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It eases stress.
Want more sex? Get better sleep. Want better sleep? Have more sex
It's more than the coital act that brings benefits. Studies of older adults found that holding
hands, hugging, kissing and mutual stroking also contribute to a greater quality of life.
Getting it on can ward off depression, too. Studiesshow that men and women who have
intercourse with their partners have greater satisfaction with their mental health.
(Unfortunately, the benefits didn't extend to masturbation.)
But the boost doesn't appear to work for casual sex or hookups. One study of nearly 7,500
US college students across 14 public universities found that those who had more hookups
had lower levels of happiness and self-esteem, and higher levels of depression and anxiety.
In contrast to the notion that men are more likely to be OK with casual sex, the researchers
found no differences between the sexes.
It improves sleep.
Prolactin, a hormone that relaxes you, is also released after an orgasm. The combination of
prolactin and all the rest of the "feel-good" hormones are why most people sleep better after
sex.
To get the highest amount of prolactin, science suggests having an orgasm with a partner if
possible. Research shows that the level of prolactin in both men and women after
intercourse can be "400% greater than that following masturbation."
Unfortunately, sleep deprivation -- which affects a third of Americans -- can also impact
sexual satisfaction. A study of nearly 10,000 women ages 50 to 79 found that those who got
fewer than seven to eight hours of sleep a night were less likely to be sexually active. The
older the woman, the more likely she was to report less sex when sleep-deprived.
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Eat right.
Stay active.
Get enough sleep.
Keep up with your vaccinations.
Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.
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5. Counts as Exercise
“Sex is a really great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it counts
for something.
Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-
two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.
So get busy! You may even want to clear your schedule to make time for it on a regular basis.
“Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,” Pinzone says.
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7. Lessens Pain
Before you reach for an aspirin, try for an orgasm.
“Orgasm can block pain,” says Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a distinguished service professor at
Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey. It releases a hormone that helps raise your pain
threshold.
Stimulation without orgasm can also do the trick. “We’ve found that vaginal stimulation can
block chronic back and leg pain, and many women have told us that genital self-stimulation can
reduce menstrual cramps, arthritic pain, and in some cases even headache,” Komisaruk says.
9. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason.
“After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of
relaxation and sleepiness" after sex, says Sheenie Ambardar, MD. She is a psychiatrist in West
Hollywood, Calif.
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10. Eases Stress
Being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety.
Ambardar says touching and hugging can release your body's natural “feel-good hormone.”
Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain’s pleasure and reward system.
Sex and intimacy can boost your self-esteem and happiness, too, Ambardar says. It’s not only a
prescription for a healthy life, but a happy one.
10 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex
1. We Respond to Praise
It's believed that men are so consumed by our libido that we have no self-
consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it
comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be
delivered before reaching the bedroom (give us the once-over and tell us how
buff we look), and after (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look
naked). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other
measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Try to be
extra affirming about those sensitivities.
2. We Fear Intimacy…
…but not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more
affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At
that time, social repression begins—of words, thoughts, feelings—and our
desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for
intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it's smothering, but
because we realize how desperate we are for it. What's a woman to do? First,
understand that your guy's hasty retreat post-sex may be about his own shock
at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much he's denied it in
life). Then, retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his boyhood
habits are, in fact, perfectly manly.
The penis gets all the press, but men have "many erogenous zones," says
psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. "Men tend not to correct women
because they're afraid women will shut down and not touch them at all. But
there are many places a woman should touch." Like the chest, the inner thighs
and face. Two other key areas: Gently gripping a man's testicles can be a real
turn-on, as it blends control with release. Also, stimulating the perineum, the
area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.
5. We Encourage Fantasies
"Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge
them," says Dr. Kort. Similarly, Dr. Schaefer reports that men wish women
would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these
possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not
to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you
and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you're
both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, Dr. Kort recommends asking the
author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its
themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.
Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty,
praising and instructive are great starts. As amusing as it may sound, a
woman's words can make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator,
even if he's a suburban banker.
Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it's often where the stresses
show up. If we complain about a lack of sex (or your doing certain things only
on our birthday), we may be overlooking serious issues that underpin such
withholding. We need you to enlighten us. The male ego is often tied to sex, so
it's easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than
issues we have a part in. Avoiding these problems, however, only perpetuates
your feeling unseen and our frustration.
Men like a good quest; unfortunately, these days, there are so few. But
romance earns that distinction. Allow us to court you; make us deserve your
desire. Dr. Kort makes an additional point: "Emotional intimacy is about
closeness, but sustaining sexual desire demands a certain amount of distance."
How do couples strike this tricky balance? By allowing each partner to have
what he calls "separate sexuality": a sexual life that doesn't include, but
doesn't betray, the other. "For him, that might mean allowing his wife to use
toys or letting other men look at her; for her, it might be permitting him to
watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy." Such indulgences help
maintain the balance of desire and devotion for both parties.
Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, says
Dr. Kort, but it shouldn't be overreacted to or pathologized. A few things to
clear up: 1. Sex addicts represent only 4 percent of the population, so it's
unlikely your man is one. 2. Because childhood experiences influence sexuality
as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on. In other
words, says Dr. Kort, "no woman can, nor should she, be everything to a man."
Still, the question remains: How does a woman not take pornography
personally? First, determine if your mate is compulsive, or can only have sex,
with pornography. If so, you may want to seek counseling. If not, Dr. Kort
recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography by discussing it. Use the
lens of "what about it turns him on versus what turns you off." That way, a
dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity and closeness.
10. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this.
"Men see sex as a celebration," says Dr. Schaefer. "They wish women would
take more of a 'carpe diem' approach to it. We move through life at the speed
of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It's easy to allow
demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity
that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it should not be on the bottom
rung." If that doesn't make you want to "seize the day" (or something else),
consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called
the "bonding hormone," bringing couples closer together while it alleviates
anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.
7 Healthy Reasons You
Should Have Sex — Right
Now!
Want to clear your complexion, boost your mood, and cut your risk of
cancer, heart disease, and other health hazards? No, the answer isn’t in a
magic pill — it’s between your sheets. That’s right: A little loving can boost
your overall health in many surprising ways.
“There have been lots of studies describing the health benefits of sex,”
says Sandra L. Caron, PhD, sex therapist and professor of family relations
and human sexuality at the University of Maine’s College of Education and
Human Development in Orono. “Most of them relate to achieving orgasm.
Nobody says you have to be with someone to do that.”
That’s an intriguing sex tip for people who do not have a committed partner:
Self-pleasuring can offer sex benefits, especially those specifically related to
having a good orgasm.
So whether you’re coupled up or flying solo, check out this list of healthy
side effects of regular sex:
Just like any physical activity, healthy sex is good for your heart. A study
published in January 2015 in the American Journal of Cardiology found that
men who had sex twice weekly or more had less risk of cardiovascular
diseases, like stroke or heart attack, than those who had sex once a month
or less.
And for those who worry that the exertion involved in sex is a threat to the
heart, the American Heart Association's Scientific Statement on Sexual
Activity and Cardiovascular Disease says that having sex is safe for people
who can exercise with no heart problems in the range of 3 to 5 metabolic
equivalents (METs). METs are a measure of the energy (calories) expended
during an activity. Exercising at 3 METs is about the same as walking at a
moderate pace, while 5 METs is like a low impact aerobic workout.
Just looking at your partner — or even a photo of your partner — can help
ease pain. In another study published in PLoS One that was performed at
Stanford University in California, anesthesiologists showed participants
photos of their romantic partners or photos of attractive strangers, or asked
them to engage in a word game. They found that looking at romantic
partners significantly dulled the experience of pain. So even though you
might think pain is a barrier to sex, consider this a sex benefit worth the
time and effort: Take a moment to really look at your lover.
Other studies have found that women may get some relief from menstrual
crampsthrough a good orgasm.
Sex can help relieve stress by raising endorphins and other hormones that
boost mood. As a form of exercise, it can also help calm you down. In
addition, a Scottish study published in the
journal Biological Psychology found that sexual activity prevents increases in
blood pressure during stressful events. While this effect was more
pronounced in people who had sex with penetration, nonpenetrative sex and
masturbation can also help you stay serene.
4. Possible Reduction of Prostate Cancer Risk
It’s no wonder you’ve got a more positive outlook after sex: There are
biochemical rationales for experiencing improved mood as a sex benefit,
from the neurotransmitters that may be released during healthy sex to the
mood enhancers contained in semen itself. “And,” adds Dr. Caron, “there’s a
lot to be said simply for the mood-boosting effect of having a nice
connection with somebody that you trust and care about.”
Plus, your frisky play may result in a serious afterglow than can, in turn,
help you bond better with your partner, according to a report published in
March 2017 in the journalPsychological Science. In this study, which
examined newlywed couples who kept a two-week sexual diary, researchers
found that partners were satisfied for a full 48 hours after sexual activity.
And those who were lucky enough to experience this afterglow went on to
report more happiness in their relationship several months later.
7. Glowing, Younger-Looking Skin
That fabled "morning after" glow? It’s not just your imagination; you really
do look better after having sex. “Sex even helps you look younger,” says
Caron. That glow can be attributed to a combination of stress relief, better
mood, and the flush of blood under your skin that’s a natural part of the
arousal process.
Enjoying a healthy sex life is one of the great joys in life. Knowing intimacy
could be a boon for your long-term health as well make it that much more
pleasurable.
Understanding Sexual Health
Sexual health is the ability to embrace and enjoy our sexuality throughout our lives. It is
an important part of our physical and emotional health. Being sexually healthy means:
Understanding that sexuality is a natural part of life and involves more than sexual
behavior.
Recognizing and respecting the sexual rights we all share.
Having access to sexual health information, education, and care.
Making an effort to prevent unintended pregnancies and STDs and seek care and
treatment when needed.
Being able to experience sexual pleasure, satisfaction, and intimacy when desired.
Being able to communicate about sexual health with others including sexual partners and
healthcare providers.
The phrase “sexual health” encompasses a range of public health and clinical issues
related to prevention of sexually transmitted infections. I use the phrase a lot in my own
work and its widening currency is a welcome new paradigm in our field. In fact, the
concept of sexual health seems to me of fundamental relevance to all aspects of
prevention of sexually transmitted infections.
To be honest, though, all of the talk about sexual health doesn’t seem to have
influenced the day-to-day particulars of our work. Sex still is primarily seen as a set of
risk factors that we counsel against. I am convinced that this perspective on sex and
sexuality as “risk” legitimates the stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections
and contributes to our society’s poisonous intolerance of sexual diversity. A sexual
health perspective incorporates the concept of personal and epidemiologic risks of sex,
but recognizes the pervasive importance of sex in our lives.
However, I’ve begun to wonder if I know what sexual health means in the first place. It’s
a big concept, and maybe it’s natural that definitions seem idealistic, overwrought, and
self-righteous. Consider the well-known working definition of the World Health
Organization:
“Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation
to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual
health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships,
as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of
coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained,
the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.”
There is a lot to agree with in this definition, especially in its recognition of the complex
physical, emotional, mental and social attributes of sexual health, and the anchoring of
sexual health in universal sexual rights. But, I find this definition to be quaintly
admonishing and parental (“…the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual
experiences…”). More importantly, however, the definition is sexually vague. No matter
how many times I’ve read, used, and cited this definition, I can’t derive from it even a
rudimentary vision of how sexual health operates in people’s daily lives. I feel the same
about the more recently wrought definition of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control &
Prevention, particularly because sexual rights and of sexual pleasure are absent from
that sexual health definition.
So, maybe I need to get clearer with myself about what sexual health is. And, sexual
health should be more than just the negatives: not coerced; not discriminated; not
violent. The prevalence of these negatives in many people’s lives tells us how far we
are from achieving a just and equitable society. But I think that sexual health ultimately
requires much more active involvement from all of us, and it seems quite insufficient to
hope that sexual health will arise on its own if coercion, discrimination, and violence are
finally conquered.