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he What to Expect &
When to Seek Help: Bright Conversation
Futures Developmental Written in family-friendly language,
Tools for Families and the tools may be used by families
Providers are guided by the and child development professionals
following principle: in a range of disciplines, including
Cite as: Mayer R, Anastasi JM, Clark EM. Every child and adolescent health, education, child care, and
2006. What to Expect & When to Seek deserves to experience joy, have family services.
Help: A Bright Futures Tool to Promote
Social and Emotional Development in Early high self-esteem, acquire a sense
Childhood. Washington, DC: National of efficacy, and believe that she Throughout the tools, a strong
Technical Assistance Center for emphasis is placed on strengths as
Children's Mental Health, Georgetown
can succeed in life. BRIGHT
University Center for Child and FUTURES CHILDRENS well as concerns. The information
Human Development, in collaboration HEALTH CHARTER under What to Expect not
with the National Center for Education
only offers a guide to healthy
in Maternal and Child Health.
Based on Bright Futures in Practice: development and parenting, but
2006 by Georgetown University provides information that parents
Center for Child and Human
Mental Health, the Bright Futures
Development developmental tools offer a can find reassuring about their
framework for providers and families childs behavior and their
With funding from:
to begin a conversation together own parenting.
Child, Adolescent and
Family Branch about how best to support healthy
Center for Mental The tools provide an opportunity to
Health Services
social and emotional development in
Substance Abuse and Mental Health children and teens. The tools are part identify concerns at an early stage.
Services Administration of a coordinated set of print and Web The information under When to
materials, including the Referral Tool Seek Help includes issues that might
for Providers and the electronic be addressed with additional
Community Services Locator. The information, as well as those that
tools gently encourage families who signal the need for further
have any questions or concerns assessments and services. Space is
about their childs development to provided for families to write down
check it outand offer a number their concerns as well as to create
of tips for when, where, and how to their own list of community
To learn more about the tools,
download a copy, or inquire about seek help through local, state, or resources and services.
training, consultation and national resources.
technical assistance, visit
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Bright Futures: What to Expect & When to Seek Help Middle Childhood
Parents:
Accept childs unique personality
Encourage healthy, balanced behavior (e.g., provide
social experiences for shy child; calm, structured Think your child is either too aggressive or too
activities for impulsive or highly active child) dependent (does whatever someone wants)
Support childs interests, ideas, and activities Need ideas to help your child resist pressures to smoke,
Model responsible behavior, help child take on drink, or use drugs (8-10 years)
new responsibilities
Help child balance time for self and time for
structured activities
Are aware of childs activities inside and outside the home Growing and Changing
Teach reasonable risks and safe limits
Talk with child about the risks of experimenting with What to Expect
tobacco, alcohol, drugs (8-10 years) Child:
Learns to care for her body (bathing, grooming,
When to Seek Help dressing; healthy foods; physical activity)
If your child: Feels good about how she looks
Is often sad, worried, or afraid Has energy and a sense of well-being
Clings to you or wants to stay home much of the time Takes pride and pleasure in mastering new physical skills
Seems very worried about failing or making mistakes Develops gender identity (by 5 years)
Waits to be told what to do, does not express own Is aware of changes that will take place during puberty
interests or ideas (8-10 years)
Avoids new tasks, experiences, and challenges
Parents:
Often seems out-of-control, acts on impulse, makes
unhealthy choices Encourage safe, healthy habits (healthy foods, physical
activity, seat belts)
Takes unsafe risks (with bike, traffic, play, sports)
Talk with child about sexuality and puberty; offer age-
Shows signs of tobacco, alcohol, or drug use (8-10 years)
appropriate information, answer questions honestly
Or if you, as parents: Reassure child about the positive changes of puberty
Find it hard to encourage independence yet set safe limits Talk together about changing body image and how to
resist pressures to look perfect (shape, weight, height)
Are overly protective and afraid to let your child try
new things continued
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Middle Childhood Bright Futures: What to Expect & When to Seek Help
Growing and Changing Continued Help child overcome fears and cope with stress
Share own feelings and stories about facing fears
When to Seek Help and problems
If your child: Respect childs growing need for privacy
Wets the bed Limit exposure to media violence
Has trouble sleeping or wants to sleep much of the time
Lacks basic self-care habits (bathing, brushing When to Seek Help
teeth, dressing)
If your child:
Returns to baby-like or silly behaviors
Feels that he lacks basic skills or abilities
Shows signs of early sexual development (before age 9)
Often says negative things about self or others
Seems unaware or fearful of puberty and sexuality
Has problems dealing with angry feelings
(ages 9-10)
Is preoccupied with violent movies, TV, computer games
Has a distorted body image (thinks shes fat when
Is aggressive or tries to bully others
shes not)
Uses food to self-soothe or escape uncomfortable feelings
Or if you, as parents:
Worry about how your child views himself
Or if you, as parents:
Often find yourself criticizing and blaming your child
Worry that your child sleeps or eats too much or too little
Notice that your child seems preoccupied with violence
Notice that your child cant keep up physically with
Have concerns about your childs exposure to abuse
others the same age
(physical, verbal, sexual)
Are concerned that your child does not speak clearly or
Lack confidence or have doubts about your own abilities
communicate well with others
Need tips for how to talk with your child about sex
or puberty
Think your child is overly concerned with weight or
body image
Family
What to Expect
Child:
Respecting Self & Others Feels loved, accepted and valued in the family
Shares feelings and experiences with family members
What to Expect Gets along with brothers and sisters most of the time
Child: Shares or takes turns (games, toys, TV, computer)
Feels good about himself and his abilities Enjoys being part of the family and doing fun
Is able to get over or bounce back from disappointments things together
Learns from mistakes or failures, tries again Helps out with simple chores, follows family rules
Respects the rights and feelings of others, has a
Parents:
sense of fairness
Show love, affection, and respect
Has growing ability to understand another
persons viewpoint Set aside time each day to talk and play with child
Solves conflicts or problems by talking, not fighting Support and supervise childs activities
Praise good behavior, efforts, and accomplishments
Parents: Have family meals together as often as possible
Talk and listen to child with respect Arrange fun family activities
Are good role models (show understanding, Set reasonable rules and consequences
kindness, patience) Help child learn how to solve problems with brothers
Teach child to accept and respect peoples differences and sisters
(ethnic, cultural, religious) Teach child to value and celebrate family heritage
Handle anger constructively
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Bright Futures: What to Expect & When to Seek Help Middle Childhood
Or if you, as parents:
Find it hard to talk with your child or spend time
together
Often feel upset or angry with your child
Feel that your childs personality does not fit in with
the family
Need help resolving conflicts in your family
Are facing major family changes or stresses (divorce, job
loss, substance use)
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Middle Childhood Bright Futures: What to Expect & When to Seek Help
Parents:
Or if you, as parents:
Help child feel confident about school (visit classroom,
Observe that your child does not have friends or
meet teachers before school starts)
playmates at school
Have expectations that match childs abilities
Get calls or reports from teachers with concerns about
Provide help or guidance with school tasks your childs behavior
Encourage childs interests in school activities Expect your child to achieve more than she seems
Become involved at school (field trips, PTA) able to do
Talk with childs teachers regularly Notice a change in your childs school performance,
Encourage child to invite classmates home to play such as a drop in grades
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Bright Futures: What to Expect & When to Seek Help Middle Childhood
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Building Friendships
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School Relationships
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Mental Health (Community Mental Health Center)
National Mental Health Information Center __________________________________________________________
(800) 789-2647 (voice) or (866) 889-2647 (TDD)
www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov __________________________________________________________
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Family Support
In addition to the resources listed above, you can locate __________________________________________________________
local social services, WIC, financial support, or
faith-based programs: __________________________________________________________
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