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When David Abuhadba and his wife went through their divorce, the
courts only cared about one thing when deciding custody of the
couple’s son, Lucas: the mother.
“A lot of fathers are not going to fight so they just go,” said
Abuhadba, founder and director of the fathers advocacy group Amor
de Papá. “They don’t worry about their children.”
But Abuhadba was not one of those fathers, even though his ex-wife
tried to limit their son’s contact with him as much as possible. Lucas,
their son, was around four when his mother took full custody. Lucas’
mom said his father wasn’t a good person and isolated Lucas from
getting to know him.
Lucas and Abuhadba have now been living together for about a year
and a half. They enjoy similar hobbies, both are avid American
football fans. Lucas’ dream is to play in the United States one day.
However, very few father’s enjoy this type of reunion with children in
custody of their ex-wives. And Abuhadba, during the fight for his own
son, decided to set up a resource center for other dads in similar
situations.
Six years ago Abuhadba quit his job and put up nearly US$85,000 of
his own money to found the organization, “Amor de Papá.” It started
out as a resource for fathers who also were fighting for custody of
their children.
The law is well on its way. In March the “Ley Amor de Papá” was
passed in Chile’s Senate, and now awaits approval in the Chamber of
Deputies.
“The majority wants what is just for the children, they are thinking of
the children, and we can’t have a law that discriminates on who can
be a parent,” says Abuhadba.
“I don’t have the capability to generate resources for this final fight. I
am very disenchanted and pessimistic with the feelings that we can
not overcome this mixed commission,” he said.
Abuhadba says he wants to focus on finally having his son back with
him. Abuhadba said he’ll remain with the organization, but in a
different capacity.
“I’m not going to make another fight with the law,” he said. “Through
the organization, yes. I’ll continue helping fathers, continue
developing participation, various obligations they might call on me for
and writing a multimedia book.”
As his law sits at the mercy of the mixed commission, Abuhadba has
decided to move onto the next chapter of his life. In the same way
discussions of the pending law drain him, talks of the future with his
son give him new life.
He talks about touring the U.S. and talking to schools about his story
and his fight for his son. He’s planning to write an ebook first, though
he says maybe one day he’ll make a movie.
Until then, Abuhadba says even though he is stepping away from the
battle, he doesn’t feel like he has lost.
That’s because he says he’s already won the fight he cares most
about.