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ENGL 1S
Realities in the US
A husband, a wife, and two kids. Sounds perfect right? Almost like it's too good to be
true. In America, to be considered the ideal family that was the correct structure of a perfect and
desiring family. In the 1950’s you would see families living in a heterosxual family with great
morals, and considered well respected. The structure of an ideal family is having a dad, mom,
and at least two kids. Today families don’t model a heterosexual family, they have their
definition of what family means to them. You see same-sex marriage and marriages of opposite
sex. It has become common today to dismiss the harsh realities that US families face today due
to all the laws and what politicians said about what needs to be done to do the “right thing”.
Important realities that US families face today are deportation, financial struggles, and inequality
defined by their families. These realities do not only affect the people being targeted, but our
country in general because one choice can have a consequence either in the long or short run.
Deportation has become a big problem and has affected many people in different ways.
Being separated and yanked from your family is a hurtful feeling that can’t be stopped. In
today’s society we have a President, Donald Trump, wanting to get rid of all the immigrants
because he feels that America needs to go back to being great again. In Donald Trump’s New
Immigration Policy and Border Details speech he states, “ We are going to get the bad ones out,
the criminals, the drug dealers, the gangs, gang members, and cartel leaders. The day is over
when they can stay in our country and wreak havoc. We are going to get them out and we are
going to get them out fast” which is important because he is saying he is basically getting rid of
all these people, yet to him they are made up of immigrants only. He is targeting immigrants just
because they risk it all to come to the US for a better life. In Robert Warren’s and Donald
Kerwin’s article Mass Deportations Would Impoverish US Families and Create Immense Social
Costs it says “Of the 7.6 million undocumented residents in the labor force, three-quarters of a
million are self-employed, having created their own jobs and in the process creating jobs for
many others”. Warren and Kerwin’s point is that these undocumented residents either have a job
or create their own. Many immigrants have been denied the opportunity to work just because
they are illegal and don’t have the skills that are needed. Donald Trump has also said before that
Mexicans are only here to steal jobs and rape us. Not all the rapings that happened has only been
committed by immigrants, but by all types of races. Undocumented residents didn’t come to take
any jobs, they came to do the jobs that White Americans have rejected to do. I know people who
have created their own jobs and not only to help themselves, but to provide jobs for other people
Undocumented residents are more determined to follow the ‘American Dream’. We live
in a country where opportunity is for everyone. An opportunity to better our lives and seek new
chances in life. A lot of immigrants from different parts of the world come to follow the
American Dream. The American Dream is best known as getting an education and having the
opportunity to work your dream job. In Mass Deportations Would Impoverish US Families and
Create Immense Social Costs it says “A total of 1.3 million, or 13 percent of the undocumented
over age 18, have college degrees. Of those with college degrees, two-thirds, or 855,000, have
degrees in four fields: engineering, business, communications, and social sciences”. This
debunks the stereotypes of Mexicans being lazy and stealing jobs. Shows the dedication of some
immigrants who do value the opportunity of going to school and getting an education.
Families in the US face financial struggles along with deportation. Each family has their
strength in knowing how to get the help they need in providing for their family. Economically
disadvantaged families are resourceful and more tightly connected. In Naomi Gerstel and Natalia
Sarkisian’s text it states, “According to our research using the second wave of the National
Survey of Families and Households, as Figures 1 and 2 show, Blacks and Latinos/as, both
women and men, are much more likely than Whites to share a home with extended kin: 42
percent of blacks and 37 percent of Latinos/as, but only 37 percent of Whites live within two
miles of kin”. Living in a large household is important to a family who struggles financially
because between themselves they provide for their family. They do the impossible to make sure
they have everything that they need. Latinos and Blacks are more tightly connected and have
more of a special bond due to all the hardships they face as a family.
In my hispanic family, unity is very important to us. My mom and her siblings that live
here in the US always get together on a daily and discuss how they will send money for my
grandma in Mexico. They provide money for my grandma and all the expenses that need to be
covered for her house. Whenever my grandma comes to visit us she always stays at my uncles
and my house. She takes turn and spends time with her daughters and sons family. I personally
don’t live in an extended family household, but I do know how some of my family struggles to
make ends meet. We help each other overcome any struggle and let them know that we are here
for each other. I grew up always being around my family because unity is very important to us.
Inequality is another harsh reality US families face. Back in the 1950’s, the proper way of
defining a family is being part of a nuclear family. All the single parents and divorced families
were looked down upon. Although in today’s society this isn’t a big deal, there are still families
that follow this myth. With years passing, family morality has changed and families are now
being defined by what people want. In the 1950’s, women were treated poorly and women had to
basically depend on men. In Stephanie Coontz’s reading What We Really Miss About The 1950’s
it says “Women were unable to take out loans or even credit cards in their own name. They were
excluded from juries in many states. A lack of options outside marriage led some women to
remain in desperately unhappy unions that were often not in the best interests for their children
or themselves”. Sexism was huge back then and made men feel superior to women. Marriages
were happening because women couldn’t really do anything for themselves. A lot of marriages
were unhappy and ruined due to always depending on men. Men took advantage of their
economic status and knew a woman would marry him because a women felt more financially
secured.
My dad made sure his family would not grow up in a sexism household like he did. My
dad grew up in a home where his dad would be very sexist towards my grandma. My dad would
see how my grandma would take it and wouldn’t say anything because back then that was the
way it was. Women had to listen to the man and didn’t have the liberty of deciding for
themselves. My dad was never a man who wanted his wife to be a stay at home mom and just
look after the house and kids. My dad helps my mom around the house, helps her clean, helps
her cook whenever she is tired, and helped her look after us when we were little. I also had a talk
with my dad and I still clearly remember this talk because he talked to me about becoming a
woman and how I shouldn’t let a man decide for me. He told me in spanish, “quiero que seas
una mujer de bien para que el dia de mañana te puedas defender y puedas salir adelante sin la
ayuda de nadie.” He basically told me to become a good woman and to not depend on anyone
else, but myself. I should be able to do anything I want and not let anyone bring me down.
It is important for today’s society to give attention to these problems because they do
have effect on everyone. Living in a world where we use the “myth of the model family”
discriminates any type of family that does not live in a heterosexual family. We determine a
perfect family by this myth that portrays perfection when in reality it isn’t perfect. We are all
unique and having a family is a blessing no matter what kind of family we have. Ignoring these
harsh realities is a problem because deportation will only cause the labor to decrease and job
openings go up, yet White Americans don’t want to take on these jobs. Our economy will have a
big decrease. Also for financial struggles many families don’t have enough money to maintain
their families and families facing inequality is making us turn on each other when we should be
united.