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h a n g e
to C
a Life
a n ove l
I dont know about you, but Im of the generation that came to technology after I had already inished
college. Okay, grad school. Sigh. I managed to get through my entire education with only landlines,
and for college, a very slow IBM word processor. Pagers were not even a thing yet, except for doctors.
The libraries of my youth still had card catalogs, and we hand-wrote letters to deliver via snail mail. I
traveled abroad and sent Aerograms back home, thin blue paper scrawled with news for friends and
family. As a result, it required a certain amount of effort to remain in touch with friends from high
school and college post-graduation. If someone moved and a phone number changed, it was easy to
lose them forever.
And then, here in my late 40s, the world of communication has exploded. Internet and smart phones
and social media became the norm, and suddenly my past became my present. Friends I had not seen
since grammar school or high school graduation, old college buddies who had all but disappeared,
they all started popping up on Facebook. Old photos were scanned and posted and tagged, memories
shared, and before you know it, the friends of your youth have become the friends of your middle age.
In a lot of cases? This is amazing. I have reconnected with so many people after absences of 20-30
years who have become the people you would want them to become, who have married or partnered
amazing people, who are raising terriic kids. It can be a real blessing and a pleasure to have them back
in your life.
Mostly. But sometimes? Those pals of yore have become adults whom you would actively avoid if you
met them for the irst time today. For whatever reason, the years have not been kind, and now you have
a conundrum. Is there value in continuing the connection, considering the history, or do you just wish
they had never reappeared in your sphere, and hope to ignore them till maybe they go away?
This was the genesis of How to Change a Life. What happens if someone who has a small, contained, and
contented life suddenly has to deal with the reappearance of her best friends from high school, whom
she hasnt seen in over a decade and a half? And will the roles they all took with each other back then
be the roles they are willing to take on today, or will they have to igure out how to relate to the adults
they have become? How do you navigate getting to know the people who once knew you better than you
knew yourself?
Im deeply proud of this book, I think it has a lot to say about friendship and family and love and
tolerance. I think it has things to teach us about staying open, and letting our lives expand when
necessary. I hope you love it as much as I loved writing it for you.
Biglove,
Stacey
P i z z a S t r u d e l
Serves 12
Eloise invented this recipe as a teenager and it served as a regular late night
snack for the trio, so it only makes sense that she would make it to bring to
Lynnes house once they reconnect! It is a very easy recipe for a party, and
can be multiplied up to serve more people.
I NGRE DI E N TS 1. Preheat the oven to 350F. Grease a baking sheet and set aside.
One of the recipes Eloise is working on for her cookbook, as well as a great
addition to her clients cookie jar, these cookies pack a serious chocolate
punch, with dark cocoa powder in the batter and two kinds of chips. You can
experiment with other add-ins like peanut butter or butterscotch chips, dried
cherries, or your favorite nuts!
2 teaspoons vanilla and salt together, then mix into the butter and egg mixture.
extract Once well combined, stir in the chips by hand.
1 teaspoon kosher salt arent delicious when crispy . . . ) They will sort of poof up a bit
while baking, but will flatten back out while they cool and this
1 cup milk chocolate
chips will create the chewy texture. Cool for about 5 minutes, then
transfer to a rack to cool completely before storing, but feel
1 cup white chocolate
chips
free to taste a couple while still warm, just to be sure they are
okay for your guest.