MOUNT

 MASLOW  MENTORS  (3Ms  –  Mind  Meaning  Maturity)  

 
Mutual  Aid  Community  of  55+  
Climbing  to  the  Peak  of  Human  Needs  
Mature  Adulthood  as  Self-­‐Actualization  
Mentoring  Minds  to  the  First  Humanity  
Heeding  the  Lonely  Cry  for  Care  
Linking  Our  Separate  Selves  
 
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Hello,  this  is  Jack  Carney,  72  years  Self-­‐Actualized,  
Body  in  in  Auckland,  New  Zealand  by  December  1,  
2016  and  Mind  everywhere  in  the  World  on  Internet  as  EveryManJack.  
Welcome  to  Mount  Maslow  Mentors,  a  new  online  service.  This  
free  service  is  for  those  over  55  years  of  age  who  want  to  be  part  of  
a  Volunteer  Mutual  Aid  Community  created  to  link  those  
languishing  in  lonely  isolation  as  well  as  those  satisfyingly  connected  
with  meaningful  relationships.  All  are  invited  to  explore  and  express  
Mature  Adulthood  as  Self-­‐Actualization.    
"Psychological  Maturing  is  our  most  triumphant  way  of  human   Jack,  Santiago,  Chile,    
fulfillment;  and  the  Adult  years  are  the  only  years  in  which  that   Oct  2 3,  2016  –  72nd  Birthday  
triumph  can  be  experienced.  Children  and  adolescents  cannot  yet  
experience  the  mature  insights  of  Adulthood.  They  can  only  prepare  for  them.  The  
passing  of  youth,  therefore,  has  seemed  to  mean  a  passing  into  dullness  of  routine  and  
into  the  anxieties  of  a  life  caught  variously  in  an  economic  trap.  Thus  led  to  think  of  
Adulthood  as  a  time  of  glory  departed,  it  is  no  wonder  that  adults  have  no  buoyant  and  
courageous  impulse  to  seek  ways  of  achieving  a  new  significance  in  their  Adulthood.  
Even  such  adult  education  as  has  been  offered  to  adults  has  been  chiefly  aimed  at  
amelioration,  not  transformation.  What  Adulthood  needs  is  not  hobbies  for  immature  
grownups,  but  Projects  toward  significant  and  happy  maturing.  We  talk  of  preparing  
youth  to  enter  the  life  ahead  of  them.  We  never  talk  of  preparing  adults  to  enter  the  
peculiar  new  dignity  of  a  maturing  Adulthood.”  H.A.  Overstreet,  The  Mature  Mind  
"Our  deepest  need  is  to  overcome  our  separateness,  to  leave  our  prison  of  aloneness.  
This  awareness  of  the  self  as  a  separate  entity,  the  awareness  of  our  own  short  life  
span,  of  our  aloneness...would  drive  us  insane  could  we  not  liberate  ourselves  from  this  
prison  and  reach  out,  unite  ourselves  with  others  and  the  world  outside.”  Eric  Fromm,  
The  Art  of  Loving    
“While  we  are  alive,  what  we  have  to  give  to  each  other  is  at  one  and  the  same  time  the  
simplest  yet  most  sublime  gift—ourselves.”  James  J.  Lynch,  A  Cry  Unheard    

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MOUNT  MASLOW  MENTORS  intends  to  be  this  new  PROJECT  as  an  online  
COMMUNITY  enabling  the  fulfillment  of  MATURE  ADULTHOOD  that  Overstreet  
challenged  Americans  to  establish  in  his  best  selling  1949  book.  Our  Community  will  
L.ink  O.ur  S.eparate  S.elves  (L.O.S.S.)  as  Fromm  described,  helping  those  suffering  
in  isolated  loneliness  to  connect  to  SELF-­‐ACTUALIZING  MENTORS.    

There  will  be  a  FREE,  ANONYMOUS  CALL-­‐IN  SERVICE  available  24/7/365  in  
multiple  languages  via  an  Application.    The  VOLUNTEER  LISTENERS  will  be  
MATURE  MENTORS  who  hear  and  heed  Lynch’s  A  Cry  Unheard.  We  will  help  all  
generations  CLIMB  TO  THE  PEAK  OF  MOUNT  MASLOW  to  join  that  immemorial  
COMMUNITY  OF  FIRST  HUMANITY.  

There  are  two  qualifying  conditions  for  membership  in  Mount  Maslow  Mentors:    
1.  You  are  55  or  older.  
2.  You  want  to  communicate  with  other  over  55s  as  well  as  younger  to  ease  
your  isolation  and  loneliness  and/or  to  make  better  use  of  your  time  and  
energy  by  exploring  Mature  Adulthood  and  Self-­‐Actualization.  
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Mount  Maslow  Mentors  (3Ms)  is  created  for  over  55s  for  two  essential  purposes:  
1.  To  explore,  explicate  and  express  Mature  Adulthood  and  Self-­‐Actualization  at  the  
Peak  of  Mount  Maslow  as  the  highest  value  for  Humans  to  aspire  to  and  attain.  
2.  To  support  those  over  55s  worldwide  who  may  feel  isolated  and  lonely—without  
others  to  talk  with  and  feel  cared  for.  The  Internet  holds  out  a  “Limbic  Lifeline”  for  
those  in  need  of  someone  to  talk  with.  Our  online  Talk  service  will  offer  select  over  
55s  who  will  act  as  Mentors  to  re-­‐connect  the  lonely  of  any  age  to  meaningful  life  as  
part  of  the  3Ms  Community.  
L.inking  O.ur  S.eparate  S.elves:  L.O.S.S.  
“The  broken  hearts  of  adults,  the  proportionately  higher  death  rates  of  
single,  widowed  and  divorced  individuals—common  to  all  these  situations,  I  
believe,  is  a  breakdown  in  dialogue.  Our  common  plight  is  that  it  is  
becoming  increasingly  difficult  to  share  the  most  basic  of  all  human  truths:  
that  people  desperately  need  each  other,  that  we  really  are  dependent  on  one  another.  
Dialogue  is  the  essential  element  of  every  social  interaction,  it  is  the  elixir  of  life.  The  
elixir  of  life  somehow  dries  up,  and  without  it  people  begin  to  wither  away  and  die.  No  
material  substitute  can  fill  the  human  need  for  dialogue.  Someone  must  
respond.  Someone  has  to  care.”    James  J.  Lynch,  The  Broken  Heart  
“Why,  when  we  are  troubled  or  in  pain,  rejected  or  unloved,  confused  or  
afraid,  do  we  find  ourselves  wanting  to  talk  with  someone?  It  is  talking  which  
cures,  and  not  particular  therapeutic  schools  and  their  preferred  techniques”  
David  Howe,  On  Being  a  Client  
“The  first  responsibility  of  love  is  to  listen.”  Paul  Tillich,  The  Courage  To  Be  

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The  reality  is  that  around  the  world  in  the  developed  economies  an  increasing  
percentage  of  over  55s  are  isolated  and  lonely  and  dying  prematurely  of  the  results  
of  being  cut-­‐off  from  communicating  with  others.  In  Japan  they  have  invented  a  
word,  Kodokushi  which  means  “lonely  death”.  It  is  estimated  up  to  30,000  older  
persons,  mostly  men,  die  a  lonely  death  each  year  in  Japan.  In  the  U.S.  26%  of  over  
65s  live  alone—and  lonely  older  adults  were  45  percent  more  likely  to  die  than  
those  who  felt  meaningfully  connected  with  others.
Today  in  developed  economies,  we  prematurely  die  of  Communicative  Diseases  
(missing  or  destructive  relationships)  more  than  “Communicable  Diseases”  
(physically  transmitted  diseases  like  influenza).  Communicative  Disease  was  first  
defined  by  the  Epidemiologist/Cardiologist,  James  J.  Lynch  as  “the  absence  of  heartfelt  
communication  in  human  relationships  which  leads  to  loneliness  and  social  isolation”.    
LOSS  is  the  fundamental  “Condition”  of  the  “Human  Condition”.  LOSS  is  the  Common  
Denominator  for  Humanity-­‐-­‐the  fact  all  humans  will  face  sooner  or  later.  The  
common  element  to  all  LOSS  is  the  unwanted  separation  of  one  person  from  
another.  Human  Relationships  are  the  ultimate  value.  What  we  are  most  
fundamentally  always  trading  as  Goods  and  Services  is  Each  Other.  True  Wealth  is  
Human  Relationships.  When  we  are  deprived  of  them  we  suffer.  
The  paradox  is  that  the  LOSS  caused  by  unwanted  separation  from  another  also  
provides  the  cause  for  wanting  to  be  connected  to  another.  It  is  when  we  allow  
ourselves  to  truly  experience  Loss  that  we  become  aware  of  its  curative  power  to  
cause  us  to  bring  our  Separate  Selves  together.  It  is  when  we  admit  and  embrace  the  
fear  and  pain  of  LOSS  that  we  become  most  Human.  That  is,  we  allow  ourselves  to  
enact  our  fundamental  need  to  be  intimately  connected  to  each  other.  
L.O.S.S.  as  an  acronym  reminds  us  to  choose  to  be  freely  responsible  for  L.inking  
O.ur  S.eparate  S.elves.  All  self-­‐and-­‐other  destructive  acts  come  from  the  absence  of  
enabling  and  fulfilling  relationships.  All  addictions  from  drugs  through  sex  to  
consumerism  are  second  best  substitutes  for  satisfying  relationships.  The  only  truly  
effective  way  to  manage  LOSS  then  is  to  L.ink  O.ur  S.eparate  S.elves  to  each  other  in  
healing  and  healthy  ways  that  create  and  maintain  freely  entered  into  intimate  
relationships  of  mutual  regard  and  equal  power.  We  will  only  do  this  if  we  truly  
CARE-­‐-­‐to  take  care  and  give  it  beyond  Genes/Family,  Money,  Power  or  Pity.  
Etymologically,  Care  means  to  "cry  out  for  help";  and  Cure  means  “to  care”.  The  only  
CURE  for  the  Human  Condition  of  inevitable  LOSS  is  CARE.    
What  is  my  life  if  I  am  no  longer  useful  to  others?"  Johann  Wolfgang  von  Goethe  
Worldwide,  waiting  to  be  found  on  and  by  the  Internet,  are  thousands  of  non-­‐
professional  and  professional  capable  CARERS,  especially  over  55,  wise  in  Life  Loss  
experiences  understood.  Often  these  retired  persons  are  languishing  in  their  
isolated  loneliness  because  they  don’t  have  the  opportunity  to  be  of  use  to  others  
and  thus  to  themselves.  Mount  Maslow  Mentors  will  enable  these  more  mature  
persons  to  be  the  valuable  Mentors  they  can  be  to  those  who  need  their  help  and  to  
use  their  Loss  Wisdom  to  be  useful  to  others  and  thus,  again,  to  themselves.

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Mature  Adulthood  as  Alternative  to  Retirement’s  Second  Adolescence  
What  has  generally  constituted  “Retirement/Old  Age”  in  the  advanced  economies  of  
the  Welfare  State  worldwide,  I  call  the  Obsolescence-­‐Adolescence  model.  To  grow  old  
is  to  become  “Obsolete”.  That  is,  you  have  enacted  your  Part  in  the  Statist-­‐Corporate  
Market  Machine  and  now  are  either  worn  out  and/or  
superseded  by  a  more  efficient—Younger—Part  that  must  
replace  you.    
In  terms  of  the  Machine  you  are  considered  a  liability  and  
burden  unless  you  can  afford  to  buy  the  goods  and  services  
targeting  the  retirement  segment.  If  you  can  afford  it,  you  get  
to  play  out  Second  Adolescence  as  a  reward  from  a  life  of  
unpleasant  work  and  household  duties.  Leisure  and  
Recreation:  golf,  travel,  entertainment,  political  activism,  body  
renovation/rejuvenation.    Transposing  the  Cyndi  Lauper  song:  
Old  Agers  just  want  to  have  fun  when  the  working  day  is  done.  
As  an  alternative  to  the  Obsolescence-­‐Adolescence  model,  I  propose  my  C.A.R.E.  
theory  of  Mature  Adulthood,  an  acronym  that  stands  for  C.oequal  A.utonomous  
R.eciprocal  E.xchange.  In  this  approach,  Persons  over  55  represent  unique  and  
irreplaceable  Personal  Values  and  are  supported  and  encouraged  to  Communicate  
those  Personal  Values  with/to  Others.    Older  persons  are  approached  not  as  Market  
Consumers  or  Welfare  Burdens  but  as  Relationship  Resources.  The  goal  is  Personal  
Character  Maturity:  the  Maslow  model’s  Self-­‐Actualization.  
This  different  way  to  view  Aging  as  a  Consummate  Sum  at  the  Summit  of  
Maturity—the  Peak  of  the  Maslow  Mountain  of  Humanity—explores  and  
expresses  what  it  means  to  become  truly  HUMAN  and  ADULT.  The  goal  is  to  pursue  
Education  as  Self-­‐knowledge  and  Self-­‐mastery,  to  widen  one’s  Social  linkages  from  
Family  to  Community  to  Humanity,  and  to  Mentor  one’s  Self,  Peers  and  earlier  
Generations  to  create  a  Culture  of  Conscious  Reason,  Freedom  and  Responsibility  
actualized  as  Care  given  beyond  the  confines  of  Money,  Family,  or  Government.  
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“Life  can  only  be  understood  backwards,  but  it  must  be  lived  forwards.”                                          
Soren  Kierkegaard  
“There  are  many  people  who  imagine  that  what  they  experience  they  also  understand.”  
Johann  Wolfgang  von  Goethe    
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Here  is  a  definition  of  Self-­‐Actualization  by  Abraham  Maslow,  creator  of  the  famous  
Maslow  Hierarchy  Pyramid  of  Needs  that  the  visual  below  turns  into  Mount  Maslow:    
“The  desire  for  self-­‐fulfillment,  namely  the  tendency  for  the  individual  to  become  
actualized  in  what  he  is  potentially.  This  tendency  might  be  phrased  as  the  desire  to  
become  more  and  more  what  one  is,  to  become  everything  that  one  is  capable  of  
becoming.  Human  life  will  never  be  understood  unless  its  highest  aspirations  are  taken  

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into  account.  Growth,  self-­‐actualization,  the  striving  toward  health,  the  quest  for  
identity  and  autonomy,  the  yearning  for  excellence  must  by  now  be  accepted  beyond  
question  as  a  widespread  and  perhaps  universal  human  tendency.  
I  confine  the  concept  very  definitely  to  older  people.  By  the  criteria  I  used,  self-­‐
actualization  does  not  occur  in  young  people.  In  our  culture  at  least,  youngsters  have  
not  yet  achieved  identity,  or  autonomy,  nor  have  they  had  time  enough  to  experience  
an  enduring,  loyal,  post-­‐romantic  love  relationship,  nor  have  they  generally  found  
their  calling,  the  altar  upon  which  to  offer  themselves.”  
***  
Why  have  I  set  up  Mount  Maslow  Mentors?    
Because  I  have  reached  the  Peak  of  Self-­‐actualization  and  practice  it  in  my  daily  life.  
I  consider  this  achievement  to  be  of  benefit  to  me  and  to  the  rest  of  us  on  this  planet.  
I  believe  those  of  us  who  claim  to  be  Self-­‐Actualizing  will  wish  to  share  our  bounty  
with  those  who  have  not  yet  begun  its  practice.  
Go  here  to  watch  my  appearance  on  Queensland,  Australian  TV  in  1997  when  I  
launched  my  “Mentors”  Brisbane  community  group:  https://youtu.be/-­‐hlpg3kDAhA  
 -­‐-­‐  note:  begin  the  Youtube  video  at  15:53  as  the  previous  two  segments  were  on  my  
other  two  Brisbane  community  projects,  Widowers  and  Palliative  Care.  The  
“Mentors”  I  discuss  here  is  essentially  what  I  want  to  establish  in  its  more  mature  
phase  as  Mount  Maslow  Mentors  online  and  in  Santiago,  Chile.  
 
“Treat  people  as  if  they  were  what  they  ought  to  be  and  you  help  them  to  become  what  
they  are  capable  of  being.”    Johann  W.  von  Goethe  
 
CLIMBING  MOUNT  MASLOW  WITH  ITS  MENTORS  AT  THE  PEAK  
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The  Characteristics  of  Self-­‐Actualized  Persons  as  specified  by  Abraham  Maslow:  
1.  They  perceive  reality  efficiently  and  can  tolerate  uncertainty;  
2.  Accept  themselves  and  others  for  what  they  are;  
3.  Spontaneous  in  thought  and  action;  
4.  Problem-­‐centered  rather  than  self-­‐centered;  
5.  Unusual  sense  of  humor;  
6.  Able  to  look  at  life  objectively;  
7.  Highly  creative;  
8.  Resistant  to  enculturation,  but  not  purposely  unconventional;  
9.  Concerned  for  the  welfare  of  humanity;  
10.  Capable  of  deep  appreciation  of  basic  life-­‐experience;  
11.  Establish  deep  satisfying  interpersonal  relationships  with  a  few  people;  
12.  Peak  experiences  as  everyday  consciousness;  
13.  Need  for  privacy;  
14.  Democratic  attitudes;  
15.  Strong  moral/ethical  standards.  
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MATURE  ADULTHOOD:  ACTUALIZING  THE  SELF  
To  have  a  Self  to  examine  you  must  have  lived  a  Self  in  Time.  Those  over  65  have  
enough  years  lived  to  have  enough  Self  worth  to  examine  and  the  time  to  examine  
their  Time  on  earth.  
The  Past  made  Present  Opens  to  the  Future  of  You:  the  ongoing  Self-­‐Actualization  of  
Self-­‐Discovery  as  Uncovering  to  Recover  and  Renew.  In  this  perspective,  a  person’s  
Past  has  potentially  as  many  Possibilities  as  does  the  Future.  
“When  we  remember  something,  our  body  goes  through  processes  similar  to  the  ones  it  
experienced  when  we  lived  the  situation.  Our  life  experiences,  our  bonds,  the  significant  
moments  of  our  existence  are  building  our  brain  structure  and  it  is  in  this  brain  
structure  where  ‘remembering  is  like  reliving’".  Neurolink    
You  Discover  a  new  Self  as  you  Uncover  your  Past  experiences  to  understand  them  
from  the  perspective  of  Human  Adulthood,  thus  Recovering  the  Lessons  that  heal  
you  into  Wholeness  and  Renew  your  Self  to  a  new  Level  of  Consciousness.  You  bring  
your  Past  to  be  a  Present  opening  you  to  a  new  Future.  
Then  you  may  find  your  Self  at  the  Peak  of  Maslow’s  Mountain  of  Needs  as  a  Self  that  
has  been  Actualized  and  continues  to  be  in  a  Present  of  your  Past  being  Opened  into  
its  Unknown  Future.  This  is  the  Great  Adventure  of  First  Human  Adulthood,  the  
Mature  Mentoring  of  Your  Self  and  Others.  

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As  Lewis  Mumford  in  The  Conduct  of  Life  wrote,  "We  must  live  once  in  the  actual  
world,  and  once  more  in  our  minds...it  is  only  by  constant  reflection  and  evaluation  
that  our  life,  in  fact,  becomes  fully  meaningful  and  purposeful."  Or  as  Plato  has  
Socrates  say  in  The  Apology,  “the  unexamined  life  is  not  worth  living”.    
I  invite  you  to  join  me  at  the  Peak  of  Mount  Maslow  to  examine  our  lives  and  society  
and  thus  help  make  our  persons  ever  more  richly  meaningful  gifts  to  be  opened,  
exchanged  and  enjoyed.  I  am  there  now  as  my  Past  a  Present  Opened  to  the  Future.    
I  hope  those  over  55s  who  consider  themselves  to  be  dwelling  on  the  Peak  of  Mount  
Maslow  as  I  do,  will  share  with  the  World  their  version  of  what  Self-­‐Actualizing  
means  to  them.  We  can  compare  the  various  personal  forms  of  Peak  Achievement  
and  communicatively  exchange  who  we  are  as  well  as  offer  our  Minds  and  Models  to  
provision  and  guide  those  still  climbing  the  slopes  of  Mount  Maslow.  
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“We  can  easily  forgive  a  child  who  is  afraid  of  the  dark;  the  real  tragedy  of  life  is  when  men  are  
afraid  of  the  light.”  Plato    
 
 
JACK  CARNEY-­‐-­‐CREDENTIALS  
Below  is  a  summary  of  Jack’s  work  record  in  Business  and  Human  Services  in  America,  
Canada,  and  Australia  1975  to  2003  arranged  in  4  Areas.    
 
I.  ENTREPRENEURSHIP  &  BUSINESS  MANAGEMENT  
Started  up  and  managed  these  businesses:  
a.  Credible  Contracting—General  Contractor-­‐Builder,  Self-­‐taught  Architect  1975-­‐1981  
(Canada)  
b.  International  Shell  &  Membranes—Hyperbolic  Paraboloid  Modular  Building  System  
1981-­‐1986  (Australia)  
c.  Inventor  and  Marketer  of  New  Household  Product—Potmate  1991-­‐1992  (Australia)  
d.  Clearly  Yours—Window  Washing  Company  1992-­‐1993  (U.S.A.)  
e.  Kali  Design—Women’s  Boutique  Clothing  Design  &  Manufacture  1989-­‐1991  
(Australia)  
f.  Connections/Partners  for  Life—Relationships  Consultancy  Promoting  Permanent  
Partnerships  for  Single  Men  &  Women  1996-­‐1998  (Australia)  
g.  Creative  Connections  for  Life—Training  for  Health  Care  Workers  1999-­‐2002  
(All  the  above  referenced  in  my  Resume  and  elsewhere)  
II.  LOSS  &  CARE  (Australia  1996  to  2002)  
1.  Palliative  Care  
 a.  Member  of  the  Palliative  Care  Association  of  Queensland’s  Upskilling  Course  for  
General  Practice  Doctors    
b.  Educator  for  Medical  Professionals  on  Personally  Caring  for  the  Terminally  Ill    

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c.  Advocate  for  Palliative  Home  Care  including  starting  the  The  Suncorp-­‐Metway  
Katharos  Palliative  Care  Project  
d.  Member  of  Blue  Nursing  Curriculum  Advisory  Committee  
e.  Public  talks  including  TV  and  Radio  on  the  Value  of  Palliative  Care  
f.  Member  of  Blue  Nursing  Curriculum  Advisory  Committee  
g.  Founding  member  Community  Loss  &  Grief  Committee    
h.  Community  Activist  and  Advocate  started  up  and  managed  “Widowers”  for  men  only  
who  lost  their  wives  
 
2.  Aged  Care  (Australia  2000  to  2003)  
a.  Older  Persons’  Advocacy  Service—Community  Advocate  
b.  Trainer  for  Certificate  III  Aged  Care  Workers—Two  Companies:  Challenge  Learning  
Institute  and  East  Coast  Training  
 
3.  Mental  Health  (Australia  2000  to  2003)  
a.  Research  Assistant  for  School  of  Population  Health’s  and  Queensland  Health’s  
Queensland  Alcohol  and  Drug  Research  and  Education  
b.  Research  Assistant  for  Queensland  Health  Supervision  Project  for  Allied  Health,  
Nursing  &  Medical  Staff    
c.  Co-­‐Founder  &  Co-­‐Trainer  for  Creative  Connections  for  Life  Creating  and  Delivering  
Workshops  on  Stress  and  Burnout  for  Mental  Health  Workers  
 
III.  RELATIONSHIPS  &  LOVE  (Australia  1997  to  2003)  
1.  Chief  Educator  and  Public  Relations  Spokesman  for  Relationships  Australia  
Queensland  
2.  Started  up  and  managed  Connections/Partners  for  Life,  a  Permanent  Partnership  
Singles  Introduction  and  Personal  Development  Company  
 
IV.  ADULT  COMMUNITY  EDUCATION  (Australia  1995  to  1998)  
1.  Adult  Community  Education  at  Technical  And  Further  Education  (TAFE)  Institutes  
creating  and  delivering  courses  on  Personal  Development  
2.  Community  Activist  and  Advocate  started  up  and  managed  Community  Program  
“Mentors”  for  older  persons  to  connect  with  younger  as  Life  Coaches  
 
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Jack  Carney  –  Contact  Details  
 
Email:  themesofjack@gmail.com  
 
Cell  phone  Santiago,  Chile:  (56)  9  4929  6499  (until  November  25,  2016  then  flying  
to  Auckland,  New  Zealand,  landing  there  November  28).  
 
Skype:  Jack  Carney  –  selfactualizingcoach@hotmail.com  

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