Stokes' and Whiteside's Pain and Wellness Behaviours

Pain behaviours: Wellness behaviours:

l. Preoccupation with fee]ings of inadequacy
2. Reliance on stimulant or depressant
3. Anxiety and/or depression
4. Relationship shopping
5. Periodic withdrawal from social activities
6. Periodic withdrawal from active sex life
7. Increasing incidents of self destructive behavior
8. Identification with others' emotional pain
9. Irrational fear of being alone
l 0. Pessimism in relationships
11. Punishment of self and other by withclrawa] of love
12. Morbid preoccupation with emotional pain
13. Denial of pain or responsibility for causing pain
14. Manipulation instead of communication
15. Suffering as an addiction
1. Preoccupation with progress
2. Choosing to create programmed relaxation
3. Choosing assurance and enthusiasm
4. Choosing to rely on self as the source
5. Choosing to increase social contacts
6. Choosing to make sex enjoyable again
7. Choosing to see with empathy
8. Choosing to focus on getting better
9. Choosing "how I can" do more
I0. A willingness to risk success
11. Choosing "how I can" be equal to the challenge
12. Accept pain as a "given" and get on with life
13. Choosing to deal with the real issues
14. Direct, honest communication
15. Choosing to own your recovery