Professional Documents
Culture Documents
MAN
James Maverick
First Electronic Edition, October 2014
http://www.mavericktraveler.com
CONTENTS
Introduction
I - Value
II - Time
III - Standards
IV - Interviewer
V - Entitlement
VI - Confidence
VII - Confrontation
VIII - Presence
IX - Nonchalant
X - Kingdom
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
Naturals
Fortunately, I didnt have to look very
far. Ever since I had left America to travel
and live, I had been surrounded by such
men. During my travels, Ive met many high
value men such as businessmen, executives,
writers, artists, expats, marketers, club own-
ers, etc. They came from all corners of the
globe: Mexico, Argentina, Italy, Sweden,
Russia and Iran. Unlike my friends back
home, who all possessed ordinary 9-5 lives
24/411
VALUE
Building value
60/411
TIME
The mirror
87/411
STANDARDS
Demystifying women
When it comes to women, one of the ma-
jor pitfalls men experience is idolizing any
cute woman they see walking around. Stand-
ards prevent that from happening because
they force you to define what exactly it is
youre looking for in a person. In this way,
standards help you cut through the fog of
the persons outward appearance and focus
on the details. They help you to demystify a
womans seemingly infallible beauty. When I
lived in Brazil, my friends and I had lots of
interactions with all kinds of women, includ-
ing local Brazilian women and foreigners.
One of the English girls we all knew was very
cute. She was blonde, tall, and had overall
model-level looks. She was truly a catch. Of
133/411
Erecting standards
Establishing standards begins with de-
fining criteria that someone or something
else must possess. If the person or place
doesn't meet your criteria, you keep looking
159/411
Enforcing standards
While its important for people and
places to enter your life only after passing
your stringent standards, it's also important
that these people and places keep meeting
the same standards as time goes on. A res-
taurant that you first liked because it served
great food and service must keep serving
great food and providing great service. A
friend who you considered to be trustworthy
and loyal must remain trustworthy and loyal.
A girlfriend who you liked because she was
sexy and great in bed must continue to stay
sexy and great bed. Long ago, I used to be
friends with a great guy who was living a nice
life thanks to a high-paying job. A year later
he lost his job due to an economic downturn.
He was unable or unwilling to adjust to his
newly frugal lifestyle, so he began screwing
up. One day, I had to rescue him from a bar
167/411
INTERVIEWER
A prelude to interest
Since time is a currency that you want to
conserve and use prudently, and you only
want to deal with people who firmly fit into
your standards, its important to view inter-
viewing as a way to tell whether something
will capture your interest. After all, you cant
be interested in someone or something be-
fore you interview them and find out. Ima-
gine you're going to buy a new car. That
shiny new model BMW catches your interest.
You know that BMWs are quality cars, so
they pass your standards. However, the
problem is that you've never driven that par-
ticular model. You dont know whether that
model drives well, and you dont know if it is
reliable. Therefore, you decide that you must
take it for a test drive. That's your way of in-
terviewing the car. Unless you physically
173/411
ENTITLEMENT
No permission necessary
Realizing that youre suddenly entitled to
many more things in life means you are no
longer required to ask permission from oth-
ers. If you wander into your own kitchen and
grab an orange, do you need to ask someone
227/411
CONFIDENCE
Becoming confident
Achieving confidence cannot be done
overnight, but it can certainly be done given
enough work and patience. It begins with re-
moving factors that contribute to doubt.
There are mainly two kinds of doubt: intern-
al and external. Internal doubt is the doubt
in your head. External doubt has to do with
the environment. The first step is realizing
what you can and cant control. The only
thing that is fully under your control is your
own behavior and actions. When approach-
ing a cute girl, the only thing that you can
control is the physical act of putting one foot
in front of another and walking towards her.
Once you walk over to her and open your
mouth, youve done everything that you can,
250/411
Being assertive
Confidence also means being more
forceful and assertive with what you want.
One fine Sunday afternoon, I was walking
around with a good friend in New York. My
friend needed to go to the bathroom, but
255/411
CONFRONTATION
Physical escalation
To better adapt to confrontation, you
must find the source of the fear. And in order
to really understand any fear, its always use-
ful to dig deeper and discover its underlying
cause. Always ask yourself Whats the worst
thing that could really happen? In this case,
the underlying fear of psychological con-
frontation is the risk of a physical confronta-
tion. Theres always a risk that any confront-
ation between two (or more) people can es-
calate into a physical clash that will threaten
your life. The worst thing that can happen is
death. That explains why youll be less fear-
ful of anything bad happening if youre the
biggest guy in the environment. If youre a
big guy and some situation physically
283/411
Action-based lifestyle
My experience has overwhelmingly
shown that half of the battle is just showing
up. In fact, I think showing up is actually
more than half the battle, probably around
eighty percent. Thats because showing up
transports you from your isolated and com-
fortable surroundings and pits you against
someone else, face-to-face. The rest usually
takes care of itself. During my travels, Ive
known many guys who loved going out and
picking up women. Some were successful,
others were less so. One of my friends loved
women so much that he couldnt resist ap-
proaching them pretty much anywhere:
parks, cafes, restaurants, streets, bars and
287/411
Real limitations
293/411
PRESENCE
Human communication is
overwhelmingly non-verbal. In fact, it's gen-
erally accepted that 93% of communication
is non-verbal and only 7% is verbal. Effective
communication is less about the actual con-
tent of what youre trying to do and more
about the way you do it: the way you talk;
the way you walk; the way you carry yourself.
The context surrounding your words is much
more important than the actual words them-
selves; in fact, words by themselves actually
mean very little. The way you act, talk, and
296/411
NONCHALANT
Becoming nonchalant
When I thought about the best adjective
that expressed the mindset necessary to
transform from doing dumb actions to only
smart ones, the first word that popped into
my mind was nonchalant. According to the
dictionary, nonchalant means feeling or ap-
pearing casually calm and relaxed; not dis-
playing anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm. To
be nonchalant is to possess one of the most
virtuous human qualities. High value people
show that they are nonchalant by letting oth-
er people come to them instead of rushing to
other people. Im sure youve seen the
324/411
KINGDOM
Kingdomless
While visiting my friend wasnt a flaw-
less experience by any means, it wasnt a
complete failure. I visited a new city. I saw a
friend whom I hadnt seen for a long time. I
also had a free place to stay for ten days. But
there was also something more; something
366/411
Kingdom building
Building a kingdom is a process where
you assemble everything that allows you not
only to live comfortably but also ultimately
to thrive. The key to successful kingdom
building is realizing that you cant ever look
outside for salvation; it must always come
from within. A guy who embarks on kingdom
building doesnt hope that others will some-
how come to the rescue and complete him.
He doesnt expect anyone to help. He doesnt
hope that something will miraculously work
out that, in reality, has a very little chance of
392/411
The anchor
A kingdom serves as your anchor. It
combines everything that makes you great
and further agglomerates it. Its an integral
component of any successful and high value
man. Essentially, someone with a kingdom is
truly completefinancially, socially, and psy-
chologically. He doesnt need much. Hes not
desperately searching for something. He has
a comfortable job so hes not frantically
sending out his resumes to anyone whos hir-
ing. He is surrounded by quality women, so
hes not being desperate and wasting time
hitting on every single girl. He has a crew of
399/411
Rebirth
There was another reason why finding
the origin of these problems was so difficult.
The problem, as I eventually realized, was
greater than anything that I ever faced: the
problem was me. It was my inability to re-
concile my idealized expectations and the
brute reality. I was living in an idealized
world, where I might look at a woman and
immediately imagine her liking me. Or I
might strongly believe that the product Im
building would be wanted by millions and
even billions of people worldwide. In this
idealized world the only thing that mattered
was what I thought; it didn't matter that a
girl or billions of prospective customers had
other plans that had nothing to do with me.
405/411
Universal game
Seduction game and business game are
both forms of communication, communica-
tion that enables you to get something that
you want from someone who has it. Improv-
ing your game helps you to be more success-
ful with women. Its helpful in one area only.
In contrast, improving as a man automatic-
ally improves your communication with all
kinds of people regardless of the actual goal:
whether its to seduce a cute woman, clinch
an important business deal, or any other
kind of exchange where you need something
from someone else. It makes all your com-
munication much more effective, allowing
you to get what you want in all areas. I real-
ized that if I could improve as a man, then
408/411