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Consequences of Influencing the Process
Emily Langer
10-13-2017
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It is often said that children are like sponges, they absorb any and all information
presented to them in an attempt to piece together their understanding of how the world
works. While this can lead to some amusing stories of a child picking up adult language
and repeating it out of context, this concept does not apply only to inconsequential
events, and it needs be taken more seriously, especially when considered in the context of
the gender development of children. Kids are always on the look-out for cues from the
world and the individuals around them, in addition to—in our present-day modern
society—various messages from the media, about behavior and gender, then boiling
down their observations into assumptions, which are then filed away in the knowledge
structures of their brains. They use this cultivated information to construct stereotypes,
form expectations, and develop a cognitive schema for gender, all information the child
observes moving forward in their lives will then be labeled as appropriate for girls or for
boys and filed away into the gender box that aligns with the corresponding traditional
gender stereotype (Brinkman et al., 2011). Studies have found that this process plays a
crucially influential role in a child’s gender development and the construction of their
gender identity. This finding has inspired many research endeavors aimed to analyze both
the source and the effects of this influence, and understand the various consequences it
may cause with the hopes of using this knowledge to transform the way we raise our kids
to minimize these negative effects and maximize their potential for success in the world
as adults.
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around them. At 6 months, a baby can distinguish the difference between the sounds of
men and women’s voices; just three months later, a 9-month-old can visually
discriminate between men and women in pictures. Most amazing of all, between the ages
of 11 and 14 months a child gains recognition of the associations between the previous
two perceptions, for example, that male voices are generally lower than that of females
(Martin & Ruble, 2004). This evidence suggests that before an individual even utters
their first words, they have already constructed ideological categories that differentiate
between the societal expectations set for males and females based on their perceptions.
This has many implications. The majority of sex differences in kids are not outwardly
apparent until around the age of 2, yet even before reaching this age, girls show
preference for dolls and boys for toy cars when given the choice. By the time children
start kindergarten at 5 years of age, they have already watched, absorbed, and interpreted
information from the world around them to create countless stereotypes about gender.
direct their attention, to guide their daily actions and behavior, and to organize their
thoughts and memories (Martin & Ruble, 2004). This concept is supported further by
research studies that have found that once a child becomes aware of gender stereotypes
and can recognize their gender type demonstrate different behavior than children who are
not cognizant of gender, more specifically, the child’s personal preferences become more
gender-typed (Leaper, 1991). Consequentially, when children have learned our society’s
specific gender stereotypes and developed perceptual categories of gender that align with
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them, they take and apply this new knowledge to their interactions with peers, which are
prime situations for kids to model and reinforce the gender norms for social interaction
on one another. Cognitive theories of gender development agree that children play an
active role in constructing their own concept of gender based on how they perceive and
think about the sexes, and the nature of the social environment they are exposed to
(Martin & Ruble, 2004). This raises several questions, which are outlined by Martin &
Ruble in their 2004 article Children’s Search for Gender Cues Cognitive Perspectives on
Gender Development. When do children start to think of themselves and others in terms
of gender? Is there a critically sensitive period of time for gender identity development in
a child? What influence do these gender cognitions have on a child’s behavior and
thought process? And, what are the consequences (potential or real) of this influence? To
answer these questions, it is important to understand that many studies have found a few
The first of the concepts researchers have generally agreed upon is that a child’s
gender-related beliefs and behaviors seem to wax and wane in their rigidity in three
phases (Martin & Ruble, 2004). Phase 1 takes place during a child’s toddler and
preschool years, this is when kids are sponges, they start to absorb and learn gender-
associated qualities. Phase 2, between the ages of 5 and 7, a child reaches the peak
rigidity in their concept of gender when their new observations about gender is boiled
down to their stereotypical assumptions and they develop a black and white, either-or
mentality. Following the peak of rigidity, kids enter what is referred to as middle
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childhood after age 7, in Phase 3, their perception of gender becomes relatively flexible
and they begin to accept and adapt to any new information they receive; however, the
(Leaper, 1991). In addition to this three-phase model, research has also found
recognition that there are two gender groups that are acceptable in society, and that they
themselves belong to one of those groups and begin to identify as such; these
2004). These consequences suggest that a child will evaluate a certain group positively
once they can identify to some extent (even minimally) with that group through any
childhood, meaning that discovering and accepting one’s gender identity has an effect on
that child’s inclination to learn and retain information they are given about gender and
their gender group, as well as that child’s motivation to subsequently model the behaviors
of their fellow group members. For example, once kids identify with a gender group, they
will pay more attention to playing with and learning about the toys they believe to be
appropriate for their gender rather than toys associated with opposite or indiscernible
gender (Martin & Ruble, 2004). This seems like a small, inconsequential part of
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development, but in doing this, children are led to make broad assumptions and
generalities about acceptable behaviors and characteristics for each gender binary and the
differences between girls and boys defined by society and the media. Each step of the
way, as children are working through the process of gender development, they are setting
up a concrete foundation which they will continue build on, affecting the way they think
and behave in the world for the rest of their adult lives. The third and final reoccurring
concept found in studying gender development is a child’s active, self-initiated role in the
process, through which they are capable of taking deliberate action to learn about a social
category that they are actively constructing as a tool which will be used to interpret and
derive meaning in the social world around them (Brinkman et al., 2011). This is
supported by evidence that points out times when kids have a distorted perception of, and
comprehended through examples, “When 3-year-olds were told that a particular boy likes
a sofa and a particular girl likes a table, they generalized this information to draw the
conclusion that another girl would also like the table,” (Martin & Ruble, 2004). The
assumptions children make will in turn influence how an individual behaves around and
Taking this one step further, we can examine the types of concepts and behaviors
that we, as a society and as individual role models, are instilling in our children. Studies
have meticulously analyzed children’s peer interactions and have found strong trends in
the manner with which boys and girls interact and communicate in same-gender and
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mixed-gender groups during early and middle childhood (Leaper, 1991). Researchers
found that boys often focused interactions mainly on independence, competition, and
interpersonal harmony. Girls were more likely to display communication styles that
styles were more likely to demand attention, give orders, and establish dominance. These
observed as early as just 3 years old and it is hypothesized that they may begin even
earlier – the boys’ actions are more direct and demanding and the girls tend towards
attitudes of cooperation and are more polite (Leaper, 1991). The media has expanded
feminine which has given rise to the concepts of hyper-masculinity—the belief that
danger is exciting and violence is somehow “manly”, which often results in men adopting
found in women that “accept” their own objectification as a sex object for men as well as
the belief that men are supposed to be dominant over women (Boyd et al., 2015). Studies
have suggested that increasing the amount of encouragement we give children for cross-
In other words, the more mixed-gender friendships and interactions children have, the
more the hard line that divides and differentiates between gender-typed behavior in boys
and girls will begin to fade into a grey area. Research of children’s peer interactions
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shows that girls are more likely to use controlling speech when boys are present in a
mixed group interaction, which is likely due to another trend found, that boys in mixed-
gender groups tend to ignore the attempts at polite influence made by the girls (Leaper,
1991). This study also curiously found that, while girls are likely to adapt their
communication style to match that of the boys’ when in a mixed-gender group, boys are
associated with girls or femininity. Taking this into account, it is clear that same-gender
research has shown that a preference for friends of the same gender has a positive
correlation with a given child’s display of gender-typed behaviors and attitudes (Leaper,
1991). In layman’s terms, this means that exposure to majorly same-gendered peers
enforces and solidifies stereotypical behavior while spending time with mixed-gender
All of the previously stated gender-typed behaviors and attitudes are merely a
small handful of the effects caused by society’s sexist expectations and ideologies being
instilled on children, which, due to the impressionable nature of children, gives them very
little choice in developing gender prejudice as they grow up. Gender prejudice is defined
by Eckes and Trautner as “the attitude that a group deserves lower social status based on
gender prejudice, studies suggest that complying with society’s gender norms may make
it easier for a child to navigate the world; however, engaging in this behavior often
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reinforces the belief in traditional gender stereotypes in both the child and their peers.
The most worrisome negative effects of gender prejudice have been observed among kids
who are gender atypical and as such are pressured to conform, with reported effects
including emotional distress and lowered self-esteem. That said, the troubling effects are
not limited to atypical children, countless negative consequences have been studied in
male and female children as well, and the findings of that research is just as troubling
though, admittedly, more studies have focused on the effects on young girls than on
young boys. The 2011 article Teaching Children Fairness: Decreasing Gender Prejudice
Among Children describes this concerning concept perfectly, suggesting that “Reviewing
the long list of potential negative consequences for children who experience gender
area,” (Brinkman et al., 2011). Children are told what they “should” and what they
“can’t” do because of their gender through messages from the media as well as physical
sources like family, school, and their peers. Traditional gendered roles initially
emphasized women as nurturing and men’s leadership attributes. Over time, these
stereotypes have grown and evolved into the belief that women are best suited for
domestic roles such as housework, cooking, and childcare while men eventually became
expected to be the primary breadwinners for their family (Halpern & Jenkins, 2016).
influencing them to take part in gender prejudiced behavior, or by leading them to restrict
There has been and continues to be extensive research taking place that focuses on
the specific effects of this process on young girls more-so than any other demographic.
This is likely because it is impossible not to notice the various ways in which girls are
pressured to succumb to and comply with traditional gender roles in the day-to-day life of
anyone in this society (Brinkman et al., 2011). Placing this gender prejudice pressure on
growing girls can be extremely detrimental to many aspects of their lives including
performance in the way that they influence both a child’s perceived self-competence as
well as their perceived confidence to their peers. Stereotypes such as the belief that girls
are not as capable of success in math and science subjects as boys. This specific example
was proved in a 2008 study that found that female students reported lower levels of self-
competence than male students did, despite the girls’ strong performances in math and
science (Brinkman et al., 2011). Character traits enforced in girls and women fall into
general themes of expressiveness and communality, this includes but is in no way limited
to expectations of: being ladylike, dependent, nurturing, warm and friendly, a good
listener, sensitive, attentive to their appearance, and loving children. In contrast, behavior
that is forbidden for women and girls includes qualities such as: being dominant,
that we clearly understand all positive and negative parts of our society as it is presently,
if there is any hope for us to construct and enact any type of change moving forward. In
this case, the painful truth is that, “Young women are often treated like they have less
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worth than their male counterparts, and after some time they may begin to believe it,”
(Brinkman et al., 2011). It is hard to believe that such sexist ideologies still remain in
and bounds in the right direction towards gender equality. There are scholars that believe
accomplishments through social movements can be attributed to the fact that, in its most
basic form, the structure of American society is still patriarchal, with a gender-typed
division of labor and societal pressure to conform, and thus will negate any progress
made against it. This has contributed to the construction of a gendered power balance
where cues associated with dominance are fostered in boys yet discouraged in girls, and
cues associated with submissiveness are encouraged in girls but shamed in boys (Boyd et
al., 2015). Studies have proven that there is a direct link between experiences of gender
prejudice and the loss of self-esteem that is often documented throughout adolescence in
While it is true that more research efforts have analyzed how gender prejudice
affects women and girls at the present time, that by no means indicates that exposure to
gender prejudice has less of an effect on men and boys. Making that assumption would be
a gender-prejudiced belief in and of itself. Males experience this in many ways, but
especially in the societal expectation for them to align themselves with the rigid concept
of masculinity enforced by society in their everyday lives. Boys are not supposed to need
help, with anything, they are supposed to be “tough” and to solve any problems that may
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arise in their lives themselves without assistance (Brinkman et al., 2011). Examples of
ideologies that these pressures frequently forge in males can be observed in the form of
chiseled in stone, leaving no room for variation or exceptions, even when the problems at
hand are more than he can handle, including situations such as relationship problems,
difficulty in school, drug abuse, and struggles with mental illnesses like depression. The
few, as well as various other qualities that are representative of agency and
industriousness. On the other end of things, boys and men are never supposed to appear
emotional, weak, or naïve, lest they be rejected by their peers (Boyd et al., 2015). This
rejection can come in the form of being isolated by their peers, discipline from a parental
Children take influence from everything in the world around them, this includes
people that they observe and interact with like parents, peers, and authority figures as
well as environments that they interact within such as school, home, and playgrounds.
information from any and all forms of media that they are exposed to every single day of
their lives in our modern-day, technologically advanced world (Ward, 2005). As such, the
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extremely powerful tool of socialization that can draw attention to or away from various
aspects of the world (Ward, 2005). It would be a truly difficult challenge to find any type
of media product that does not convey a message defining what “normative” behaviors
are expected of men and women or giving encouragement and support to these
about gender prejudice and gender stereotypes, and give them the tools to identify and
challenge such ideologies in their lives. A multicultural education has been found to be
very effective in prejudice reduction, designed to “help students develop more democratic
attitudes, values, beliefs and behaviors” (Banks, 1993). After analyzing the results of
many different studies surrounding the topic, researchers are now advocating for the use
increasing their awareness of gender prejudice, and giving them the ability to identify and
programs for children has incredible potential and similar programs have been very
successful in adults, it is still an extremely new concept and as such, few programs of
child intervention have been created and even less of them have been studied at the
current time. The FAIR Program (Fairness for All Individuals through Respect) is one
example of these programs that does exist, which is examined by Brinkman, Jedinak,
Rosen, and Zimmerman in their article Teaching Children Fairness: Decreasing Gender
Prejudice Among Children (Brinkman et al., 2011). In its most basic form, the FAIR
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Program celebrates diversity, builds children’s awareness of social justice, and fosters
critical thinking through the use of specific activities that are designed to allow students
involved to reflect on and share their own personal experiences of injustice with their
peers. It is the hope of its developers that through education of this sort, there will be an
I believe that we are not raising our sons and daughters to the best of our abilities.
Not only that, but I strongly believe that by continuing to socialize generation after
generation of children to fit into society’s gender binary boxes, we are failing to prepare
our children for the world. Consequently, we are raising individuals who will grow up to
be forced into and trapped inside of one of two tiny, restricting boxes, never allowed to
reach their full potential in their adult lives. Some will go on fortify the sexist norms our
country holds by trying to control their peers or by allowing their peers to hold
dominance over them, while others, unfortunately, will find themselves battling mental
illness and countless other struggles because they feel ostracized by society and do not
know how to love and accept themselves for who they are. Neither end-result is
attractive, and personally—as a woman—neither option is a path I would want for any
children that I may have in the future. As a society, we need to make the decision to work
together towards a healthier, more realistic perception of gender that accepts gender in all
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