The Book of Pook—Learn Dating, Pickup, Seduction & Relationship Secrets That only 1% of the Worlds Men Know, Volume-1: The Book of Pook, #1

The Book of Pook

Learn Dating, Pickup, Seduction & Relationship Secrets That only 1% of the Worlds Men Know, Volume-1

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TESTIMONIALS

Discover what people like you are saying about The Book of Pook by reading their reviews on Goodreads and other websites. These 5 start satisfied readers have shared their thoughts on this incredible guide to improving your relationships with women and yourself:

This is clearly the best book I have ever read. How would I describe this book? This compilation of forum posts came from a PUA forum, so yes, I suppose it leans in towards PUA, and mostly, inner game material. But this is so much more than that! – Hussain Elius

A book about how to be a man in a feminist world.- Dan Davidson

If I could read only one book, that would be The Book of Pook. - Victor

I wish I had found Pook in 2001. His material is incredible. - Elias

This is clearly the best book I have ever read. - Hussain Elius

The Book of Pook is a book about how to be a man in a feminist world. - Dan Davidson

This is a fantastic book that focuses on improving your core self rather than remembering tactics. - Craig

The Book of Pook offers unbelievably in-depth knowledge for men. It provides the wisdom to change your life and help you understand women. - Jake

I have read this book over and over again, and every time, I have learned something. It has taught me things that are more than just 'how to get girls.' It is hard, in this day and age, to really know what it means to 'be a man.' - Yichen

One of the most essential books for the modern man to read. - Moiz R

Probably the best self-help book a person can read to understand oneself. - Bharath ayyappa

If the Manosphere had a Bible, The Book of Pook would be it. Unlike Rollo, Pookman is not all pro-game and has some interesting views on masculinity. A must-read for Nice Guys. - Ashwin

The Book of Pook is a must-read for any man struggling with personal growth and relationships. - Joe

An eye-opener. You can read women more accurately after reading this book. - Mehady Islam

This book as huge downside! I want to read more, I want to talk to the author - invite him to my house an discuss this subjects. I had huge moments of awareness and realizations that make a lot of sense. Guys are being feminine and passive, being reactive rather than active. Shiittt, this book is awesome. The way that Pook writes is funny and very easy to understand. We can see he has read a lot and thinks regularly about this stuff. He should do a real book. I can say that he changed my life for good. This was almost like talking to god. Shit... Just read 5 pages and you will get your mind blown! I'm in awe!- Luis

Don't categorize it as PUA, red pill, or a pickup guide. Yeah it teaches you what women are really thinking and is a survival guide for this feminism rampant society, but more importantly it teaches you to value yourself. Deeper than picking up girls, the techniques and philosophies here will grow you into a better person.- K Good

A self-improvement book first and foremost. Treat it as such. Don't get too bogged down with his views, make your own inferences. Gets better in latter half, especially the last few pages dealing with success.- Pat G

Improve yourself, and women will follow. The high standards you apply to your desires must be applied to yourself. Main Ideas - Only go for many women or none at all (monk mode) - Improve yourself until you do not need women to be happy - Embrace being a sexualized male - Nice Guy vs. Jerk - Nice guy depends on good reactions from women - Jerk depends on getting laid from women - Attractive man: Doesn’t give a shit what women think- Joshua

Fantastic book that focuses on improving your core self rather than remembering tactics. Think of Pook to Sosuave as Satoshi Nakamoto is to Bitcoin. The long lost founder with the core concepts.- Craig

"MUST read Book for every MAN Especially in this day and age"- Aditya

Unbelievably in depth knowledge for men. Wisdom to change your life and help understand women. Don juandom awaits- Jake

I cant stop raving about this book and Pook obviously. Although this isn't really technically a book but a collection of a forum posting. Having read a lot of other RP books, this book was a great treat. This is one book that will open the floodgates of self improvement if you accept issues in your life and seeks actively to correct them. Pook goes over them one by one and tries to help you out as a friend and a mentor. I can't stop raving about the book and Pook, I'm pretty sure this is for a very selective audience and doesn't appeal to the mass crowd. I'll read these again and will recommend the book to any of my friends who are open to self improvement.-Vishnu E

I have read this book over and over again, and every time, I have learned something. It has taught me things that are more than just how to get girls. It is hard, in this day and age, to really know what it means to be a man. Pook answers those questions. To be continuously striving forward, to go past the manuals and instructions and create your own life, that is what he advocates. I don't agree with everything he says, but many of his words resonate with me.- Yichen

What are you expecting here? A long-winded diatribe on the virtues of strong masculinity in an increasingly decadent and feminine society? If The Book of Pook taught me anything, it's that bookish exercises in philosophy frequently lead to feeble stasis, and almost never to life's sweeping heights. Your time is better spent building, creating, and pursuing YOUR passions! So get off your butt young man, stop reading this review and go create your own world!- Vladivostok

One of the most essential books for the modern man to read. Please do not be turned away by the lack of ratings on goodreads, this extremely female dominated site. This is one of the most important texts you can get your hands on as a man, period. – Moiz R

Impressive for a collection of online posts. Great wisdom to be digested, with a grain of salt provided- Brian

Book is written in unique style, the chapters are made from gist of forums from sosuave. The ideas that the Pook is presenting there are really eye opening. Every man should read this book.- Justsomedude

Beside giving great advices about love affairs, this book also has some brief but invaluable financial advices for every people, especially toward the end of the book.-Mst Can

I was advised to read this book because of its deep insights into the mindset of successful individuals in different avenues in life; not limited to issues associated with getting the attention of women in general. After perusing its pages I came to the conclusion that although the information is presented in a book format is not a book per se, but a collection of several posts previously published in the Sosuave forum. Nonetheless, I think the information it contains is of great value especially because it puts the emphasis on personal improvement & not on other people. It clearly states that if you want to get the best out of life you have to pay the price in the form of joining a gym, improve your presentation (better wardrobe), develop a reading books habit, improve your language (avoid fault language), finish your higher education and as a result of all of these changes social changes will occur in your life such as better jobs, access to money, secure your financial future & yes get access to women especially those that in bygone years never gave you the time of day because you didn't represent the kind of men that sexually arouse them. Although, I have experienced these results myself by practicing what the book mentions & many other things to evolve into the best version of myself; I'm a firm believer that we should never allow women into our lives that in the past systematically rejected us. These individuals try to attract our attention to be able to enjoy the benefits of what we've managed to achieve with a lot of effort and discipline, but without offering in return anything of value since whatever life gave them to trade with men they promiscuously gave for free to who knows how many jerks. As the book states, you become what you believe you're, you're the price & for that, you have to become what you demand from others & even excel in those areas. Otherwise, we could be treated as hypocrites expecting from others what we ourselves are not. Just keep in mind that in the process many people will notice the changes & will not like it because of envy mostly. In conclusion, I highly recommend reading this book & from time to time revisit its pages just to refresh its advice and useful observations.- Ostilio Portillo

A humorous no BS book about relationships and the shift of society against masculinity. Not meant as a pick up artist book, but a reality check for general male growth and improvement.- Ala

This book will teach males to be Men again. It's one of those things that you read and go: Yes, this is the truth. Not because of proof or anything else, but because deep down, as a man, you instinctivly have known these things your whole life but could never really articulate them. A must read.-Mohammed

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The author of this book does not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. The intent of the author is only to offer information of a general nature to help you in your quest for emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. In the event you use any of the information in this book for yourself, the author and the publisher assume no responsibility for your actions. 

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Contents

Honor

1.Recommended Read: The Book of Pook Series

2.Introduction – A Pook Is A Pook!

3.Pook Man’s Advice to a Suffering Newbie

4.Fifteen Lessons

5.Lesson One

6.Lesson Two

7.Lesson Three

8.Lesson Four

9.Lesson Five

10.Lesson Six

11.Lesson Seven

12.Lesson Eight

13.Lesson Nine

14.Lesson Ten

15.Lesson Eleven

16.Lesson Twelve

17.Lesson Thirteen

18.Lesson Fourteen

19.Lesson Fifteen

20.What Every Skinny Guy Should Know

21.Perfect Is Boring

22.The Secret Of The Jerk

23.Looks or personality?

24.Fountain Of Youth

25.Kill That Desperation!

26.Embrace Your Sexuality!

27.On Embracing Sexuality

28.Eliminate Desire Or Not?

29.On Shyness

30.On The Nature Of Sexuality

31.Romanticism – An Obituary

32.Let Yourself Fail!

33.Aim High!

34.On Kino

35.What I’ve Learned

36.Approaching Women

37.As You Think, You Shall Become

38.Be A Man!

39.Casual Dating

40.Structure Of Worlds

41.Do Girls Want Sovereignty?

42.Cocky And Funny?

43.Feeling Down About Your Love Life? Read This!

44.Feminism Put On Trial!

45.Good Girls Do Cheat

46.Attention Whores

47.Habit Is All

48.If Life Seems Hard And Unhappy, Read This!

49.Why Let’s Just Be Friends

50.On Mystery

51.Patience: What Truly Makes A Don Juan

52.Ooh La La!

53.A Second Life

54.Securities Vs. Mistakes

55.SS is AFC

56.Talking To Girls

57.The Difference Between Dating And Friendship

58.Womanese!

59.More Womanese!

60.Even More Womanese!

61.Why Women Mention Other Men Even If They’re Interested In You!

62.Secret To Womanese!

63.More On You Must Be Gay!

64.The Keys To The Don Juan

65.Toward Manhood!

66.Women Initiating Dates

67.On Marriage

68.How To Get A Pook To Shut Up

69.Aphorisms

70.Endure!

71.Being Don Juan

Honor

This book is dedicated to the soldier. No matter whether the cause is popular or not, I am in awe of the fact that when their country calls them, they go, and they go willingly. They take our place on the battlefield, risking everything they have, because it is part of who they are. They all are my heroes and I owe all of my success, happiness, and opportunities to past, present, and future generations of their kind. May God keep them safe and speed the day to us when their sacrifice is no longer required because humanity has learned that the real enemy is hatred itself and the way to real happiness is unconditional love. Until that day comes I take great pride and comfort in knowing they will continue to stand up and show us what real honor and integrity is. I dedicate my life to helping bring humanity closer together, and always giving my gifts to the world in hopes that I may honor all of their collective sacrifices so they are not in vain.

Chapter one

Recommended Read: The Book of Pook Series

Dear Readers,

Are you ready to unlock the secrets of successful relationships and life? Look no further than The Book of Pook series – a treasure trove of wisdom that will not only enlighten you but also transform the way you approach dating, relationships, and understanding the intricate world of the opposite sex.

Volume 1: Learn Dating, Pickup, Seduction & Relationship Secrets

In this first volume, Pook takes you on a journey into the world of dating, pickup, seduction, and relationships. Discover the hidden knowledge that only 1% of the world's men possess. Pook's insights will help you navigate the complexities of modern dating, understand female attraction, and boost your confidence with the opposite sex.

Volume 2: Learn Female Psychology, Marriage & Relationship Secrets

Moving on to the second volume, Pook delves deeper into the intricacies of female psychology, marriage, and maintaining fulfilling relationships. You'll gain invaluable insights into the minds of women, learn the secrets to a successful marriage, and discover how to nurture lasting connections that stand the test of time.

Volume 3: Dating, Attraction, and Seduction Mastery

In the final volume of the series, Pook unveils the ultimate secrets to dating mastery and understanding what women truly desire. Unlock the secrets of alpha males and become the best version of yourself. With Pook as your guide, you'll gain the confidence and skills needed to succeed in the ever-changing landscape of dating and relationships.

Why should you read the entire Book of Pook series?

Transformative Insights: Pook's unique perspective will challenge your preconceptions and open your eyes to new ways of thinking about relationships.

Invaluable Knowledge: Gain access to knowledge that only a select few possess, giving you a significant advantage in your romantic endeavors.

Practical Guidance: The series offers practical tips and advice that you can apply immediately to improve your dating and relationship experiences.

Confidence Boost: Develop the self-assuredness of an alpha male, enhancing your attractiveness and presence in the dating world.

Don't miss this opportunity to embark on a journey of self-discovery and relationship enlightenment. The Book of Pook series is your ticket to success in the realm of love and connection. Start with Volume 1 and let Pook guide you through the secrets of successful relationships and life.

Happy reading and happy relationships!

Chapter two

Introduction – A Pook Is A Pook!

The only reason why I'm here at Sosuave is to help myself. I have absolutely no interest in being an 'authority' or 'star poster' or anything of the such. I just want to correct my own flaws and discover life. I don't care about the DJ Bible, I don't care about any of the forum mechanics, or the forum custodians, or anything of the such.

When I do a post, I basically talk to myself. The post is something I've found that helps me, that is why it appears in the 'tips' section. If I wanted to discuss it, it would go into the discussion section. (Many people do not understand this distinction and start ranting on my threads and don't understand why I don't respond. There's no need to discuss anything. The posts end up becoming so long because I already put in the questions within the post.)

There is a trend lately where people do not see the posts, they just see 'Pook'. So when a Pook post appears, they go 'pook baiting' (term coined by Ice-pick). A good example of this is the 'Habit is All' thread. A very simple message (that provided clarity in my life) but obfuscated by nonsensical replies.

My mission is to try to correct the Pook. I actually don't care about anything else. Things that help me I put out on the table, since maybe some of you guys have the same problems I did. If the post sounds like Latin to you, then don't consider it. We're all here to fix ourselves. Because the focus is on ourselves.

I think that was when my Big Change came was when I realized I was the problem, not the women. That's why I rage against the 'focus on women/controlling women/tactics' posts (or rather, when they rage at me). The solution to your problems is not in the woman but in yourself, but it does take a type of humility to realize that YOU are the problem (consider the Nice Guy: HE is right and the WORLD/WOMEN are wrong. He is backwards. He is wrong and the WOMEN are right).

I've been here for 3-4 years. Looking at my past posts, I can see how A lead into B and then to C and so on. For example, the Kill That Desperation post (for me) slammed the door shut on 'tricks' and 'tactics'. So what else was there to do? After that came Be A Man which separated sexuality from intercourse. This slammed the door on me on all the 'lay reports' and all. We are in a habit nowadays of defining sexuality only to matters of sex when, in fact, it goes well beyond intercourse.

Thus, a male and a man are not one but two. Anyone can be androgenous. And being an androgenous is not a virtue, and being masculine is not a vice.

Now, who is it that is saying 'man' and 'woman' do not exist in their sexualized forms? Yes, gender theorists!

Gender theorists hold that masculinity and feminity are socially imposed, in other words, artificial. I didn't realize they were the source, but I did realize then that something was off sexuality wise in our world (the Nice Guys seem, not born, but manufactured). So I said, Be a Man! I want to free sexuality from 'just intercourse' else the world becomes androgenous and very dull.

In Toward's Manhood, this thought got dealt with more. I ask a group of guys what a guy does that is MALE. The only answer they repeated was 'sex with women'. As big of supporter I am of sexing women, it shows that sexuality has been chased away and confined to the bedroom. I believe we're entering a new Puritan age where sexuality is outlawed, and allowed only through intercourse. The idea of a woman.

being feminine or a man being masculine drives some people nuts (as if they think they have a right to tell you how you should act!).

Life is much more enjoyable as a masculine figure than a nerdy androgenous. Now, here is a good observation. If sexuality is banned from all arenas except for intercourse (where it cannot be banned), what is the result? The result is that society becomes more androgenous. And the result of that is that sexual intercourse becomes more and more hyped and monumentalized.

So your grandmother was right. Intercourse is 'more paraded' more than ever (if you outlaw one part of human sexuality, we just focus on the other part. Sexuality must go somewhere.) [Also, the Pleasantville analogy of the Human race not discovering sex until the 60s is wrong. The 50s and 40s probably had more sex than today. After all, where did the BABY BOOM come from?]

We are all worms crawling between heaven and earth. The 'Towards Manhood' post went on detailing the 'heaven link' of Man. The 'Secret of the Jerk' post details the 'earth link' of Man. Personally, I think the 'Towards Manhood' post is a far better post than 'Secret of the Jerk' (because nowadays, everyone focuses on the earth link, never on the heaven link) but everyone seems very bent on the 'earth link'.

We are all centaurs, and we ride the beast through this world. Both elements of the beast and the 'mind/soul' ought to be understood. What good does it do to cut off the 'heaven element' and make no differences between us and apes, wolves, dogs, or Norwegian rats?

Secret of the Jerk II focuses on the 'earth link' of sexuality being morality whereas Brave New World focuses on the 'heaven link' of sexuality being morality. Both are to be dealt with.

Posts like 'Feminism on Trial' and such is my attack on what these Neo Puritans, these feminists, are doing with sexuality.

I gave up trying to figure out 'how to get women' and 'understanding women' because I kept coming back to defining men. Just as you cannot define day without defining night, so too you cannot define women without defining men. Thus, my focus became placed on SEXUALITY, meaning both sexes and the laws that influence them. I want to mine the secrets of Nature to see how that can better myself. I have no desire to be seen as an Oracle and I despise people who see me as one.

One thing I still cannot understand is why people talk of 'Pook' as a person. There seems to be a contest going about who can best psycho-analyze the Pook. Alas, I wasn't invited to such a contest and when I say what I am, people don't believe it (!).

I tell you exactly how I think with my posts. But that is not enough. Pook is either 'this' or 'that'.

Consider this thread. I posted here because they kept on talking about Pook, psychoanalyzing him, etc. etc. That pissed me off, as they don't know Pook and I'm the only one who really does. So the speed seducers came after me. They said, Saying 'Be a Man' is not enough! We need practical advice! Throughout all this, the Secret of the Jerk was on my computer (which dealt very much with the 'earth- plane'). I grew tired of all this and just decided to post the article.

And everyone shut up. Why? Because instead of trying to understand themselves, they tried to 'understand Pook'. Pook is this... Pook is that... Pook is Pook. What more needs to be said?

Consider a recent example with PowerEgo. He accused the Pook of being a (oh that term) workaholic and that I was demanding everyone to become a workaholic. I kept talking to him just so he would keep talking, knowing full well the Fountain of Youth post was on my computer. When I grew tired of him, I just posted FoY and that was that.

Look at this quote I got from another board:

Quote:

The entire foundation of Pook's current predicament is that he has dehumanised women to the point where he considers them to be grossly inferior creatures who are unworthy of his company. Unsurprisingly, that didn't even raise an eyebrow on SS, since that's also the foundation of every other approach to being a playah. Anyone that considers such an attitude to be 'masculine' needs to buy a dictionary. Just because a woman is intelligent doesn't make her masculine - the two are completely unrelated. Likewise, ignorance and self-delusional stupidity are not in the least bit masculine. Pook has taken a path of quasi-intellectual wanking and turned his back on the very Nature that he so vigorously plagiarises the classics to champion.

These people condemn the Pook for being an intellectual! (btw, how can you 'plagiarize' the classics? Classics aren't copyrighted. And I haven't even gotten STARTED on the classics and the knowledge of sexuality they hold!)

Yet, some people are currently angry at me because I have been busy 'bashing' intellectuals! So which is it, guys? Am I an intellectual or not an intellectual?

As you can imagine, this is so comedic as would be worthy of the pen of Moliere! Lately, some people say, Pook is a misogynist! He hates women!

Yet, I have a series of posts where a youth goes, Evil women! Evil women! and paints women as evil and I show that the youth wrong, and that women may very well be the opposite.

All these attempts to 'psycho-analyze' the Pook are going to be wrong. Stop worrying about the Pook and worry about yourselves. If you don't like what the Pook says, don't listen to him.

Pook is a big fat egotist!

Yet, I have posts detailing that progress only comes through humility (as one who thinks he knows all the answers will never post anything new 'since he knows everything').

I have been accused and labeled as everything under the sun. What is funny is even when I am truthful about who I am (like in the Feminism on Trial thread), people don't believe it and think I'm lying! No, I am who I've said I am.

Chapter three

Pook Man’s Advice to a Suffering Newbie

Anti Dump had a metaphor that I like a lot:

You should be free as a bird, flapping around, singing, full of joy with life. Women want to ****** the bird and throw it in a cage (cage = commitment).

When birds try to fly into the cage, wouldn't you think something is wrong with that bird? After all, who wants a bird that WANTS to be in the cage? No, women want the birds that are FREE, WILD, and BEAUTIFUL. They want A GOOD CATCH. Good Catches do not fly into cages. Only wounded or needy birds do.

Women aren't complicated. Our feelings just get in the way of what we WANT to do rather than what we SHOULD do. We want to rub their feet and build statues of them. We should demand respect and reward them only for good behavior.

True passion can only be achieved when the man is willing to walk away at a moment's notice. After all, if you say I love you! after a coffee date, then the passion is gone because you have shown that you will not walk away.

Flowers and gifts should be used as a REWARD, not as an item to BUY her affections. When a woman treats you with indifference, you challenge her.

When a woman treats you with disrespect, you punish her by withdrawing your affection and time. When a woman treats you well with respect and the affection you want, you reward her .

I think the solid line of thought that will get you as many girls as you want and keep your relationships bright and fiery is: Do not have desire.

Of course, being desire-less is impossible. You can go up to any guy and talk, right? You should be able to do the same with women. The only things that are holding you back are 1) Not understanding women, 2) Desire makes you too nervous and uptight.

With all the great articles at this site and this message forum, you'll eliminate number 1 quite fast. Number 2 is a bit harder. Some people are naturals at it (Peak). Others have to go through a long series of crash and burns, rejections, and horrible relationships before they realize it was their desire that made them overlook all flaws and made them act illogically (Anti-Dump).

You should be commended since MOST men think they are MASTERS at romance (everyone thinks they are right about everything). By coming here, you are already on the path to becoming a DON JUAN. Soon, women will tremble with passion in your presence. If you're serious about educating yourself, then this site is going to change your life.

It did for me.

Chapter four

Fifteen Lessons

A young man sat and pondered the next phase of his life. It is time, he said, for a girlfriend. Yet, this new course in his life seemed both exciting and frightening. But success will not come without much failure, he realized. If only there was a way to avoid the painful trials ahead.

And then, like magic, appeared a Pook!

As like anyone shocked by the sudden appearance of a Pook, he was speechless. But this happened to be a talkative Pook who said, I will guide you. The constant heartbreak, the loneliness, the feeling of having no control- these can be avoided. Follow me and I will show you many of the lessons that must be learned.

Oh, Pook! the young man cried out. Would it not be better to throw myself into initial error? Is not error the best way to success?

"No; your heart does not need to be shattered to realize its lessons. Do successful marriages come from a series of failed ones? Of course not. For...

Foresight teaches gently; error teaches brutally

With that, the young man asked, And what is the first lesson? The Pook replied, Follow and see.

Thus, the young man followed Pook to a nearby college campus. Pook then said, Behold, the first example.

Chapter five

Lesson One

A young man, overflowing with desire, saw a woman he thought was extremely cute. She was simply walking around and was involved with her own things.

I should speak to her, he told himself. I must meet her!

But his body would not obey. He stood there, watching her in the corner of his eye, and felt as if he was burning. She eventually left, and he cursed himself even more.

Then appeared another woman who was even cuter!

I should say hi, he told himself. Yet, he stood like a statue and his body felt as if he was burning. She is out of my league. She would never go for someone like me! He never approached, and the woman left.

Yet, another woman appeared more beautiful than the first two!

Somehow, he got himself to approach. Hi! he sputtered nervously. She was pleasant. He eventually asked for the number to which she said no. Even though he failed, he felt much better that he tried.

Alas, he said, now realizing the error of his ways.

Rejection is better than regret.

Remember, said Pook. Change is gradual. Before, you saw no opportunities. Now, you see them all about you, yet you are too hesitant to take them. You’re slowly becoming more aware.

What are you saying?

When you find yourself hesitant, always yield to action. If you see her, do not wait, gawk or wait for a ‘perfect moment’. Action, action, action!

Pook, I cannot. You see... I am insecure. I don’t have that confidence!

You are confusing CAUSE and EFFECT. The CAUSE of your hesitant nature is not because of your insecurity. You have not gotten what you’ve wanted, what you’ve desired. THAT causes your hesitant nature.

What?

"You are caught in the vicious cycle. You are hesitant because you are not used for things going your way. And things will never go your way because you remain hesitant. You see what you want, become hesitant, and the door of opportunity closes. It happens again. And again. And again. With each choice towards Inaction, you reject yourself a little bit more."

Pook continued. "This is where that cycle of hesitation leads. In your world of hesitation, you shred off more and more of your manliness until you turn into a full-fledged Nice Guy. Then you seek to remove hesitation by making the approach risk free. Then you start giving gifts, poetry, flowers, and declarations of love. You start to examine and re-examine non-existent signals until they read the way you want them.

To read. In the end, you place her on the pedestal and throw yourself in her worship.

"If there is a choice between less pain or the possibility of more pain, we default to the less pain. In adolescence, going for a girl and failing made you think everyone else would laugh at you. Whether or not it was true, you thought it was true. This was how you were kept within the cycle."

But Pook! How do I get out?

By realizing that the choice of Inaction is more painful than Action. Childhood is over. You are the MAN. You must approach. Always default to Action now. From those of us who wasted years in that hesitation mode know that Rejection is always better than Regret. Always.

Chapter six

Lesson Two

The woman enters the house, followed by a guy. The guy is all smiles, thinking that great acts of intimacy are about to occur. But, alas, the woman launches into a rant about men.

My ex-boyfriend was such a jerk, she began. Why is it that men treat me so roughly?

The guy then transformed into Mr. Sensitive. There, there, he purrs. They do not know how great you are! You are beautiful, lovely, enchanting, dazzling in every way, and they are idiots when they cannot see it.

"You are so nice! What a friend you are! she squeals. Let me tell you more of my problems with men..."

And so the guy, who was excited because great acts of intimacy would occur, leaves severely disappointed with a hollow feeling