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A Report on
Intra-Kashmir Women’s Conference
SRINAGAR
November 16-18, 2007
SRINAGAR
November 16-18, 2007
Support from the Women's Studies Centres of Jammu and Kashmir Universities
Photographs Curtsey of Aman Farooq, Tariq Masud, Poonam Dhawan, Sushobha Barve
The process
Sharing pain
Conclusion
Consensus Statement 19
T
he first Intra-Kashmir Women's Conference—
“Connecting Women Across the Line of
Control”—was held in Srinagar from “Everyone is looking to belong, to
November 16-18, 2007. It was organised by the hold on to some thread from the
Centre for Dialogue and Reconciliation (CDR) in past, an association from our shared
collaboration with the Women's Studies Centres of past that they'll all want to share—yet
the Universities of Kashmir and Jammu.
they are kept apart due to politics—
The conference was historic in more ways than local, national and international and
one. It was the first time that women from both sides
the big system of security. Can we
of the Line of Control (LoC) were able to meet. It was
held in Srinagar and the delegation from Azad Jammu change that? Can we initiate a
Kashmir (AJK) travelled to India via the Wagah people's movement across the two
border. It took place in an atmosphere that allowed nations, one that is based on mutual
delegates to speak freely and frankly and express trust and respect?”
differences as well as areas of agreement. For many of
Dr Syeda Hameed
the 12 women from Pakistan and AJK who travelled Member, Planning Commission, New Delhi
via Wagah and through Jammu to Srinagar, it was the
first time they had visited areas in Jammu & Kashmir
(J&K) that lay on the other side of the border.
The delegation from AJK was diverse and
The process
included a human rights activist, an academic, a The meeting was a culmination of several years of
woman entrepreneur, a doctor, lawyers, a grassroots work by CDR in J&K. Initially, it focused on bringing
women's organiser, a former Director of Female women together for building trust and peace. Small
Education and a television journalist. It excluded groups of women on the Indian side of the LoC met
women who are involved in power politics or are the and shared their personal stories of pain and suffering.
predictable participants of international meetings. As a result of this process, bonds were created
between these women that did not exist before.
The delegates from J&K comprised writers,
educationists, a former Chairperson of the J&K State Out of these dialogues, the women began to talk
Women's Commission, college principals, directors of about what needed to be done about the larger issues
Women's Studies Centres of Universities and around the conflict in Kashmir. One of the early
Colleges, journalists, doctors, television anchors, initiatives that they took was to create training
advocates and women activists. material for peace education. For four years, training
women in J&K have not been effectively mobilised. disillusioned with the leaders of the azaadi movement.
Although they have actively participated in protests Apart from general fatigue, these could be some of the
against violence and human rights violations, they reasons that made women hesitate about coming
have been hesitant about participating in peace efforts. forward in large numbers to demand peace.
The reason for this could be their experiences in During the last 60 years, J&K has suffered
the early 1990s at the height of the azaadi movement Partition, has borne the brunt of wars between India
when they were in the forefront of processions and and Pakistan, and has been living through armed
demonstrations. Those years were marked with conflict for the past 18 years. All these events have
repression, human rights violations, disappearances, caused huge social turmoil and violence resulting in
death and destruction of property. Women suffered at deaths, displacement of communities (in some cases
the hands of both the State as well as non-State actors. several times), destruction of property, disruption of
Kashmiri society as a whole paid a heavy price. normal life and slow down of every kind of
Hardly any family was left untouched by tragedy. development.
People were angry at the State but also became
In all this, women's suffering has been enormous
and ongoing. Yet apart from some acknowledgement
“I am also demanding representation for that women are the worst affected, there has not been
adequate recognition of their suffering and the
women in all the major political parties
sacrifices they have made. There have been no serious
including Hurriyat Conference. The
attempts either by governments, separatists or
credibility of the political parties should be mainstream political leaders to ask the women of the
determined on how much representation divided State what kind of future they visualised for
they give to women.” themselves, for their families, for their society and
Prof Taqdees Gillani how they would like the Kashmir dispute to be
Associate Professor, AJK University, Muzaffarabad resolved.
and President, NGO-Hope
Different organisations have held small and large
women's gatherings in and outside of J&K. But no
one had attempted to have an Intra-Kashmir women's
gathering to tap the thinking of women about the
peace process and resolution of the Kashmir issue.
Although no one prevented their participation in conference. Dr. Yasmeen Ashai, head of Women's
the peace process, enough opportunities have not Studies Centre at the Government Women's College,
been provided to women in this regard. CDR wanted Srinagar was part of the core-team that planned the
to provide such an opportunity to the women of the conference and the Government Women's
divided State of Jammu-Kashmir. It was this quest to Polytechnic, Bemina and S.S.M. College of
bring women into the peace process that prompted Engineering, provided manpower, technical help and
the first All Women's Intra-Kashmir Conference in other support.
Srinagar during November 2007.
As the preparations got underway, it became
When the idea was broached with women in evident that this would not be an easy meeting to
J&K, there was an enthusiastic response and support organise. The biggest hurdle was getting visas for the
of the idea. Many offered their help. A small group in delegates from the Pakistan side of the LoC.
Srinagar worked along with the CDR team in Fortunately, several officials in different Ministries in
planning the conference. Across the LoC and in India as well as the Indian High Commission in
Islamabad friends who had participated in CDR Islamabad came forward to help and all the visas
facilitated Intra-Kashmir Conferences earlier, agreed came through barring one. The entire process once
to help in identifying women who could participate as again emphasised the need for governments to
well as making the travel arrangements. One of them have more confidence in their citizens if they want
is Mr. Tariq Masud, a retired civil servant. The to make the Confidence Building Measures (CBM)
delegation would not have been able to cross the work.
Wagah border without his help.
One effective Kashmir CBM is the cross-border
Also assisting the process was Dr. Poonam travel intended for divided families. The women's
Dhawan, Director of the Women's Study Centre, delegation from across the LoC brought with them
Jammu University, who agreed to associate with this the intensity of pain and suffering of divided families.
initiative. Jammu University (JU) hosted the The majority of them belonged to divided families.
delegation twice during their transit through Jammu They were visiting this side for the first time. Some of
city. In Srinagar, the Women's Study Centre of the participants were keen to visit their relatives in
Kashmir University also associated with the different parts of the State whom their parents were
Sharing pain
One of the most significant sessions followed the
inaugural session when the women sat around the
table and individually shared their experiences of the
conflict and the earthquake. A woman from AJK
spoke of how her family had to flee from their home
in Poonch district in India after the 1965 war between
India and Pakistan. Since then, they had never
returned. Her father tried hard to get a visa to see his
ailing father, who had stayed behind in India. But he
did not succeed. When he heard that his father died,
he fell ill and never recovered. Within days, her
mother also died. She was overwhelmed that she had Dr. Zahida Qasim, Mirpur, AJK
finally got a chance to return and meet members of
her divided family. husband and children when they crossed over
during Partition and that she continued to think
Another woman from AJK described the horror of that she was living in a hostel rather than in her own
losing many members of her immediate family in the home. She would address her son by her husband’s
2005 earthquake. Yet another said that her name.
grandmother had never reconciled to the loss of her
On hearing this, a Kashmiri Pandit woman
recalled that she had come across identical cases in the
camps in Jammu where displaced Kashmiri Pandits
“Let me say at this point that when we use had sought shelter. The older people, in particular,
the term ‘Kashmiri’ it includes all Kashmiris were not reconciled to their new reality.
and not just Muslim Kashmiris. My first visit Parveena Ahangar of the Association of Parents
to Kashmir was in 1970. I was fascinated by of Disappeared Persons (APDP) related movingly
the dresses and beauty of Kashmiri Pandits, her personal search for her son who disappeared 14
Sikhs and Buddhists who add colour to the years ago and how she set up the organisation when
culture of this part of the subcontinent and she found hundreds of others who had also
disappeared.
are an integral part of it. I believe Kashmiri
Pandits have made many contributions to Every story illustrated the suffering of divided
literature, education, economics, language families and the price that ordinary people have had to
and culture. They are a part of ‘Kashmiriyat.’ pay for the decades of conflict in the region.
It is ironic that Muslims and Hindus of this This comment by a woman from Srinagar sums up
region have so much common yet we all had the mood at this session:
to live through this conflict. We speak the "In 20 years, we have seen and experienced so
same language, have the same cultures and much that our hearts have turned to stone. Our hopes
traditions and call the same place home. have died. We thought our pain was so great that we
I believe it is time to focus on our similarities would not find medicine. But when I heard the stories
rather than our differences.” from the other side, I felt my pain was nothing. Our
problems and issues are universal, the same. We have
Dr Naseema Jogezai
Chairperson, Dukhtaran-e-Kashmir, Islamabad, Pakistan
to see what we can do tomorrow."
View from the other side and not entirely accurate. They also wanted to learn
more about life on the other side of the border,
At smaller group discussions, the women shared whether the women were free to speak up and criticise
their perceptions of each other, what they had the government and were not entirely happy about the
expected before they came to the meeting, what they focus of the discussion being on the suffering of the
had observed. For instance, the women from AJK women in the Indian side of Kashmir.
said they were shocked to find that they could not call
The women from AJK said that their lives were
Pakistan from the Indian side of the LoC. They
generally peaceful. Both sides noted that the people
pointed out that they faced no such restrictions. They
who suffered the most were those who lived closest to
also commented on the visible presence of the security
the LoC and that they had gained the most after the
forces in civilian areas in Srinagar. Some of them
exchange of fire between the two armies stopped.
noted that heritage structures in Srinagar were better
Women from both sides pleaded for open borders so
preserved than such structures on their side. They also
that people could meet their families.
noted that the women on the Indian side were more
political and far more vocal about their views than any The strongest demand that emerged from all the
of them. They acknowledged that in AJK women sessions was that violence from all sides should end—
were not active participants in politics. from the State and from non-State actors. Both sides
acknowledged that you could not hold only one
The women from Srinagar and Jammu found
agency responsible for the years of violence and strife.
much in common when the two sides shared their
suffering. At the same time, they felt that some of the The women also acknowledged that people on
information that the women from AJK had about both sides, and especially women, had suffered the
their region and their experiences were exaggerated consequence of separation and conflict. And they
came up with many concrete suggestions to bridge the
divide that were articulated in the final consensus
“Reconciliation means more than simply statement.
‘sweeping past horrors under the carpet.’ For Another issue that was debated was what came
the oppressed, homeless and disturbed, it first, justice or reconciliation. Was one possible
means coming to terms with the grave without the other? In one of the groups, the examples
injustice in our lands and in our world;
between the wealthy and the child banished
to a life on the streets, and for the countless
mothers whose sons have been martyred or
listed among those disappeared, or perished
under the rubble of their homes. For those
that have suffered and are still suffering,
reconciliation is no easy task. It is far more
demanding, it pleads that people open their
eyes and speak a language that is understood.
It requires an acceptance and willingness to
push forward for the betterment of all.”
Mrs Nayyar Malik
Teacher, Muzaffarabad, AJK
• Kashmiris living in the border area on both sides The three-day meeting ended with a consensus
have suffered most in the last 60 years. statement that brought together the concerns of the
• Women from both sides recognise peace in the delegates. It was read out point by point to the entire
real sense would mean freedom from fear, feeling gathering and all suggestions and changes
physically safe, freedom from violence, freedom to incorporated before it was issued to the press.
meet family members easily, freedom to pursue
On November 19, the AJK delegation flew to
the field of choice, freedom of expression and
Jammu where the Vice Chancellor of Jammu
freedom from patriarchal values.
University (JU), Dr. Amitabh Mattoo, received them.
• Borders should be softened so that cultural and JU held a memorable evening at the university for the
other interactions can take place. Neutral zones AJK delegation to meet citizens of Jammu, many of
between the two sides would mean allowing whom were Hindu, Sikh refugees of 1947 and their
movement for reasons of health, employment and children, from Mirpur, Kotli, Poonch and
cultural interaction. Muzaffarabad. Later at the reception hosted by the
• Everyone felt the strong need for demilitarisation Vice Chancellor of the university, the delegation
in order to reduce human rights violations that presented to him a gift from the vice-chancellor of
inevitably occur. Muzaffarabad University.
Most of the AJK delegation left the next day via “There are many holy shrines in Rajouri
Amritsar, where they stopped to see the Golden and Poonch districts such as Shahdara
Temple. A couple of the delegates, who had requested Sharief, Chote Shah, Sain Miran Bakash Sain
an extension of their visas to visit their families, were Ellahi Bakash, Gurdwara Nangali Sahib and
granted this by the Indian Government. Budda AmarNath Temple. Similarly there
Some of the spirit of the conference and what it are holy shrines on the other side. People
meant to the women from both sides is captured in on both sides of the LoC should be allowed
the excerpts from assessments that the delegates sent to get spiritual satisfaction.”
on their return (see Annexure I). Ms Tabassum Mughal
Advocate, J&K High Court, Jammu Bench
Conclusion
The conference did address most of the objectives
that we had set before us. The women participants
came from varied backgrounds, regions and
communities. They shared their pain without anger or
engineer who builds roads and bridges that connect particular community, the fact of the matter is that
people, the student who stands up against violence, damage took place across the board, affecting all
the journalist who steers away from propaganda. We communities. A major loss was in terms of the exodus
just need to recognize this activist. Everywhere of Kashmiri Pandits in large numbers, which left a
women have taken the lead in this. Perhaps it is gaping void in the literary, cultural and administrative
because women are the worst sufferers in a conflict fields. The deficiency is still felt in these areas.
and because they recognize the commonality of
Although economic deprivation was widespread,
suffering despite borders.
during the same period a minuscule section of the
The animosity that exists between the two population coming from a cross-section of society
countries is perceived—external pressures are always became rich overnight, not infrequently by following
created and propaganda makes war, wherein truth is dubious means. But the common man continued to
often twisted and facts distorted. The "other" is suffer.
always blamed for everything that goes wrong and the
While people in general and women in particular,
media has a big role to play in all this. The media
on this side of the border, had to go through hell, we
need to take up issues of commonalities.
are not oblivious to the fact that our sisters on the
All of us have an important role to play. This other side, had also to tread on thorny paths, though
meeting is a big step forward because for the first time the problems in their case mostly arose from different
women from Kashmir on both sides have come reasons, relating to the socio-economic structure and
together. We have to continue this process and show the nature of the polity on their side.
the way to be.
It took some time for civil society on our side to
As Iqbal says … respond to the state of misery in the valley, but finally
it did respond, in some measure. I can say with a sense
Tundiye Baade Mukhalif se na Ghabra Ukaab,
of satisfaction that I, and some like-minded persons
Yeh to Chalti hain tujhe uncha udaane ke liye
who supported me, were one of the very first to dare
(Do not fear the adverse wind, oh Falcon, to come out in the open to nurse the wounds of
It blows against you only to make you soar higher). helpless widows, orphaned children, the destitute and
the disabled.
Mrs Nighat Shafi Pandit
Chairperson, HELP Foundation, Srinagar It goes to the credit of Kashmiri women that in the
face of miserable conditions that they have had to go
The people of this State, especially the valley, have through physically, psychologically and eco-
greatly suffered during the last two decades of nomically, they have kept their homes intact.
turmoil. Referred to as the "Paradise on Earth", the
valley had almost become a "Paradise Lost". Having Women have also become victims of rape and
got caught in a volley of fire from opposite sides, molestation from the people wielding the gun. It is
hardly any section of people remained unaffected by ironic that while the powers-that-be and opinion-
the wanton wave of damage and destruction causing makers on either side have been waxing eloquent
loss of life and property. In the case of women there about women's empowerment, atrocities on women
was, additionally, loss of dignity and honour. A large should take place with a sense of impunity.
number of people were disabled or maimed. A very There is also the issue of large numbers of girls
large number of people suffered severe mental health who have now reached a nubile age but cannot get
problems. Tens of thousands of sisters were widowed married because there is nobody to provide for the
and even larger numbers of children were orphaned. requirements on this account. The problem of void
Our socio-cultural fabric got torn to bits. The binding and irregular marriages has also cropped up in the
cord of Kashmiriyat, based on the percept and aftermath of the armed conflict.
practices of the greatest saints, like Lalla Arifa and
It is unfortunate that even social and economic
Sheikh Noor-ud-din Noorani (RA), came under
issues affecting the lives of the people are being seen
severe strain.
through the prism of political issues, involving a
Contrary to the impression created by a section of solution of the Kashmir problem. It is all the more
the media, that violence was directed against a unfortunate that the leaders on either side, be it
political or religious, are a divided lot. The division representation in high profile public roles is not
arises less from ideological reasons and more from proportionate to their population. That being said,
clash of egos and personalities women of the subcontinent do have a great influence
on society. This influence is different than the
I can say without fear of contradiction that misery
influence Western women have on their societies
and disaster have trans-territorial dimensions like
because most eastern women are still homemakers,
poverty, squalor, social backwards or natural
which gives them a lot of power at home. If all
calamities and afflictions cut across boundaries and
women play their role properly based on the tools
act as binding factors in terms of social response.
given to them in society, they can surely be strong
Experience has shown that when women from some
catalysts for positive change.
states of India, forged unity on certain social issues
(like drinking and alcoholism on the part of their However, for this positive change to happen, all
husbands), their combined action proved more fruitful women have to act in unison to build a momentum.
and result-oriented than the sceptre of law wielded by Events such as the one we are at help in building that
the State agencies responsible for maintaining law and momentum as they generate awareness and a sense of
order. There is thus a strong case for women from both purpose. What we learn here, the ideas we exchange
sides to unite on a common platform in order to will ripple through our societies and hopefully bring
combat the scourge of illiteracy, deprivation and about a strong desire for bettering our lives and the
disempowerment, resulting from lack of access to lives of people around us. We see and hear violence on
educational and economic opportunities, as well as our television set every day. This has desensitized us
physical and social harassment. from feeling empathy for our fellow man. We need to
realize that this conflict is creating hardship and pain
In conclusion, we share the grief of the women
for a lot of people for a long time now and it has to
rendered widows, we lament the loss of breadwinners
stop. Do we really want this conflict to be our legacy?
for scores of families and we agonize over the fact that
Or do we want the solution of this conflict to be our
many injured will pass their lives as physically
legacy? I am sure that you all choose the latter.
disabled. To all of them we say that for us Kashmiri
women peace means more than the absence of war. Let me say at this point that when we use the term
For us bigotry, oppression and intolerance under cover "Kashmiri" it includes all Kashmiris and not just
of religion have no place. To remove the trust deficit, Muslim Kashmiris. My first visit to Kashmir was in
we need to embrace an "inner disarmament" by 1970. I was fascinated by the dresses and beauty of
reducing our own emotions of suspicion, hate and Kashmiri Pandits, Sikhs and Buddhists who add
hostility. The power of non-violence is a tool. The 21st colour to the culture of this part of the subcontinent
century needs an equitable and compassionate and are an integral part of it. I believe Kashmiri
mindset. Women have a key role to play because in Pandits have made many contributions to literature,
this era, the quality and capacity of the mind and not education, economics, language and culture. They are
physical strength will define real leadership. a part of "Kashmiriyat." It is ironic that Muslims and
Hindus of this region have so much common yet we
Dr Naseema Jogezai all had to live through this conflict. We speak the same
Chairperson, Dukhtaran-e-Kashmir, Islamabad, Pakistan
language, have the same cultures and traditions and
call the same place home. I believe it is time to focus
I have attended various forums abroad in relation on our similarities rather than our differences.
to Kashmir. Based on those forums and my own
observations, I feel that women in general and Muslim Ms Qurrat-ul-Ain
women in particular have little perspective of the Teacher, Srinagar
Kashmir dispute, the 17 years of armed struggle and
Mental blocks and lopsided mindsets are the worst
the recent peace initiative which has started between
obstacles. The amount of hatred and prejudice
Pakistan and India. This gap in perspective makes
preached in literature and textbooks on both sides is
dialogue between women even more important.
quite alarming. We should make a beginning by
A majority of women living in the subcontinent pinpointing such writings and getting them removed.
still live in a male-dominated society. Although we see Young minds are being poisoned with hatred and
women excelling in all fields of life, their prejudice.
In the face of conflict and its consequences, I have The 'women's peace bus' efforts need to be
both sides of Kashmir in my mind. Injustice, violence extended to women living across the LoC to mitigate
and abuse of women are not the monopoly of this or the suffering of divided families and enable women to
that side. If we have come together at a historical meet and express concerns, frustrations, experiences
moment like this, I am sure we are conscious of the and strategies.
historical context in which we are meeting and talking There is need for greater cross border women to
to each other. We can start right now by encouraging women interaction. In this context, it would be useful
our youngsters to study in each other's areas. There to facilitate meetings of special interest groups, in
can be no better medium for a permanent particular those who can influence it like Kashmiri
understanding, raising a crop of like-minded women from Gilgit-Baltistan and Ladakh-Kargil, not
stakeholders—men and women—who share a only to enable family reunion but also dialogue
common vision of peace and security between women of different ethnic and religious
We should also demand more effective backgrounds. Meetings between these women can
participation of women in the consultative and assist in the process of reconciliation as well as lead to
decision-making process. Due weightage should be bridging the divide and creating a lobby for dialogue
given to issues directly touching the lives and honour and peace.
of women. The confidence building measures are
shockingly silent on how to mitigate the pain and Prof Hameeda Nayeem
Professor, Kashmir University, Srinagar
agony of women.
I would once again say that history has for the first Let me first of all clarify that there are not only
time offered a rare opportunity for us to play a role. To geographical divides but there are dividing lines on the
play that role we have to see that the barriers just landscape of the mind, of emotions, and the
breached are not sought to be raised again. landscape of the spirit. But the deepest divide is the
political divide between India and Kashmir. Let me
Mrs Nayyar Malik also clarify that the prerequisite of any reconciliation
Teacher, Muzaffarabad, AJK
is justice and unless the genuine demands based on the
universal principles of justice and democracy are
The centrality of women in creating a culture of acceded to and the fundamental and universal rights
peace in times of conflict and their role in of the Kashmiri people are restored, no reconciliation
development cannot be denied. It is therefore worth the name is possible.
imperative to ensure women's advancement, enabling
For this purpose, Indian nation has to take every
them equality with men, a condition for social justice
step to remove the divide by transcending hyper-
and essential to building a viable, just and developed
nationalism, which, in effect, gives the State absolute
society. Without the full participation of women,
totalitarian control over the people who are made
enjoying equal rights with men, there can be no real
subservient to the overriding State authority. People
peace, no real development, no real reconciliation.
are unwillingly made to serve the interests of the
Reconciliation means more than simply rulers and made a willing party or tool in the
“sweeping past horrors under the carpet.” For the oppression and repression of people, their rights and
oppressed, homeless and disturbed, it means coming their voice. It is this hyper-nationalism that is whipped
to terms with the grave injustice in our lands and in up by agencies, rulers, by the political class time and
our world; between the wealthy and the child again to actually serve their own interests of
banished to a life on the streets, and for the countless perpetuating their power over the nation. It is this
mothers whose sons have been martyred or listed stranglehold of the nexus of different State forces that
among those disappeared, or perished under the Indian people have to break to be able to connect to
rubble of their homes. For those that have suffered Kashmiris. This they can do by reconceptualising
and are still suffering, reconciliation is no easy task. It their nationhood, their nationalism in a way that gives
is far more demanding, it pleads that people open their precedence to people's rights over the State. Because
eyes and speak a language that is understood. It what does a nation mean if people are denied their
requires an acceptance and willingness to push rights? A nation is made of people who willingly
forward for the betterment of all. come together to form a country.
There are regional divides within the State of across communal divides. And the first step toward
Jammu and Kashmir. So far as ethnic, religious and this end should be an unqualified demand from other
linguistic divides are concerned, those should be communities for demilitarisation of the Kashmir
acknowledged, respected and celebrated because Valley, especially its civilian space.
different cultures, languages and modes of living only
add variety and colour to our life and make it a mini Prof Taqdees Gillani
world in itself. Associate Professor, AJK University, Muzaffarabad and
President, NGO-Hope
Divides on the landscape of spirit could be
removed through interfaith dialogues. Religious Instead of focusing on more confidence building
pluralism as seen in the committed religious figures measures, it is important to strengthen the existing
rather than in the writings of secularists alone can be ones. The bus service should go directly from Srinagar
authentic from the insider's perspective and an answer to Muzaffarabad and vice versa. The possible avenues
to fundamentalisms of various religions and of cooperation can be trade and exchange of
exclusivist exoteric theological dogmatism. delegations (students, lawyers, traders, intellectuals
and politicians). Visas should be given for the desired
The division of J&K State and its continuing period without area and city restrictions.
tragic aftermath has fractured our reality into
splinters. Be it five displacements of Kashmiri People of LoC have suffered on both sides. Both
governments should start social development and
Muslims across the border or the painful exodus of
rehabilitation at the Line of Control.
Kashmiri Pandits from the valley to Jammu, all are
bits and pieces of our fractured reality. Honest In order to give a natural complexion to Kashmir,
acknowledgement of each other's pain and suffering Kashmiri Pandits should come back to Kashmir. If I
and sympathy with the people who suffered more than want pre-1956 situation for ourselves, I want the pre-
most in the valley is one way of reconciling differences 1989 situation for the Pandits also.
While relating their individual experiences in the The Srinagar Women's Conference was indeed a
session I had the privilege to chair, the rapt, landmark in narrowing the gulf that has existed for
more than half a century between women of Jammu Operation, another member's husband had gone
and Kashmir, living on the two sides of the divide. through a difficult situation, some members had faced
Men, mostly politicians, diplomats and intellectuals, threats, and some had witnessed human rights
got the occasional chance to meet with each other. But violations. But the whole process of sharing the
barring a couple of occasions, they met mostly on the suffering with each other was not only at an emotional
soil of third countries or at best in Islamabad and level but also at a logical level. The experience sharing
Delhi. Further, they always met with fixed agendas was of an intense exploratory nature. It provided the
and with rigid briefs. required connectivity. Heart to heart talk made each
one feel that suffering across the LoC is common and
Women, who form more than half of the
needs to be looked at afresh and minimised.
population of the territory, have hitherto been
excluded, intentionally or by negligence, to have any The delegates held the view that essentialsing
say in the shaping up of the future of their homeland Motherhood often reduces women's choices to only
and in what type of government or civil society, value the home. Whereas women do have responsibility
system or environment they would like to live in and towards home and family, they should not be mute
raise their children in. The Srinagar Conference, for spectators and can take an active part in negotiating
the first time, provided an opportunity to the women peace at the political, social, economic and cultural
of Jammu and Kashmir, living on both sides of the level. Some neutral issues and spaces can be agreed
divide to meet with each other and to develop a better upon and joint action can be taken by women to
understanding of each other's beliefs, perceptions, strengthen partnership and better understanding of
aspirations, compulsions and concerns. To the visiting each other's realities. Women can form opinion
women from AJK, the conference also provided an groups, pressure groups and act as Peace Educators.
invaluable opportunity to see the area across and to In areas like health, education and culture especially,
feel and smell its flavour. programmes for teacher's training, student exchange
and exchange of women working at the grassroots
Though CDR had drawn a specific schedule of level can be planned. Collaborative researches though
activities, of sessions and group discussions, of topics pilot projects may be taken up. Common centres on
and sub-topics, I believed from the beginning that the the LoC to facilitate meetings may be created. Such
format of the conference cannot and should not be too co-operation would help in dispelling disinformation.
rigidly followed, the conference cannot be too Some of the women may want to play an active and
academic or politically centered. The basic purpose of leadership role at the political level too. Institutions
this first ever women's meet should be to first and mechanisms for redressing grievances can be
minimize if not eliminate, reservations, prejudices and strengthened to the advantage of everyone. By
suspicions and to create the foundations of credibility, enhancing the role of women as peace builders,
better understanding and goodwill. negotiators and agents for non-violent social change,
It was heartening to note that the conference new hope and optimism can be built up.
generated immense goodwill, much more than what I
had expected. The introductory session on the first
day resulted in rediscovering many lost relationships
and family connections besides striking new
friendships. It was like a family reunion.
Dr Poonam Dhawan
Director, Women's Studies Centre, Jammu University
Editorial
THE KASHMIR TIMES
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
T
HE three-day seminar of and colours as before. Almost ters while arguing how it affects experiences from conflicts world
women delegates from unanimously they conveyed to their day to day life. The women wide including women from
both the parts of our erst- their sisters on this side of the have also called for introduction Nagaland, Sri Lanka and
while state from both the sides of LoC their irresistible urge to, if of more confidence building Palestine-Israel, where women
the LoC concluded on Sunday on not to be united with them, but to measures including hassle free involved in building bridges
an optimistic note. The seminar be easily available to them as travel across the border and have indeed played an effective
was titled "Connecting Women friends, without facing the has- introduction of cultural role further lend credence to the
from Across the LoC" and had sles of permits, police verifica- exchanges, trade and student belief that women can play a cru-
been sponsored by the Centre for tions and physical violence. exchange programme which cial and constructive role in
Dialogue and Reconciliation and These women represent elo- indeed can go a long way in Kashmir, whether it is in the
the Womens Study Centres of the quently the urge of the average bringing the two sides closer. capacity of human rights
universities of Kashmir and resident of the PAK to be on The significance of this initiative activists or policy makers. The
Jammu. All three of them must friendly terms with their counter- cannot be measured in black and vehement opposition to violence
be congratulated for taking this parts across the LoC. But more white, in terms of effective of all kinds, injustices perpetrat-
initiative, in a new direction for importantly, the range of issues measures taken. Their purpose is ed on the people and concern
the same end. It was the first ever discussed during these three days both to influence and to indicate. about the effects of continuum of
intra-Kashmir women dialogue culminating in a rather bold and Influence is some thing not to be violence have rightly been the
attended by over thirty women imaginative consensus statement seen but to be felt over time and pivotal issues of discussion dur-
delegates including fourteen is what endures the significance it is hoped that women of both ing the three days. It is hoped
from across the Line of Control. of the event. The manner in the parts of the divided state will that the rulers of both the coun-
Though the gains from this first which women from both sides of continue meeting and pressing tries and the popular leaders of
ever interaction of its kind may the Line of Control strongly for their demands, both as Jammu and Kashmir will listen
have been rather minimal, its sig- opposed the gun, calling for women and as citizens of the to what these women, whose
nificance cannot be under-esti- withdrawal of troops, disbanding divided state. The ability to come voice is that of the common folk
mated. This is not only for the of SOG and renegades as well as up with such a consensus state- and listened to, have said and
fact that it was for the first time decommissioning of all militant ment in such a short period of want. But more importantly, this
that women from the two sides groups operating in Jammu and time demonstrates the capacity initiative should not be miscon-
were engaged in a three-day Kashmir is what made the event of the women in this state to not strued as the only needed CBM
interactive session but also a success as far as the peace just build solidarities, based on towards peace making to eclipse
because of the common concern process is concerned. All the del- gender injustice and victimiza- the significance of the much
on both sides of the dividing line egates present there reiterated tion, but also become effective larger issues and concerns raised
for silencing the guns and push- their demand that women should agents of peace and policy mak- during the conference. The ini-
ing forward the peace process. be enabled to play a more mean- ers. A major positive signal tiative should not be allowed to
All the fourteen delegates from ingful role not only in the gover- emerging from the conference is become a tool in the hands of
Pak Administered Kashmir were nance and development of their that while women expressed either of the governments to
effusive with emotion at being region but also in the important concern about victimization of project that such visits and cross-
able to visit their ancestral home, task of conflict resolution and women in the conflict, there was border interactions alone are
which their parents had been finding a peaceful solution of the no attempt to glamourise either indicators of normalcy.
forced to quit for ever even Kashmir problem. Affirming the victimization or the violence Normalcy certainly means much
before they had born. For many their faith in the peace process but a desire to transcend grief more to an individual Kashmiri
of them the visit is almost like a initiated by India and Pakistan and move forward. on either side of the dividing
pilgrimage, which their dead or and calling for inclusion of peo- The ability of the women line. The significance of such
old parents could not perform. ple including women, who have from various regions of Jammu initiatives, therefore, can neither
They narrated how their old par- been the worst sufferers during and Kashmir on this side and be over-estimated nor under esti-
ents and elders spoke about the the turmoil, the delegates have Pakistan administered Kashmir mated. It is a step towards peace
Kashmir they had left behind and not only demonstrated that to evolve an understanding of and providing women a role in
their dream of seeing the once women have a stake in peace each other's issues is no mean peace building indeed, albeit a
beautiful valley beaming in joy building but also in policy mat- achievement on its own. The very small one.
Conference Participants
1. Dr. Syeda Hameed, Member, Planning 16. Mrs. Parvina Ahengar, Founder, Association of
Commission of India, New Delhi Parents of Disappeared Persons
2. Prof. Neerja Mattoo, Writer, former Principal, 17. Mrs. Hafeeza Muzaffar, Secretary, State
Govt. Women's College, Srinagar Women’s Commission
3. Dr. Girija Dhar, Former Chairperson, State 18. Ms Gurmeet Kaur, Teacher, singer and radio
Women's Commission, Srinagar artiste, Srinagar
4. Dr. Suraiya Ali, Educationist, Srinagar 19. Ms Syeda Afshan, Teacher, Department of Mass
Communication, Kashmir University
5. Dr. Vimla Dhar, Medical Doctor, Srinagar
20. Ms Muslim Jan, Editor, Department of Mass
6. Dr. Shamshad Bashir, Principal, Baramullah Communication, Kashmir University
Government Degree College
21. Prof. Tadzin Jolden, College Principal, Leh,
7. Mrs. Nighat Shafi Pandit, Chairperson, HELP Ladakh
Foundation, Srinagar
22. Ms Zehra, Kargil, Teacher, Govt. Women's
8. Mrs. Fahmida Shah, Principal, Government Polytechnic, Ladakh
Women's Polytechnic, Srinagar
23. Dr. Poonam Dhawan, Director, Women's Studies
9. Ms Quarrat-Ul-Ain, Writer, teacher, Srinagar Centre, Jammu University
10. Mrs. Dilafroze Kazi, Director, SSM College of 24. Mrs. Anuradha Bhasin, Executive Editor,
Engineering, Baramullah Kashmir Times, Jammu
11. Mrs. Naseem Shifae, Leading Kashmiri Poetess, 25. Mrs. Rita Jitender, Social activist, Jammu
Srinagar 26. Ms Indu Kilam Raina, College teacher, Kashmiri
12. Ms Niloofar Khan, Coordinator, Women's Pandit migrant
Studies Centre, Kashmir University 27. Ms Tabssum Mugal, Advocate, J&K High Court,
Poonch/Jammu
13. Dr. Yasmeen Ashai, Head of Post-graduate
Department and Coordinator, Women's Studies 28. Ms Ellora Puri, Lecturer, Department of Political
Centre, Government Women's College, Srinagar Science, Jammu University
14. Prof. Hameeda Naeem, Pro-freedom activist and 29. Dr. Abha Chauhan, Lecturer, Department of
Professor, Kashmir University Sociology, University of Jammu
30. Ms Kalpana Sharma, Independent Journalist, 39. Mrs. Tanveer Latif, Former Director, Female
writer, columnist, Mumbai Education AJK, Project Manager, USAID
31. Ms Shobna Sonpar, Clinical psychologist, New Educational Project, Bagh.
Delhi
40. Mrs. Nayyar Malik, School teacher, housewife,
32. Ms Sahba Hussain, Social and human rights Muzaffarabad
activist, Aman Trust, New Delhi
41. Dr. Zahida Qasim Malik, Medical Doctor,
33. Ms Sushobha Barve, Executive Secretary, Centre
poetess, Mirpur
for Dialogue and Reconciliation
34. Mrs. Taqdees Gilani, Associate Professor, 42. Ms Samina Mateen Khan, Originally from
English Department, AJK University, Chair- Muzaffarabad, AJK, currently television
person, NGO ‘Hope’, Muzaffarabad. journalist, Manchester, UK
34. Dr. Naseema Jogezai, Chairperson, Dukhtaran-e- 43. Mrs. Azra Masud, Housewife, Islamabad
Kashmir, Women's Rights Activist, Islamabad.
44. Mrs. Rehana Haroon, Associate Professor, F.G.
36. Mrs. Nabila Ayoub, Advocate, AJK High Court,
Post Graduate College, Rawalpindi
Mirpur
37. Ms Meeran Mahmood, Lawyer, Lahore 45. Mrs. Shaheen Ashai, Associate Professor Political
Science, Government Degree College, Mirpur
38. Mrs. Syeda Najma Shakoor, President, Women
Welfare Association, Rawalakot 46. Ms Navsharan Singh, IDRC, New Delhi
Mr. B. G. Deshmukh
Pune, (Co-chair)
Former Cabinet Secretary, Government of India
Ms Teesta Setalvad
Mumbai
Human Rights activist, Joint Editor, Communalism Combat, Mumbai and
Director, Khoj, a programme of education for a plural India
Ms Sushobha Barve
with experience in conflict resolution in different parts of India,
is CDR's Executive Secretary
Centre for Dialogue and Reconciliation (CDR)
J 1346, Palam Vihar, Gurgaon, Haryana - 122017
Tel: 0124 - 2460602, Fax: 0124 - 4070291
Email: cdrec@vsnl.in