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Introduction
Greta Christina narrates her previous sexual experiences, starting from her relationship
with men to a point where she starts to explore the definition of ‘sex’ with fellow women.
However, she seems confused on the right definition of ‘sex’. Her first definition looks at sex as
a journey to fulfilling sexual pleasure through mutual consciousness and consent. Christina goes
further from this first definition to looking at sex through shared thought which she bases it on
the consensus of the mind, regardless of whether both parties are having fun or not. She further
defines sex as a journey to a mutual sexual satisfaction through a conscious consent. However,
the goal of satisfaction is centered on one of the partners such as in a case where one person is
focused on getting his/her own pleasure. The traditional definition of sex is an action done
through sexual intercourse. Christina goes further to question scenarios such as rape and ponders
as to whether this constitutes to sex. Her bid to find the definition takes the reader to a situation
where she hosts an all-girl sex party. She is engaged in touching and kissing and dirty talks. She
further questions whether those activities satisfy the definition of sex. In another experiment, she
involves a woman, whom even after negotiation on what to do, the woman says that she is not
sure whether she wanted to have sex. However, two ladies were satisfied even without touching
each other’s body. Based on their differences in defining sex, she still does not find the answer
she is searching. Christina’s final quest to find the answers to her question takes us to a scenario
where she is working as a dancer for clients on a peep show. A client looks at her dancing naked
and begins to masturbate. She near the client and the sexual arousal becomes vigorous. Both of
them leave satisfied, making her question the act if it constituted to sex. From her definition, we
find various elements involved in sex. This paper will, therefore, pick one of her descriptions and
further elaborate it to identify the available and the missing constituents of sex to get a definite
With focus on Christina’s last definition, there is consciousness in whatever they did, as
both parties were aware of their acts and feelings. However, it is important to remember that
Christina was doing her job. Therefore, one cannot conclude that her actions constituted of
consent. This scenario can be compared to watching a pornographic video, which does not
represent sex. One may ask, is Christina going to the point of masturbating to please a stranger
out of her own will or is it her job that is making her do all these? The answer for the question is
found in her statement when she says that she could not believe that she was paid to masturbate
and it was a terrible job. Therefore, we can conclude that if she had an option, she would have
acted differently.
Even though there are some cases, we could count as sex such as deriving pleasure
through activities of the duo, such as teasing, the definition lacked mutual consent, as the two
parties are strangers. One party is a client and the other is doing what she is paid to do. Even as
she is conscious in masturbating in front of a stranger and claims that they both had a fabulous
time, there is little evidence of consent, as we do not know whether her employer instructed her
to do perform while naked before the clients or whether she was doing it out of her free will. The
definition is therefore too broad because, even as sexual stimulation through teasing can be
classified as sex, mutual consent still misses out. Furthermore, there is no physical activity
connecting the two parties such as touching to stimulate feelings, since each party is busy
acknowledged pursuit of shared sexual pleasure. In this case, mutual consent is addressed
whereby both parties have mutual feelings for sex without any form of coercion. Sex is an action
that provides pleasure to both parties. However, this definition is too broad and at the same time,
it seems complex. First, on the broadness of this definition, there are many ways in which people
can find pleasure. Determining pleasure ranges from personal sexual orientation to the
techniques used during sex. The description, therefore, fails to pick a detailed definition of
sexual pleasure, as some people would think that sexual pleasure can only be derived from
vaginal or penile stimulation. Secondly, the description does not specify whether there is need
for a physical contact between the two parties in a conscious and consented desire to achieve
sexual satisfaction. For some people, sexual desire can be met through watching the other parties
do some acts that he/she considers sexually fulfilling. For others, sexual pleasure is achieved
through body contact, oral stimulation or vaginal penetration. Others find pleasure through being
This definition is also too narrow, as it is difficult to determine whether both parties
achieved their optimal desired sexual pleasure. A man may assume that through hours of
vigorous sex, a woman is satisfied. In this case, therefore, there is a chance that one party will go
unsatisfied despite both sides having mutual sex feeling, consent, and consciousness. Thus, two
people can make consent to have a sexual relationship involving body intimacy, yet remain
It is important to remember that sexual pleasure and satisfaction involves more other
things and actions. For instance, some individuals may prefer anal sex, which is not discussed in
any of Christina’s definition of sex. Furthermore, other instances question consent and an
example is when someone is under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Such a person would be
acting on consent and consciousness to have whatever kind of sexual pleasure they need with
another person. The person would even enjoy sex, but later, this individual may develop a sense
of guilt. Another problem occurs on the legality of sex. If two people who are conscious
mutually agree to explore their sexual pleasure and one of the parties has not attained the legal
age and considered a child under the law, does the same constitute to sex?
Conclusion
question. From the above explanations, it is, therefore, challenging for one to define sex
adequately as different people uphold varying views on this subject considering their preferred
tastes and preferences which constitute sexual pleasure. Furthermore, new ways of finding sexual
satisfaction evolve every day. Having a single explanation for this question is likely to create
disagreement in ideas amongst people as some people would feel left out following their
preferences in achieving sexual ecstasy. It would be unfair to pick one definition and conclude
that, that is the right definition for sex. Therefore, we should learn to accept other people’s