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Communication plays and essential role as far as the exchange of either news or
information is concerned. To a larger extent, communication facilitates the connection that exists
between people and sometimes places. Most importantly, through communication, there is the
coexistence of language which is the acquisition and application of the complex communication
systems. In this regard, language can be effectively applied to identify or reveal a lot of things
concerning the individual who is applying it to communicate. For instance, language can be used
in the identification of some of the differences that exist between male and female as far as their
with an intended purpose of revealing how women and men communicate differently.
Furthermore, the conducted research drew arguments on whether the pattern differences are
inherent at the time a person is born or the society is the one that influences and determines
them. This paper tends to analyze and bring out a determination of whether the existence of
different communication patterns in men and women can be innately determined (Palonen, &
Hakkarainen, 2013,).
According to Allen (2010), she believes that different patterns of communication in both
men and women are determined by the society surrounding a person. This is contrary to what
Louann (2006), argues in her book The Female Brain. According to the book, the brains of
women are hard-wired in such a way that they tend to communicate differently from those of
men. As she put it in her book, “Men will develop a serious case of brain envy.” As such, Louann
Brizendine points out that nature plays a great role in determining the patterns of communication
between both sexes. From her point of view, the communication between genders is a
predetermined condition which to a larger extent she attributes it to the hormonal difference
between men and women. Basing her facts on the concept of generalization that is rampant in the
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society, Allen differs from Brizendine arguments maintaining that the society is a significant
factor when it comes to determining the patterns of communication between men and women
(Allen, 2010).
To commence with Brizendine’s discussion, the presence of estrogen and testosterone is
one of the primary factors that separates the two genders. As a result of this biological difference,
the emotions and style at which the two sexes communicate are mostly affected. Brizendine
pinpoints that, “our distinct female and male brain operating systems are mostly compatible and
adept, but they perform and accomplish the same goals and tasks using different circuits.”
Through this statement, she intends to bring out the difference that exists between the female and
male brain. Despite the fact, that the two brains that is the male and that for the female having
the ability to do the same tasks, there is a difference in the approach that the two take in
developmental stages of the two genders have indicated a difference in the general development
as far as the subject of hormones is concerned. As such, the development of the male fetus has
been grazed by high levels of testosterone which have been linked to the killing of the brain cells
in the region of the brain that deals with communication. In this regard, the aggression and sex
part of the brain has developed more than the part that deals with communication. On the
contrary, the brain of the female infant has shown significant developments in the
communication region of the brain due to the absence of the testosterone surge. In fact, this gives
a perfect explanation of why the female babies are more concerned and interested in facial
expressions and most instances they learn to speak earlier than their male counterpart.
Due to this difference that exists in both the male and the female brain chemistries, the
resultant application and usage of language become different. Notably, the trend continues with
women finding it more appropriate and useful to apply language in communicating and
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connecting with other people more than the men. In retrospect, women are more attached to the
emotional intimacy through the obvious method of talking whereas their male counterpart view
talking as a method of relying on and obtaining information. Apparently, the sole idea of men
being less concerned with discussions or discussing on emotions through language application
but rather apply knowledge in achieving something can be envisioned during the early infant
stages of their development. That is when they are not connected with the various facial
expressions and emotions. Also, the time that they take so as to begin speaking as compared to
the females. In this regard, men are more connected through carrying out activities with and
having mutual interest whereas the women are more connected in sharing not only thoughts but
also feelings.
Basically, the difference in communication between the men and the women is also
applicable in the way each gender responds to anger. The presence of high levels of testosterone
in male and the development of the aggression part of the brain clearly explains the aggressive
nature and the willingness and readiness to fight when angry. On the other hand, females will
avoid fighting and opt for retreat and afterward she will talk to someone about her anger.
However, this does not imply that she is not in a position of showing her anger. She often prefers
using words rather than expressing her anger physically. Furthermore, Brizendine (2006) states
that “Men’s brain circuits and bodies may readily revert to a physical expression of anger fueled
by the frustration of not being able to match women’s words.” This statement lays emphasizes on
the capability of women being able to express their feelings and emotions by the use of words
linked to these arguments especially patterns of communication that involve anger. For instance,
there is a time my parents had an argument, and my mother came to share with me the origin of
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the matter and how things went to an extent that there was a conflict between the two. On the
other side, my father threw some of the utensils that were on the dining table breaking them
instantly (White, 2009). To make matters worse, his actions aroused the levels of frustration in
my mother who shouted unpalatable words towards my father. Another related example, was the
one I encountered some years back when I was in High school. I happened to engage in a quarrel
with one of my classmates who was a girl. All she did was abuse me whereas her words made me
angry, I could not stand the emotional torture. As a result, I slapped her on the cheek. These two
experiences profoundly supported Brizendine’s explanation on the concept of how female and
male babies are innately born to behave in a suggested manner. Also, it supports the lexis on why
girls are fast when it comes to learning a language and highly rely on words than the boys.
Basically, stress is derived from anger. For this reason, male and female differ in the way
they respond to, react and manage stress. Most importantly, the aspect of stress between the
different genders helps us in viewing and understanding how language and communication are
used differently by both genders. Whereas men prefer not talking about their stress, women opt
to discuss their stress to a man with the hope that he will hear the problem and provide a
solution. Due to the fact that women are hard-wired to connect also, they are the emotional needs
of others; they tend to listen more than being helped (White, 2009).
Contrary to the arguments by Brizendine (2006) on women and men having an innate
acquisition of their behaviors, Allen purports that the patterns in communication are acquired or
learned from the society. Her argument is quick to illustrate the powerful nature of the society
which actually cannot be ignored. She states that “Men tend to be socialized to use language that
is valued, while the opposite usually occurs for women.” Basing on her discussions, she is quick
to bring out the picture of the treatment that male children receive which is different from that of
female children and taught on how to be assertive and less nurturing and thus they become less
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emotional. As a matter of fact, the society contributes a lot in terms of the development of social
identity and how we perceive the behaviors of others. For instance, parents play a critical role in
determining the behavior of their children especially communication styles (Brizendine, 2006).
All said and done. The patterns of communication between women and men whether
inherent or learned from the society indicates the application of language for emotional needs in
female than in male and the difference in the application when it comes to handling anger and
stress. Brizendine’s argument dwells more on the biological point of view which borrows from
the hormonal difference precisely testosterone in men and the female whereas that of Allen is
built on the society and the influence that the society towards the way that a person
communicates and his or her behavior. Even with analyzed justification from the two different
views, the necessary thing is that we should use our language styles to bring out the best in our
References
Allen, B. J. (2010). Difference matters: Communicating social identity. Waveland Press.
Brizendine, L. (2006). The female brain. Broadway Books.
Palonen, T., & Hakkarainen, K. (2013, April). Patterns of interaction in computersupported
learning: A social network analysis. In Fourth International Conference of the Learning
Sciences (pp. 334-339).
White, J. (2009). Taking sides: Clashing views in gender. (4th ed.). New York: McGraw Hill.