out regularly.
G
et people to say yes to your point of view by establishing affinity through social networks. The more yeses you
gain, the more likely you will be in getting others to accept your ideas.
R
emind yourself to always see the situation from the others point of view so that you can determine the value
each of you gains by maintaining the relationship.
C
reate affinity with individuals to begin a dialogue. Create affinity with groups to influence and expand a
community.
MITIGATE FAULT
T
ake the time to let the other person save face. Even if he or she is wrong we can do nothing to change the
behavior.
H
elp others turn their failures around by making it safe for people to learn from their mistakes. Tap into their
creative and innovative ideas for improvement.
E
veryone has a fear of failure. Ask yourself how you and your team can share lessons learned in order to become
more resilient in the face of future problems.
A
cknowledge failures and encourage discussion of problems and risks openly. This builds understanding and a
level of trust.
A
primary difference between ordinary and extraordinary people is how they perceive and respond to failure. How
can you as a leader influence which camp a person falls into?
D
igital media can make faults and missteps more public. Adopt a strict discipline to only use phone and face-to-
face meetings for criticism. Save your written communications for praise.
MAGNIFY IMPROVEMENT
S
end a clear message that others have performed well and are important to the success of the organization by
delivering specific praise for a job well done.
U
se digital messages to help you praise people publically and immediately. There is no excuse for delay until the
next face-to-face meeting.
G
ive praise when people achieve good results. Give encouragement all the time, even when things go poorly.
Remember to continually look for the strengths and potential in people.
L ook back over the past month and evaluate your performance on delivering praise and encouragement. What
things would you change? What messages would you deliver?
T
ell someone that you have total faith in his/her ability to accomplish a goal, encourage him/her along the way
and he/she will prove you right and excel.
Dale Carnegie Trainings Leadership Guidebook:
HOW TO LEAD CHANGE WITHOUT
RESISTANCE OR RESENTMENT