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Mendelson trails largely unknown primary opponent Sept. 18&19: The Colonial Market & Fair at Mount Vernon
Sept. 25: 69th Annual Tour of Historic Homes
Continued from page 1 Council, endorsing Mendelson said they would have backed with 14 to 15 days to go,” he told mayoral contest. A win by
and participating in an aggres- Ray if he had run against some- the Blade Tuesday. Kwame Brown would create a Oct. 1-3: Mount Vernon’s Fall Wine Festival & Sunset Tour
sion. Michael D. Brown is listed on sive campaign to overcome the one other than Mendelson, who Gay Democratic activist Peter vacancy in his at-large seat,
the ballot only as “Michael Brown.” name confusion, some political is widely recognized as a long- Rosenstein, one of Ray’s campaign which would be filled in a special Oct. 2: Art on the Avenue in Del Ray
Michael D. Brown did not observers think Mendelson may time supporter of LGBT rights advisers, said the name confusion election next year.
immediately return a call seeking have a shot at overtaking shad- and a lead supporter of the city’s over shadow senator Michael Many LGBT activists said they Oct. 9: Alexandria Arts Safari at the Torpedo Factory
comment. At a candidates’ forum ow senator Brown to win the same-sex marriage law. Brown also has hurt Ray. According would strongly back Ray for that Art Center
earlier this year, he expressed race by a narrow margin. The Gertrude Stein Democratic to Rosenstein, many voters mistak- seat, and Ray has hinted that he
support for LGBT equality, That means LGBT voters as Club, the city’s largest LGBT politi- enly supporting the “wrong Brown” would consider running for the Oct. 9-17: Alexandria’s Boutique Week
including same-sex marriage. well as other voters supporting cal group, endorsed Mendelson would have voted for Ray and may seat if he lost his race against
Brown, a Democratic Party Ray could provide Mendelson with over Ray. And the Gay and Lesbian still do so if the name confusion Mendelson. But if Mendelson Oct. 23&24: Fall Harvest Family Days at Mount Vernon
activist and political consultant, a razor-thin margin needed to win Activists Alliance, a non-partisan issue is resolved. loses to shadow Sen. Brown in
isn’t actively campaigning and re-election if they switch sides in group, gave Mendelson a rating In what some political the Sept. 14 primary, many polit-
has raised only a token amount the race, according to LGBT score on LGBT related issues of observers say is yet another ironic ical observers expect him to
of funds for his candidacy. activists following the contest. +10, the group’s highest score. Ray twist in the at-large Council race, a enter the race for Kwame
The poll, released by the Post on “I think that would be the best received a GLAA rating of +5.5. Mendelson defeat on Sept. 14 Brown’s seat in the special elec-
Tuesday, shows that gay former city situation,” said gay Democratic Ray, meanwhile, said he will could make it more difficult for Ray tion next year, making it far more
parks and recreation director Clark activist Phil Pannell, in urging continue to campaign for votes to win another at-large seat on the difficult for Ray to win the seat.
Ray, who is also running for the at- Ray backers to vote for and push for the LGBT and non- Council in an expected special
large seat, garnered only 7 percent Mendelson. “I cannot see Clark LGBT issues he’s been running election in 2011. Gay GOP candidates
support from voters eligible to cast picking up the votes needed to on since he entered the race Council member Kwame dispute low GLAA ratings Mobile Web
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week at the
Presbyterian Church has rebuked one
of its ministers who describes herself
as a “lesbian evangelist” for presiding leader’s role in marriage
over two same-sex weddings, officials
opposition
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said last week according to Reuters
and several other media outlets.
Rev. Jane Adams Spahr, 65, in By CHRIS JOHNSON
1992 became the first openly lesbian cjohnson@washblade.com
Presbyterian minister to be appoint-
Photo courtesy of kenmehlman.com
ed a local church pastor — a move The coming out of former Republican
later overturned by the church’s top National Committee Chair Ken Ken Mehlman announced last week
judicial body. She since has been an Mehlman — who led the GOP at a time that he’s gay, triggering anger and
Blue Moon!
outspoken advocate for gay rights. when the party was backing the Federal resentment from some about his role in
She has challenged the church by Marriage Amendment and similar the GOP’s support for the Federal
Photo courtesy of Facebook
presiding over hundreds of gay unions, amendments in states throughout the Marriage Amendment.
many of which were not called mar- Rev. Jane Adams Spahr, in 1992, became country — inspired mixed reactions
riages. She faced the church’s judicial the first openly lesbian Presbyterian minister among LGBT advocates as some criti- Chuck Wolfe, CEO of the Gay &
scrutiny after marrying two women in to be appointed a local church pastor. cized him for his past actions while oth- Lesbian Victory Fund, said he was hop-
2004 and two women in 2005. ers welcomed his new public support. ing to win Mehlman’s support on LGBT
Church rules and precedent cases “make clear that ministers are not to con- Mehlman’s announcement about his issues in the future.
duct ceremonies represented as marriages between persons of the same sex,”
the Synod of the Pacific Permanent Judicial Commission ruled in an appeal deci-
sexual orientation officially became
public in an interview published last
“Coming out is a personal decision,
and it can have a profound impact on MOON DIVAS SULTRY
sion made public on Friday. “Regardless of the expression of conscience by the
Rev. Dr. Spahr, she may not circumvent the standards of the church.”
Wednesday by the Atlantic’s Marc
Ambinder. According to the article,
families, friends, colleagues and con-
stituents,” Wolfe said. “We hope the fact
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A local governing body overseeing Spahr’s ministry had said she did not com- Mehlman told family and associates that Ken Mehlman has reached this The Blue Moon cast as their favorite Rehoboth’s best music
mit an offense, but the higher church body overruled that ruling and said it would he’s gay and came to this conclusion level of honesty will now encourage divas experience. No Cover
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impose “the censure of rebuke.” fairly recently. other political leaders to reject divisive
“There are marriages done out of great love,” Spahr told Reuters. “Where else
would we want love to be celebrated but in the church?”
“It’s taken me 43 years to get com-
fortable with this part of my life,”
anti-gay campaign tactics which, as Mr.
Mehlman now admits, are purely cyni- 7 8 10
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“This kind of second-class treatment perpetuates not only myth and prejudice Mehlman was quoted as saying. cal attempts to manipulate the
but also, in some way, gives people license for violence,” she said. “Everybody has their own path to travel, American public.”
In an interview, Spahr, a San Rafael, California, resident who retires at the end their own journey, and for me, over the R. Clarke Cooper, executive director - 8 pm • No Cover
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of this month, said she would appeal the decision to the Presbyterian Church’s past few months, I’ve told my family, of the Log Cabin Republicans, said his 6 - 8 pm • No Cover
highest judicial body. friends, former colleagues, and current organization is “very supportive and World renowned, perfo ming
colleagues, and they’ve been wonderful appreciative of Ken’s coming out.” standards, broadway, disco and jazz
and supportive. The process has been “I am happy that Ken has come to a
‘Glee’ writer, star among gay Emmy winners
Gays were well represented at Sunday’s Emmy Awards, television’s highest
something that’s made me a happier
and better person.”
place where he can take a stand with
integrity, and I welcome him as yet PAMALA STANLEY EE
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honor. Gay writer/director Ryan Murphy won a directing Emmy for his work on Mehlman, who’s now an executive another conservative, common-sense 6 - 8 pm • No Cover
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“Glee” and kissed his boyfriend before walking to the stage. “Glee,” a gay cult hit, vice president with the New York City- voice to join with Log Cabin
& MARTINIS
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Another “Glee” winner was actress Jane Lynch for her hard-boiled performance as RNC chair in 2004 when a U.S. consti- important dialogue,” Cooper said. standards, broadway, disco and jazz
Sue Sylvester. Lynch, a lesbian, kissed her wife and then thanked her during her speech. tutional amendment banning same-sex Michael Mitchell, president of the 6-8 pm • No Cover
Queen Puppet, Greta Green and her Dolly Parton and mix with the talents Your hostess Mona Lotts from 9:30 - MOON DIVAS
SULTRY
When straight actor Erik Stonestreet won a supporting actor Emmy for his work
on ABC’s “Modern Family,” he kissed his TV hubby Jesse Tyler Ferguson. Their
marriage was a cornerstone of
President Bush’s re-election campaign.
National Stonewall Democrats, said
Mehlman’s story demonstrates “how
Come groove to the oldies in your bestHAPPY HOUR SATURDAY NIGHT
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work as Cam and Mitchell on the show has inspired some question about when During Mehlman’s tenure as chair, 21 damaging the closet can be when one disco era attire. Entertainment by our friend Joe Kovacs who calls balls, of David Copperfield and POOF! You 11 pm and enjoy a martini of the day 9:45 pm • No Cover
they would be allowed their first on-screen kiss. states passed constitutional bans on puts ideology over personal integrity.” very own “Coming Out of Hiding” sings songs and tells lots of dirty have Cashetta.9:30 pm • $25 per for only $7 from 8 p.m. to close. No The Blue Moon cast as their favorite Rehoboth’s best music
And gay actor Neil Patrick Harris won two Emmys this year: one for guesting same-sex marriage. “Mehlman presided over the disco diva. $6 Ketel Cocktails Happy Hour prices all night. jokes. 9:30 - 11 pm • No Cover person. Cover. divas experience. No Cover
on “Glee” and another for hosting the Tonys. His statuettes were presented the Mehlman is now chairing a fundrais- Republican Party at a time when the
Through
night before at the Creative Arts presentation. er for Americans For Equal Rights, the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans- Delaware Today
The Tony writers and the “Modern Family” team also enjoyed Emmy wins.
And legendary favorite Betty White, adored by gays for her “Golden Girls” work,
organization responsible for the federal
lawsuit challenging California’s ban on
gender Americans were used to ill ends
— marriage amendments in dozens of The Best Magazine Readers
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won her seventh Emmy for her Facebook-inspired “Saturday Night Live” hosting same-sex marriage. states, vitriolic attacks on our families, voted us the Best
stint. White won her first Emmy in 1952 for the sitcom “Life With Elizabeth.” Gay blogger Mike Rogers, who had our soldiers, over very lives — all for Brunch! Come see
Sunday-
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reported in 2004 that Mehlman was political expediency, votes at the ballot why. Enjoy a $3
Talk show host, Power Ranger come out gay, demanded that the former RNC
chair apologize for his past actions.
box, and power.”
Jimmy LaSalvia, executive director of
House Bloody Thursday
PAMALA STANLEY
Two more celebs have come out. Radio host Stephanie Catherine Miller, a pop- “Many gay leaders will attempt to GOProud, said the organization recently Mary or Mimosa
ular liberal radio talk show host, came out on her show last week and said she elbow themselves to the front of the line talked with Mehlman, but declined to elab- with your entree Carey T.
from our fabulous Jazz GuitSmith
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was inspired by country singer Chely Wright. And actor David Yost, who played the to say on cable TV how wonderful it is orate on the nature of their discussions. Join us from 6 - 8:30 p.m. with the world renowned singing
original blue Power Ranger, a nerdy teen named Billy who possesses unexpect- that Ken is now being honest with the When asked if GOProud had offered arist
seasonal menu. sensation Pamala Stanley. No Cover.
ed martial arts abilities, came out at the 2010 Anime Festival in Orlando. American people,” Rogers wrote. Mehlman a position on its board, LaSalvia
But Yost’s story has a twist. He said he walked off the “Power Rangers” set after “Perhaps you’ll read a quote in the declined to comment. He also declined
being called faggot “one too many times … I had just heard that several times Washington Post about how ‘every gay to say whether GOProud has offered
while working on the show from creators, producers, writers, directors … Basically person is on their own personal journey Mehlman a speaking role at the upcoming
I just felt like I was continually being told I was not worthy of being where I am and we are happy Ken has decided to HomoCon convention in New York.
because I’m a gay person. And I’m not supposed to be an actor and I’m not sup-
posed to be a superhero.”
be so open about his personal struggle.’
… I’ll only buy it if he is really sorry.”
“We’ve talked to him,” LaSalvia said.
“He’s certainly engaging with the com-
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He said he had a nervous breakdown after being written out of the show and
came close to suicide.
A number of LGBT organizations
issued statements that were supportive
munity as evidenced from the fundrais-
er that he’s doing for the Ted Olson
35 Baltimore Avenue
of Mehlman. case.” ABSOLUT FIRST. www.bluemoonrehoboth.com
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Some fear ‘Don’t Ask’ vote too risky just before elections
Continued from page 1 zation, but noted Sen. John
McCain’s (R-Ariz.) opposition to
Senate floor. moving the bill to the floor just
But Reid hasn’t yet scheduled before lawmakers broke for
a vote for the legislation on the August recess.
Senate floor. Some Capitol Hill “When we get back in
insiders have said they’re September, we’ll continue to try
expecting the bill to come up in and work on an agreement to get
September, although doubts are the bill to the floor as quickly as
emerging about having a vote possible,” Manley said. “Now that
before the month is out. the primary is over, hopefully
Nicholson said he thinks Reid Sen. McCain will relent in his
may not schedule a vote on the objection and allow us to take
defense authorization bill in the bill to the floor.”
September because he’s reluc- McCain’s office didn’t respond
tant to force members to vote on to the Blade’s request for com-
controversial measures prior to ment on whether he would con-
the election. tinue his objection to a vote.
The consequence of not hav- Other high-profile items are
ing a vote by the end of the first on the Senate agenda for
week of October, Nicholson said, September. Manley said legisla-
is that all the gains made so far tion to assist small businesses
over “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” will be would be a priority, along with
“put at great risk.” bills related to tax break exten-
“Once the Senate goes into sions as well as various confer-
recess for election season, any- ence reports.
thing could happen,” Nicholson When asked whether sched-
said. “So putting the [‘Don’t Ask, uling time for those bills would
Don’t Tell’] vote off until after mean putting off a vote on the
October is simply gambling with defense authorization bill,
this very important issue. I don’t Manley replied, “I don’t do hypo-
see how we will be able to forgive theticals.”
the president or Sen. Reid if that Other observers say putting Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key
happens, because between the off a vote on the defense author-
two of them they have the power to ization bill could be the end for Sen. John McCain (R-Ariz.) has emerged as a potential obstacle to advancing ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ repeal in
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Mehlman’s secret finally revealed
Address: 1810 14th St., N.W.,
By KEVIN NAFF
about that past. Chad Griffin and
Dustin Lance Black of the
ing hypocrisy is that the dominoes
continue to fall, as more and more
KEVIN NAFF
knaff@washblade.com ext. 8088 offensive, unnecessary shared a newspaper story on the
Pentagon sending out a survey
emphasizes that the survey is
confidential, so respondents can
you try to move out?”
“Would the attendance of a
survey asking, “If we send your
husband, wife, son or daughter to
American Foundation for Equal prominent Republicans take up Features & Multimedia Editor to spouses of service members be candid. I interpret that to gay or lesbian Service member Iraq/Afghanistan will it make you
Ken Mehlman, former Rights are singing Mehlman’s the cause of gay rights and mar-
JOEY DiGUGLIELMO By PETER ROSENSTEIN regarding the potential repeal of mean respondents can let their with his or her partner affect how less likely to recommend joining
joeyd@washblade.com ext. 8081
Republican National Committee praises. Griffin told the Atlantic, riage equality. The party is headed “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” I read it bigotry hang out with impunity. often you attend these types of the military to another family
Sr. News Reporter
chair and campaign manager for “when we achieve equal equality, for a reckoning in which it will need LOU CHIBBARO JR. I spent the last few days trying and wasn’t sure whether to laugh The survey goes on to ask military social events?” member or close friend?”
Bush-Cheney in 2004, came out he will be one of the people to to address the hateful rhetoric
lchibbaro@washblade.com ext. 8079 to decide what to write about this or cry. In the survey the whether you think your spouse In conclusion, Gates says, We have come a long way in
as gay in a stupefying interview Washington Blade archive photo thank for it.” Really? Mehlman about our families that has been
News Reporter week and asked a number of Pentagon wants to know whether has ever worked with a service “This survey will help the military my lifetime in dealing with homo-
CHRIS JOHNSON
friends for suggestions. They spouses would urge their hus- member they believe to be gay leadership assess the impacts, if sexuality and even moved to civil
with the Atlantic last week. Former RNC chair Ken will need to devote the rest of his and remains a part of its national cjohnson@washblade.com ext. 8083
came up with some good ideas. bands or wives to leave the mili- and how well they knew the indi- any, a change in the law com- marriage equality in some states.
In it, Mehlman says he only Mehlman came out last week life to undoing the damage he platform. How can party stalwarts Editorial Intern
JULIETTE EBNER One of the best was to look at tary if it repeals “Don’t Ask, Don’t vidual. Maybe they mean one of monly known as ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t We have rulings from federal
recently realized he’s gay — an after years of speculation that he helped foster before he earns like Mehlman, Cheney and Ted Staff Photographer why gay people, when disagree- Tell,” and how they might behave those guys that did the Lady Gaga Tell’ might have on family readi- judges that say both Proposition 8
absurd claim — and insists that he is gay. any thanks. It turns out that Olson advocate for marriage MICHAEL KEY
ing with another gay person’s at social functions if an openly
mkey@washblade.com parody video in Iraq last year. ness and military community life.” and the Defense of Marriage Act
worked behind the scenes to beat Mehlman is helping to raise equality while their party stubborn- opinion, will spend more time gay couple attends. Other brilliant questions Ah those community showers! are unconstitutional. But the mili-
back efforts to attack same-sex body has their own path to travel, money for AFER, so the praise is ly clings to its prejudice? PRODUCTION attacking the person than disput- It’s hard to believe, but it’s include: “How important a factor This is where we are in the tary and some of its leaders are
marriage during the Bush years. their own journey.” predictable and hollow. Indeed, it appears the country Creative Director
ing the opinion. Too often when a true. The Defense Department is would a repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, Obama administration: sending wasting time taking polls of serv-
JAMES M NEAL
That’s a staggering claim from True, but for most of us, the Mehlman’s sexual orientation has reached a tipping jneal@washblade.com ext. 8074 gay writer pens a column or blog really asking such questions of Don’t Tell’ be to you in making surveys to spouses wanting to ice members’ spouses to ask if
someone who presided over a journey didn’t involve working was the subject of rumors for point on the issue of Senior Graphic Designer criticizing a politician or an about 150,000 military spouses decisions about your spouse’s know how bigoted, or not, they they are willing to
campaign that exploited homo- side-by-side with those who years and the Blade looked into gay rights. Too bad RICHARD SKIPPON
organization the rebuttal doesn’t who started receiving copies of future in the military?” are. We really need to get this have tea with us.
rskippon@washblade.com
phobia to advance constitutional fought to enshrine our second- the story numerous times. He Mehlman arrived defend the organization or the the 44-question survey on Aug. “Would a repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, administration and our nation to
amendments in 11 states banning class status in the U.S. dodged the question and flat out so late to the party. SALES & ADMINISTRATION politician but rather tears down 19. They have until Sept. 27 to Don’t Tell’ affect your willingness move beyond this kind of thing.
same-sex marriage. Constitution, not to mention what denied it on several occasions. We Sr. Acct. Executive the writer. complete and return it. to recommend military service to We have polls clearly stating that
BRIAN PITTS Peter Rosenstein is
Now, long after leaving the Bush-Cheney did to advance the were alternately accused of cover- bpitts@washblade.com ext. 8089 I will spend some time I would ask Defense a family member or close friend?” more than three-quarters of
Kevin Naff is editor of a D.C.-based LGBT
public eye and public service, cause of torture. ing up to protect his secret or prop- the Washington Blade. Acct. Executive researching that idea in the Secretary Robert Gates, who “Assume Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Americans, including Bill O’Reilly, rights and Democratic
Mehlman wants our collective Mehlman is the Roy Cohn of agating salacious gossip. Neither Reach him at JERYL PARADE future, but in the meantime the sent a letter with the survey, to is repealed and you live in on- think we should repeal DADT. I Party activist. He writes
knaff@washblade.com. jparade@washblade.com ext. 8072 regularly for the Blade.
“understanding” because “every- his generation, quietly enabling was true; Mehlman remained idea for this column fell into my substitute the words “African base housing. If a gay or lesbian thought that we had a military that
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Darin Henderson (left) and Carl Cox are finalists in a national wedding contest. The grand prize is a wedding package valued at $100,000.
Couple’s moms join the who hope to represent their and Darin, who found each “[Darin] was gentle and took of life. When he returned to work
campaign for votes in hometown as the winners. If other on Match.com, have down my wall one brick at a healthy, he was ready to
national contest they get the most online votes, always valued open communi- time,” Carl says. “He was honest, embrace something entirely new.
they’ll receive a wedding pack- cation. When they initially start- made himself available, treated “It was the right time for me to
By SARAH McKIBBEN age sponsored by area busi- ed talking online, Carl was hon- me with respect, and was com- meet him,” Darin says. “He
nesses that’s worth $100,000 est about not being ready for a pletely invested in every moment offered a balance to me. I’m
To celebrate the legalization and includes everything from long-term relationship — but we were spending together. It more serious and Carl is the
of same-sex marriage in the rings to an all-inclusive cere- Darin was undeterred. was something I wasn’t accus- funny one, always kidding
District, Freedom2Wed is spon- mony and reception. On their first date, Carl ven- tomed to.” around and cracking jokes.”
soring a contest to give one The event’s chief organizer, tured from Baltimore to meet Darin never doubted that Carl Darin was especially attracted
lucky gay couple the wedding Michael Kress, photographer Darin and the two enjoyed an was worth the effort. A little over to Carl’s humble personality.
of a lifetime. and owner of MBK & Associates, unexpectedly intimate dinner at a year before they met, Darin “He’s so warm and genuine, and
From hundreds of entries believes that the compelling sto- Blues Alley in Georgetown. had a series of small heart he has such a big, kind heart,”
nationwide, six couples have ries of the diverse finalists “col- “Darin was persistent and attacks and was diagnosed with Darin says. “Carl would give the
been chosen to compete for the lectively emphasize why same- extremely likeable,” Carl says. congestive heart failure. shirt off his back to anyone. He’s
top prize. Among the finalists sex marriage is a historic marker After hitting it off that night, He was out of work for six a passionate and loving person.
are Carl Cox, 43, and Darin for civil rights in this country.” they started dating, and with time months and over that time, he
Henderson, 46, a local pair Together for four years, Carl Carl became less guarded. reflected on what he wanted out Continues on page 42
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