Learning activity 1

Evidence: Regrets from the dying

This evidence is divided into two parts. Read the instructions below and make
sure you complete both tasks.

Fuente: SENA

A. In 2012, Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse, wrote a book called The
Top Five Regrets of the Dying. Read the following article about that book and
answer the questions below.

To answer questions 1 and 2, follow the grammar structure in the example:

Example: They wish they hadnt wasted time in silly arguments.

Source: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-
of-the-dying
 Top five regrets of the dying

A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the
top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be
if this was your last day of life?

There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who
has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common
regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in
particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in

palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She
recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which
gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of
their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned
about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says,
"common themes surfaced again and again".

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others
expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life
is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of
their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had
made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no
longer have it".

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of
this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female
patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply
regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work
existence".
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.
As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to
the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result".

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their
dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had
become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their
friends when they are dying".

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that
happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and
to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again".

What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or
change before you die?

Not demanding me as a student, and I set out to carry a change that

changes my life to achieve my goals and aspirations.

Questions:

1. What is one of the most common regrets dying people, particularly men,
have?

2. When dying people are asked about their regrets, what are the most
common themes they mention?

3. In the article they mentioned that happiness is a choice. What do you think
this means?
 Answers:

1. I wish I had not worked so hard.

According to Bronnie Ware the nurse indicated that this was more common
in men. They missed the company and youth of their children and partner.
All the men he cared for deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on
the tape of a working existence.

2. According to the nurse, before dying people have a great clarity about
their lives. It is so precise that the five conclusions that came back are
repeated in the vast majority of people.

I wish I had the guts to be faithful to what I wanted and not to what
others expected of me.
I wish I had not worked so hard.
I wish I had the guts to express my feelings.
I wish I had kept in touch with my friends.
I wish I could have been happy

3. Happiness is not a top to reach. Rather, it is a state of mind, of

personal satisfaction, that helps you define and adjust your goals, expand
your mind and contemplate the possibilities within your reach in a positive
way. Happiness is also a powerful energy that extends to those around you
providing well-being to all.

B. Using the answers from part A question 2, describe how things would have
been different if they had changed their actions in each situation. Read the
example below:
 Example:

Regret: They wish they hadnt wasted time on silly arguments.

Reflection: If they hadnt wasted time on silly arguments, they would have
enjoyed the company of others more.

Answer:

Lamentations:

I wish I would have had the guts to be faithful to what I wanted and not to what others
expected of me

Reflection: If I had the guts to be faithful to what I wanted and not what others expected of me,
I would have fulfilled my own goals and not those that society and my family imposed on me.

I wish I had not worked so hard

Reflection: If I had not worked so much, I would have enjoyed more of my family and less of
the work since at the moment only the memories are left.

I wish I had the guts to express my feelings

Reflection: If I had had the guts to express my feelings, I would have kept my family together
and would not have allowed the love of my life to leave my side.

I wish I had kept in touch with my friends

Reflection: If I had been in contact with my friends, I would have been able to count on them in
difficulty.

I wish I could have been happy

Reflection: If I had allowed myself to be happy, I would have been able to enjoy my loved ones
and today would be by my side.

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