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vs.
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Knox, 1979

Greenblatt, 1983
Hite, 1981; Wolfe,198170%
O'Neill & O'Neill,
1972,1978
(Adams, 1980; Butler, 1976)
Glenn McLanah 1982a,1982b
(Knox,1985;Hoffman,1989)
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Rodrigues(2005)What predicts divorce and relationship dissolution?












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Lewis, R. A., & Spanier, G. B.1979. Theorizing about the quality and stability of
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In W. R. Burr, R. Hill, I. F. Nye, & I. L. Reiss Eds., Contemporary
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theories about the family Vol. 1, pp. 259-267. Old Tappan, NJ: Macmillan.
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A great marriage is not when the
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what an imperfect couple learns to enjoy
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G Peacemaker Ministries Pledge

1 Glorify God
(37:1-811:212:17-2114:1510:31
4:2-93:1-43:17-184:1-32:12)

2 Get the Log Out of Your Eye


(28:137:3-53:12-151:8-9)

3 Gently Restore
(19:116:1-24:292:2-26)
4 Go and Be Reconciled
(5:23-246:17:124:1-3322:3-4)

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---SMILE
Su Porter SMILE


Say it without rage.
Model appropriate behavior.

Involve everyone (parents, children,

caregivers)

Listen as much as you talk.


Encourage because praise for good
behavior is more effective than criticism.

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