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SLSU-Tomas Oppus
Science and Mathematics Department
Teacher education Department
Abstract
The Catechism of the Catholic Church (1995) reminds that conjugal love, by its
very nature, requires the inviolable fidelity of the spouses. This is the consequence of
the gift of themselves which they make to each other. Love seeks to be definitive; it
cannot be an arrangement "until further notice." The Catholic Church further notifies
that "intimate union of marriage, as a mutual giving of two persons, and the good of
the children, demand total fidelity from the spouses and require an unbreakable union
between them." Pope Benedict XVI stressed that love is never finished and complete;
throughout life, it changes and matures, and thus remains faithful to itself‖ (Deus
Caritas Est, 17). Fidelity, like love, is no fleeting feeling but a life-long commitment
that Christ abundantly blesses. Moreover, the Philippine Constitution clearly states
that “The State recognizes the sanctity of family life and shall protect and strengthen
the family as a basic autonomous social institution.” Accordingly, the Family Code of
the Philippines defines Marriage as a special contract of permanent union between a
man and a woman entered into in accordance with law for the establishment of
conjugal and family life. This reflects that fidelity in marriage is mandated both by the
dogmatic constitution of the church and the state – a reality that marriage is protected
by moral and civil law saying that the contract of marriage is both a covenant and a
sacrament between a man and a woman, with inherent obligations of fidelity – the
commitment to promise keeping – and to fairness – the commitment to giving from
one spouse to the other their due and to equitably allocate the marital resources
(Govern, n.d.).
Fidelity and its rigors can best be described by those whose lives exemplify
faithfulness. The Bible presents Abraham‘s fidelity to God despite difficult tests;
Ruth‘s loyalty to her mother-in-law although free to return to her own clan; Hosea‘s
resolute faithfulness despite his wife‘s infidelities; Paul‘s commitment to his mission
despite arduous journeys and imprisonment. By these, one can say that fidelity is not
easy but is possible with the help of God. Above all the Bible shows that God is faithful
no matter how poorly human beings behave. The Son of God dies so that God can keep
a promise. Married life often presents trials, conflicting choices, a partner‘s
inattention or worse. Faithful love persists. A radical commitment to fidelity enables
spouses to trust one another. Spouses lay down their lives for their beloved every day.
In her article Marriage and Fidelity, Edwards (2008) argues that marital
fidelity continues to be an overwhelmingly agreed value worldwide. A Gallup Poll
released May 2006 found that only 4% of all adults believe that adultery is morally
acceptable. That means that 96% value fidelity in marriage and believe that the
marital fidelity has a lot to do with honesty and loyalty in marriage, in feeling valued
and loved above all others. A related research released in March 2006 by the National
Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago also revealed that 22% of men
and 13% of women have ever had sexual relations with a person other than their
spouse while they were married - a fact which reveals that at least 80% of men and
women still value fidelity in marriage.
Evident to these studies are the quantitative nature of marital fidelity and are
directed only towards quantifying fidelity experiences and perspectives among
couples. There was, however, a fewer emphasis on creating a theoretical perspective
on how fidelity works in marriage. This study, therefore, try to address the theoretical
foundation of describing marital fidelity among couples.
This section exposes various facts and universal truths which would be the
ground of formulating the theory on marital fidelity. The set of axioms were anchored
on previous studies, journals, authorities, and analyses of articles. The phenomenon
on marital fidelity has been dictated and challenged by culture and time. The
challenge focuses on how couple stays in their vows for their entire married life. The
phenomenon caught the attention of the church and the state considering that cases of
infidelities arises despite the fact that marriage is protected by moral and civil law.
Following the deductive-axiomatic approach to theory development, axioms are
derived and propositions are formulated which bounded the scope of this paper.
Marriage is about a life-long journey, a companion who will witness your life.
This life-long journey is guided and protected by both moral and civil law. The
dogma of the church mandates that the intimate union of marriage, as a
mutual giving of two persons, and the good of the children, demand total
fidelity from the spouses and require an unbreakable union between them.
Complement to this is a section on the Family Code of the Philippines which
defines Marriage as a special contract of permanent union between a man and
a woman entered into in accordance with law. Hence, marriage is
strengthened by moral and civil laws (Proposition2).
Axiom 3: Fidelity in marriage is influenced by several factors. Commented [U4]: Improve by emphasizing socio-cultural
factors.
Man is a rational being capable to reflect and decide for his actions which are
voluntary. Given that man as a rational being who has the capability to know
what is proper, to distinguish socially acceptable acts from unacceptable acts,
it is then his choice whether or not to be faithful in marriage. Considering
that faithfulness is an act of a rational being, to be faithful is,
therefore, a choice and a decision to make (Propoition1).
Theory
5.0 References
Benson, E.T. (1987). “To the Fathers in Israel,” Ensign, pg. 50.
Govern K.H. (n.d.). Fidelity and Fairness: Mulieris Dignitatem’s Wisdom Relating To
Marital Commitments, Covenants, Contractual Relationships and the Roman
Catholic Church …