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Maritina story: here's what it's like to be a lesbian with disabilities in Croatia Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
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Imagine that you have for 28 years, but quality of life is already being violated due Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
to disability and a couple of the diagnosis, and the consequence of that is that you can move
only with the help of crutches and you need daily assistance in matters that most take for
granted. Other than that you are a lesbian and you live in a small village in Croatia. You're
still unemployed, and for years. All of this is our brave person to speak that about my not at
all easy life speaks under the full name and surname.
Why is it call "brave"? Because it's in Croatia often enough to say that you are a lesbian and Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
there you have the stigma. And if you are a lesbian and more disabled, happiness has no
end. Her name is Marita Sheds and for four years living in the town of urevac-where did it Formatted: Font: 12 pt
come from ibenik. Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt

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In the morning, needs help to get up out of bed. I can cook, I can take a shower by Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
herself since in the apartment in which he lives has a bath instead of a shower-cabin. When it Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face
rains, it doesn't come out because it can't keep the umbrella while walking on crutches. In the Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
winter, when the snow, not going out at all. Neither can a long walk, and the daily pain. The
diagnosis of which, he says, on a roll, she's kind of a push and scoliosis.
When you are disabled, it doesn't matter whether you on crutches or in a Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
wheelchair, you're different
"Disability is characterized me, how could i not," he says. "Especially in a town this Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
small. When I'm out there, they often stop me and ask what's wrong with me. Why I'm on
crutches. Why this, why that ... Sometimes, when I'm saying it's less painful for disease,
but when I'm in a lot of pain (and it often is) I can be quite unpleasant. I don't
like thrusting into someone else's life. When you are disabled, it doesn't matterwhether
you on crutches or in a wheelchair, you're different. How would someonemarked? The only
thing a person can do in such a situation is to figure out how, no matter what, he can
still function normally, "says Marita right away that is still not towaver.
Clearly her people, unless they have experience from their own family or circle of Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
friends/colleagues, they don't know, or they're not thinking what it's like to be a person with a
disability: "of course I do not think. People live their lives, and they think
it'sjust them hard. Hereby, I'm not belittling their problems, but it's different when you
have problems as a healthy person and when you have problems as an invalid. The
obstacles are there. Each and every day. "
When you are disabled, it doesn't matter whether you on crutches or in a Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
wheelchair, you're different. How would someone marked? The only thing a person
can do in such a situation is to figure out how, no matter what, he can still function normally Formatted: Font: 12 pt
As far as the (non-) responds to the needs of disabled people, urevac is no exception Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
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"It is not at all suited to. Only the town library and fine facilities. But in NICE-in the not go Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face
there often. All should change, adapt. Not just for me, I'm not the only Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
one disabled stages. But also works of other persons with disabilities, and there are plenty
of them. The city administration, where there are also some State institutions, they have a
disastrous approach. A person in a wheelchair cannot go to the tax, the cadastre. Well to
me on crutches, this presents a big problem. And what are
some servicesmigrated in Koprivnica. What is for me the absurd. However, this is already a
different topic, "concludes with resignation Marita.
Three years without sleep and daily pain Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
Still, there's help in the struggle with their daily routines, but also says that he knows how to Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
her is not easy because it's not very "zen".
"Now that sounds like an excuse but three years I haven't been sleeping properly. Put up Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
with such terrible pain 24 hours a day. And of course you can't always be happy and in a
good mood, "explains.
The social welfare centre pays out a guaranteed her a minimum fee and a fee for someone Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
else's help and care because there is no right to an invalidity pension since there is no year,
and an internship. And there is a vicious circle closes because Marita, as expected, could
not even find a steady job, and said that at the talks for the job is always going on pretty much
exactly the same:
"Before, I was walking with a cane. And people and it was weird. Mostly ... The contest is Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
open to anyone working place in a firm, I prepare, prepare a fresh resume and come in for
an interview. Everything is great until it comes to the question why do I have a stick. That's
when every conversation goes to hell. Escorted me nicely, say they will call back in a day or
two and you never hear back. I understand that you do not have to occur if a person not to
hire you. But I don't understand how can I hire a person who has absolutely no
experience, to the black or white. Is it over the link or what? Isn't that discrimination? ", he
asked.
In the LGBT community of believers has a +. How they feel when their Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
church attacks them, their belief, their life?
I ask her how her disability didn't bother to those for which it was working "on the black":
"They didn't bother you because it was the most translation jobs and in those jobs have Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
not worked with humans. If I did, then it would probably be a different story, "concludes.
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One could say that Marita double, if not triple discriminated [against] as women, persons Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
with disabilities and a lesbian. In fact, it is well known that women of a certain age are more
difficult to employ, and when they are it LGBT rights in Croatia, we have a solid letter
on paper, but the practice often show the ugly side of reality. When we add to
that persistent attempts to klerikalizacije society, the situation and it's not too much pink.
"Yes, I've made all this", confirms, what is it immediately "pulls" on a comment about Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
Croatian practices: "laws exist only on paper, and they are used for the removal
ofunsuitable and that someone would trod upon other people's rights and freedoms.You
know what I mean. We Croats, are typical Balkanjerosi. The blue envelope,
connection, lamb and there's work to do. It's not even something better out
there, to understand each other. As far as the klerikalizacije of society ... that I have a lot
of hard feelings. And as a lesbian, and as a woman, and as a person with disabilities, and asan
atheist ".
Before, I was walking with a cane. And people and it was weird. Mostly ... The contest is Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
open to anyone working place in a firm, I prepare, prepare a fresh resume and come in for
an interview. Everything is great until it comes to the question why do I have a stick. That's
when every conversation goes to hell. Escorted me nicely, say they will call back in a day or
two and never report
He tells me that he thinks that the Church should stop meddling in politics and lifeof the
citizens and to do my job, and that's to take care of the faithful.
"It should also respect laws and sekularnost. And you should, but that in an ideal world, stop Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
attacking LGBT + community. In the LGBT community of believers has a +.How they
feel when their church attacks them, their belief, their life? "asks.
Points out that it's M her opinion, and it stresses because he has recently joined a Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
volunteer engaged in the party Wisely and that it does not speak in their name.
He hopes, he says, how will the party very soon to make some changes for the better as Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
far as the position of the disabled. Because some people may be for the disabled and have a
right to do that regardless of the internship and the years, and some people can't, and that's
wrong, correct it.
"I'm Out to everyone and that's why I'm not ashamed" Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
In the interview, Marita not mentioned family. Still, the question is do they know she's a Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
lesbian and has their support.
"I'm Out to everyone. But to everyone. I'm not ashamed of it. Indeed. But I added that I Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
absolutely understand the reasons why someone wants to and can not autati. I have no
more family support. And it's better that way, "says with a laugh, adding that not every family
is wonderful.
I've always been and i'm going to autsajderica Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
At the end of the touching and the theme that we mentioned earlier
the discrimination within the LGBT community. Marita is referred to as "health
care discrimination" and completely honestly, without any equivocation says:
"I've always been and i'm going to autsajderica. I felt discrimination many times. Sogo only to Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
your forum and take a look at what some of the forumaice, to whom I am sending this
way large greetings, write. You don't need a lot to add two and two.If I am, and I did, an
invalid, this does not mean that I can't provide what every woman should. True, some
things of a sexual nature can not. But, can the other. And wouldn't it be interesting
to explore and play with the body that sets the boundaries and then feel that you won? To
me it sounds really fun! And it's not just on the Forum,but also in real life. You
know our mentality, and peoples and ljudice from LGBT + communities are
not vaccinated against it. Although it would be nice if they did. "
When someone tells you that you can not be a friend because you are disabled Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
Says and how are some girls and women rejected just because of their disability, and not Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
in a very pleasant ways. One is her, she says, even said that there can be no friend of
the person with disabilities.
I tell her how I often hear that the minorities that are themselves discriminated against should Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
be automatically suosjeajnije, more tolerant, have more understandingand so forth, but in Formatted: Font: 12 pt
my experience it in practice is usually not like that. Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
"Well, of course not. And why should they? At least that's what some and some are Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
thinking. Women are the majority (laughs). They're all wonderful and lovely until they
come into a situation where they have a choice-to be in a relationship with invalidnom a
person or not. And they fall in love in that person. Some do not even ask how, what,
where, where ... Only odlepraju as a bird out of the cage. I'm not mad at them. I have no
reason. But I'm pissed at the fact that they're lifting the defensive walland simply do not
allow yourself the opportunity to get to know such a person. Andthat's a shame. A great
pity. I don't know what they are losing. At least in my case, "she says, laughing again.
I'm out to everyone. But to everyone. I'm not ashamed of it. Indeed. But I added that I Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
absolutely understand the reasons why someone wants to and can not autati. I have no
more family support. And I'm better off that way
She concluded that it's not good, obviously, Marita tactics to be honest and say that
you're immediately handicapped because, "imagine the surprises that show up on a
date with crutches, I order a drink and casually pull out a straw ... It just would not have
been a successful combination, isn't it? ".
But she doesn't want to lie about himself: "I want to from the beginning, and no matter
what, to be honest," says final this girl that severe environmental conditions are not broken.
So, the next time we're in misery because of bad day at work, in Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
traffic jams, Karamarkia, Hassan, Zokija or maybe because someone raised the pressure on Formatted: Font: 12 pt
Facebook, let us remember the Care. Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
There are 28 years old, cannot move around without crutches and is withheld for a whole Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
range of common things that make up life: there is no job and no family support. Living
off social assistance. When I asked her is she sure wants to reveal their
identity, wondering why this is even a question.
"I'm doing it and for others, to be better, to know that they are not the only one," she Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt
replied simply.
Well, Marita, the words of my late father, Cap down. Formatted: Font: Baskerville Old Face, 12 pt

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