Compassionate Reservoirs

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Our Compassionate Reservoirs

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Contents at a Glance
Chapter 1 Our Compassionate Reservoir
Chapter 2 Inspiration over Incapacitation
Chapter 3 Grounded Originality and Stable Authenticity
Chapter 4 NAC: Creating Permanent Change
Chapter 5 Mind's Eye Essence
Chapter 6 The Inspirational Instigator
Chapter 7 Relinquish Struggle with Engagement
Chapter 8 The DREAM Pathway
Chapter 9 The Necessity and Affluence of Servitude
Chapter 10 Emotions Signal Intuitive Actions
Reservoir Outline
Contents
Introduction: Reality, Illusion, and our Compassionate Reservoirs .................................... 8

Chapter 1: Our Compassionate Reservoir......................................................................... 12
Staying in the Zone.................................................................................................... 12
Accessing Our Compassionate Reservoir..................................................................20
Dyer’s Abundance......................................................................................................28
Deposit into our Optimism Bank............................................................................... 30
Full-Tilt Intention ...................................................................................................... 32
Being the King of the Hill..........................................................................................37
True Love...................................................................................................................37
Chapter 2: Inspiration over Incapacitation ........................................................................ 39
Doubt: No Chance, No Way ...................................................................................... 40
The Disease of Dubiousness: Harmful affects of Doubt ........................................... 42
The Strains of Doubt ................................................................................................. 44
A Viciously Violent and Volatile Combination: “Destructive Doubt” and “Preventive
Doubt”........................................................................................................................46
Going the Distance with Inspiration.......................................................................... 51
Chapter 3: Grounded Originality & Stable Authenticity ...................................................55
Authenticity ............................................................................................................... 56
Originality ................................................................................................................. 58
The Convergence of Stability and Groundedness ..................................................... 59
Connecting with the Zeitgeist ....................................................................................63
Severe Questioning.................................................................................................... 64
Compassionate Questioning.......................................................................................65
Determining the Disposition......................................................................................67
The Essence of Personal Impact ................................................................................68
Lacking the Contact ...................................................................................................69
Lacking the Commitment .......................................................................................... 70
Life School Lessons...................................................................................................70
“We live in a five sensory world. This is our learning environment. This is our earth
school” -- Gary Zukav............................................................................................... 70
Chapter 4: Creating Permanent Change.............................................................................73
People Help you Out ................................................................................................. 75
Remaining Connected to People................................................................................75
Invigorating Your Inner Eye...................................................................................... 77
Simple Rundown of NAC..........................................................................................79
Relinquish Struggle with Engagement ...................................................................... 80
Chapter 5: The Mind's Eye Essence.................................................................................. 85

The Essence: Avenue to “Emotional Travel”.............................................................85
Fulcrum of Peace and Prosperity ...............................................................................86
Embracing Liberating Love....................................................................................... 87
Reservoir of Freedom................................................................................................ 89
Appearances: Friend or Foe?..................................................................................... 92
Chapter 6: The Inspirational Instigator.............................................................................. 94
Challenge: A Recipe for Inspiring the Arrogant ........................................................ 94
Eliminating Arrogance: Advanced “Awareness of Moods” Concept ........................ 96
The Relationship of an Instigator .............................................................................. 98
Chapter 7: Relinquish Struggle with Engagement .......................................................... 100
Eradicate Struggle....................................................................................................100
Acquiring Infinite Time with Fusion....................................................................... 101
Knowing Ourselves and Sincere Commitment ....................................................... 101
Sentences of Sincerity ............................................................................................. 103
Recognizing Venues of Impact ................................................................................ 103
Does Change Ever Occur?....................................................................................... 105
Avoid Inverse Desires ..............................................................................................106
Acquiring Personal Fulfillment ............................................................................... 111
Chapter 8: The Dream Pathway ...................................................................................... 114
Access our Dream Pathway .....................................................................................114
Didactic Lessons from Caveman Ancestors ............................................................ 114
20 Million Years of Fine-Tuning..............................................................................116
The Evolution of Dreams ........................................................................................ 117
Dream is Destiny: The Dream Process.................................................................... 119
Discovering the Dream’s Path with DREAM ......................................................... 119
Motivating the Captivating Dream.......................................................................... 121
Accessing the Dream............................................................................................... 122
Creating Dream Confidence.................................................................................... 122
Chapter 9: The Necessity and Affluence of Servitude..................................................... 125
Seizing the Opportunities to Serve.......................................................................... 125
The Focus of a Problem........................................................................................... 126
Contributing with Highly-Evolved Servitude..........................................................127
Multiple Perspectives of Servitude.......................................................................... 129
The Variable Roles of Happiness and Rationality ................................................... 130
Chapter 10: Emotions Signal Intuitive Actions ............................................................... 133
Validating Emotions as Signals to Action................................................................133
The Involuntary Nature of Sincere Emotions ..........................................................135
Using Emotions Advantageously: Avoiding Being Led Astray .............................. 135
Emotions Purely as Signals..................................................................................... 136
Connecting with Positive Environments................................................................. 138
Respecting Intuitive Intentions................................................................................ 140
Intuitive Creativity .................................................................................................. 143
Our Creative Reservoirs .................................................................................................. 147

Compassionate......................................................................................................... 147
Intuitive.................................................................................................................... 147
Creative.................................................................................................................... 148
Compassionate Reservoirs Glossary ............................................................................... 150
Introduction: Reality, Illusion, and our

Compassionate Reservoirs
This book delves into complex themes involving your relationship to your own soul and
the other, different forms of doubt, strengthening question to name a few, but it's soul
goal is to vindicate your relationship with illusion, and commence a burgeoning
relationship with reality. Given that aim, consider this example: If I assume a can of
Pepsi contains harmful, poisonous acid, this would be an example of an illusion. Let's
use this “Pepsi Acid Scenario” and call it PAS.
1. Unconscious Reactions
1. Emotional Reactions --The PAS would generate unconscious emotional
reactions of fear, doubt, uncertainty, panic (about your health), anger (at the
Pepsi Company for bottling such a substance), nervousness, outrage. You
would say to yourself, “hey this might corrode my stomach! I'm afraid” and
things of that nature.
2. Psychological Reactions – The PAS would cause your heart rate to increase,
breathing to increase, hands to tremble, sweet glands to perspire, throat to
become dry, and possibly your body could start to shiver. All of that from
something that isn't even there! There IS no acid in the Pepsi can, remember?
3. Perceptual Reactions – Possibly you could become delirious and your
perception of time could be distorted. You may think evens are happening
faster than they are in reality. Your perception of time may slow down or
speed up. You may start to see colors differently or become delirious and
hallucinate Pepsi cans floating around the room.
2. Conscious Actions
1. Behavioral Actions – You could call the Pepsi Company or write a letter of
complaint in outrage to such a hazardous chemical being put in the Pepsi can.
You could boycott all Pepsi, or even all bottled soda, by never buying Pepsi
again, and throwing out and burning any Pepsi can you see. You could yell
and scream and spread anti-Pepsi can propaganda, while telling everyone you
meet to watch out for possible acid in Pepsi cans.
2. Cognitive Functional Judgment – You could decide that this stress and fear
isn't good for you and choose to never drink Soda again. You would ask
questions like, “Why did this happen to me?”, “Could this happen to other
people?”, “To how many other people as this happened?”
All of those unconscious reactions and conscious actions would occur from the illusion of
believing a Pepsi can is full of acid. Isn't that amazing? Your body would change, your
thought process changes, all of your actions change, simply from an illusion, from
something that really isn't there! These illusions, just like the PAS, are happening to us
all the time in every waking moment of our lives. Believing that love and happiness can
be exhausted in an illusion; believing that causes us to do some pretty strange things and
have a variety of very peculiar habits and characteristic reactions.
The PAS is an illusion. We begin generalizing about the safety of

other cans of soda, and we delete from our “model of soda” the actual ingredients on the
can, which do not include Pepsi. In short, the generalizations and deletions contribute to
the manufacturing of illusion. The model of what we think about Pepsi is really
“illusion” although it aims to resemble reality. Nature is simply the least imperfect, the
least flawed, most dynamically-updated, and “in-tune” model of Ultimate Reality.
Ultimate Reality is the “deep structure” (Bandler & Grinder) to which we all are trying to
model and with which we are all trying to connect, and Nature models and connects with
Ultimate Reality the most efficiently and the most instantantaneously. Ultimate Reality is
neither person, nor place, nor thing. Ultimate Reality, however, is anything but
ambiguous; it's the most lucid, pristinely clean entity-existence imaginable. The very
existence our DNA makes it impossible to connect with the Ultimate Reality directly.
Our perception of Ultimate Reality will never be exact because (in addition to having no
visual, olfactory, kinesthetic, auditory, or gustatory contact with it), our neurological
make-up prevents us from experiencing mere reality in general. Don't get me wrong, the
human experience of the world and reality is immensely complex and rich and exciting.
But if you get technical, our visual perception is limited to 380-680 milli-microns and our
audition is limited in a way that anything less than 20 cycles/sec or more than 20,000
cycles/sec we don't pick up. Ruminate on that. There are billions of sounds and clinks
and clanks and light-wave patterns and colors that our ears and eyes, respectively, do not
have the “machinery”, the ingrained hardware to pick up. This is a fact. What our eyes
perceive is merely a representation of reality, and what our brain interprets from those
visual perceptions, is, in turn, another representation. What we then share to people
describe what our eyes “downloaded” and brain then interpreted is limited to our
linguistic mastery. So you see our experience, and our descriptions of our experience,
are based off reality, is a linguistic model-representation which has been built off of a
mental simulacrum, which has been built off of a neurological model, which is built off
reality, which constantly tries connect with Ultimate Reality.
It goes without saying; each of our existences is a individualized teetering Matryoshka

doll, each with its own colors and patterns. A Matryoshka doll is a Russian set of dolls of
decreasing size placed inside one another, but each of those “dolls” is a model, an
illusion. Even though it strives to be reality, and its purpose isn't to neither trick nor
delude us, each of those dolls – those representational models – are merely an illusion
based on an illusion. The purpose of this discourse is, in no way, to denigrate our
experience reality as something vapid or disconnected, not at all. Our experience of
reality as humans is remarkably rich and vibrant, but in understanding this material it will
become even more colorful and vibrant because we'll see more of reality our model will
create more choices.
Obviously, the most undiluted reference for reality with which we, as humans, have to
work is our neurological perceptions. Neurological perceptions are our most direct link
to experiencing reality. This is why exercise and physiology are so vital to connecting
with Ultimate Reality. You synchronize yourself with Nature by activating your
neurological perceptions of things. Why do people who trip on acid or who watch TV
nonstop in excess amounts, to use the phrase, “lose touch with reality”? Because they
become disconnected from their neurological perceptions due to the drug or due to
extreme lethargy, respectively.
So as we frame the goals of this book, let's have the underlying agenda to be the
clarification of all of our “dolls”, our model-representations, so that we can experience
reality and Nature in their least diluted form. The key to living a rich and colorful– as
opposed to a dilute – world is our Compassionate Reservoir. Let's commence a joyous
journey of creative understanding by becoming more aware of how we process and
interpret and perceive, and from that awareness we can dissect our intrinsic identity and
the extract the essence our personal reality through our Compassionate Reservoir.
Chapter 1: Our Compassionate Reservoir

Staying in the Zone
When we learn to love other beings through strokes of authentic gestures, we access
our own compassionate source. The source for compassion actually is inexhaustible. So
many people commit themselves to "hoarding," "claiming," or "coveting" their own love
and happiness. Now, that hoarding, claiming, coveting, is an unconscious reaction,
specifically an emotional and perceptual reaction, to the illusion that love and happiness
can be depleted. The reality is that they are inexhaustible, but people operating under the
illusion of finite love and finite happiness, will have a reactionary tendency to panic and
“hoard” that love and happiness. It is simply instantly replenished after a short “dip” into
the compassionate reservoir and some centering and meditation.
We must never forget the inexhaustible nature of happiness and love, and that they are
merely derivatives from this compassionate reservoir. Our compassionate source,
however, can never be diminished. Even if we have been “vilified by a stranger, insulted
by a boss, disparaged by loved ones, or even considered a failure by close friends or
family -- any external situation -- we still can access our reservoir of compassion.
The Compassionate Reservoir beholds the “nature substance” and simultaneously IS that
substance. Think of the reservoir like an organ, (but a spiritual one). You don't just talk
about the enzymes of the liver, you talk about the liver, but that refers to the enzymatic
juice, the actual organ, and all of its fluids and properties.
. This reservoir actually illuminates our existence. When we are successful and
competent, other people like encouraging and complimenting us. This has only to do
with origins of esteem. If you get your confidence from others heralding you or
providing praise, you're screwed because those are fleeting and when you're down, so are
the encouragements; they're only there when you're already successful (when you don't
need them). Encouragement should, therefore, be handled mechanically – politely,
“thank you” etc. -- but it should never effect your emotions, although it too frequently
does. The healthiest relationship with encouragement is such one that external
encouragement has an apathetic effect and all true encouragement originates from within.
However, if we slip up (which happens all the time, even to the most competent people)
our expected reverence from others plummets. Again in layman’s terms, this is
somewhat similar, but in no way, directly related to “basing confidence on external
motivation”. It's not a fear of non-originality, but rather a question of efficacy. If you’ve
read about Maslow and Tony Robbins and all these other theories of external motivation
theories, you mustn’t directly correlate those theories to this book. If you continue to
seek self-help remedies, obviously those other theories didn't work for you because
they're still reading trying to find something that does! Therefore, don’t clump these ideas
with the ones that didn't work; they'll most likely be clumped into a ball of inefficiency.
Humans remember things through the cognitive process of creating mental “schemata”.
A cognitive schemata is just a map of interlinked ideas. So if you read how to cook
jumbo Cajun shrimp, you’d likely clump that in the same mental schemata as roasted
duck and recipes for omelets. This book is all about trying to start a new cognitive
“neurological” schemata that won't get cognitively categorized with any old non-
functional schemata. Catch my drift? I'm not a hypnotist, but this possesses similarities
to The "Milton-model." This is a “set of linguistic patterns Milton Erickson used to
induce trance and other states in people. Milton teaches you how to be artfully vague,
which is what you use to do therapeutic hypnosis with someone.”(4) This is no about
hypnosis, but manufacturing a remedy that truly, authentically works. Therefore, it
mustn’t be cognitively clumped with remedies that proved ineffective in the past.
The plummeting our expected reverence makes external references to acknowledge our
capacity an unstable selection for support. External reference – again, that “new
terminology word” – is manufacture a new cognitive image of what an external source of
confidence (someone giving you a gold star) could be to paint a better picture. Thus,
expected external reverence operates as a great motivator -- yes – but as a source for
stable references – reliable sources of confidence? Certainly not. We must access
listening to our inner voice so that we learn to trust in that more effectively and wisely.
“Access listening to our inner voice” sounds like circular logic, but when you open the
door way to that accessing process, you realize that your inner voice isn’t some “magic
trick”; instead it becomes a source of epiphany and the process of listening to your inner
voice becomes highly illustrative of your soul’s intention. Therefore, accessing and the
actual listening to your inner voice reveal soul-level intention and epiphanic
uniquenesses, respectively; both stages of that process (the accessing and the listening)
hold incredible importance in acquiring a familiarity with your compassionate reservoir.
Inner voice is a our true voice for our soul, but not our “being”. “Being” is a HUGE
glossary word, but it's not in my glossary and not in my work. Being -- what is a being?
“Being” lacks tangibility. This book carefully uses the word “human” in reference to our
embodiment; that's a definite, tangible concrete, noun, “being” is a gerund, verb, noun --
it's too abstract to use in abstract definitions! You have to define the abstract with the
simple and concrete, and you use the abstract to elaborate the simple. So “human” refers
to our embodiment, what some would refer to as “being” from henceforth. Inner voice
can quickly illuminate opportunities in our life.
When we create opportunities for our external voice to be uplifted and authenticated only
by external compliments, we lose touch with our reservoir of compassion because we are
not acting from a source of clarity. What do you think an opportunity means? It means
manufacturing a position of choice – that's opportunity – a favorable or advantageous
circumstance. If you have choices, your situation is propitious; it’s opportune. I'm
referring to actually creating those opportunities and then you can do whatever you want
with them, be it vindication, authentication, or delegation, whatever. If choices,
manufactured from opportunities, occur without the interaction of the compassionate
reservoir they exist as “hollow options”, lacking the nourishment of your full connection.
Connecting with choices without your compassionate reservoir, is akin to climbing in a
car, getting all revved up to go to some place, and you’ve “taken the choice” to follow X
course on the map to destination Y, but there’s no engine in the car. You need your
compassionate reservoir to genuinely act upon choices; otherwise you just have that
“hollow option” that can’t be activated. If you plug in your compassionate reservoir, you
automatically act from a source of clarity.
Even more so, when we promote change in our lives by allowing rather than forcing
{{allowing what…events to follow their own character, etc.?}}},
We grow internally as well as externally. Allowing is the highest level of performance;

“allowing” implies peak-level performance. At the highest level: wu wei (Chinese for
action non-action) is the Zen of just “doing things without contemplating a plan, without
thinking” – instantaneous, flawless action. In basketball this is going “unconscious” in
Japan it's Satori. These terms – wu wei, going unconscious, experience Satori, being “in
the zone” – all refer to the peak state achieved when a person simply “allows”.
When we allow things to happen, we cease to resist, struggle or conform our life to some
ideal -- it simply becomes its own ideal. When we continue to maintain our convictions
and don't allow them to change, when necessary Running is an activity that doesn't
necessarily relieve stress, but wards off those external forces if to which I succumbed,
would tarnish my identity and maintained convictions. in other words, running is a
challenge, but it dispels the external forces and allows me to maintain my convictions.
You never want to purposefully create struggle for oneself. Changing with change is the
changeless state (says Bruce lee). You don't “polarize it” and every instance of a decision
say “should a fish or cut bait” should I succumb or maintain convictions, you just adapt
and in the process of adapting make those decisions. The succumbing/maintaining is a
finger and a joint of the whole hand-wave of “adapting”. Should I be answer this or you?
How do you define adaptation? How do you think define when you hold or fold? That's
what this book is about, making people cognizant of the little teeny weenie cognitive
subroutines that go on every second of each day, that if changed, can shape your future,
your life, you destiny we create struggle for ourselves.
Is struggle “bad”? Struggle is bad. Struggle creates unnecessary suffering. Challenge is

good; challenging may create suffering, but it is “applied suffering”; it cuts to the chase
and creates character and worthwhile experiences. What about struggling against those
external forces that would keep us from developing and realizing our internal selves??}}
However, we must avoid, and if avoidance is impossible, battle those external forces that
keep us from developing and realizing our internal selves, otherwise, struggling with our
identity will ensue. The problem is that some of those forces are people that you've
trusted in the past, friendships, family even. What do you do (this isn't rhetorical here)
when your own family or friendships, fall into the category of an external force that keeps
you from developing and realizing your internal self? How do you confirm that for
yourself and then do you just abandon that relationship? Avoiding struggle is good, but if
there's some disagreement, some tension, some discord, between a force and developing
your internal self, it should be met with great conviction. What's an example of such a
force with you? For me, it's definitely probably with some teachers I’ve had in the past.
We must distinguish struggle from challenge and believe the latter is healthiest.
For example, I remember being in an extremely challenging computer science class.

Everyone else in the class had already taken Calculus 1, 2, and some had taken 3. I had
only taken pre-calculus! I described my situation to the teacher: “I feel like everyone else
has a strong foundation of brick, mortar, and solidity, while my foundation seems to be
made out of toothpicks. Everyday when you add on new "material" or "construction", I
feel like my whole idea of computers is going to collapse!" He understood my situation;
and I soon realized the best solution. Let it collapse. As crazy as that sounds now, it was
the best solution for me at the time. I didn’t try to maintain a delusion; I started learning
Java programming from ground one -- I didn't even use advanced graphics like everyone
else, but used a black-and-white command line interface! I soon validated, as I had
expected, that much of what I had learned from the previous computer science class
hadn't really sunk in. I soon had the empowering feeling of what muscles undergo --
getting torn and then rebuilt stronger -- with knowledge. As I tore down my teetering
structure of previous computer science knowledge and started from scratch going at my
own pace, I quickly found the gaps that had been missing and learned it better than I ever
could have, opening new doors to clarity.
I was prolific; it created copious amounts of clarity, prolific clarity. “It was prudent
and propitious to destroy what was wavering and unstable”. If I had been resilient and
valiantly remained obdurate, stubbornly piling on more knowledge to the teetering
structure of obfuscated knowledge, I would have unconsciously struggled, struggled
behind the scenes, struggled without realizing I was struggling. Actively struggling would
be the valiant -- “I know this is tough, but I'll grit my teeth and hit the grindstone and
tough it out” mantra. Passively struggling is the “succumbing now and then and not
really honoring the challenge or even admitting to yourself that the gaps in computer
knowledge were going to be challenging”. Distinguishing between active (embracing the
challenge) and passive (discarding the difficulty) forms of overcoming obstacles is
crucial to achieving our long-term goals. In my case, valiantly – resiliently – toughing it
out and trying to learn everything as I went along was scrambling, which proved to be
chaotic and problematic.
Have you tried walking with fresh gum on your shoe while carrying a million papers?
You aren't aware of the gum, but your gait changes and becomes stilted because the sole’s
stickiness (pun somewhat intended with all this “soul talk”). You would passively
struggled in such a scenario. You would be “challenged” by the gum, but it would just be
a minute nuisance that created a bit of a struggle.
Choosing to "allow" whatever needed to happen -- in this case, starting over from scratch
-- to happen was extremely frightening. But after embracing that "allowing," I found
myself able to approach the re-learning without frustration. I would have been infinitely
frustrated if I hadn't "allowed" the relearning process to follow its own course. As a result
of “allowing”, I peacefully learned in a didactic, productive environment.
I developed a new relationship to learning with meditative edification as the core

resolver for forms of challenge? How would a meditation student learn? What would he
learn? He'd learn tranquility and peace. He wouldn't learn formulas and facts. (Note:
there's nothing wrong with formulae nor facts because such can often lead to healthy
logic and meditation!)
A nonproductive atmosphere of growth would generate random growth, sporadic growth

-- to get medical, “cancerous growth”. A culture peitry dish of some HIV virus would be
an atmosphere of growth, but, obviously an unproductive one. Plus, schools – most all
educational institutions – consider themselves atmospheres of growth, but with stilting
methods that train more than edify; that growth is nonproductive, it becomes a set of facts
you forget. So the meditative edification of learning, through self-teaching, how to
overcome obstacles, all while absorbing the actual material being taught was two-fold
learning, a simultaneous process, creating productive, inspiring change.
By refusing to alter our patterns, learning chunks, or lifestyles when they have become
too static and actually indict us – in short, when we refuse to admit our limitations -- we
dynamically stimulate critical fallacy in our life. The presentation of “packaged” speech,
such as “dynamically stimulate critical fallacy” is inspiring, but can be bewildering.
Trying to avoid the latter but keep the former. That specific phrase means: we catalyze
and initiate a chain reaction of events (dynamically stimulate) a sequence of obstacles
that are difficult to overcome. Yet, they are vital and critical, like a critical mass. When
we deny the capacity to grow, adapt, and change -- one of the prominent aspects that
makes us human -- we deny ourselves essential part of our humanity. -- the capacity to be
energized with human energy
The concept of non-human energy can sound bewildering to some, but look at Pico Della
Mirandolla's “Oration on the Dignity man”. According to that 18th century Italian
philosopher, man can rise to an energy level of an angel or god, or to a human energy
level, or to an animal energy level. Our humanity and godly energy is most potent --
most highly concentrated -- in our Reservoir of Compassion. Remember, the
compassionate reservoir is not love; rather, love is a derivative of the compassionate
reservoir.
This can only be accessed if we trust our own intuition and judgment. When we attempt
to do things that challenge us and expand our consciousnesses, we call up to the inner
God in all of us -- the benevolent spirit that is omniscient and omnipotent. We realize our
essential selves. But can you really call up to our “inner God”? Sure, why not? Without
getting too theological: If god is omnipresent (one of those “deity prerequisites, typically,
along with omniscience and omnipresent), God would be within us and outside of us –
certainly within reach, certainly within “shouting” or “calling” distance. Tapping into this
essential substance occurs through our compassionate reservoir.
The more we learn about our capacity to allow -- and by allowing, infuriate the
powers that try to control us—our new-found selves, we reach a new level of reality and
self-awareness. We must remember that the reconciliation is no big episodic
reconciliation. Reconciliation, here, means simply “the flow of things”, the
“reconciliating goal”, and the best goal, the goal that reconciles and covers all the bases.
Reconciliation is a common everyday “progress word”, but some people have an
enormous amount of meaning plugged into it. What is reconciliation for you? Reservoir
could be a casual everyday word that a plumber uses, but if I hear, I resonate this entire
book with that word. Reconciliation, in this sense, is a pure “energy word” of
empowerment word for you. Reconciliation is all about turning our interest inward --
towards cultivating inner peace -- to promote a tranquil resolution of harmony, all the
while staying emotionally connected and authentic on an outward level. To say the least,
it’s a tremendously impressive juggling act.
When thrive within reconciliation, you keep your inward growth effulgent and thriving,
but still, simultaneously, keep all eyes on the external progress-image-success game. Our
lives should be burgeoning conglomerations of hope, receiving, allowing and grace. By
making certain these simple qualities -- receiving and allowing –reside in us, we create a
beautiful, new openness and dynamism in our life.
Dynamism is one of those words I kind of loosely plug into things. Dynamism is
continuous change; my mantra is changing with the change to produce the changeless
state.
The higher we set our sense of accomplishment and recognition on an outside source, the
more easily we lose touch with our core, which is the spiritual switch, activating our
Compassionate reservoir.
It’s absolutely vital to juggle between our image and our identity. The higher standards,
greater expectations from others can sometimes detract from the passion-identity-love
(PIL) classification. The success-image-progress (PIS) is the external image, the hype,
you create. With too much image and hype and not enough identity-grounding, the easier
it is to get swept up in that glorified tornado of fame, and then “Shoot! Who the hell am
I?” bewilderingly settles at our core. If you move and dance in the external world
drawing from your compassionate reservoir, you never lose touch with your internal core
and always enjoy the rollercoaster of external world success. In fact, tapping into our
compassionate reservoir is the only known method of simultaneously nourishing our
happiness and identity, while moving forward with success and image. Our
compassionate reservoir is the interlinking, essential keystone between those incredibly
complex focuses. Our spiritual core is our “switch”; it's a place of centering where you
can galvanize your compassionate reservoir. Note: I know “galvanization”, Ultimate
Reality, Nature, etc. are new terms, but they were the underlying framework and must be
understood to comprehend the nature of this book.
Accessing Our Compassionate Reservoir
When we access our reservoir of compassion, we inherently access freedom. We

enable events to occur as completely and as simply 1 as possible. What is a complete or
incomplete event? You go to the store set out to milk, salad, and bread. You forgot the
grocery list, and, instead, come back with milk, salad, and soup. That's an incomplete
1 If this work were by some other author, “naturally” would be an appropriate synonym for “simply”, but
completely and simply works best here, because of the enormous amount of meaning I put on Nature.
Naturally, here, may get confusing. I don't want the reader to tie in Nature-ally, just contingency, follow-
through of events that results from tapping into our compassionate reservoir.
event, for example. The event occurred, but with incompleteness. Initiating and
executing a task by drawing from our compassionate reservoir, we naturally think more
comprehensively and do not experience distraction. Our compassionate reservoir
grounds and channels our focus to the task at hand. Have you ever felt “skittish” or
finicky, unable to concentrate? A quick meditation on the compassionate reservoir
quickly remedies a lack of attention by providing certifying grace and accented epiphany
in every endeavor. You wouldn’t feel distraction if you were discovering a new species
or something extremely rare, right? Well, the compassionate reservoir makes every
experience extremely rare, unique, and a gem from which your mind will not deter! In
short, our compassionate reservoir makes every endeavor fascinating and infinitely
engaging. As a result, actions will more likely follow through and have complete
contingency.
This is not "copping out," nor is it "not trying." It is the epitome of trying your best
because it creates incredible clarity in our attentiveness and inner knowing. The positive
result is inner knowing! You have that inner confidence from trying your best. Trying
your best doesn't always produce external success, but it creates inner knowing, which is
inner passion – a form of inner world success (PIL success).
Accessing our Compassionate Reservoir allows us to move into state of clarifying

compassionate love of other people; it naturally evokes compassion and moves one into a
state of clarifying compassionate love of other people.
When you love another person, honestly and truthfully, you liberate them. Think about
it: How do you feel when someone tells you that you are an amazing person? An
attractive person? Most of us, unless we have some negative emotional wiring to
compliments, will feel enriched and a boost of confidence will surge through us upon
hearing praise. We feel liberated from doubt when someone extols our achievements. It's
easy to make someone feel encouraged. But what about making another feel loved?
How do you make someone genuinely feel uplifted, nourished, excited, and possibly
charmed? This can be complicated. We feel liberated around authentic love.
Loving another person -- truthfully and respectfully -- is a tricky process, though. Many
people become possessive with their love, which makes such a relationship the opposite
of attractive and liberating. While authentic love is the most liberating form of
expression, possessive love can be a curse. Possessive Love is an imprisoning and absurd
form of love resulting an a debilitating debacle of misery and depression where one party
“waits” for vindication and the other party is never satisfied. -
More so than providing people with liberating ideas, contracts for freedom, or methods to
try to "free their own emotions", simply loving another person will provide an
empowering source of connection to your Compassionate Reservoir. For awhile, I spent
my time in school like most other people -- reading the homework, writing the written
assignments, and using my spare time to watch TV, relax, hang out with friends, or do
more "passive" things in my life. I soon realized, however, that these didn't nourish my
soul. Because my soul was incredibly un-entertained with these passive activities, it was
“absent” most of the time and my presence, resultantly, felt empty. By “absent”, I mean
in the absurdist, “waiting for Godot”, “not all there” kind of absence. If you're passive on
a soul-level, you’re absent, you're Casper. You are there, but your presence is empty,
vacant...absent. So I would feel empty, my presence felt absent all because my soul felt
absent. So I began to embrace a host of more active events, including writing and
speaking and communicating my goals, dreams, and interests. Quickly, I found mental
and emotional doorways opening. I realized I was more extroverted than I had been and
that my life felt more meaningful and productive. When I before had denied the
existence of a Compassionate Reservoir, I began to manufacture change from it -- my
own change and the engagement of compassionate change in others--by inciting
emotions.
Manufacturing change utilizes dynamism – the instantaneous change adaptation.

When you do that, when you manufacture a bodily change that is dynamic, that is
instantaneous, it, by nature, has to be in part emotionally inciting.
I realized that I felt most accomplished when I spoke openly. Speaking openly is
communicating with candidness, honesty, and commitment to what you are saying. Most
importantly, you decide the message and the delivery of your message from your own
choice, not what you perceive others' expectations to be. Now, granted, if people expect
you to be engaging and you are, you do not violate the definition of “open speaking”.
The main aspect of speaking openly is that it is inspiring and its motivation is derived
from your compassionate reservoir, with candidness, honesty, and commitment to what
you are saying.
When you speak openly, you are full of enthusiasm and an invigoration to people.
Before, I only was as animated and enthusiastic as I wanted to be, but this “free reign”
was limited to the amount of freedom with which others were comfortable. In other
words, my speaking was my own style, but the magnitude of free speaking was still based
on the other person's demeanor.
The method of delivery was my choosing up to the limit that others would allow
me to interact. In other words, I only had as much free reign as others' demeanors would
allow.
I would read people and "gauge" how wild and excited I could get about speaking
to them (which was an authentic feeling) without causing them to feel uncomfortable. I
was limiting my own capacity for love depending on if the other person was "open" to it.
Ubuntu, the south African ideology, of which I am a strong believer, lumps

everyone's well-being together so that helping another relieve pain is directly helping
yourself, and helping yourself is directly helping others. In that sense, considering others
reactions is a very important part of altruism and love in general. However, when you
“read” others emotions and estimate what level of conversational freedom they will be
comfortable with, and in doing so, limit yourself, you hurt the listener and yourself
because you aren't delivering with your maximum, linguistic, literary, communicational
mastery.
If you're looking for a long-term relationship or a marriage, gauging this

willingness to love back of the other person is important. However, in a conversation,
such estimation isn't necessary. The conversation maintains equilibrium. Equilibrium in
this sense refers to the amount of conversational freedom felt by one is also felt by the
other. The amount of conversational stiltedness or trepidation that is felt by you, is also
felt by them, and vice versa. whether or not the person affiliates themselves with giving
and compassion.
It's about trepidation and reluctance in conversation. I was as free and dynamic
and engaging as could be, but only around the right people. People that were open to
liberating, evocative conversations. This put me in a position of playing the waiting
game. Very unhealthy for someone who likes to carpe diem. This behavior – this waiting
game – occurs with people all the time. For me it was conversational, but for others it
may be business success. You wait until you are around other successful entrepreneurs to
shine, but if you're around losers, you'll stoop to their level. The purpose of this book is
to cultivate a relationship with your compassionate reservoir that is so strong that all of
this “chameleon” -- morphing to whomever you're around – behavior ceases, and you can
always communicate with the greatest dynamism, conduct business with the most
success, keep yourself healthy regardless of the environment. How ridiculous is it to be
the healthiest person around, but if you go near a group that lives off of candy bars, to
sacrifice your higher nutritional goals. This is much more “distinguishing self from the
other” than it is just knowing thyself because, with the syndrome I'm describing, you do
know yourself, you just curtail, suppress, short-circuit, and mitigate that successful self to
the limitations of others. This is somewhat similar to groupthink and conformity. If
everyone jumps off the bridge, would you? If everyone shows sign of conversational
reluctance, would you hold back, too? People scoff at the first question. Obviously they
wouldn't plummet off a bridge, and yet everyone commits the kind of conversational
conformity, or business success conformity, or athletic prowess conformity indicated by
the second question.
You have to look at your relationship with yourself and others like a bubble, not
in its disparateness or detachment, but in its modularity. In computer science, modular
means a program that can be moved around and put in other places and it still functions
and operates in its optimal level. We need to have this mobility and ability to be self-
contained, so that you can wield tremendous success and joy and creativity and
intelligence – a plethora of fantastic, amazing qualities – within yourself; you can
embody those, and still have access to those enriching qualities regardless of your
company, regardless of being immersed in losers or champions. The way to do this is
with your compassionate reservoir. Your compassionate reservoir is the key to all of your
success dreams. It’s the solution that dissolves any conversational timidity or social
stutter or denounces any obstacle or overcomes any challenge.
I'll use an example of a fairly common, but unfairly limiting social habit – a
stutter. People who stutter could have stilted speech because of some mechanical reason
-- their tongue or teeth line up in a way that prevents pronunciation difficult. However,
the root of a stutter is almost always emotional, and has nothing to do with bodily
vocalization problems. The typical cause of a vocal stutter is fear. When people were
younger, they were scolded, or chided, or discouraged when they said some things, so
they then, later in life, become so conversationally reluctant that they develop a stutter.
The key source of this problem? External references for validity. If a stutterer drew from
his or her compassionate reservoir only, the stutter would vanish. Because stuttering is
caused by fear of some external reaction from others in saying the wrong thing, if you
motivate your speech from your compassionate reservoirs, a stutter instantly dissolves.
The logic behind this is clear. Stutter is caused by external source of fear. Speaking from
your compassionate reservoir is speaking from an internal source of motivation,
creativity, and judgment. Therefore, galvanizing your compassionate reservoir and
speaking, dissolves a stutter.
Now expand “stutter” as a metaphor and plug in any problem or obstacle of bad
habit you'd like to dissolve. Communicating from your compassionate reservoir dissolves
those fears!
That is the unique thing about love. It is yours and only yours to give. Loving
another person may provoke a reaction in them -- of loving back, nervousness,
excitement etc. -- but only you can feel the love you experience. For this reason, be true
to your feelings. If you feel it, don't hold it back!
Contributing from your Compassionate Reservoir by Framing

Accessing your Reservoir of Compassion and sharing it with another person is
extraordinarily liberating for both parties. While you don't exactly “share” your
compassionate reservoir, because it is self-contained, you never “divvy it up”, but you
can contribute from it in a way that is a mutualistic sharing. In the presence of the
compassionate reservoir, both parties are liberated from fear, delivered from doubt. You
exhibit the deepest kind of love -- sheer excitement and exuberance for being around a
person, maybe even awe with their presence -- and share it openly. This kind of
expression allows us to frame our experience. Framing is working backwards. It is
examining the end product -- the goal -- and working towards it. If we frame our day to
"go to bed happy," we will do everything in our day so that "end result" frame is met.
You can do this with writing (, with exercise (to feel thoroughly exerted), and with
relationships (to have fully shared your love and exuberance).
The trick is to embrace this deeply liberating form of love together. This way, we
learn to associate ourselves with the freedom as a connected pair. When you feel
exuberant or happy, don't choose to express it, which merely stymies and stifles the
magnificence of the reaction. Instead, simply respond and the most natural emotions of
grace, joy, and happiness will be emanate from you. If you try to communicate your
enthusiasm, it quickly looses its authenticity. Being alive and in the moment is about
encouraging yourself for general openness and disowning precise conversational goals
(conversation with a “purpose”). Such goals can inhibit the cooperative flow of knowing
how connected you are with the source of knowing. The source of knowing provides a
dynamic awareness -- it is accessing your inner divinity, which is an aspect of your inner
God, which is of course, beheld by the Compassionate Reservoir that all-knowing all-
powerful being. Jesus accessed this inner source of wisdom most efficiently. Einstein
accessed the all-knowing component of this inner God to open doorways that lead to his
comprehension of theories of physics that would completely alter our perspective of the
Universe. Like Copernicus in the 1500s who accessed this inner God to comprehend the
validity of a sun-centered, not the accepted norm of an earth-centered, universe, all of us
can make amazing discoveries by connecting to the conduit of inner knowing.
Copernicus had to use his inner knowing to calculate the heliocentrism.

Copernicus's paradigmatic shift was one of the greatest the world has known. How else
was he able to go against what all esteemed scientists of the day had claimed and
resurrect the truth other than by accessing ingenuity from his compassionate reservoir –
the most prolifically creative source?
The awareness of the future -- a willingness to accept the present, and the certainty
of past events provide us with the capacity to know and understand our peaceful sources
of recognition. When we cultivate and cherish the happiness and the complex emotions
in life, we acknowledge our creative selves. When we nourish ourselves with inner
knowing, we nourish our entire soul, and framing comes naturally to us.
Take time in your day to practice framing. Framing is a tip designed by

inspirational coach Jim Fannin[1] to create a goal for a performance – whether that
“performance” is day, a presentation, or a phone call, ask yourself "What do I want these
people to think when they walk away from the meeting?" or "What do I want to feel after
this presentation?". If you apply this idea of framing to each week, month, and year,
your access to your authentic verisimilitudes will be clarifying and resourceful because
you will know what you want to get out of the activity before it even commences. You
will have your objectives declared and will have a focus and aim, which naturally
inspires in the first place, either way! Even if your framing is something as simple as
going to bed happy, you only need to focus on the middle work to achieve that end goal.
So it is not the ends that justifies the means, but rather, the framing that creates the ends,
and then your process which creates the means. {{Move Framing to the opening?
Doesn’t this repeat earlier??}}
The separation of the ends and the means into two distinct entities like this is
actually very Buddhist. The Buddhist will not separate things into a process of means
and an end result of “ends”, but embrace the entire proceeding, and look at suffering
(dukkha) and enlightenment as things that are part of the entire life process. Having this
outlook is very liberating because it causes us to slow down and embrace the problem!
Aldous Huxley, in “Ends and Means” wrote about how people know what they
want – ‘liberty, peace, justice, and brotherly love.’ Which has been agreed upon, but the
means of acquiring that end hasn’t been agreed upon. People are all going to the same
mountaintop but don’t agree on the same trail, and use different trails in respect to
difference in religion, politics, philosophy, and other ideology. In short, the means justify
the ends (most of the time), but each individual crafts their own individual mean to reach
the mutual end.
Dyer’s Abundance
Say I want to feel good whenever anyone tries to convince you that your desires are
futile” -- Wayne Dyer
Wayne Dyer believes that we must make the choice to let go of that lifetime of beliefs
and begin activating thoughts right now that allow you to feel good: “This way we can
encourage the connection to the omniscient, all-powerful, completely benevolent soul of
giving and completion. Wanting to feel good is synonymous with wanting to feel God.
Remember: God is good, and all that God created was good”. This could get a little too
biblical for some people, but recognizing that the Compassionate Reservoir is this source
– a connection to the ultimate goodness – is crucial for practicing connection to your
individuality.
Dyer believes in a pure and limitless energy field called intention. To access this field of
intention, Dyer says, we must eliminate ego. “Ego-checking allows you to discover the
power house of intention. Low-energy is letting your ego take over a situation.” High-
energy is moving toward the universal spirit. The ways in which we draw from
motivation without our Compassionate Reservoir that I spoke of earlier never involves
ego. It is always drawn from a higher energy source and prolifically inspires the
connection to a resourceful place of knowing, then he more quickly we learns to associate
ourselves with inner peace, the happier we become as individuals.
The “zone” is a pop psychologist's term for the state of mind, the emotional
alignment, and the activation of the inner belief system so that we are most alert, ready,
aware. You have the most potential for success when you're “in the zone”. Jim Fannin
created a bunch of tips for staying in the zone – whether that be a compassionate zone of
giving, a competitive zone of self-determination, or an intellectual zone of brain stamina
– that help you maintain focus and ensure success. One of his famous tips was the “90-
Second Rule.” This remarkably brilliant insight revolves around the fact that if you have
not seen someone you care about in over two hours of time, the first 90 seconds is the
most important time to show that you value them. Just imagine how much of an impact
these 90 seconds has over a few days of not seeing a person, a few months, a few years!
The result is that this window of time when you first make eye contact with people is the
most poignant time to convey admiration and respect for that person. It is like the time
when the basketball players walk from the locker room to the court, you only have about
90 seconds to try to get autographs from them before they start playing. The same is true
for friendships, business relationships, and general camaraderie – focus on the first 90
seconds to show respect, this is where respect is most concentrated and is recognized
most easily. Fannin says we need to “Walk the garden a little, rather than putting your
nose immediately to the grindstone in the morning.” Just think about it, when you
haven’t seen someone in a long time, do you feel happier, more trustworthy, and engaged
with that person if they run up and give you a hug, joking, and making references to your
relationship, or someone who distantly waves or says a terse, “Hi”? The relationship is
strengthened most during the initial greeting of it. That is where we must do most of our
relationship nurturing work.
Fannin discusses how champions, leaders, and successful people enjoy problem-
solving. Think about it, what if your definition of a problem was not “something
frustratingly aggravating that impedes my time” but a fun puzzle to solve! You would
look forward to problems. Champions and successful people actually love trouble, they
look forward to it an embrace it. A problem or a difficult situation shouldn’t be looked at
something to get done quickly, this only produces panic. Instead, a tough climb in a
mountain bike ride, a demanding project in business, or a challenging read should be
embraced and focused on, which causes you to relax, instead of panic.
Additionally, Fannin reminds us to do the 5-second rule after a performance. The

framing shapes our performance, the 90-second rule initiates it and sets you up for a
warm, interactive engagement with people, and the 5-second rule encourages you to keep
on keeping on, regardless of the outcome. If you were giving a speech, running a race, or
completing a test, always make a deposit into you, as Fannin calls it, Optimism Bank by
saying, “Wow, that was awesome” and know you always did your best – that is what
champions say. You can always validate you did your best even if the activity didn’t’ go
as planned. If you forgot your notes and stuttered during the speech, you did the best you
could without notes. If you didn’t train enough and got beat at the swim competition, you
did your best given the training. This is not an excuse to slack off, but an incentive to
remain motivated and encouraged to keep on improving and authentically unify your
prolific achievements.
In short, you stay in the zone and make deposits into your optimism bank by
galvanizing your compassionate reservoir. This could be akin to “the ultimate form of
control is no control.” While I believe that to be true, and something worthy to write
about – for certain – that's not exactly at what I was driving.
Deposit into our Optimism Bank
The idea of an Optimism Bank account is extraordinary because it creates a

surplus of optimism. A “surplus” of optimism is something that creates general, over-all
confidence, and it is something to which we can turn in times of calamity. The optimism
bank is simultaneously a life line for emergencies and a trusty shoulder on which to lean
and learn. We should always make deposits into our optimism bank account. The
greatest thing about this account is that can be funded instantly. The optimism bank
account has an infinite capacity, so, while you can have a shortage of optimism, you can
never max out with optimism. While your optimism bank has infinite capacity, the
positive outlook is not indelible and you can have a shortage or drought of it. You do
have to put time into replenishing optimism and nourishing it. You nourish your
optimism bank account simply by galvanizing your compassionate reservoir. An infinite
capacity does not mean an indelible capacity. You can never max out with optimism, but
you can have a shortage a drought of it. Simply by saying something encouraging to
yourself, try to add at least 10 positive comments to this “account” per day and see how
much more confidently buoyant, your mood becomes and how much more expansive and
positive your day becomes. I guarantee you. You will generate more happiness, clarity,
and confidence than you thought possible because you will be liberating your emotions
with positive self-regard. This liberation embraces your personality and essence and
encourages invigoration from a motivational source.
It’s important to note that the ultimate form of control is admitting you have no
control. This way you stay “in the game” but with the highest amount of flexibility.
When you can fluctuate, adapt, and respond to the situation, opponent, or circumstance
like a sapling blowing in a strong wind, you never are at risk of breaking or cracking,
because you bend with grace. Think of a rigid Oak as someone who states they have total
control – they are rigid, rooted, and stagnantly resilient. By “stagnantly resilient” I mean
that they create a source inflexibility because they are so unyielding in their beliefs. In a
strong storm (a situation with a lot of force) the Oak tree’s inability to change with the
circumstances and its permanence in being rooted, causes it to crack and fall. The
adaptive sapling, on the other hand, whips around in the storm, but, because of its
yielding elastic nature, it succeeds. It is also important to be sloppy and overly yielding,
ultimately "doing nothing". A fine balance must be struck. On the contrary, because it
has to adapt and change so much more frequently than the static, inert Oak, it is
performing constant alterations and adaptations to revitalize its placement and stay
harmoniously liberated.
Full-Tilt Intention
Dyer focuses on the importance of exercise: “It’s movement, it’s circulation, and staying
as physically active as you possibly can is important. Exercise has an enormous variety
of beneficial impacts ranging from effects that you wouldn't even begin to fathom. A
perfect example is the relationship with jogging and bone density. Now here's a
correlation you wouldn't expect to see everyday! They say milk does a body good? Well,
running does a body better!
Joggers have stronger bones. Think of the astronauts in space that must vigorously
exercise just to prevent ligament, cartilage, and muscle atrophy. The same is true for our
bones and humans who jog on a regular basis. They have stronger bone density, and
those who jog over 9 times per month, have the strongest bone density out of a study of
thousands of participants. So if you can count the number of times you jog per month on
both hands, you can say you have stronger bones than the average Joe who doesn't.
Dyer says exercise allows you to “tap into intention and embrace the silence.” This
change causes a change in your thinking, as well. When sorcerers (those who live of the
source) beckon intent, it comes to them and sets up the path of attainment, which means
that sorcerers always accomplish what they set out to do. The idea of “the source of
intent” is very closely related to your compassionate reservoir. This idea of a sorcerer
being wielders of a limitless, pure source that creates their path of attainment is as
mesmerizing and true as it is brilliant. , and while Dyer was hitting on something, the
limitless (because nothing is never add nor subtracted to it) source is the qualitative
energy of the Compassionate Reservoir. The Compassionate Reservoir's substance is
infinite, but because the quantity of that substance it is never lost nor changed, it is
limitless. In other words, the Compassionate Reservoir is a self-contained ecosystem
with unlimited, and infinite qualitative energy from which love and happiness are
derived. Sorcery shows appreciation of the correlation between the limited energy source
and the compassionate reservoir, but it isn't like the “most meaningful sentence of the
book” or anything!
Here is the list of Dyer’s ideas with all of hte Validate Your Life details plugged into that
framework for creating a life full of intent.
1. See the world as abundant.
2. Affirm: I attract success and abundance into my life because that is who I am.
3. Stay in the attitude of allowing and know that resistance is disharmony.
4. Use your present moments to activate thoughts that are in harmony with the seven
faces of intention (creativity, kindness, love, beauty, expansion, abundance, and
peaceful receptivity).
5. Initiate actions that support your feelings of abundance and success: talk to
strangers, speak in an inspired way. Your choice to be inspired is choosing to open
yourself up to those lessons. Is “Oscar the grouch” ever inspired? Is someone
close-minded ever inspired? You have to choose to welcome inspiration into your
life and then even the most trivial things will become sources of tremendous
inspiration You commence actions that are optimistic, uplifting, confidence-
boosting, and those actions propagate your awareness of abundance and put you
more in “the zone” for success, so that you act and live from a place of confidence
and joy and carefully read the books that show up in your life. Every experience
in life is an open book. You can choose to see black and white text on pages, or
see colorful and scintillating experiences that are illuminating. Understanding you
have to control and choice to experience your life like a book of stale, trite,
colorless lettering, or an illuminatingly colorful {illuminating because it's
colorful} and provocatively nourishing is remarkably and vitally important.
a. If you act from a place of joy and confidence, you pave the way for your
happiness. Ruminate on this. Joy and confidence makes your external
actions deliberate and, because of the joy, graceful, guided, and stress free.
Isn't that the definition of success? Grace and deliberation towards a solid
aim? If that aim be happiness, you will surely cultivate felicity. If the goal
is success, joy and confidence will swiftly provide you with the means to
arrive at that goal. Happiness and inner strength work hand in hand. With
more inner strength, happiness endures, with more happiness, inner
strength is more easily cultivated. With a precedent for inner strength and
bliss, you make the presence of those sensations immediate and direct. In
other words, if you act in a positive, joyful way, you will show it in your
demeanor and are likely to make others feel your happiness and
confidence. Carrying a disposition of confidence, happiness, and interest
will certainly not make you superficial. Because to “carry that
disposition”, you have to believe in it, and believing in happiness makes
you happy. The physiology, creates the underlying emotions, and vice
versa. Physiology and underlying emotions and happiness and inner
strength are examples of two catalyzing interactions (four forces in total)
that produce more success. Instead it enables you to install emotional
placeholders in your life for success and happiness to reside in-- a
sanctuary for your success that allows openness and liberation to
permeate the activities in your life. Doing so will always attach you to
happiness and connection! Positivity will be indirectly accentuated, but
happiness and connection are those unfleeting sources of authentic
fulfillment.
b. The source of authenticity is even more fulfilling. It provides a validated

set of emotions. If you are authentic, you exchange reactions from a
purpose of truth. Everyday, otherwise nondescript, acts of communication
in your life will become beautiful gestures of generosity or positive
sources of nourishment to you and to others.
6. Remember that your prosperity and success will benefit others, and that no one
lacks abundance because you acquired it. The supply is unlimited. Everyone has
the potential to harness as much of this source as they need to then channel
themselves and accomplish nearly anything!
7. The Universal embodiment of intention is synonymous to a derivative of our

compassionate reservoir. Careful listen to your emotions to connect with this
universal embodiment of creativity and success. Your intuition often is more
intelligent --far less obtuse -- than the mind when it comes to immediate action.
Your intuition is the realm of imperatives and often provides suggestions that
don't make sense at that immediate moment; your mind is the realm of
declaratives, where all suggestions exist only through lengthy foundations of
logic. You can go into a discourse with your mind and “figure out” why your
intuition's suggestions are valid and will make sense, but often the immediacy of
the intuitive suggestion is then lost. Practicing to trust your intuition, is something
we must learn in order to connect with our spirit. Ruminate on this. Our spirit is
“fast”, it's electric because its so close to the Nature of the compassionate
reservoir; it doesn't carry around heavy clunky trails of logic and theory
supporting its actions. The intuition's modus operandi is very close to that of the
spirit. If you want to provide evidence for your actions, use the mind and its
declarations. If you truly want to take the action, use the intuition and its
imperatives
8. Your intuition is the only way to discover your true identity. You discover
yourself not by worrying about questions such as who you are now, whom
you will become, where you are going, where you are in the present, and what
you will be, but by ceasing that worry – chop off such derailments (yes,
worry is a derailment from reality because it is an unconscious reaction, an
emotional reaction) – and commence exploring your world.
In other words, you'll never discover your own identity and realize your
success by worrying about it; you discover through exploration alone. Your
intuition's guidance encourages this type of exploration.
Recent pop psychology has been all hyped about “The Secret”, what's most
fascinating about the Secret is, sure, it's efficacy is right and it's empowering,
but its marketing is the most incredible. What's most amazing about The
Secret is it's marketing. It's just an incredibly hyped version of the “Golden
Rule”. That's a good thing, because the Golden Rule (the law of attraction) is
too easily forgotten. An entire book and movie devoted to “selling” that
single golden rule and re-packaging it in myriad different ways, is
worthwhile, it's something that logically seems ridiculous, but intuitively is
right on. Your intuition is key to validating your discoveries and the Golden
Rule is something your mind too frequently skims over because of its brevity,
but having such a lengthy expansion and explanation on it, wakes up the
mind to what the intuition has always known.
9. “Become as generous to the world of abundance as the field of intention is to

you.” In other words, whatever you receive from the field of intention – however
generous it is – be equally or more generous in giving back to it. If someone
stops to help you pick up papers you dropped or opens doors for you, recognize
these random acts of kindness and give them prominence in your connection
with abundance. The more we understand about how we relate to our world from
the dynamic of giving and receiving, the more peaceful our lives will become.
10. Devote the necessary time to meditate on the spirit within as the source of your
success and abundance. Access to the source comes from within yourself through
personal meditation and growth.
11. Develop an attitude of gratitude. This is massively necessary with pool players,
who are always focusing on making the next magnificent shot. Create your
agenda to anticipate your next step and embrace your entire essence in order to
align yourself with peaceful knowing and resilience to experience inner peace,
serenity, and joy!
Being the King of the Hill
You can experience utilize the full-tilt intention by plugging it into your own initiative
and autonomy. Everyone is their own captain, their own king, their own savior, their own
messiah. Recognize that you develop any sensations of autonomy by galvanizing your
compassionate reservoir. You are your own light in the world. You have the potential to
be the greatest source of wisdom imaginable; be it. And allow everyone else to do the
same. Then we will reside in true knowing!
True Love
In his book “True Love” Thich Nhat Hanh remarks on the need to train to love
properly: “Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give
happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking directed toward the person
you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love
properly” This magnificent declaration {{or analysis?}}{Thich Nhat Hanh is a
master of intuition and meditational clarity, not a legal analytical state of mind}
shows that love is a sequence of steps, the first of which is comprehending a
person’s goals, actions, intentions, desires, and struggles. Only after {[really
need this?}} a deep understanding of these crucial elements of another person’s
being can we begin to love another individual. Usually love is a common “side
affect” of understanding. One of the best ways to get to know someone is to act
outside the societal, even domesticated, norms and provokes and interacts with
people. You aren't trying to win friends here, you aren't trying to create an
impressive image. The only thing you're doing is experimenting by throwing
certain declarations and ideas at people that are unorthodox. This is setting up a
“set of linguistic challenges for uncovering the "deep structure" underneath someone's
"surface structure" (http://www.faqs.org/faqs/self-impr-faq/part2/index.html).
If an interaction is unorthodox, it engenders a person to actually think and/or react in a
way that is reflective of their own personality, rather than a programmed response they've
learned through habituation and mimicking of others. If you shout, “loser” at someone, an
egotistical person will denounce you, a timid person will run a way, a scholarly person
may define the term loser, and the like. Shouting “loser” isn't the best example because
of its pejorative stance, but its an example of something socially unorthodox, for certain.
So the unorthodox, non-societal method of inciting people, simply gets you to know them
better. When you more completely understand why people are the way they are and do
the things they do, you are invigorated by their presence and words because you
comprehend them as personalities. Colloquially, you appreciate what “makes them tick.”
In doing this unorthodox, un-domesticated way of interaction with people you see their
flaws, their strengths, how they operate under pressure, if they have a quirky cruel side to
them, a deeply obsequious side, or maybe just a recalcitrant and idiosyncratic side. You
really get to know them in a way that you wouldn't otherwise and can prove your
intuitive insights as well. By this, I mean that if you intuitively believe someone to be
intrinsically timid, and you go “undomesticated” on them, and they curl up, your intuitive
instinct of them being timid is proven with the mind. Anything is proven in declaration if
it registers with the mind.
Understanding another naturally leads to love. That loving is not so much as a

phase, a mechanical step taken after understanding, as it is an occurrence that grows
naturally from that understanding. “Understanding is the essence of love,” says Hanh.
For this reason, we must encourage our capacity for introspection to better know our
selves, and to “study” the world, in particular other people, to stimulate our capacity for
loving from our reservoir of compassion.
1. “Father of Intention”. Bob Condor. DragonFly Media. January 2005.
[1] Donahu, Wendy. “Five Tips to Stay in the Zone”. Curious Consumer: Section 13.
Chapter 2: Inspiration over

Incapacitation
Doubt is one of the most harmful forces in the universe. It discombobulates assertion and
initiative; it confuses and obfuscates the mind, and it tarnishes the soul.
The message of this chapter is to recognize, practice, and initiate the expression of
inspiration, which uplifts the spirit, over doubt, which is limiting and incapacitating.
First off, you must take up the responsibility to realize that being inspirational does not
come easily. It is much more natural and much easier to simply be doubtful and throw
debilitating remarks at people. This requires little effort and hardly any imagination.
Inspiration, on the other hand, requires you to call upon our Compassionate Reservoir ,
which is why it makes others feel so expansive. If you recall, the Compassionate
Reservoir source is incredibly nourishing and cleansing and fuels our imagination.
When you pull inspiration from this reservoir, it rejuvenates the lives of those around
you. Drawing from a source of dubiousness, on the other hand, confines and cramps the
existence of others because doubt crushes and impedes growth. Doubt is found in myriad
circumstances, including public speaking.
Have you ever tried speaking to people that have their arms crossed, brow
furrowed, maybe one eyebrow raised holding, merely with their body language, a general
disposition of doubt? It is nearly impossible to communicate anything.
In this chapter, I'll show how doubt creates debilitating walls, it destroys relationships,
and it evokes fear, and enunciates our flaws. Doubt and disbelief cause conflict and blind
us from opportunities making it impossible for luck to occur. We'll discover how doubt is
so similar to a biological disease that it actually has symptoms of forgetfulness,
incoherency, personal distaste, and self-incrimination. Additionally, the disease of doubt
has three different strains – destructive, preventive, and strengthening doubt – which
makes its presence even more epidemic-like. Two forms of doubt have actually caused
wars and led to massive killings.
Inspiration, on the other hand, being the encouraging nemesis of doubt, can cause
positive physiological changes in our body that work magic and produce results where
powerful prescription drugs have failed. Inspirational words ignite potential, while
doubtful, skeptical, or caustic comments suffocate capacity. Self-questioning can inspire
us to integrate our beliefs and go further than we thought possible. Additionally, when
we eliminate our own doubt, we can use our awareness to encourage or challenge others
to inspire the surrounding community. Inspiration is the ultimate dissolution of doubt. To
understand how to dismantle and negate the debilitating, disease-like effects of doubt, we
must first investigate how it limits your life. Let’s begin our investigation of doubt and
inspiration by understanding how doubt stymies any luck in your life.
Doubt: No Chance, No Way
“Doubt is an oppressor that has no face or physical presence, but has discouraged
millions of amazing acts from occurring” – John Kooz
Doubt can quickly infest our lives, weigh us down, and cause us to focus on the
pessimistic side of things. In conversations, social interactions, work places, and on the
home front, doubt blinds us from seeing opportunities. Even worse, doubt constricts us
from seizing opportunities, even if we recognize them as possibilities. I remember I was
walking to the grocery to pick up some groceries and I saw a woman wearing shades
although it was somewhat overcast and carrying about 10 bags – probably 50 pounds – of
groceries out to her car. I immediately thought I should help her, and started to quicken
my gait and change directions to intercept her as she was leaving the grocery store.
However, self-doubt settled in and I found myself thinking, “This woman won’t need my
aid; it would be awkward and abrupt to help her”, and strolled into the store. When I
purchased my groceries, I asked the woman at the register, referring to the woman I
almost helped, if she had ever seen a woman carry out so many groceries. She
responded, “I haven’t, but Sigourney Weaver doesn’t shop here very often, either”. I was
shocked. Doubt had infested my actions, preventing me from seizing the opportunity to
meet a celebrity and feel the self-satisfaction of helping a fellow human being.
“Luck arrives at the door of someone who, knowingly or unknowingly, has engineered
their own future.”--Thomas Chalmers, Inspirational Speaker
In addition, to blinding us from seizing opportunities and infesting our lives,

doubt can thwart our growth. To grow and spiritually individuate on our path, people
sometimes need a little bit of luck. In the presence of disbelief, however, “luck” is non-
existent. Life coach and inspirational speak Thomas Chalmers talks about the benefit of
utilizing luck as a resource: “When [you] take a moment to consciously reflect upon
[your] luck [you] will probably be able to identify that one life-changing moment: a
perfect fusion of chance and choice and change”. That perfect moment of change that
Chalmers speaks of can never be sighted, never witnessed, in the presence of doubt.
In a state of disbelief, you will, by default, dubiously hesitate, and fail to take advantage
of amazing opportunities that arise in your favor. An example of failing to see fantastic
situations because of the presence of disbelief occurred during an acting class. During
most of my college education, I yearned for classes where I could perform, stand-up,
communicate, and talk. I felt cramped to the point of being in pain sitting in class having
to have an instructor talk to me. Instead, I felt I learned most efficiently when there was
an opportunity for dialogue and heated interaction, not listening to a lecture. After two
years of aggravation from not being able to communicate in class, an opportunity for my
“ideal class” arose. It was an acting class where the students acted out dialogues,
participated in free association and improvisational games, and had myriad chances to
talk. You would have thought that I would take this class in flash. However, I became
dubious, thinking that this class was “too good to be true”, decided to not make the
switch, to stick to my original schedule, and take a computer science class. Now, if
you’ve ever been in a play and worked with a computer, you understand that computers
and acting are the completely opposite activities. Computers are all syntax, precision, and
keeping your mind engaged to communicate with a metal box, and acting is the absence
of syntax and turning off your mind to interact with people. Both are challenging and
great practices to learn, but I had been craving the acting environment but abandoned it
because of doubt. Abandoning something because of lack of interest, or realizing it is not
a match are great reasons, indicating the exhaustion of an experimental process, however
doubt is never a quality reason to end something. The ways doubt manages to cripple
and incapacitate your life should infuriate you; it certainly angers me at times. However,
I always try to turn lemons into lemonade, and used this experience of disbelief to become
vehemently charged to avoid uncertainty in the future. Let’s learn about some of the
physiological side affects of doubt.
“The Secret”, an enormously successful book, just talked about the law of attraction – which is
just a “repackaged” “The golden rule” for the entire book, so 2 pages on doubt – when an entire
book could be devoted to it, voluminous material, is easily not “overdoing it”. Plus, this section
sets up doubt as a disease, which in addition to being unique, is tremendously helpful to anyone
experiencing it. When you treat doubt like a disease, you can pinpoint it, dissect it, recognize it
from its symptoms, and “cure” yourself from it. Half the battle is identifying the enemy and this
section blasts you through this crucial self-diagnostic step.
I should've written 20 pages on doubt, more, 20 books on doubt. It's massively important. There
are entire medical books, thousands of pages in length, devoted to the bad effects of single
epidemic diseases, like cancer, aids, etc. Doubt is even more destructive than those diseases! 2
pages on doubt is absolutely nothing!
The Disease of Dubiousness: Harmful affects of Doubt
This section sets up doubt as a disease, which is tremendously helpful to

anyone experiencing it. When you treat doubt like a disease, you can pinpoint
it, dissect it, and recognize it from its symptoms, and “cure” yourself from it.
Half the battle is identifying the enemy and this section blasts you through this
crucial self-diagnostic step. Defining the bad effects of doubt is massively
important. There are entire medical books, thousands of pages in length,
devoted to the bad effects of single epidemic diseases, like cancer, aids, or
osteoporosis. Doubt is even more destructive than those diseases so this
section is very worthwhile.
You can recognize the symptoms of doubt very quickly. Like a disease, there is
difficulty breathing, suffocated communication, a depressed and isolated sense of self,
and a general heaviness that congests and inflames your personality. Doubt always
inhibits and never directs. Many people consider doubt to be a form of a suggestion – a
harsh suggestion – this is never the case because its affect always cripples, denies, and
negates. I remember trying to share my ideas of using a Web of Words to communicate
80% of our emotional and mental feelings to people. Their general expression was one of
incredible doubt. The more passion and conviction I put into my communication, the
more doubtful they became. Here are the few of the symptoms of doubt:
 Forgetfulness: I experienced “mind farts” (where I completely forgot what I was

saying) on an extremely organized and well-practiced speech.
 Incoherency: I spoke less articulately, sometimes to the point of slurring my

words, when I typically was always very coherent, using dramatic enunciation
skills to pronounce my words.
 Personal Distaste: I felt disgusted at my own ideas that I put hours upon hours
into crafting and shaping and editing.
 Self-Incrimination: I began to criticize and insult myself and my work.
Symptoms of Doubt occur with FIPS, when you tell lies or “fibs” to yourself. When
you are confident, feeling no doubt, you are never forgetful, incoherency, personally
distasting your ideas, and self-incriminating your ideas. Instead you remember long-time
memories, are incredibly well-spoken, clear and have access to your emotions and
vocabulary, love your message and trust in it, and encourage yourself instead of
incriminate.
Symptoms of confidence and the absence of doubt are:
• Remembering deeply and comprehensively
• Eruditely speaking
• Personally loving your message and its delivery
• Speaking with Solid certainty
This is REPS. When you’re inspired and not in the presence of doubt you experience
REPS. After feeling this depleted and worthless feeling, I asked a collection of public
speakers, business consultants, authors, and lecturers if they experienced similar

sensations. All of them could relate to my sense speaking deterioration and self-doubt. I
was shocked to find some of the most well-spoken, distinguished speakers say that they
became so crippled by the incapacitating impact of doubt that it caused them to stutter,
sweat profusely, or even feel dyslexic. Their normal disposition was calm, motivated,
and driven to communicate, but doubt stymied some of the greatest speakers. The
symptoms of doubt, forgetfulness, incoherency, personal distaste, and self-incrimination
were universal. But I still wanted to know how doubt creates such a depleted state and,
more importantly, if there was any way to eradicate the negative and incapacitating effect
of doubt.
Is there away we can doubt the doubt and give it a taste of its own medicine?
Unfortunately, fighting fire with fire only generates more doubt. Getting mad at people
for doubting you only exacerbate their disbelief. Additionally doubting someone who
doubts you is causing you to commit “destructive” or “preventive doubt”, which lowers
the entire conversation to a lower energy. In his book, “The Power of Intention”, Wayne
Dyer says, “Low-energy is letting your ego take over a situation. High-energy is moving
toward the universal spirit.” Resorting to doubt when others doubt you is sinking to this
low-level energy; the high-energy frequency must be continued. When you have a
plethora of compassion, you are in a state of complete and utter openness and honor
everyone in their respective “place”, whether they are hopeful or in fearful destructive
disbelief. Maintaining a plethora of compassion does not mean being passive, it could
mean being aggressively questioning. But improving our self- and external acceptance
by drawing from a plethora of compassion allows us to have compassionate
conversations in any context. Possessing a plethora of compassion is the key ingredient
to overcoming through any obstacle. The best way to learn how to dismantle doubt is to
understand the various strains of doubt.
The Strains of Doubt
I have to admit, this and the subsequent chapter are some of my most impassioned
work because I was not only recognizing the debilitating effects of doubt in others, but I
was also personally feeling their confining consequences in myself. After struggling with
dubiousness, I was motivated to investigate the nature of doubt and found that it comes,
like a virus, in three uniquely destructive strains. Conveniently, these strains of doubt fall
into three classifications:
Destructive and Preventive are forms of self-destructive. They tarnish the self, the
other; they are not limited to other destruction.
 Destructive: Destruction and Disparagement of others that sustains or protects

your own beliefs.
 Preventive: Doubtful Indifference of others that sustains your own beliefs.
 Strengthening: Personal questioning that strengthens your own beliefs
These flavors of doubt are described from the position of you being doubtful, not
from others eliciting doubt. These strains of dubiousness have been presented from your
perspective because you can only change yourself and your reactions to others behavior.
Additionally, you will see that that these three types of doubt revolve around the
preservation of your own beliefs. You either destroy the beliefs of others who attack
your beliefs (“destructive doubt”), doubt others to sustain your own truths (“preventive
doubt”) or you aim the dubiousness at yourself to purposefully challenge and strengthen
your own logic (“strengthening doubt”). Let’s examine these types of doubt in detail.
“Destructive doubt” occurs when you actually become so viscously attached to your
beliefs that you must incapacitate the beliefs of others. This is the most harmful form of
uncertainty because you go to the extreme of inflicting harm on others to maintain your
beliefs. In the next section, we will discover how the deadly and devastatingly volatile
“destructive doubt” caused worldwide destruction.
Preventive doubt” is the second-most harmful kind of debilitating doubt. Less

incapacitating than “destructive doubt”, but incriminating all the same, “preventive
doubt revolves around you sustaining your own beliefs by doubting others. When you
“preventively doubt”, you ignore everyone else around you and turn your head up,
putting yourself above others; you shun any idea that could penetrate your beliefs; and
you don’t even consider the opinions of others. Practicing “preventive doubt” is
practicing indifference because you apathetically build an impermeable wall around you
beliefs and everything goes in one ear and out the other.
When people feel their beliefs threatened, their perception of reality can feel threatened.
When your perception of reality feels threatened you go into a flight/fight response. This,
most of the time, causes people to simply doubt others beliefs in response to fear. The
first two kinds of doubt, “destructive doubt” and “preventive doubt”, are debilitating and
revolve around our flight/fight response – The only instigator to "destructive" and
"preventive doubt" is fear; their only basis: insecurity; they revolve around self-doubt. In
contrast, “strengthening doubt” revolves around personal integrity; it is the only form of
doubt that has productive value attached to it; it allows you to connect with and
thoroughly edit the veracity of your beliefs.
“Strengthening doubt” is a special kind of doubt because, unlike the other two strains, it
is aimed at yourself and its source is not fear, but challenge.
“Where there is doubt, there is freedom” – Latin Proverb
Strengthening doubt is not so much a flavor of doubt as it is a form of questioning and

interrogation. In the next chapter, you will learn how to use, and when to use, the
positive effects of “severe questioning” and “compassionate questioning”. For now, we
will examine how resorting to “destructive doubt” and “preventive doubt” catalyzed a
worldwide catastrophe producing a horrific blood bath and frightening amounts of death
and destruction.
A Viciously Violent and Volatile Combination: “Destructive

Doubt” and “Preventive Doubt”
Preventive and destructive doubt, however, have caused enormous amounts of conflict.
Some major wars have been started, killing millions and millions of people because
people felt the threat of doubt on their beliefs. In Nazi Germany, for example all
throughout the 1920s and ‘30s, Germans had the belief that (partially generated by Hitler)
they were a superior Aryan race. They felt that their blond-haired, blue-eyed blood was a
better DNA than Jews and non-Germans. However, during this time period this belief
was infringed upon. Germans felt doubtful that they could get out of the national
economic slump after World War 1. At one point the inflation had gotten so bad that, to
purchase a loaf of bread, you needed, literally, a wheelbarrow full of money. And when it
came to buying toilet paper, it was much cheaper to use the actual paper currency for
your bathroom business. How could a “superior” race be in an economic slump forced to
wipe their behinds with their useless money? Additionally, if the Aryan belief was true,
how was it possible for the supposed “inferior” Jews to hold profitable banking positions
that gave out loans to the “superior” Germans? It is obvious their belief had some holes
in it[1] (a superior Aryan race does not exist). The Germans felt their belief being
threatened and had to use preventive doubt to maintain their ludicrous Aryan race idea.
They doubted the idea that Jews were actually, in a way, “superior” and they definitely
doubted Jewish financial solvency and successful competency.
Here is the equation that led to German preventive doubt:
1. Germans hold the belief that they are a superior Aryan race.
2. Germans fall into an inferior situation with inflation and poor economy.
3. Jews rise into a superior situation by owning the banks.
4. To sustain the belief that they are superior, Germans must preventively doubt the
Jews.
Additionally, the disbelief of rising out of their economic slump was exacerbated by the
fact that the Germans thought that they had been treated unfairly in the conclusion of the
war. Contrary to the rest of the world, many Germans were under the impression that
they had not lost the war; they preventively doubted the loss. But the Treaty of Versailles
shattered this belief by destroying any inkling that they had not lost they war. The Treaty
of Versailles, which was a meeting of all the world superpowers, did not invite Germany
to the treaty-making process. Additionally, the Treaty forced Germany to give up some
of its territory, like the Rhine River and the Alsace-Lorraine to France. Once again, the
German belief was shattered. How could they have not lost the war if they weren’t
invited to the “End of the War Party”, the resolutions of the Treaty Versailles, were
obligated to give up their land, and restricted from entering certain territories? The belief
was seriously threatened and the Germans resorted to destructive doubt of justice of the
Treaty of Versailles.
Here’s an equation that lead to German destructive doubt:
1. Germans hold the belief that they did not lose World War 1.
2. Germans are forced to take up the “loser’s role” with the Treaty of Versailles.
3. Other countries acquire territories and confine boundaries of Germany.
4. To sustain the belief that they did not lose the war, Germans must do more than
preventively doubt, they must destructively doubt the resolutions of the European
countries.
What happens when you have a huge degree of preventive doubt and destructive doubt?
You can only expect conflict. These two types of doubt are what caused World War II --
the most inhumane, the most brutally barbaric and destructive man-made event in the
history of humanity. The Germans put Jews in concentration camps to preventively and
destructively doubt their belief that they were a superior race. The very act of genocide is
a form of destructive doubt. Genocide is “weeding out the gene pool” and killing off
people who aren’t a “superior race”. But people do this because of fear, of doubt, that
their supposed “superior” genes will survive. Genocide destroys other genes to try to
give substance to the inane idea of a superior race. But if a race really were superior,
would you ever doubt it and need to resort to killing off other gene pools? Obviously, the
idea of any superior race is completely fallacious because race does not exist. Biological
genetic research has recently shown that a gene for race doesn’t exist even in our DNA.
Skin color is just a pigment variation caused by adaptation to the sun and the
environment, while race is merely a creation of culture and sociology.
We must examine the detrimental ramifications of resorting to destructive or

preventive doubt. If the Germans had engaged in acts of strengthening doubt and actual
self-questioning of their beliefs of superiority and unfairness of the Versailles Treaty
World War II would not have occurred. The could have asked themselves questions like,
“If we really are a superior race, would we need to kill off other people to prove it?” This
would lead to the flaws in their inhumane genetic theory and cause them to rethink their
unspeakable plans of designing atrocious crematoria in Treblinka, Auschwitz, and Buna.
It is clear that we must never choose or encourage doubt because of its horrifying
malicious consequences. If we must resort to doubt, embracing "strengthening doubt" is
the least destructive, but choosing not to be doubtful is always the most peaceful and
always the most humane decision.
Destructive doubt is essential to the entire premise of showing how doubt bloody, literally
kills and creates war, and does much more than make someone “reluctant” or “uncertain”.
The Germans experienced tremendous doubt after the Treaty of Versailles. They
definitely were in denial of losing the war whenever they were accused of having lost or
shaped into a loser role. Their subsequent sense of disbelief (How could this happen to
the Master Race – If you're a master race you're already under a delusion, a disbelief, so
if you go around thinking your an ubermensch, most of your thoughts will also be
disbeliefs and illusions, it comes with that whole illusory, self-destructive territory) is
different than you characterize it here. Further the days of hyperinflation of the Weimar
Republic were in the early to mid-1920s. It gave rise to a lot of hypernatioanlistic groups,
among whom were the Nazis. I took an entire class “Nazi Mind” and remember reading
about the formation of different groups, one of which was the Nazis, in 1920s German (it
was really the antithesis to the model T and flapperdom Roaring 20s of the US!). The
example with the Nazis completely shows how powerful illusion it is, it can sometimes
temporarily bury reality.
The reason for the difference might be that Doubt is a personal characteristic or
affliction. It can be best discussed in the more personal or individual terms of the
example. In the WWI example, you’re dealing with massive social changes and forces
that can be described generally but are less amenable to the kind of individual discussion
of the idea of Doubt. That's showing how negative and pervasive the effect of
doubt is.
Drugs and Doubt
This indispensable section reveals how powerful doubt can be, when combined with
doubt. The illusion, the “disbelief” in this example is so powerful that it buries and hides
reality. A famous author, Norman Cousins, said, “Drugs are not always necessary, belief
in recovery always is”. Indeed, drugs can detrimentally incapacitate us unnecessarily.
Studies have shown, for example, that certain anti-depressants actual increase the rate of
suicide[2] Belief and inspiration, as Cousins pointed out, are always the most powerfully
reliable "drug”. They provide us with the power to change our weight, alter our
physiology, radically alter our emotional states, and create a sense of peace. A Harvard
Scientist, Dr. Henry Beecher, actually generated scientific proof that validates Cousin’s
idea, making it a fact that powerful mental thought and beliefs have a greater impact than
drugs, regardless of the situation. Dr. Beecher doubted the idea that belief was less
powerful in causing physiological reaction than drugs, and designed an experiment to test
the power of the mind over the body. For the test design, Dr. Beecher gave 100 medical
students –intelligent individuals that would produce reliable results– a test involving a red
pill, called a super-stimulant (which was supposedly an amphetamine) and a blue pill,
called a super-tranquilizer (which was supposedly a barbiturate).
Unbeknownst to the participants, the pills were switched. The super-tranquilizer (blue
pill) was thought to be a barbiturate, which would make you depressed, but was really an
amphetamine (a stimulant, or “upper”) that makes you excited and energized. The red
pill, which was labeled as a super-stimulant, was actually a barbiturate, known as is a
depressant, or “downer”. In other words, when they thought they would be drowsy with
the blue pill, they received a pill that would make them energized, and vice versa.
What was the point of little "Gypsy switch" of the pills? To understand this, first we
must have a little “drug lesson”. Amphetamines and barbiturates produce the complete
opposite bodily affect. Amphetamines cause physiological changes that make you bounce
off the walls, have a seemingly-inexhaustible energy source, sweat profusely, breathe
heavily, experience an increased heart rate, experience an increase in all your bodily
systems (respiratory, circulatory, nervous, and digestive), and feel no fatigue whatsoever.
Amphetamines also increase your stamina, physical energy, social responsiveness, and
hyperactivity. In short, it is a powerful stimulant that produces the opposite affect of a
barbiturate, even though this pill was believed to be a depressant. In contrast, a
barbiturate causes a physiological reaction that is the opposite of an amphetamine. It
sedates and depresses your bodily systems by inhibiting the neurotransmitters in the
central nervous system from firing, many times inducing sleep, or at least extreme
drowsiness.
What did Dr. Beecher find in his study after he switched the pills? Half the intelligent
med-student participants experienced the affects of the pill they believed they took, not
the affects of the actual drug they ingested! This reveals that mental power and cognitive
belief completely over-ride physiological reactions to drugs[3]. When the students
should have been feeling depressed, sedated, and drowsy (the affects of the barbiturate),
they would be bouncing off the wall, perspiring like they had just run a marathon, and
breathing, speaking, and circulating blood as if they had just consumed a stimulant drug
because they believed the drug would stimulate them. The participants pulled a
physiological 180 to change their bodily response, when they had a drug flowing in their
bloodstream, chemically designed to catalyze the opposite effect of what they felt. The
impact of belief is remarkable! If a placebo (neutral) drug was given to the participants,
these results would still be astounding revelations in mind over medicine. Not only did
they create an unexpected change in their bodily systems, they negated the affects of the
barbiturate or amphetamine and produced the complete opposite physiological affect.
When it comes to doubt with medicine, belief and inspiration always shine.
Going the Distance with Inspiration
“It is the mind that maketh good of ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor.”
--Edmund Spenser, 16th Century, English Poet
Regardless, if you inspire through challenge or compliments, the act of inspiration

is always encouraging. Inspiration has an eternally positive impact because it always
transforms negatives into positives; inspiration has perpetually stood the test of time to
“maketh good of ill”. American musician and composer, Aaron Copland said inspiration
is a form of super-consciousness. The first western martyr, and famous philosopher,
Socrates said that inspiration was even more powerful wisdom, providing seers with the
gift of prescience and poets with eloquent words of rhythm. Socrates said, “it was not
wisdom that enabled poets to write their poetry, but a kind of instinct or inspiration, such
as you find in seers and prophets”[4]. From famous musicians, to one of the greatest
philosophers, it is clear the importance of inspiration!
Inspiration is the ultimate weapon against doubt. Inspiration channels our mind to
productive uses; it encourages us to enrich the integrity of our beliefs. Inspiration
can focus on the self or the other. When you encourage yourself, you become a self-
adapting being. You can cope with struggle, challenges, and problems because you will
possess the skill to inspire yourself. If you get in a tough bind starting your own
business, the inspired person doesn’t abandon the entrepreneur, but says, “This happens
to every successful person; Abe Lincoln failed 13 times before finally being elected. This
bit of financial trouble is part of my path to success”. The capacity to inspire yourself
endows you with the gift of overcoming any obstacle.
Additionally, inspiration can fuel the determination of others by motivating them. I

remember when I was cast as Judge Brock, the lead role, of the high school play, Hedda
Gabler. I had the director warn me that if I didn’t focus on the play and learn my lines, I
would be dropped from the play. This is was a brusque consequence, but I transformed it
into a source of inspiration, which caused me to learn me lines like the palm of my hand
and perform the best I ever had! Also, I recall countless times where a professor
inspirationally encouraged another student or myself to keep working on a problem
saying, “You can do it” or “You’ve almost got it”. 9 times out of 10 that student found
the solution and solved the problem on their own because of this outside encouragement,
engendering internal inspiration.
Inspiration is the only way of fueling our determination without negatively adding to our
ego. When we inspire ourselves, we can quickly maketh good of ill because we nourish a
greater magnitude of faith in our mind. Faith can be found in any situation if fueled by
enough inspiration. I remember when I was running the marathon – my second marathon
– I developed a cramp around mile 16. I envisioned another 10 miles that I must endure
and that estimation made me nauseas. I almost vomited with the doubtful overload that
plummeted my brain: “I may not finish; I will injure myself; running 26.2 miles on foot is
ridiculously absurd; what am I doing? I will be a disgrace to myself and my training by
not finishing”. I took a deep breath, still in mid-stride, and looked down on my mind
from the conscience of inspiration. From that unique perspective, I saw I had just entered
a mode of self-doubt that was disintegrating motivation and tarnishing my integrity.
Disintegrating your motivation and losing integrity can be deadly in a marathon
Instead of trying to mentally argue against my dubious thoughts, I said to myself “All of
those things – not finishing, getting injured, disgracing myself and training – will occur if
I continue to doubt.” I then chose to inspire myself and fueled my determination. I
looked around and saw where the Marathon course was passing. The course had just
steered into “Little Italy”; there were cheers of “Va Bene! (Good!)” and “Vada! (Go!)”. I
re-entered my calm and confident mind and said, “This is an amazing experience on an
amazing day with incredibly eclectic people. I have done this before, and I am an
amazing person who is going to complete a marathon!” I didn’t inspire myself based on
ego, which would have caused me to run too fast and then burn out. Nor did I inspire
myself by setting a finishing time goal, which could have applied unnecessary pressure.
Instead, I simply recognized my situation. This form of casual inspiration excited me. I
became overjoyed that I had completed the marathon this far, and went on to complete
the full race, smiling down to the last footstep, in less than four hours!
Conclusion
It's obvious how widespread and pervasive doubt is. From its self-destructive effects and
how destructive and preventive doubt wreak havoc throughout the world. However, you
can change that by eradicating doubt from yourself. Gandhi said, “You must be the
change you want to see in the world”. You must develop a relationship with doubt -- “no
relationship”! -- that you want to see in the world! Let’s learn how to apply our
awareness of doubt and inspiration in a social setting through self-questioning; let’s learn
to become the Inspirational Instigator.
[1] Obviously, the idea of any superior race is completely fallacious because race does
not exist. Biological genetic research has recently shown that a gene for race doesn’t
exist even in our DNA. Skin color is just a pigment variation caused by adaptation to the
sun and the environment.
[2] Prozac drug company.
[3] This message certainly applies to prescription drugs, and not food – which sometimes
is considered a “drug” – or nutrition, which is essential for generating a healthy body.
[4] Plato. The Apology of Socrates. Sect. 21. New York: Shambhala Books, 1999.
Chapter 3: Grounded Originality &

Stable Authenticity
This chapter delves into becoming a source of inspiration for others and for yourself.
This state of illumination is achieved through the process transforming “strengthening
doubt” into a sequence of enriching self-questioning.
One of the most poignant examples of “strengthening doubt” that ever occurred to me
was in a martial arts class. It was one of the first karate classes that I had ever taken; I
was a 7-year old second-grader, with high hopes a lot of determination but no experience
with karate. I and some of my close friends had signed up for a class and frequently did
punches and kicks up and down the gym floor as exercise for the each session. During
the second or third day of the class, the instructor stopped us and asked me with a serious
inquisitive look on her face, “Have you ever taken any martial art before?” I told her no,
to which she again asked, “You’re sure you’ve never taken any martial art before?”
implying how impressed she was by me. She doubted, for awhile, if I had truly taken a
martial arts class before. If she had simply complimented me on my technique, I
would’ve felt encouraged, but it wouldn’t have inspired me to go and pursue the martial
art like I did. I ended up continuing Shotokhan karate for the next 6 years simply because
of the motivation that the doubt – strengthening doubt – had provided in instilling
confidence in me the first class. I believed I could truly tap into incredible talent with that
comment of doubt, and no other comment could have been as fulfilling. We can generate
similar forms of strengthening doubt on our through the power of self-questioning.
Before we investigate the empowering effects of self-questioning, we must examine what

is generated by internal questioning and how this differs from external connection.
Internal connection and stability is related to authenticity, while external groundedness
manufactures a state of connectedness that leads to originality.
Authenticity
While the semantic differences between authenticity and originality are frequently
understood, the distinct, essential underlying characteristics of these two concepts are
frequently blurred and all too frequently used in the wrong context. So let's clarify that.
English-born American poet, W.H. Auden remarked on the misconstrued nature of
authenticity and originality: “Some writers confuse authenticity, which they always ought
to aim at, with originality, which they should never bother about”. While originality is
extremely important when it comes to inventions and creating new areas, the exceptional
poignancy of authenticity is undeniable. Authenticity is the experiences, ideas, and/or
emotions that are new and uniquely inspiring for the individual; all new ideas stem from
authentic ideas. Especially in an art like writing, drawing from your internal reserves of
passion and creativity to create authenticity is incredible more vital than being original.
The necessity of distinguishing each of these characteristics is vital to embracing them
each in their specific contexts. Authenticity refers to something that is uniquely tied to
your core individuality – your soul. It affects you by empowering your motives and
providing internal motivation. If you give a speech on a topic that is deeply meaningful
to you, and you deliver it with such vehement enunciation, impassioned eloquence, and
sincere commitment that your very soul seems to be in your words, you are being
authentic. That speech could be about arithmetic, or a common bird, or a current event; it
needn’t be new or different or even something you are familiar with. As long as you are
ecstatic about math, ornithology (bird watching), or current events and are truly inspired
by the topic, you will display passion with sincere vehemence, and that is being
authentic. Authenticity is tied totally to your self. If some writing, speech, words, or
anything is authentic in one context, then it is universally authentic for you. In other
words, there needn’t be some kind of environmental or external prerequisite or precedent
for authenticity to exist; authenticity is universally an invariant source of inspiration.
Because of its universality, true authenticity is difficult to achieve, and can only be
generated through knowledge of your self, created from self-questioning.
Here our friend has discovered the use of an umbrella.

This is moment of authenticity for him, but not the least
bit original.
Authenticity is an internal experience
Here, our astronomer friend, Galileo, is pondering some

revolutionary planetary concept of the solar system. He's been
pondering these thoughts for years, so they are no longer authentic, but no
one has ever considered them, so they are original.
Originality is an external experience.

If you sincerely connect your words, expression, and/or communication with your soul, it
is authentic, regardless of the nature of the topic –- even if it is outdated, traditionally
bland, or archaic -- or how it is interpreted -- its societal acceptance, appearance, or any
relationship externally. Given the example with the umbrella-man and Galileo, it's easy
to see that all inventions and new ideas stem from originality, but all originality was first
authentic to the individual.
Originality
Originality refers to the existence of other things in the world relative to your
invention. Herman Melville remarked, “It is better to fail in originality, than to succeed
at imitation”. The importance of making something new in world is vital, if all we do is
imitate, the expression of our soul will have much less space, and we will never tap into
the recognition of our creative potential. If something already exists then it is not original.
This is remarkably different from authenticity because the source of authenticity can
already exist in the world; it is your passionate relationship with the topic or idea that
makes it authentic. If you develop a new kind of car wheel, that automatically re-inflates
itself when popped, and no such invention exists, it is original. The source of originality,
therefore, is purely an external measurement. You cannot determine if something is
original or not unless you have scope of what is already present, in terms of inventions, in
the world. Knowing how much perseverance, creativity, and sincerity – internal bearings
-- you put into something will not make it, necessarily, original because originality is
entirely externally based.
Combining originality with authenticity ensures profound success. Obviously, the

combination of something that is a new frontier of your soul – something authentic – and
new frontier in the external world – original – will quickly be a successfully changing
force in the world. Its incipience and passion automatically give the product momentum
and recognition.
Originality is the product of being grounded, while authenticity is the result of

being stable. Groundedness is connecting with your external environment. One of the
highest elements – the apex – of groundedness is originality. You can only be truly
original when you have reached a zenith of being grounded; you are so connected to your
environment that you not only recognize what is present, what is not present, and what is
needed, but you develop a pathway to create something that is burgeoning and new and
needed. Only by branching out and being completely connected to your external world
and environment, can you evoke certainties and passions based on intense knowledge that
lead to originality. Being grounded is when you extend your sense to connect with the
surrounding environment. What you hear, taste, see, smell, and feel will connect you
with the external environment allow you to be externally extremely successful. A person
can be extremely grounded, but internally vacant, if the lack inner stability.
The Convergence of Stability and Groundedness
Success in life is based on getting feedback. Where am I in regards to the goal?

Am I close? Far? How long until I get there? What things work in moving towards my
goal. There are two pools of feedback you can draw from – internal and external.
Stability is the internal interconnection of knowing thyself through what neuro-linguistic
programming calls, internal ecology check(s). Joseph O'Connor writes: “An internal
ecology check is when you check with your own feelings that a course of action would be
a wise one to follow” ; originality aligned with authenticity as opposed to originality,
which is aligned with stability. W.H. Auden remarks how authenticity is more important
than originality. This is true in some contexts (like the arts where creativity is essential),
but the reverse is true in other contexts (like in the sciences where building off what is
present leads to originality). Obviously, it is essential to examine how to be both
grounded and authentic. Someone that is grounded is going to be connected externally,
aware of their societal obligations and be incredibly externally successful. Groundedness
is the condition of external connection through what neuro-linguistic programming calls,
external ecology checks. Joseph O'Connor writes, “An external ecology check examines
how your outcome will affect other significant people [and events and decisions] in your
life”); groundedness is linked to originality, as opposed to authenticity, which is related to
stability. Grounded people will be the inventors, the head CEOs in business, and the top
leaders. There external visible success will be extraordinary because they will tap into
how to climb the social ladder medically, through business, through sports, politics,
academia, literature, or any other emphasis. They may very likely, however, be
extremely vacant internally. Their groundedness will connect them with the outside
world and ensure the can create original ideas or inventions, but they may lack internal
stability.
Someone who is purely internally stable will have intense and frequent
experiences of authenticity, but without any connections to the outside world, without any
ties to the external zeitgeist, they will hover in a bubble. Great artists like Da Vinci,
writers like Dostoevsky, and brilliant modern inventors like Steve Jobs had it both –
stability and groundedness. They tapped into their internal poignancy by becoming
aware of their internal bearings, which provided authenticity and connection to their soul
and they also were grounded in what was going on at the time to create original
inventions. A purely grounded person (no stability) will be externally stable but
internally void and bleak, while a purely stable person (no groundedness) will have an
internally rich and poignant life, but will be extremely disconnected and aloof to the
external world. A constant production of both stability and groundedness assures
authenticity and originality, respectively.
Stability is the ability to truly have internal bearings and have awareness of your soul.
Authenticity, furthermore, is the highest mark – the culmination – of stability. When you
are fully aware of your soul’s creativity, desires, design, and aspirations, and have
committed yourself to acknowledgement and perseverance of your spiritual certainties,
you have the opportunity for authenticity. Because authenticity is based on internal
engagement and fruition it is something you carry around with you. Originality requires
you to constantly tap into the environmental surroundings and zeitgeist to ensure that you
are grounded, while the fuel for authenticity is generated by constantly look inward and
accessing your inner voice and personal convictions. Only once you have evolved into a
dynamically stable being – understanding your personal truths, veracities, and intrinsic
truths – can you have the opportunity to be authentic. Because of the composition of
authenticity – your inner truths, convictions, and beliefs – an authentic expression

becomes a powerful act of will that will, without a doubt, leave an impact on the world.
The best way to connect that authenticity and stability, therefore, is by remaining
externally grounded. The best method for ensuring external stability is through the
external zeitgeist.
Stable Grounded
Original
Authentic
Zeitgeist
No originality.
No groundedness.
No authenticity.
No stability.
Benefits Benefits
Centered Successful
Together Known
Happy Externally Connected
Fulfilled Visible Progress
Bolsters Identity. Bolsters image.

Connecting with the Zeitgeist
Connecting with the zeitgeist provides incredible groundedness, which can lead to
original invention, but first we must examine strengthening doubt. “Strengthening
doubt” is not the two forms of debilitating doubt – “destructive doubt” and “preventive
doubt” – that are provoked by fear. Strengthening doubt could be related to “constructive
self-analysis”, but making such a comparison wouldn't be wise. Analysis doesn't pick
apart and reconstruct with certifying authenticity, like strengthening doubt does.
Strengthening doubt is like muscle building. You tear down the muscle fibers – or the
ideological “fibers” -- and they grow back stronger and more resilient. Constructive self-
analysis, on the other hand, is different because it implies a stagnant non-action method
of trying to improve yourself and, ultimately, is incredibly ineffective. Strengthening
doubt is building muscle, while self-analysis would be similar to trying to “think” your
ideological “muscles” to grow stronger. Constructive self-analysis doesn't work;
strengthening doubt does.
By abandoning destructive and preventive doubt, we are left with “strengthening doubt”
and self-questioning as the only forms of personal challenge that manufacture positive
life changes. Challenging your own beliefs is true strength because by shaping and
creating your beliefs you allow yourself to have a plethora of authenticity and inner
stability. Also, it is extremely important to consider the suggestions of others, and by
doing this you deeply consider the zeitgeist and become extremely grounded.
Considering the zeitgeist provides understanding of how your personal convictions click
with general opinion. You, obviously, don’t have to go along with general opinion, but
by considering and valuing it, will you make yourself a better person, possessing more
well-rounded beliefs. Even if you a radical thinker, being aware of the relationship of
your beliefs with the zeitgeist aids in questioning your beliefs, which strengthens the
foundation for your ideas.
Choosing to emphasize improvement over mere maintenance forces you to embrace

“strengthening doubt”, which evokes incredible clarity through questioning. While
connecting with the external zeitgeist is vital for stability and awareness, the two varieties
of “strengthening doubt” -- “severe questioning” and “compassionate questioning” –
improve our relationship with internal authenticity. Despite the differences in their
execution, both of these forms of questioning produce positive introspection and more
integrated personal beliefs.
Severe Questioning
It is important to recall that doubt is destructive, but questioning (severe or

compassionate) causes people to consider the genuineness of their own beliefs, and,
therefore, is dynamically inspiring. If the flavor of doubt is destructive or preventive, the
only possible effect will be debilitating. Fervent, severe questioning, however, can be
worthwhile and inspiring. Severe questioning is a very direct, sometimes confrontational
form of questioning beliefs. It is not a form of doubt, but can be misinterpreted as doubt
because of its “cross-reference-like” logic and brusqueness. Have you ever seen a
witness being cross-referenced by a lawyer in a courtroom? This type of questioning is
not doubtful, but it severely interrogates and harshly challenges a person, leaving them
with two options:
1. State the true, verifiable facts.
2. State false extremely rehearsed statements.
There is very little room, because of the intensity of the interrogation, to
3. Convincingly Change or modify their idea “on fly”.
Sever questioning ideally evokes the truth and elicits your core plans, and what is truly
meaningful to you. In a court trial, some witnesses make up false testimonies before the
questioning and recite those, or they simply state the facts. It is not easy to guise a false
idea that they modify or change on the fly during the interrogation. Doing so would be
similar to trying to sunbath in the midst of a tempest. Because of its ability to produce
personal truths, or excessively rehearsed false statements, severe questioning can be quite
productive in a variety of situations, especially when you want black-and-white answers

(definite truth or definite spuriousness. For example, if someone kept on telling you that
you are a lesser person, because they don’t practice the same religion as you do, doubting
them would be sinking to their level, but questioning could be a very productive shield.
Severely Questioning beliefs engenders the opportunity to challenge and improve or
discard the beliefs.
Severe questioning can also be powerful in dismantling your own beliefs or the beliefs of
others, if they are destructive. No one has the right to judge the soundness of other’s
beliefs (except for maybe God or the Judicial System), but if other people’s beliefs harm
others, like the beliefs of the KKK, for example, the instigation of questioning can be
beneficial. A belief, according to Anthony Robbins, is something “we no longer
question in any way. New experiences, however, can trigger change only if they cause us
to question our beliefs” (86). We take beliefs on faith, and they can provide incredible
conviction. If our convictions are destructive, however, we have adopted a compromising
belief – an opinion that compromises the safety of others. If we find ourselves, or others,
having faith in destructive or compromising beliefs, such opinions should definitely be
severely questioned.
If you have a compromising or disconcerting belief, severe questioning helps dismantle

these beliefs by forcing us to examine the details. If you, for example, believe that all
men are dumb beer-drinking morons, it would be useful to doubt that belief because such
a belief is not true – there certainly are some beer-drinking dim-witted men, but all men
certainly are not dim-witted and beer drinking. By not involving the negative crippling
side effects of doubt, severe questioning crafts our opinions into more truth and less
fiction.
Compassionate Questioning
Remember: Doubt never inculcates a change in beliefs as effectively and completely as

questioning. Compassionate questioning is less direct than sever questioning because it
doesn’t have a two option outcome; it isn’t as brutal, upfront, and confrontational as sever
questioning. Compassionate questioning simply invites the investigation of one’s

opinions and puts them on the table as an opportunity to make them more solid.
There is this fantastic scene in the movie “Garden State” where the depressed protagonist
visits a cheerful doctor because of headaches. The doctor looks at the patient’s file and
reads off the list of Xoloft, Prozac, Xanifil, and other anti-depressants he had been taking
for the past ten years. The doctor pauses, smiles, and objectively questions the
protagonist, “Have these drugs helped you?” The protagonist, after a little shock to his
beliefs and his behavior, responds, “No, not really”. The doctor then tells him that even if
he is not having therapy, “Whatever is on your mind will peak its way out of the water”.
The young man’s belief system revolved around the idea that drugs would help him, but it
took compassionate questioning of the doctor to make him challenge and realize the
falsity of believing in the effectiveness of drugs.
Notice that compassionate questioning was the best choice of questioning in this situation
because the patient was so sensitive to the conversation. If the doctor had doubted the
patient, saying, for example, “It is doubtful those drugs are improving your condition at
all”, the boy could have had a defensive reaction to this comment, interpreting it as a
doubtful disparagement. If the doctor had used sever questioning, by saying, “Do you
really, actually, think these drugs are doing a smidgen of good to you?” The sensitive
patient would have stuttered and put up a defensive shield to the doctor, making the
remainder of the important useless and ineffective. Choosing which form of questioning
– sever or compassionate – is a talent and an art. We discuss selecting between these two
flavors of questioning later in this chapter.
When you apply self-questioning to your own beliefs, you are undergoing a profoundly
creative act. This provides an in-depth comprehension of you – what ideas, beliefs, and
opinions you uphold. When you comprehend and recognize your own beliefs, you can
relate to your identify and your destination more completely. From this knowledge, you
can channel energy to the path of certainty! Everyone will always say different things to
you regarding different beliefs. The true question comes down to if you believe in your
comprehension, your understanding of different beliefs. With the variety of beliefs
around, it can sometimes feel like we must fight for our mind. Questioning your own
beliefs strengthens the integrity of you knowing your mind.
Having compassion towards all people, regardless of their intentions, is the true sign of
personal confidence. If you had a plethora of compassion would you ever doubt people
and feel obligated to change them? No, you would honor their beliefs; you would even
honor the dubiousness of others. Honoring the dubiousness of others is important
because when someone doubts you (different from questioning your beliefs) this is a sign
of personal self-doubt in themselves. When someone attacks you with destructive or
preventive doubt, they are defending something that is threatening their own beliefs.
Recognize the integrity in your own beliefs and the lack of integrity in others, and have
compassion for them. This prevents you from participating in doubt, as well.
Determining the Disposition
Determining when to challenge and when to compliment is very tricky business, but with
your growing awareness of the strains of doubt, the ways doubt impedes luck and chance,
and the fact that doubt cripples initiative, you will be more aware of the moods of people.
You will begin to develop an awareness of where people lie on the doubt spectrum; are
they too insecure or too arrogant? Because you will have eliminated doubt from your
source of emotions, you brain will be able to clearly observe the emotional state of
others.
Your entire world will open up. You'll swiftly observe the state of others, of
which they may not even be aware. . It's so obvious that if you know someone is in a
certain mental state – of insecurity or reluctance or timidity – that you'll be working with
more than they have to work. Your penetrating observations cut through the facade and
illuminate the underlying problem (what neuro-linguistic programmers call the “deep
structure”). Do you think if you knew what someone was emotionally going through, it
would be easier to determine the type of encouragement they need? The knowledge of
someone's mental state provides you with the inspirational insight to determine who
needs what type of encouragement. This needs no explanation. If you have the recipe for
a cake mix, it's implied that you also know the ingredients from that recipe; if you see the
“recipe” for someone's mental state of depravity, it's implied you know what
complimentary “ingredients” to use to nourish and exonerate them from that state.
Anyone who doesn't see that obvious connection is being obtuse, and probably shouldn't
have even made it this far in the book in the first place}}
Obviously, if someone is arrogant, you challenge them to provoke them to

question, and if someone is insecure, you inspire them with compliments. The less fear
and self-doubt you have, the more your brain becomes aware of the fear and self-doubt of
others, simply because you won’t have those obstacles impeding your insights. However,
because, in order for you to have eliminated the fear and doubt from yourself, you had to
undergo extensive self-questioning and maybe you were given insights from another
inspirational person, coach, or leader. If you have insights and awareness into the moods
of others because you have personally eliminated fear and self-doubt, someone gave you
ingredients that helped you get to that state.
Everything is a cohesively improving mechanism – others help you to help yourself so

you can help others. Committing to helping yourself eliminate doubt and being
successful in doing so, obligates you to then direct conversations and provide people with
the inspiration they need, just like people inspired you! Like any other disposition or
mood, arrogance is one of the most common and destructive states; let’s examine how to
tactfully direct someone with arrogance through challenging inspiration.
The Essence of Personal Impact
People operate on many different levels of exchange. Some people appreciate a “Hello”
and a jubilant conversation at a greeting; some people enjoy smiles at a greeting; others
like a firm handshake; and the most reticent might be satisfied with simply a nod. The
point is that first approaches with people have an enormous impact. The impact is so
huge, that it is always, always worth it to take a lighter workload or bring in more fun and
relaxation into your schedule for the sake of having the energy to respond in a way that
truly meets a person’s desires at greetings.
Lacking the Contact
When you overload your schedule you may get a lot accomplished, but the
negative impact on your image and impact seriously cripples your life to a point where
the bonus accomplishments wouldn’t weigh out to even be benefits anymore. In college,
I knew a bunch of “neuroscience” majors. These were people who did the most
challenging major, encompassing chemistry, psychology, physics, and biology. My
college also had something called the “Block” plan, which is a ridiculously zany schedule
where you cram a semester-long class into 1 month and take just that class (there is no
multi-tasking). So you can imagine how rigorous and demanding the general is, let alone
a neuroscience major on the “Block” plan. The neuroscience students are all incredibly
intelligent, obviously a requirement for such an intellectually demanding pursuit, but
during some blocks – the especially difficult chemistry or biology classes, for example –
these students, literally, disappear. No one sees them at all because they spend 5-6 hours
in a lab, 3 hours in class, and the rest of their life at the library. During these intense
blocks of the most intense major on the most intense and fast-paced academic curriculum,
these people become like Zombies. This one guy I knew, who was incredibly kind,
always looked like the stress was going to buckle and cave his eyebrows in. All of his
responses were monosyllabic gestures and singe-word monotone, lifeless gestures
whenever anyone would say “Hi” to hi because he was so burdened. This is not because
of poor etiquette, they were all incredibly polite and welcoming people, but a result of
them being ridiculously emotionally, mentally, and physically drained by their lives. The
bottom-line is that the neuroscience majors’ pursuit is extremely praiseworthy, but the
social sacrifice that is made from it, makes the pursuit not advisable.
This is certainly not a recommendation to be a slacker and use the excuse of “I’m
ensuring my people space isn’t being jeopardized” to support your avoidance of work.
Instead, the emphasis here is incredibly balance. Balance must be achieved in a variety of
situations, and most importantly in human-human interactions. Remember that you are
human, a homo sapiens, foremost, then a family member, friend, maybe worker, and
maybe student. Keep that taxonomical hierarchy of communications purposeful and
engaged to make contact with other people and you will soar to tremendous places.
Lacking the Commitment
The other extreme, obviously, is not enough commitment – the slacker who only
deals with people-people communications and never commits himself to solid learning.
The idea of work should be defenestrated, and one should always pursue contact, but
failing to have a solid learning base is a poor use of the mind. Now, this problem is less
severe than the “Lacking Contact Syndrome”, because in that case the individual didn’t
have his/her priorities right (they put their role of a worker over their role as a human).
In this case, the person has his/her priorities right (they are operating as a human first and
foremost (emphasizing joy, laughter, human contact, and other human qualities), but they
lack assertion on the other qualities in their life – being a family-member, worker, learner,
etc. This is simply cured with the remedy of commitment: these people must focus on
some learning emphasis and mentally, emotionally grow with it. This emphasis could be
“a survey” of academia or a focused connection of learning all the species of apple tree,
for example. The avenue for acquiring this knowledge could be reading, talking,
communicating, or listening. The important ideal is the maintain balance – a
tremendously healthy balance – between commitment to learning, work, and “non-
human” stuff and contact with humans. And remember to never overload yourself
emotionally (too many things to say, too many complicated feelings simultaneously,
mentally (excessive obligations and tasks simultaneously), physically (excessive
overeating, under-eating, or huge changes in exercise patterns. Remember above all to
embrace the compassionate reservoir and trust in inner knowing for an intuitive resource
for illumination, jubilant excursions, and focus.
Life School Lessons
“We live in a five sensory world. This is our learning environment.

This is our earth school” -- Gary Zukav
.It is incredibly important to focus on things you do as events in the earth school and not
things that, for example, are obligations or activities that lead to increased finance, health,
wealth, happiness, or love. Those boosts or great, but they can lead to stress, impeding
you from accessing your authentic strengths. Always look at everything as a lesson.
Take swimming, for example. For the longest time, I could never get myself down to the
pool. It was always fun and engaging and exhilarating once I began swimming, but I
couldn’t work up the intense motivation to get to the club to swim. It wasn’t lack of
physique; I was in fairly good shape and wasn’t embarrassed walking around in trunks or
something. It wasn’t because I forgot; I always remembered. It was mainly because of
variables; I always ran into something different – variables like their would be 2 less lane
lines, there would be polo practice, there would be excessive divers, there would a lot or
a little of lifeguards, or their would be no one in the pool but me. All of these variables
jarred me and irritated my focus during the workout when I wanted to do something so
demanding and focused and has constant as getting an intense swim workout. I couldn’t
plan for these subtle changes, so I didn’t swim that often. Additionally, I always felt like
I would need to impress others – the lifeguards in the pool by swimming. This need to
impress, obviously, was a significant drain on my health and ability to swim clearly and
with focus. But when I needed to get in shape so I could truly enjoy and not struggle
catching some amazing waves in Costa Rica for my spring break, I knew I needed to
break my hesitant aquatic pattern and get down to the pool. The method I chose to
shatter my problematic pattern was embracing the life school.
By having faith in the life school, not only did I expect subtle changes, but I
honored them. I began to look at these changes as little lessons – for that’s what they
really are (what else would they be, honestly?). If there’s only one lifeguard, you could
plug that in to meaning that you are a good swimmer and many guards aren’t needed. If
there are kayakers practicing, you can plug that in to make you believe you are in a river,
to vary your swim. These life school lessons are whatever you want them to mean. So,
in addition to growing and learning from these invaluable lessons, I was infinitely more
at ease and completely non-hesitant with my environment. I simply flowed (pun

unintended) with motivation, conviction, and passion.
Look at the example of going to class, going to work ,giving a presentation or

meeting new people, you can look at the variables of who will be there, where you will
sit, and what different lessons will be learned as problems or huge learning opportunities.
Learn to live the life you’ve always wanted by embracing and nourishing the life school!
Severe and compassionate questioning are profound teachers. operating as guides

in the earth school because, as forms of “strengthening doubt,” they encourage us to
address the peculiarities and varying interpretations that make each of our experiences
unique. Severe and compassionate questioning transforms something that could brood
apprehension, into something that operates as a strengthening factor. Computer
science variables exist to be altered. That's all you do with variables is alter, alter.; they're
altercations! Plus, a variable isn't always uncertainty, so substituting uncertainty won't
work one addresses them, changes them deals with them somehow, though generally by
making them more stable or reliable or functional. Your ability to distinguish when to
use severe questioning or compassionate questioning and your ability to inspire others to
action indicate how you have come to being a master in the Life School. But all
teachers are students themselves, and vice versa. The best way to experience the best of
the intellectual and inspirational dimensions of life is to recognize the significance of
stable authenticity and grounded originality. Recognizing the connection of these two
elements allows you to connect with the zeitgeist and remain passionately anchored to
your infinitely enduring compassionate reservoir.
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Chapter 4: Creating Permanent Change

In his book, “Awaken the Giant Within”, Anthony Robbins discusses the essential
framework for change. He says that temporary change can occur in a variety of ways,
especially if a life coach, guru, or inspirational speaker provokes the metamorphosis.
However, to create lasting, permanent change we must declare three things and pursue
the change with those three essentials on our path. The declarations we must make to
ourselves are:
1. What I want to change must change.
2. Whatever must change, I am the one to change it.
3. Whatever must change, I am the one to change it, and I can change it.
This simple construction builds off each sentence to eventually create the enduring
formula for lasting change. First, you must admit to yourself that the characteristic,
pattern, habit, eating style, or behavior that you think should change is something that
must change. Make the change essentially vital and imperative to your existence, not
something optional. Setting the stage for an impertinent change anchors you to the
endeavor of changing with intense commitment. Once you have committed to
transforming, you must believe in the person will be generating that change. For
permanent, solid change, the person to initiate such a transformation must be you.
Finally, once you – and only you – have decided to commit yourself to fully changing
something, you must declare and recognize that you actually possess the power to
change the pattern. Acknowledging your transformative capacity places the keystone,
fortifying the adaptive power of the undeviating three-step formula for permanent
change.
Now that you comprehend the formula for everlasting change, you must practice
applying this equation to your lives. One positive quality that you might want to make
permanent is the characteristic of altruism: helping others. I remember being on a hiking
trip for a month in the lush mountains of Colorado and the wild countryside of Utah,
Wyoming, and Montana. With nothing else to occupy the time other than the gift of each
other’s presence, I found myself mentally jotting down things ideas that could empower
people in the group. I then commanded myself to walk over to that person and express
them. In civilization, I would have discarded relevant, poignant, complimentary
comments about a friend for the sake of television, “work” that must get accomplished, or
some other societal obligation. Being in the mountains reduced me inclination towards
“busyness”. It is not a coincidence that if the ‘i’ were changed to ‘y’, “business” and
busyness” would be homonyms (words that are spelled alike, but have different
meanings). When you get involved in civilization, you can quickly get into your self-
absorbed groove. Let’s try to permanently remind ourselves to value the importance of
communicative altruism: thinking of compliments for people and then taking the
initiative to express them.
To permanently develop this quality of communicative altruism, simply follow the

formula. Say the following to yourself everyday for a week:
1. Neglecting the importance of communicative altruism is something that must

change.
2. Becoming communicative altruistic must happen, I am the one to make it happen.
3. Becoming communicative altruistic must happen, I am the one to make it happen,

and I posses the power to make it happen.
Repeating this phrase over time, if done in complete concentration, can have a “magical”
effect on your life. International poet, monk, and peace activist, Thich Nhat Hanh refers
to Buddhist Mantras and says, “A mantra is a magical formula that, once it is uttered, can
entirely change a situation, our mind, our body, or a person. But this magical formula
must be spoken in a state of concentration, that is to say, a state in which body an mind
are absolutely in a state of unity.”[1] This unity of mind and body is incredibly
challenging, but can be acquired by deep breathing. Once you acquire this state, saying
the three-step formula will instill rhythmic mantra-like changes into your being. You will
recognize the results very quickly. Once the brain commits to a change, that will occur
through your own powers and potential, the body and the emotions fall into place soon
after. By stating this formula for change on a regular basis, your brain will commit to it
and you will be empowered with that eternal transformation!
People Help you Out
People always help you. I remember running on my own for years, thinking that
being with other people would distract me or they would emotionally weigh me down.
After continuing this solo-running practice for a while and timing myself on runs, I
decided to double-check my theory. I learned that when I ran with a group or with
another runner, I actually got similar times; sometimes my pace was even faster in the
presence of others! The presence of other runners only had a negative affect on me, only
if allowed it to result in a crippling consequence. Reminding ourselves that people have
the power to help us out, rather than hinder us, in any situation – an athletic race, an
intellectual exam, a business project, an emotional writing assignment – if we choose
people to have an empowering effect on us. Because people are omnipresent – you will
find them wherever you go, whatever you do – why not cultivate a relationship that is
nourishing, rather than crippling? Choosing to have people nourish you, instead of
debilitate you, is choosing success because you will be enriched and invigorated with the
presence of others.
Remaining Connected to People
Remaining connected to people is vital to staying on your path, maintaining your

bearings, and most of all, staying balanced. Any friends or family members that you truly
care about, you carve out time – special time – to spend with them as often as possible.
Taking a retreat is the best way to create a bond in a friendship that is harmonious. When
you create such a bond, you enrich your spirit. I remember one time I was offered an
invitation to a party where there were about three major family friends that I was
extremely close with in elementary school, hadn’t seen in quite some time, and rarely got
a chance to see. It was the perfect setting – a Michigan retreat – and the perfect
opportunity to re-connect and share some great times with each other. However, I had
been coming down with a cold the passed few days, being on a nocturnal sleep schedule
(waking and sleeping at off hours of the day), and chose not to go.
Immediately, once the party had commenced – the time at which it would have
commenced if I had been there, that is – I felt sincerely sick to my stomach. I felt invalid
and like I had misses a chance of a lifetime. This was overly rationalizing, but it is vitally
important to understand that we must seize the opportunities to reconnect with old
friends, because with the fast-paced world of change, such chances are rare. I knew I
should always pull a carpe diem, but it was the method to seize those opportunities that
was so difficult. I needed to be always ready, alert, never depressed, and alive for
communication. Remember, I was impeded from seizing the opportunity because I had
felt unalert and down. The secret to keeping up friend ties is, thus, always being alert,
clear, and alive, and the secret to sustaining that state is recognizing and following, what
Michael Ray talks about, your highest goal. My highest goal is connecting with people in
a didactic ambience. If I teach and I learn from other people about empowerment,
wisdom, ingenuity, making valid enriching decisions that relinquish mercurial thought
patterns and allow them to abandon inert lifestyles, I feel empowered. It’s kind of
paradoxical that if I don’t help other people learn about their own obstacles, I fall into my
own. But, stating the same thing with different phrasing, its magical, miraculous, and
beautiful that by helping others overcome their obstacles, I conquer my own. That is,
actually, the only way I conquer my obstacles: by helping others conquer their fears and
limitations.
Anthony Robbins reminds to “at least twice a day…rehearse and emotionally

enjoy the experience of achieving one of your most valued goals” (p. 302). This step
accomplishes two huge, enormous things that provoke expansive change in your life: 1) It
causes you to examine the future, providing a generative projection out of problems or
obstacles into the present, allowing you to abandon negative thinking, reacquire your
bearings, and find certainty in life. The second thing visioning the accomplishment of
your goals is that it evokes the dissolution of any doubts of achieving your goal,
providing your with motivation and will power to energize its completion, and it validates
the poignancy of the goal.
Just like any sport, pursuing goals needs constant practice. One of my highest
goals was teaching about empowerment. One week I took off, one time, and didn’t write,
go over my empowerment words, or didn’t teach, and the effect was enormously
debilitating. I felt discolored, deflated, as though I had destroyed a vital component of
my life, after that instructional “respite”. Of course, I hadn’t destroyed a part of my life,
but I seriously felt crippled. Worse, I was shocked at how vacant my thought process had
become, how monotonous my conversations, and how out-of-touch I had been with my
words! I needed alone time to re-align myself. One thing I have discovered is that when
I am alone, I write in some kind of creativity zone, where I feel clear, alive and centered.
I spend time acting and pleasing others instead of centering myself when I am around
people al-too often. I realized I can’t always be in a creative zone around people, but I
constantly build towards improvement not for the unattainable perfection, but the
progression towards reconciliation of happiness, wisdom, strength, and virtue. By
grounding and centering myself and getting back into the writing habit, I refueled my
passion for teaching, and writing and energized my life. The stimulating impact of
connecting with my highest goal was incredibly illuminating. The more I began to teach
and communicate empowerment through written or spoken word, I felt burdens lifted off
my shoulders, sincerity enrich my voice, ease and fulfillment slip into my life, and
passionate creativity boost my spirit. Accessing my highest goal was like taking some
miracle drug, positively affecting everything from my sleep patterns to my spiritual
mood. It was better than a drug because by completing that goal, and constantly
envisioning myself teaching, I was more and more empowered each day!
Invigorating Your Inner Eye
When you start to use your inner voice, you become incredibly aligned and
certain about your existence. This allows you to ascertain qualitative goodness and to
provide whimsical certainty in your existence by vanquishing languidness and inertness.
You gain more energy from this inner source because the external source pulls you along
just enough until you should be tired and then stops. The external source is the practical,
run-till-your-tired, 8 hours of sleep a day, mentality. Usually the external source of
connection – through your ‘external eye’ – is a profound way to maintain consistency and
keep a stable pattern. But when it comes through breaking through any type of personal
barrier – mental, emotional, psychological, and or physical – we must turn to our inner
eye, our inner voice. That is where we do incredibly feats that we originally thought
were possible. An example is a marathon. When I run a marathon, the training is 80%
external voice, and 20% internal – it is almost all practical planning, carving out the time,
and maintaining focus. The 20% is pushing through those hard days when you don’t
think you can put in more miles and you somehow “pull it off” without knowing why, or
how. The inner voice is a the catalyst for doing something unexpected, out of the
ordinary, or the motivation to do something that you have never done, but have always
wanted to do. It is the nascence of covering new frontier. When our forefathers, amongst
the fifty-five delegates from 12 of our nation’s states, met at the Constitutional
Convention in May of 1787, they were extremely focused on this national inner voice and
eye of new America because creating a constitution for their country had never been
accomplished.
For the longest time, I felt extremely disorganized when I was around other
people. I couldn’t find a way to keep my schedule and have a productive agenda and be
with them. I realized that I needed to run and have a schedule for me that is planned, and
then a segment of time that was open just to having fun with people. IT seemed like my
life was split into those two “personalities”. One being the isolated, almost hermit-like,
but extremely self-disciplined personality where I would feel very productive and
certified. The other would be the eating what is in front of me, no direction, no path, no
plan, and this was extremely outgoing, talkative and fun. One was all work, the other all
play. I needed a balance between both. When was communicative and alive, the other
was progressive and focused. Progress and passion – those were the two roles. I needed,
around people, to be focused on passion, and around myself, focused on progress, but
these switched at times, too.
I eventually discovered that one of my voices, the focused, pushing voice, didn’t like
being around people. I felt like people pushed me around and made me do and feel
things I didn’t want to feel. Because of my easy-going nature, I never stood up myself
and it became a pattern of people telling me so much stuff. No one would like this. I
never – or very rarely – told people what I actually felt and they seemed to test me on
this, purposefully or not, I am not sure. It made me realize the extreme significance of
expressing my emotions – whether they be impassioned, affectionate, authentic, enriching
love or bottled up rage and anger.
Simple Rundown of NAC
Neuro-associative conditioning revolves around the belief that your brain associates
neuro-connection, producing physical neurobiological changes in behaviors we indulge
in. Whether we indulge in smoking 10 packs of squares a week, or running 10 miles a
day, our brain actually adapts and produces more neurobiological firings and actually
grows in size relative to that activity. So if you smoke 10,000 Camels a month, a
"cigarette-smoking" area of your brain will become remarkably "talented" and actually
have more neuro-associative connections tethered to it. You'll certainly feel the
emphysema making your lungs croak in 20 years, but the change in the brain is the origin
of the pattern. Similarly, if you bike 100 miles a day, your lungs (like with the smoking)
will feel it, but unlike smoking, you'll be healthy, and your muscles will burn, but most
importantly the "biking" area of your brain -- the component that corresponds to the
necessary motor skills and focus to bike --- will physically grow. Obviously, to most
efficiently use this knowledge, we must focus on indulging in healthy eating, exercise,
psychological, nutritional, and relationship patterns.
Anthony Robbins says that when we make neuro-associations for things we try to
determine the culprit of pain or pleasure. The brain runs down a three step formula, it
checks to see if
1. The source of pain is a unique event.

2. The source of pain is simultaneously occurring with the actual sensation of pain
(psychologists call this the Law of Recency)
3. The consistency of the unique event occurring simultaneously with the pain.
If all these three things match up, then your brain associates pain (or pleasure if that
is what is being determined) with that event. Unfortunately, this process is very general
and can lead to misinterpretations and false neuro-associations.
If I go running with my shoes tied, my brain will very quickly notice the "untied
shoes" as the unique event, recognize that me falling over and ending up with painful
scrapes and bruises, simultaneously occurs with not tying my shoes. Finally, my brain
will note that I am consistently in pain while simultaneously running and engaging in the
unique behavior of not tying my shoes. This is an authentic neuro-associations (and a
very simple, but illustrative, one at that).
Relinquish Struggle with Engagement
A very powerful tool for reducing, minimizing, or completely eradicating struggle and
adapting to your environment is engagement. When we fully commit to something -- that
is, intrinsically, focus on it -- and have fully decided with mind, body, spirit, and
emotions to endeavor, we diminish difficulty. Certainly, their will still be challenge, but
struggle will not be present in the place of commitment. Struggle and engagement are
mutually exclusively – the two can’t coexist. Think about it. Have you ever tried to read
a book when you were thinking about something else – a million other things? It’s hard!
But I have run two marathons and found them, not exactly easy, because certainly simple
and direct, and without any struggle whatsoever. Sure, I was working and exerting
myself with sincere focus, but my personal serenity was what was so astonishing. How is
it that going to the store to buy some milk can seem like more of challenge (by crossing
the street, finding keys, gathering money, interacting with the clerk, etc.) than starting a
$1 million dollar company or biking 100 miles? The answer is internal alignment. Once
you have aligned yourself towards the task with commitment, you will soar. Not simply
accomplish, but accomplish and succeed with style and grace.
Engagement places you at a position of embracement There are copious examples of

easy situations that become difficult by not engaging in that activity. Have you ever lost
your car keys, misplaced your wallet, or lost your wristwatch? You weren’t engaged in
the situation, so your mind (and it’s memory retention) weren’t focused, either. However,
there exist myriad ways to make difficult situations a breeze, as well.. When you arrive
at a new, foreign, and unfamiliar or simply uncomfortable setting that you don’t want to
be a part of, normally you will “got through the motions” and wait that thing to be over.
But if you engage that same situation, you embrace it. And when you embrace it, you
experience only the positives; the negatives sift through like sand in a sieve. Embracing
the situation by engaging it will always generates tranquility and equanimity.
Breathing into the situation is part of the engagement process. Always remember to
breath in and out saying, “I am committed to being here.” It truly works. Look at the
marathon example again. If you have trained for 18 months 6 days a week non-stop, the
actual marathon is simple! But if you try to read a newspaper column with your mind
drifting elsewhere, it can be one of the most difficult situations imaginable. The message
here is resolution. Being resolute with ourselves – our decisions, our commitments, and
our emotions – creates an incredible certainty in how we choose to commit to something.
If we are authentically focused on the task that we are endeavoring – if we are
authentically engaged – all of our physiology, emotional management, and mental
alacrity will coalesce to work with complete focus towards that end!
Think about it, have you ever been at a loss for time, seeming like you never have
enough of it? Was this when you were extremely busy, or casually milling around? You
seem to “lose time” when you over the top with work. Your brain is calculating how long
it will take something to get accomplished, your emotions are working to provide
motivation for the task, and your body and scrutinizing mind are executing it. When you
are fully committed to something, you are an electrifying connection of drive,
commitment and fervent execution. When we encourage ourselves to focus on our plan
with sincerity, we automatically catalyze adept and creative involvement with our soul
and personality. As described earlier, the fusion of our soul with our personality is one of
the most powerful synchronizations available because it drowns out negative energy and
supplies positive, nourishing and rejuvenating energy to our brain and body.
When we create a capacity for knowing ourselves --how we operate and function -- we
create sincerity about who we really are, and this self-knowledge allows us to apply
ourselves with greater vehemence. Science-fiction writer, Douglas Adams points out that
“we find our images of what we call evil things outside ourselves, in creatures that know
nothing of such matters, so that we can feel revolted by them, and by contrast, good about
ourselves” (47)[2] . This type of projection occurs all the time, and with the specific case
with Adams, he was referring to the “evil-looking” Komodo dragon in Indonesia. The
dragon knows nothing of malign tendencies, but we implant this evil projection on him
because he haws horns and scaly skin. This happens all the time with people. Sometimes
they may actually have evil tendencies, but the important thing to recognize here, is that
we are much more often, projecting our own feelings than actually reading people. When
we fully commit to a task with authentic engagement, the opportunity for a deceiving
projection to occur is impossible. By knowing ourselves and avoiding projections we
have personal access to our potential. Everyone knows we only use 10% of our brain, but
we can utilize more of our mental power – exceed our own boundaries – with situation
engagement.
Sincere commitment, commitment based on faith, channels prosperity and goodness

through our bodies and emotional conduits, leaving know room for distraction or
branching into evil tendencies. Committing to a task makes the task easier, because all of
our capacity will be channeled into it, and it makes our perceptions clearer and more
vivid and genuine, without having projections interfere with our perspective.
In addition to removing obfuscating projections and harnessing your full

potential, engaging with an activity provides emotional freedom. When you begin to do
something that you aren’t committed to, say, writing a business project that you aren’t
interested in, your emotions seek something else, so you aren’t executing as a complete
person. Your emotions are drawn to what’s interesting, tantalizing, and exciting, your
brain can choose to engage in whatever it wants, but when you have the emotional
backing – that is, the emotional involvement – as well, you’re full capacity of your
intellect generates momentum towards the task, too. Try it. If you are waiting in a line,
for example, at the airport say, “I am committed to being at this airport, taking this flight,
and waiting in this line.” If you say that to yourself three times with conviction, you
entire mood glows. You become perkier, more invigorated, and you have more energy.
You feel more alert, and even compassionate. When I have said the Sentence of Sincerity
to myself in the past, I became so overjoyed that I felt like I should share that joy and
began immediately trying to help other people! This emotional focus becomes emotional
liberation because you are free to direct your normally capricious and impulsive
emotions.
Sentences of Sincerity generate emotional freedom because they hone and channel our
emotions into our situation. Most of the time our emotions are scattered, investigating
many different things, like armies of ants darting here and there. Have you ever seen a
special species of fish that perform a very centered maneuver, exemplifying how such
centeredness can quickly ward off fear? These fish clump and swim together is such a
tight pack that they actually look like are larger, more intimidating fish (which scares off
predators). That tightly knit, adapting, synchronized cohesion of focus and clarity will
resemble your emotions, when you fully commit to your situation, your environment, and
your place. Everything you need is always around you, and the universe flawlessly
places you in the perfect emotional and spiritual place all the time. When you engage
your situation, your realize this replenishing, omnipresent, energy source. Absorbing
your emotions in the environment by choosing to focus and apply them manufactures
ease and grace. You will move as a holistic being, not a disarrayed and fragmented unit.
Engaging with your situation is a win-win situation because you generate emotional
freedom, minimize or eliminate struggle, and generate a perspective, unblemished by
projections, of clarity. Engagement is peace, clarity, and ease.
[1] Hanh, Thich Nhat. True Love. Boston: Shambhala Books, 2004. p. 9
[2] Adams, Douglas. Last Chance to See. New York: Harmony Books, 1990.
Chapter 5: The Mind's Eye Essence

The Essence: Avenue to “Emotional Travel”
A connection to your mind's eye is a connection to your essence. Aristotle even

connected the mind’s vigor to our essence when he said, “The energy of the mind is the
essence of life”. While it is the mind, emotions, and soul, that create life’s essence, the
mind – specifically, the mind’s eye – is a vital component, connecting everything to
everything. The window from which the omniscient wizard, whom resides in all of us,
observes the zeitgeist of the time is our mind's eye. Your essence is the creative catalyst
that initiates change, creates identity and inspires your soul; your essence not only
energizes our motivations and invigorates our courage, but it is the very substance that
mechanizes our concept of self. When we connect the intuitive mind's eye to the
identifying essence, you manufacture a window to equanimity. From this window, a
unique synthesis, combining the external observations of the mind's eye and the deeply
intrinsic comprehension of your essence, you blissfully remain at a fulcrum of peace and
prosperity.
When you learn to distinguish this place from other emotional places -- identified
by its clarity, certainty, and serenity -- you can juggle what you perceive in others and
unit it with your inner aspirations. This manufactures a certainty of overwhelming
conviction because you will adapt to and recognize the emotional plateaus of others,
genuinely mollify any concerns they have in their quest, and nourish you own endeavors.
A blind mind's eye signifies the inability to read your own status, while a neutralized soul
is an indication of a calamity that may destroyed your potential to connect with fellow
human beings. American author Napoleon Hill said, “Hold a picture of yourself long
enough and steadily enough in your mind’s eye, and you will be drawn toward it”. This
is remarkable insight because it gives us the ability to become our own role model. When
you mind’s eye is lucid and open, you are attracted to your own strengths, you gravitate
towards your core and recognize the validity of you the way you are. Keeping the
conduit to your essence and the window to your mind's eye open and willing will provide
the capacity to love without feeling congested by taking in too much information of their
self and others.
Fulcrum of Peace and Prosperity
A person can easily read too much and become psychologically and intuitively
congested. When you binge your mind with a smorgasbord of novels, a barrage of
television shows, and hours of radio, we become emotionally overwhelmed with the
variety of messages we receive. By allowing these messages to simply exist, but without
grasping on to them, you can peacefully live in civilization. However, if we become
over-charged and fail to recognize a state of being emotionally or psychologically
overwhelmed the knowledge -- visual, auditory, or kinesthetic -- can obfuscate our mind's
eye. When your mind's eye is clouded you cannot connect yourself to a place of certainty
because the mind's eye acts as an emotional anchor, tethering you to your essence.
Without being able to check your bearings through the intuitive window of the mind's
eye, you incarcerate the possibility of manufacturing that fulcrum of peace and
prosperity. The fulcrum of peace and prosperity is the center of balance; the peace and
prosperity already exit inside of you, but you must generate the equilibrium.
Whether you are away of it or not, if we get "too much" of something, even peace,
our brain can set up a warning trigger that says, "Stop that substance we are getting too
much of that" even though you can never have too much peace, love, or prosperity. The
fulcrum is the location of balance where we cultivate the greatest amount of prosperity
and peace without it being discarded by our mind's filtration. The more we can generate
the tendency to enrich our psychology and emotional spirituality by returning back to this
fulcrum of peace, we can reside in a place of inner knowing because our mind's eye and
essence will be connected.
By allowing ourselves to reside in peaceful inner knowing, we can love freely.

This inner knowing liberates us to reach out to people and share our respect and
admiration for their presence. This reaching out and sharing process is muddied and
stymied if the lover doesn't know themselves. The Buddha once said, "You, as much as
anyone else in the universe, deserve your love." Loving your self creates an indentation
in your emotional spectrum which causes you to gravitate to that inner fulcrum of peace
and prosperity. Loving yourself provides inner knowing, which creates the opportunity
for loving others freely. When we love others in a state of personal liberation, we can
emotionally travel.
Creating the mental space to accept and cherish and appreciate all attributes of a
person, allows them to emotionally travel. When you emotionally travel, you experience
emotions that you have always experience but do so from a perspective that is much more
aware. If you emotionally travel with the emotion of happiness, for example, you will be
more aware of the variation of happiness you experience. The sensation could be
scintillating, vibrating, conceiving, reminiscing, or prospering happiness, for example.
Additionally, when you emotionally travel, you will nourish awareness to understand
how the happiness (or whatever emotion you deliciously devour) affects you, others, and
your history. Emotional travel is the culmination of the combined practices of using our
mind's eye and essence to identify our soul. The best way to get in touch with our soul is
to comprehend the poignancy of emotions and to connect with our loving soul.
Embracing Liberating Love
When we learn to love other beings through strokes of authentic gestures, we access our
own compassionate source. The source for compassion actually is inexhaustible but so
many people commit themselves to "hoarding" "claiming" or "coveting" their own love
and happiness, which are derivatives from this compassionate reservoir. Our
compassionate source, however, can never be diminished. Even if we have been
betrayed, disparaged by loved ones, insulted, considered a failure -- any external situation
-- we still can access our reservoir of compassion. This reservoir actually illuminates our
existence.
When we are successful and competent, other people like encouraging and
complimenting us. However, if we slip up (which happens all the time, even to the most
competent people) our expected reverence from others plummets. This makes external
references to acknowledge our capacity an unstable selection for support. A great
motivator -- yes -- but stable references, certainly not. We must access listening to our
inner voice so that we learn to trust in that more effectively and wisely. When we create
opportunities for our external voice to be uplifted and authenticated only be external
compliments we lose touch with our reservoir of compassion because we are not acting
from a source of clarity. Even more so, when we promote change in our lives by
allowing rather than forcing, we grow internally as well as externally. When we allow
things to happen, we cease to resist, struggle or conform our life to some ideal -- it simply
becomes its own ideal. When we continue to maintain our convictions and don't allow
them to change, when necessary, we create struggle for ourselves.
For example, I remember one time being in an extremely challenging computer

science class. I quickly learned that the computer science was extremely challenging for
me. Additionally, everyone else in the class had already taken Calculus 1, 2, and some
had taken 3. I only had taken pre-calculus! I described my situation to the teacher: “I
feel like everyone else has a strong foundation of brick, mortar, and solidity, while my
foundation seems to be made out of toothpicks. Everyday when you add on new
"material" or "construction", I feel like my whole idea of computers is going to collapse!"
He understood my situation; and I soon realized the best solution. Let it collapse. As
crazy as that sounds, it was the best solution for me at the time. I wasn't trying to
maintain a conviction that was clearly frail, fragile, and about to collapse and started
learning Java programming from ground one -- I didn't even use advanced graphics like
everyone else, but used a black-and-white command line interface! I soon validated, as I
had expected, that much of what I had learned from the previous computer science class
hadn't really sunk in. I soon had the empowering affect of what muscles undergo --
getting torn and then rebuilt stronger -- with knowledge. As a I torn down my wavering
structure of previous computer science knowledge and started from scratch going at my
own pace, I quickly found the gaps that had been missing and learned it better than I eve
could have, opening new doors to clarity.
We become prolific by destroying what is wavering and unstable. If I had been

resilient and continued to use the wavering tower of obfuscated knowledge, I would have
actively continued to struggle. Choosing to "allow" whatever needed to happen -- in this
case, starting over from scratch -- to happen was extremely frightening. But after
embracing that "allowing" I found myself able to approach the re-learning without
frustration. I would have been infinitely frustrated if I hadn't "allowed", but became
peacefully and tranquilly learning in a didactically productive atmosphere of growth. By
refusing to alter our patterns, learning chunks, or lifestyles when they have become too
static and actually indict us, we dynamically stimulate critical fallacy in our life. When
we deny the capacity to grow, adapt and change -- one of the prominent aspects that
makes us human -- we quickly deny ourselves the capacity to be energized with human
energy. This energy is most potent -- most highly concentrated -- in our Reservoir of
Compassion. This can only be accessed if we trust our own intuition and judgment,
however. When we evoke the situations that facilitate our expansiveness, we quickly call
out to the inner God in all of us -- the benevolent spirit that is omniscient and omnipotent
-- we generate an uplifting mood.
Our essential substance becomes quickly acquired. The more we learn about our
capacity to allow -- and by allowing, infuriate the powers that try to control us, with new-
found ingenuity, we quickly become invigorated. We must remember that the
reconciliation is turning our interest more inward -- towards cultivating inner peace -- to
promote a tranquil resolution of harmony. Our lives should be burgeoning
conglomerations of hope, receiving, allowing and grace. By make certain these simple
qualities reside -- receiving and allowing -- we create the openness for beautiful
dynamism and mesmerizing flow in our life. The higher we set our sense of
accomplishment and recognition on an outside source, the more easily we lose touch with
our core, which is the spiritual switch, activating our Compassionate reservoir.
Reservoir of Freedom
When we access our reservoir of freedom, we quickly move into allowing for
events to occur as completely as possible. This is not "copping out" nor is it "not trying"
it is the epitome of trying your best because it evokes incredible clarity and inner
knowing. Accessing our reservoir of freedom allows us to move into state of clarifying
Compassionate love of other people. When you love another person, honestly and
truthfully, you liberate them. Think about it, how do you feel when someone tells you are
an amazing person? An attractive person? Most of us, unless we have some negative
emotional wiring to compliments, will feel uplifted, nourished, excited, and possibly
charmed -- we feel liberated. Loving another person -- truthfully and respectfully -- is a
tricky process, though. Many people become possessive with their love, which makes
such a relationship the opposite of attraction and liberation. Possessive love can be a
curse -- an overbearing, consuming, debilitating state -- while authentic love is the most
liberating form of expression.
Moreso than providing people with liberating ideas, contracts for freedom, or
methods to try to "free their own emotions" simply loving another person will provide an
empowering source of connection to your Compassionate Reservoir. For awhile, I spend
my time in school, like most other people, reading the homework, writing the written
assignments, and using my spare time to watch TV, relax, hang out with friends, or do
more "passive" things in my life. I soon realized, however, that these didn't nourish my
soul -- I felt absent spending my time this way. So I began to write, speak, and
communicate -- embracing a host of more active events. Quickly, I found mental and
emotional doorways opening. I realized I was more extroverted than I was and that I truly
felt meaningful and productively improved by communicating with people in a charming
atmosphere of open exchange and impassioned didacticism. When I before had denied
the existence of a Compassionate Reservoir, I began to manufacture change from it -- my
own change and the engagement of compassionate change in others, by inciting
emotions.
I realized that I felt most accomplished when I spoke openly, fully of enthusiasm
and invigoration to people. Before, I only was as animated and enthusiastic as I wanted
to be, based on the other person's demeanor. I would read people and "gauge" how wild
and excited I could get about speaking to them (which was an authentic feeling) without
causing them to feel uncomfortable. I was limiting my own capacity for love depending
on if the other person was "open" to it. If you're looking for a long-term relationship or a
marriage, gauging this willingness to love back of the other person is important.
However, in a conversation, such estimation isn't necessary. The conversation maintains
equilibrium whether or not the person affiliates themselves with giving and compassion.
That is the unique thing about love -- it is yours and only yours to give. Loving another
person may provoke a reaction in them -- of loving back, nervousness, excitement etc. --
but only you can feel the love you experience. For this reason, don't hold it back!
Accessing your Reservoir of Compassion and sharing it with another person is
extraordinarily liberating for both parties. You exhibit the deepest kind of love -- sheer
excitement and exuberance for being around a person, maybe even awe with their
presence -- and share it openly. This kind of expression allows us to frame our
experience. Framing is working backwards. It is examining the end product -- the goal --
and working towards it. If we frame our day to "go to bed happy", we will do everything
in our day so that "end result" frame is met. You can do this with writing (, with exercise
(to feel thoroughly exerted), and with relationships (to have fully shared your love and
exuberance).
The trick is to embrace this deeply liberating form of love together. This way, we
learn to associate ourselves with the freedom as a connected pair. When you feel
exuberant or happy, don't choose to express it, that stymies the magnificence of the
reaction. Instead, simply respond and the most natural emotions of grace, joy, and
happiness will be received out of you. If you try to communicate your enthusiasm, it
quickly looses its authenticity. Being alive and in the moment, is about encouraging
yourself for general openness, and disowning precise conversational goals. Such goals
can inhibit the cooperative flow of knowing how connected you are with the source of
knowing. The source of knowing provides a dynamic awareness -- it is accessing your
inner God -- that all-knowing all-powerful being. Jesus accessed this inner source of
wisdom most efficiently. Einstein accessed the all-knowing component of this inner God
to open mental doorways that lead to his comprehension of theories of physics that would
completely alter our perspective of the Universe. Like Copernicus in the 1500s who
accessed this inner God to comprehend the validity of a sun-centered, not the accepted
norm of an earth-centered universe, amazing discoveries are made by connecting to the
conduit of inner knowing.
The awareness about what is to come, willingness to accept what is currently

happening, and the past events of certainty, provide us with the capacity to know and
understand our peaceful sources of recognition. When we enjoy the happiness and the
complex emotions in life, we acknowledge our creative and generative bodies. When we
supply ourselves with inner knowing we nourish our entire soul!
Appearances: Friend or Foe?
Whenever someone is benign, they could be concealing their viciousness.

Appearances are the deepest, most eluding and effective trick in the book. When we see
someone who looks cute and cuddly, beware of a serpent-like intellect lurking beneath
this facade. Additionally, have compassion for those who exude ferocity and
malevolence, for they are surely wounded and vacant beneath their sham.
Learning to enrich the leaves of the gumdrops that provide a folder's worth of
knowledge that can check the decibel to our inner knowing provides a phone call that
dials into our heritage. This heritage opens the communicative knowing and sharpens our
intellect to a mechanical precision. We won't be hanging off the deck waiting for change,
instead we will dangling the substance without losing track of time. By associating our
potential to speak and listen with an air vent of expression, we can survive the tick tock
of the hours and actual cherish each second of the existence. We can experience not the
time elapsed, but the time embraced.
When you can anticipate the reaction with your tone of voice, you are speaking to
yourself even if the person nods and acknowledges. I remember discussing Karate with
this one person and kept trying to compliment her integrity, but she kept denying it, not
willing to receive the compliment. I spoke a weighted question" to her, where, with tone
and hinted language, I pretty much "told her" to say "No". I said, "Now, if you had a
billboard here, you wouldn't create diagrams for karate moves!" She immediately
responded, "No, No", she took the bait and then I said, agreeing, "No, you wouldn't. You
would learn the moves by muscle memory, which is the most effective form of learning.
Your guys' integrity is profound." And finally allowed her to relish the compliment I had
just provided. Let’s continue to understand this process with a certifying focus of
engaging the full potential of our lives.
One of the most efficient ways to tap into the essence of our mind’s eye is to
produce instigation – creative provocation – in others. The best method for producing
inspiration in others is through the role of becoming the inspirational instigator. To
inspire others with the feisty form of evocative engagement, you must have a deep
relationship with your mind’s eye, because inspirational instigation requires you to not
only deeply know yourself, but have an ability to observe the spiritual and emotional
needs of others (dimensions that few people are even aware of), create a formula that
could help them, and forget yourself by connecting your mind’s eye with passionate
inspiration. The mind’s eye is the “scope” that allows all of this growth to efficiently
occur. Any other sense (eyes, ears, kinesthetic touch, etc.) would be primitive for the
highly-precise and powerful inspirational instigation to occur!
Chapter 6: The Inspirational Instigator

Challenge: A Recipe for Inspiring the Arrogant
“Arrogance always leaves a gaping hole in its beholder, leaving the wielder of this
dangerous substance addicted to pride and peripheral show.” John Kuczmarski
The Oxford English Dictionary defines arrogance as: “making aggressively

conceited, unwarrantable claims to dignity, authority, or knowledge”. An arrogant person
certainly isn’t someone who is inspired; the arrogant person doubts him or herself
internally, and seeks to fulfill their bleak void with superficial peripherals. These external
peripherals include, trying to appear knowledgeable, seem dignified, or appear to possess
power. They do not actually possess these qualities.
In addition to not possessing the qualities they struggle to display, the arrogant person
must have an unhealthy fixation with appearance. The single-most important ingredient
to arrogance, however, is the emphasis on doing things for appearance, for boasting.
Someone could actually have a dignified appearance, be very informed, and possess quite
a great deal of power and not be considered arrogant if they possess self-integrity. The
single element that distinguishes that person from an arrogant person is their motives.
Does the well-off person acquire those states to show-off and display for others, or did
they reach success for their personal goal-fulfillment? If the person achieves greatness
and serenely acknowledges it internally, they are not arrogant. An arrogant person, on the
other hand, possesses a bleak void of doubt and acts purely for show, to conceal this
bubble of personal disbelief. In the state of exhibiting for appearance, an arrogant person
can debilitate others.
The most damaging effect of the arrogant person is his or her impact on others. In their
attempts to exude certain qualities, whether it is intentional or unintentional, the arrogant
can quickly overbear and suffocate others. I remember always having this one person in
high school hover around me. He would cling to me and talk almost frantically about
how well he did on his test, how much money he got from working at this Rollerblade
store, and how fast his new rollerblades were going to be. He was desperately seeking
my approval, and whenever I was around him I felt like I couldn’t breathe. In his
presence, there was no way I could do whatever I had planned. In a way, arrogance
becomes similar to a form of doubt because it consumes so much emotional space,
leaving others little room to breath and scarce space to pursue their endeavors.
Because of the detrimentally affect of arrogance on the arrogant person and on others,
arrogance must never be nurtured. Going back to the example of the friend that hounded
my approval in high school, that person tacitly begged for my approval on a daily basis.
When he was almost yelling about his new rollerblades and how fast he was going to be
able to race in them, I picked up how desperately he sought my appreciation and
admiration. Whether he was boasting a test score, declaring money he had earned,
bragging about a girl he had kissed, or showing off rollerblades he had bought, I didn’t
give in; I never gave him the appreciation he sought; I didn’t feed his doubt of himself.
What looked like boasting was really a desperate attempt to conceal the deep void of
doubting himself. The dangerous side effect of boasting and seeking other’s
approval, is that the arrogant person can never approve of himself or herself. If had
fed that person’s arrogance, it would only fortify the walls of self-doubt, temporarily
subduing his gut-wrenching void, but, ultimately, making his state of personal disbelief
even more permanent. If you recognize someone as boasting or arrogant, they are either
internally weak and trying to compensate, or the other extreme --incredibly confident and
intelligent. If they are the former – insecure – the worst thing you can do is feed their
arrogance. If the person is genuinely confident, declaring accomplishments ceases to be
boasting, but becomes sharing personal history, which is incredibly positive. With the
meek and non-confident person, however, the only thing you can do is challenge that
person, so, hopefully, they will eventually discard their intentions or believe in
themselves. n
“Boasting is hollow, swagger and bravado, without personal certainty. ‘Confident

boasting’ in the attitude of certainty, is really sharing personal history -- something not
only aggressively didactic but alive and connected.” -- John Kuczmarski
Eliminating Arrogance: Advanced “Awareness of Moods” Concept
This is a very advanced concept of inspiration, but fervently challenging an arrogant

person can manufacture, strangely enough, and inspirational effect. Inspiration should
meet doubt, and strangely enough, a strong challenge, something that can be
misinterpreted as doubt, can be in the recipe for inspiration when someone becomes
arrogant or haughty. Doubt is never productive, but severely questioning an arrogant
person causes them to resort to one of two options:
1. Discard their arrogant beliefs
2. Find personal inspiration of their goals or innate satisfaction in their

accomplishments.
Both of those outcomes would eliminate his or her arrogance. In the first case, they
wouldn’t have anything to be arrogant about because they would have defenestrated
(chucked out the window) their idea. In the second case, they would still possess the
belief or demand recognition for the accomplishment, but they wouldn’t need outside
approval because they would believe in it themselves. It is clear that challenging an
arrogant person causes them to generate self-integrity.
Challenging the arrogant is even upheld in a variety of religions – from Chinese Taoism
to Western Christianity. The Chinese Taoists always talk about using Yin (a passive,
yielding, and accepting force) to contradict or even battle Yang (an aggressively charged
dominating force). The opposites -- like a strongly basic mixed with a violently acidic
solution in chemistry -- neutralize each other.
If someone were too confident, too inspired, to the point where they are haughty or
arrogant, criticizing them or doubting them would not be productive. However,
challenging them would be a useful ingredient to impede their arrogance, and cause them
to recognize their own self-doubt. When someone appears too “Yang” – too boastful,
emphasizing the exterior facade – challenge them and don’t feed their agenda of
demanding external praise. Eventually they, according to Taoism, will resort to the “Yin”
– the interior, the internal satisfaction and recognition – that they neglected. Similarly,
this uniquely challenging type of learning took place when Jesus Christ challenged
people’s beliefs in multiple situations. He created a certification of his relationship with
his Father and challenged any one who doubted him with rhetoric and examples, or
proofs, like removing demons or walking on water. But by challenging their beliefs, he
strengthened them. If someone’s commitment to something is wavering, inspiration is
always the answer. Doubt should never be in the cards, but challenging someone, in
specific circumstances, could generate encouragement and self-inspiration.
If you recognize someone as out of balance with his or her inspiration (i.e., they appear
arrogant) do not honor them with an easy “Yes!” or “Good job!” or “Completely exact!”
If someone’s commitment to an endeavor is excessively forceful and arrogant, and
seeking other’s approval (the sure sign of arrogance), challenge their initiative and cause
them to act for the sake self-accomplishment. It is imperative to never doubt, but equally
important to recognize the select times when challenge is the best source for inspiration.
Inspiration comes in many different flavors. Being challenging to one person could be
crippling if what they need is encouragement, but to the haughty individual, challenge
could be the ideal type of inspiration. Once you are aware of the types of doubt and can
recognize them, you may find yourself easily aware of the moods of others. It is
important to assess and then respond to these moods. If someone appears sunken, ill, or
uncertain, always provide him or her with the benefit of the doubt and confidence, saying
their comments are “right on”, encouraging them of their correctness. Invigorating or
provoking poignancy is the best remedy for someone who appears doubtful of him or
herself. If, in contrast, they already appear confident, maybe even imperious, challenging
the beliefs is the only thing that can encourage their growth. Correctly reading,
respecting, and responding to each person’s mood – be it arrogant or insecure – is the
process to arrive at rejuvenating inspiration.
What causes us to focus on deliberate verisimilitudes that ignite our focus, strength, and
certainty of conviction? I have always been seeking what is right for me, what is good,
what is the best thing I can do or accomplish. But when it starts pummeling down snow
in a tempest of raging ice and sleet and then spring is that same afternoon, I begin to
think of days as years. When this sentient transformation occurs, I feel vivified by that
situation.
The Relationship of an Instigator
To assume the role of being an emotional instigator, we must respect certain

parameters and values. These are the most important, critical values that assure there is a
perpetually pleasurable link with the client. These areas are based on Carl Rogers’ three
conditions for relational health. Everything is based on relations, and this ensures there is
an authentic – non-artificial, open, safe – conduit with the client.
First there must be congruence. You must be real, genuine, and transparent.
Because the plethora of guises that cause pain in relationships that should be open and
real, you must ensure the client never thinks you are being artificial or disingenuous.
Next there is the idea of unconditional positive regard. Regardless of how the
client appears, thinks, acts, or looks. Despite how condescending, turned off, indifferent,
or uninterested the client is, always treat them with unconditional respect and warmth and
understanding.
Finally, there must be empathic understanding where you must be willing to

explore what it would be like to be that other person. You not only theoretically “try on
their shoes”, but you envision their problems as things you can solve and engage in
nonjudgmental listening.
Transparent genuineness, respect, and lucid listening summarize the essential qualities of
an instigator. Anyone can apply them, you don’t have to be a trained psychologist, that’s
the beauty of achieving relational health – anyone can be genuine, warm, and
understanding. Many people criticized Rogers, saying that his belief in the inherent
goodness of mankind, would gloss over inherent selfishness, giving license to do your
own thing without regard to harmful consequences. But people can always be selfish or
good, if they choose to, and that choice is up to them. Being pessimistic won’t affect that
choice, so why not increase the chances of helping by being optimistic, furthering
Rogers’ relational health ideas? The relational health ideas don’t make you “too” open
because there’s no such thing; they can allow you to truly connect with a patient, which
maybe overwhelming, but with more practice this deep connection is what allows for
deep meaning in the relationship, to produce words, wisdom, and happiness that can truly
thrive.
Chapter 7: Relinquish Struggle with

Engagement
Eradicate Struggle
A very powerful tool for reducing, minimizing, or completely eradicating struggle and
adapting to your environment is engagement. When we fully commit to something -- that
is, intrinsically, focus on it -- and have fully decided with mind, body, spirit, and
emotions to endeavor, we diminish difficulty. Certainly, their will still be challenge, but
struggle will not be present in the place of commitment. Struggle and engagement are
mutually exclusively – the two can’t coexist. Think about it. Have you ever tried to read
a book when you were thinking about something else – a million other things? It’s hard!
But I have run two marathons and found them, not exactly easy, because certainly simple
and direct, and without any struggle whatsoever. Sure, I was working and exerting
myself with sincere focus, but my personal serenity was what was so astonishing.
How is it that going to the store to buy some milk can seem like more of challenge (by
crossing the street, finding keys, gathering money, interacting with the clerk, etc.) than
starting a $1 million dollar company or biking 100 miles? The answer is internal
alignment. Once you have aligned yourself towards the task with commitment, you will
soar. Not simply accomplish, but accomplish and succeed with style and grace.
Engagement places you at a position of embracement. There are copious examples of
easy situations that become difficult by not engaging in that activity.
Have you ever lost your car keys, misplaced your wallet, or lost your wristwatch? You
weren’t engaged in the situation, so your mind (and it’s memory retention) weren’t
focused, either. However, there exist myriad ways to make difficult situations a breeze,
as well. When you arrive at a new, foreign, and unfamiliar or simply uncomfortable
setting that you don’t want to be a part of, normally you will “got through the motions”
and wait that thing to be over. But if you engage that same situation, you embrace it.
And when you embrace it, you experience only the positives; the negatives sift through
like sand in a sieve. Embracing the situation by engaging it will always generates
tranquility and equanimity.
Acquiring Infinite Time with Fusion
Breathing into the situation is part of the engagement process. Always remember to
breath in and out saying, “I am committed to being here.” It truly works. Look at the
marathon example again. If you have trained for 18 months 6 days a week non-stop, the
actual marathon is simple! But if you try to read a newspaper column with your mind
drifting elsewhere, it can be one of the most difficult situations imaginable. The message
here is resolution. Being resolute with ourselves – our decisions, our commitments, and
our emotions – creates an incredible certainty in how we choose to commit to something.
If we are authentically focused on the task that we are endeavoring – if we are
authentically engaged – all of our physiology, emotional management, and mental
alacrity will coalesce to work with complete focus towards that end!
Think about it, have you ever been at a loss for time, seeming like you never have
enough of it? Was this when you were extremely busy, or casually milling around? You
seem to “lose time” when you over the top with work. Your brain is calculating how long
it will take something to get accomplished, your emotions are working to provide
motivation for the task, and your body and scrutinizing mind are executing it. When you
are fully committed to something, you are an electrifying connection of drive,
commitment and fervent execution. When we encourage ourselves to focus on our plan
with sincerity, we automatically catalyze adept and creative involvement with our soul
and personality. As described earlier, the fusion of our soul with our personality is one of
the most powerful synchronizations available because it drowns out negative energy and
supplies positive, nourishing and rejuvenating energy to our brain and body.
Knowing Ourselves and Sincere Commitment
When we create a capacity for knowing ourselves --how we operate and function -- we
create sincerity about who we really are, and this self-knowledge allows us to apply
ourselves with greater vehemence. Science-fiction writer, Douglas Adams points out that
we find our images of what we call evil things outside ourselves, in creatures that know
nothing of such matters, so that we can feel revolted by them, and by contrast, good about
ourselves” (47)[1]. This type of projection occurs all the time, and with the specific case
with Adams, he was referring to the “evil-looking” Komodo dragon in Indonesia. The
dragon knows nothing of malign tendencies, but we implant this evil projection on him.
This happens all the time with people. Sometimes they may actually have evil
tendencies, but the important thing to recognize here, is that we more often than read
people, project our own feelings. When we fully commit to a task with authentic
engagement, the opportunity for a deceiving projection to occur is impossible. By
knowing ourselves and avoiding projections we have personal access to our potential.
Everyone knows we only use 10% of our brain, but we can utilize more of our mental
power – exceed our own boundaries – with situation engagement.
Sincere commitment, commitment based on faith, channels prosperity and goodness

through our bodies and emotional conduits, leaving know room for distraction or
branching into evil tendencies. Committing to a task makes the task easier, because all of
our capacity will be channeled into it, and it makes our perceptions clearer and more
vivid and genuine, without having projections interfere with our perspective.
In addition to removing obfuscating projections and harnessing your full

potential, engaging with an activity provides emotional freedom. When you begin to do
something that you aren’t committed to, say, writing a business project that you aren’t
interested in, your emotions seek something else, so you aren’t executing as a complete
person. Your emotions are drawn to what’s interesting, tantalizing, and exciting, your
brain can choose to engage in whatever it wants, but when you have the emotional
backing – that is, the emotional involvement – as well, you’re full capacity of your
intellect generates momentum towards the task, too. Try it. If you are waiting in a line,
for example, at the airport say, “I am committed to being at this airport, taking this flight,
and waiting in this line.” If you say that to yourself three times with conviction, you
entire mood glows. You become perkier, more invigorated, and you have more energy.
You feel more alert, and even compassionate. When I have said the Sentence of Sincerity
to myself in the past, I became so overjoyed that I felt like I should share that joy and
began immediately trying to help other people! This emotional focus becomes emotional
liberation because you are free to direct your normally capricious and impulsive
emotions.
Sentences of Sincerity
Sentences of Sincerity generate emotional freedom because they hone and channel our
emotions into our situation. Most of the time our emotions are scattered, investigating
many different things, like armies of ants darting here and there. Have you ever seen a
special species of fish called the NAME? These fish clump and swim together is such a
tight pack that they actually look like are larger, more intimidating fish (which scares off
predators). That tightly knit, adapting, synchronized cohesion of focus and clarity will
resemble your emotions, when you fully commit to your situation, your environment, and
your place. Everything you need is always around you, and the universe flawlessly
places you in the perfect emotional and spiritual place all the time. When you engage
your situation, you realize this replenishing, omnipresent, energy source. Absorbing your
emotions in the environment by choosing to focus and apply them manufactures ease and
grace. You will move as a holistic being, not a disarrayed and fragmented unit. Engaging
with your situation is a win-win situation because you generate emotional freedom,
minimize or eliminate struggle, and generate a perspective, unblemished by projections,
of clarity. Engagement is peace, clarity, and ease.
Recognizing Venues of Impact
It is incredibly challenging and essential to discern when we do and when do not

have an impact. This can be accomplished by examining the people in the room. Are
they laughing at you or with you? Are they looking towards you or through you or at
you? If their relationship with you is aimed so that they look or laugh or talk at you, you
can't have an impact because the people have either labeled you negatively or chosen not
to change. In situations where people interact at you -- the prepositional connotation is
key -- where you cannot have an impact, give up control and stop speaking.
When we don't have the potential to impact -- because of external factors with the people
or internal limitations in ourselves -- we should, obviously, aim cease conversing.
Continuing will only manufacture agitations and doubt. Giving up control where we
have no control is incredibly liberating, as well. Acts of relinquishment provide freedom
to stop bashing our psychological brain against the wall. It inspires us to ascertain
certainty in our convictions. Whenever we certify our capacity for invigoration, we
create opportunities for growth. Pinpointing those areas of certification and linking them
to areas that behold a capacity for impact is the vital consideration. Go to your studio and
converse and make stuff, but make sure you studio is the place where you have control
and an impact. If your studio doesn't have those qualities change the studio or find one
that connects to your wisdom.
Wherever you have the potential for leaving an impact, you can experience with
leading discussions by wearing different hats. Edward de Bono's "6 Thinking Hats"
describes the six hats that successful people where and must wear in different situations.
Here's the breakdown of the empowerment hats:
· The White Hat – resourceful, use what data is available
· The Black Hat – criticism and pessimism;
· The Green Hat –- creativity;
· The Red Hat – intuition and gut thinking;
· The Blue Hat – control and managing, often links to other hats for problem solving
· The Yellow Hat – optimism
The white is the ultimate hat of adaptive resourcefulness. You connect with what is in
front of you and around you and use it for that agenda. It is the hat that you wear when
you live out Teddy Roosevelt’s idea of “do what can with what you have where you are”.
I mentioned Teddy Roosevelt’s incredible ability to access his child-like voice and adapt
when Teddy Roosevelt said that phrase and created the successful Rough Riders in my
first book, Validate Your Life. De Bono is simply phrasing this capacity for adaptation
and expansion in another context using the hat metaphor, but the underlying principle is
the capacity access our inner voice and adapt beautifully.
Although the black hat may not sound like a hat of empowerment, the ability to criticism
can toughen and make your agenda more connected and secure.
The other hats are quite obvious in their application. This hat idea is quite interesting, but
I don’t think people have a choice to wear these hats. They are patterned into one
specific hat. The most liberated person not only has the potential to wear all the different
types of hats, but they have the awareness and scrutiny to decipher precisely when a
certain situation calls for a specific hat. Knowing when to communicate and when to
liberate your control, or knowing which hat to wear, are different ways of expanding your
potential for interaction.
Does Change Ever Occur?
We should explore the happy dynamic of life change as it truly occurs. Many
people are convinced change in our lives, in the world, society, politics and people is
inevitable and constantly occurring. These people are “rivers”. Others, however, believe
this true to some extend, but some thing constant. These people are “trees” where the
leaves blow and change, but the base of the tree remains rooted and sincerely unchanging
and focused. Finally, the third extreme operates from the other polarity; whereby, they
believe everything is rigid, stagnant and inertly unchanging. These people are “rocks”.
The ability to adapt with what is occurring is the most liberating perspective and
lifestyle. After all, things certainly constantly change in nature and in the world, but
many people or elements resist this change. The most efficient form of growth is to resist
change if it impacts something that you want to remains constant and to adapt and evolve
and go with the flow with the other areas of change. The best way to go about this is the
first identify what you want to remain constant and what you want to change. This
ability to distinguish between these two factors generates incredibly illuminating clarity
and generates intense focus of knowledge. After all, when we know what we like and
what we want to remain constant, we can put efforts into planning that ahead so they
won’t become problematic later.
Many authors discuss the idea of planning ahead your dreams with a sincere
process to avoid, what some people call, the area where you “go over the falls” because
you failed to see the drop coming up ahead. The best way to avoid this is the do a four-
step process:
1. Declare to yourself what you want to remain constant and what should change
2. Deliberately commit yourself to acquiring those elements
3. Observe and take scientific-like notes on what is happening and if you attempts are
productive
4. If your observations show a lack of productivity (i.e. things aren’t working) change
your declaration to a formula and a pattern that does work.
Those four steps are vital to declaring precisely what you want to maintain and what you
want to altercate. Have the control, the power over being able to comprehensively inspire
enlivening forms of certainty in your life. When you generate a rich field of examples
and life experiences where those four steps were put to the test and you saw how
efficiently they brought about the changes (or resistances to change) in your life and
made your existence more fulfilling, you will understand the power of planning.
The other extreme, more of the “river” side of things, is to embrace the sincerity
not having a plan, which opens up your life to incredibly mysterious, fun, unexpected,
and spiritual things. It is difficult to wedge in things that are spiritual into a rigidly
planned, “rock”-based lifestyle. The trees offer a healthy balance, but so many people
focus in on planning their lives on what they don’t want to be involved with or what they
don’t want to connect with. This is extremely maladaptive because life ends up being a
mirror – your existence reflects what you think about and that becomes your reality.
Avoid Inverse Desires

I am going to repeat this again: life ends up being a mirror – your existence reflects what
you think about and that becomes your reality. So if you only think about things that you
want to remain constant, your life will end up having that become reality. We can’t live
life with inverse desires. An inverse desire is a term I created to describe this idea of
wanting to subtract, to remove ourselves from behavior that we think is “bad”. Many
times we deduct or devalue things that don’t interest us or provoke fear in us, and this is
incredibly unproductive. The famous quote was said by the preacher in the movie
“Chocolat”: "We can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what
we deny ourselves, by what we resist, and who we exclude. I think we've got to measure
goodness by what we embrace, what we create, and who we include." God wants us to
indulge and love and experience the richness of life! When we only have inverse desires
we become repulsion, we don’t draw in flavors and experiences that are rejoicing and
invigorating. Instead, a person of inverse desires, whether they are a “rock”, “tree”, or
“river” draws stale, bland, generic, indifferent, mediocre experiences because our mind is
middling only with what we don’t want. But desires are not a multiple-choice dilemma
or thought process because there are so many variations of ambition, such a wide
magnitude and spectrum of wishes.
The uncertain process of induction illustrates the maladaptive and imprecise nature of
inverse desires. Induction is drawing laws and theories from specific facts and details.
So if you looked at a farm and saw only black goats, you could make the induction that
all goats were black, if those were the only goats you had seen in your life. This, of
course, isn’t true generally, but within the specific scope that you observed it is. Your
must use a similar process of induction and create facts and general laws and ideas of
what you really desire from the specific examples of what you don’t want – which, like
the goat example, can be way off. Let’s say you have inverse desires about food, you say
I don’t want to eat oily, grilled food, nor do I want to eat candy because it rots your teeth.
Your brain would then have to “compile” a set of things you would like to eat considering
your true desires and what you don’t want. It could come up with things like chocolate,
Pringles, and turkey, for example. That would fit the criteria, but is highly inaccurate of
what you really want. Inverse desires are tremendously vague, and this ambiguity
cripples your lifestyle, stymies your deliberation, and confounds your energy. Therefore,
the best thing to do, always, is to avoid inverse desires and deliberately and consciously
declare precisely what it is that you want!
Let’s use an example of friends. You remind yourself that you don’t’ want friends
that do drugs, are people who waste their time, and don’t dress like slobs. Okay, those
are inverse desires again and since there are millions of different types of people, you
brain has to plug in those parameters to generate a possible set of people you do want.
You could then end up hanging out with successful, high-end, flashy business executives
that fit all the inverse desire criteria, but treat you like a garbage can, or aren’t nice to you
at all. All you have to say is an authentic desire -- like I want friends that are loyal,
responsive, funny, intelligent, and make me extremely happy – and a profoundly
monumental shift occurs. Your brain will generate an accurate and sincere list of
potential comrades and you will find more people that you have defined as friends
everywhere you go, simply because you will recognize the opportunities to interact with
this people more often. Remember, authentic desire illuminates the shadows to reveal
possibilities and expands inertness to catalyze fulfilling growth.
This is the power of authentic desires over inverse desires. Authentic desires
revolve on what we embrace, what we create, and what we incorporate into our life.
When we focus on those appreciations, our life because centered -- it has a core and a
purpose – because we can gravitate toward that. Having a life that revolves around
inverse desires is like being in pinball machine; you spend all of your time bouncing off
the bumpers and avoiding the perimeters without actually getting the jackpot. Authentic
desires hone in on and target the jackpot, so they acquire it. When you only emphasize
negatives and detestations it is as though you are in a room with magnetized walls,
repelling you away from them; you avoid hitting what you don’t what, but you terribly
miss out to what is outside the room in the first place.
The problem with inverse desires is that we can spend our time juggling and calculating
and persevering ourselves to not get what we don’t want and avoid all those other things
out there that we don’t want, but never actually experience what we do want! Inverse
desires are deceiving because they make us feel successful, when we embrace them, but,
in reality, we aren’t getting anything accomplished. Look at two different car-buyers in a
dealer – one has inverse desires, the other has authentic desires. The inverse desire
person would meander into the car dealership and start excluding cars, and, studying
various pros and cons, they’d tell the salesman they didn’t want two much space, but not
to much confinement, and not wouldn’t buy a car without safety features. They would
get this odd glance from a dealer, because the inverse desire buy made it so difficult for
the salesman to help them, and he or she would test-drive about 5 cars with an ambiguous
feeling of which care they’d buy (By the way, because of the ambiguousness of having a
life revolve around inverse desires, people who involve themselves with aversions, are
very difficult to help because they don’t recognize the aid or they fail to relinquish an
obsession with avoiding dislikes). The purchase would turn into about a 2-week ordeal
of testing and uncertainty. The epitome of the inverse desirer would exclude all the cars
in the dealership except one, and standing there right in front of the remaining last car in
the entire lot, surrounded by all the cars they excluded, and still not know what car to
buy! The authentic desirer person, waltzes into the dealer, tells the dealership precisely
what car they want -- a 4-door sedan, airbags, around $25,000, radio, AC, and a dark red
shade. Thee dealer directs him to a match and he purchases his dream car in less than
hour, and doesn’t even both to test-drive it because he know it is precisely the car he
want! That is the nourishing beauty of authentic desires!
Look at how much better the experience was of the authentic desirer. He saved
time (bought the car in less than 1% of the time – 1 hour verse 2 weeks), avoided
frustrations of uncertainty and indecision, and was fervently committed to his decision so
didn’t have to worry about it. Uncertainty and indecision, it must be illustrated, are some
of the most draining and exhausting activities imaginable because they test and question
our very beliefs. But the inverse desirer wallows in these exhausting and enervating
indecision and tasks. With the same car-purchasing scenario, the inverse desirer would
have wasted 2-weeks, be drained, exhausted, uncertain, doubtful and full of worry. The
lifestyle pivoting around authentic desires is so much more energizing because it allows
you to focus your time into focused elements and invigorating activities, which leaves
more time for contributions! Once your own life is nourished and spontaneously
fulfilling, you have the time and the energy reserves to contribute to aiding and
invigorating others. Therefore, encouraging our authentic desires is the pathway to
enriching our own lives and the lives of others. The more we emphasize our expansion
and our graceful presence for certainty, the more experiences of epiphany, we will have in
our existence. We shouldn’t worry about what we’re “supposed to do” or what “we’re
not supposed to do”; focus on what is invigorating and good for us to do! Obligations,
personal regulations, and rules severely debilitate and cramp our life, forcing us to
become robotic non-humans that do the same lifeless thing over and over again. Avoid
isolated review and stop trying to repetitively ratify your life; embrace flourishing
liberation. When our logic shifts from creating things and generating growth, instead of
preventing “wrong’ growth, we evoke incredibly capacity to ensure that our soul and our
emotional essence is fervently connected to what we desire in life.
Embracing what we create and what we put our energies into, gives our life
incredible substance. Substance is a vital ingredient for any recipe of happiness,
jubilance, and liberating success. Choosing to familiarize ourselves with what causes
controversy, our abhorrence, and our aversions is like spending your whole life attacking
or avoiding enemies, but never making friends. In terms of the expansive outlook on
humanity, authentic desires create compassion and a more interconnected framework of
humanity in terms of acceptance and respect of people’s decisions in politics, religion,
society, and other areas that have impact. So many people forget that those areas are
simply decisions; and people’s choices deserve respect as long as they don’t harm other
beings. Thomas Jefferson wisely said, “I never will, by any word or act, bow to the shrine
of intolerance or admit a right of inquiry into the religious opinions of others”. Jefferson
understands the importance of creating things that we truly appreciate and do tolerate,
and to not emphasize or not even consider our episodes intolerance. If we run into
something of which we are intolerant, speak it then, but then choose not to emphasize it.
Our personal intolerance and abomination, or dislikes, should consume less than 5% of
our brain’s energy and focus. Inverse desirers use a “backwards form of acquisition and
squander more than 50% of their precious brainpower, exhausting their lives with
contemplations and considerations of things they dislike, hate, or loathe! No wonder
such a habit makes you feel depleted as a person! The mindfulness of authentic desires
generates an uplifting impact; you can identify people who embrace authentic desires
because they radiate life force and glow with prosperity. They are anything but selfish
and are constantly giving, because, knowing what they want; they have so much more
time that is not being invested in worry, indecision and certainty. In the midst of this
disposition of incredible contribution, they, simultaneously, are vivaciously nurtured,
radiant, and vigorously alive. The more we contribute our certainty and energy to the
relationships of appreciation and veneration, the more energetic, successful, happy, and
richly fulfilling our existence becomes
Acquiring Personal Fulfillment
Think about the process of baking a cake. You put in the cake what you want;
you don’t include all these ingredients that you don’t want so you can pick them out!
That would be insanity – some severe form obsessive compulsiveness. But this is what
the inverse desirer does; they decorate their cake with vanilla frosting so they can then
shave off the icing because they loathe vanilla frosting! Inverse desirers are problem-
creators and depleted; they spend their lives picking out the nuts that they just baked into
the cake. Authentic desirers spend their lives indulging in the richly satisfying life
that precisely matches their distinct cravings and experimental palate, not from a
level of experiential gluttony or selfish satisfaction, but expansive escalation.
Embrace the authentic desires and commit to “knowing what you want” and your
potential will be instantly engaged, generating constructively genuine happiness and most
significantly, plugging poignancy into your life to achieve sincere fulfillment.
Personal fulfillment cannot be acquired with inverse relationships to our

ambitions or desires. For the longest time I attended a summer program in a place that
made me feel drained, depleted and heavy. I realized all of my energy went in to be
being confused, angry, uncertain, and doubtful about what to do. The cloud of inverse
desire has a crippling physiological effect to the extent where you don't even feel
connected to your body -- a dangerous state that will be avoided by staying centered and
focused on moving forward with your passions. Sometimes it felt like I would fall down
the stairs, I was emotionally disoriented in that place. I didn’t loathe it, but there was just
enough aversion to influence the shift of my thinking to where it became more inverse
desires. The effect was draining and depressing; focusing on the negatives made me
groggy, as though I had been drugged. It didn’t have to do with me not having enough
glucose or blood sugar or something, but it was based on the fact that I disliked being
there. Fortunately, I was sensitized to this sever psychological shift and understand that I
needed to re-engage authentic desires. When the environment itself is a dislike, it works
downward and causes us to look at all of our other thought processes as dislikes, which
leads our disposition to icy indifference instead of a womb of creativity. As a closing
note, think about this. If you had a chance to describe your life in a short sentence up at
the pearly gates of heaven after you die, which way would you want to describe your
life?
A. I avoided my dislikes, and never mingled with people, always excluded activities,
and resisted behaviors that would jeopardize, deplete, or anger me.
B. I created an amazing existence, and embraced all the amazing people I included and
had has friends in life.
A or B? Hhhmmm. Not that hard of a decision; do you know why? Both alternatives
sound like the person led a life of righteousness, doing the best they could without doing
anything wrong or “bad”, but the first one, is clearly identified inverse desirer. Notice the
feel of that sentence; it has the connotation that the person was subservient to some need,
maybe subservient to God (if you look at it religiously) and never made anything of their
life. It sounds like with A, the person led a generic, almost substandard life that would
“qualify” as a decent, righteous life, but sounds depleted, lacking, and vacant. The
second alternative, that of the authentic desirer, clearly sounds like he or she was a huge
leaders, a profound artist, writer, or designer (with their creativity), and had some of the
most intriguing, eclectic, incredibly friends imaginable. The primary differences between
theses two statements comes down to two simple, but extraordinarily impact differences:
· Inverse Desires (Alternative A) allows for survival.
· Authentic Desires (Alternative B) creates thriving existence.
Do you want to survive or do you want to vigorously exist? Existence builds off survival
as a base, remember; it includes surviving in its formula for exhilaration. When we
through via authentic desires we never have regrets, doubts, or uncertainties. We
recognize that we don’t have time to look back and mope because we are too busy
creating! That leaves us with no choice; existing and embracing authentic desires
and including the scintillating dynamism and creativity in our life so every day is
not an expulsion, but an enlightening craft achieving the most invigorating pursuit
of our passions, happiness, and successful ambitions, is the only way to live with
veracity, gusto, and resilience!
Say this prayer over to yourself: “Please God, give me a mental wavelength where I am
incredibly mindful of my thoughts because what we contemplate becomes our reality. So
help me think of thoughts of tranquility, authenticity, growth, love, compassion, sex,
spirituality, peace, exhilaration, sincerity, and genuineness.”
[1] Adams, Douglas. Last Chance to See. New York: Harmony Books, 1990.
Chapter 8: The Dream Pathway

Access our Dream Pathway
In the last chapter we discussed how vital it is to relinquish struggle so that we

invite inner piece to our soul and our sense of certainty. When we generate certainty in
our daily actions, and develop a routine, some exciting substance begins to seep in
through the cracks or our life. This magical “ooze” that surfaces once things seem to be
balance and “normal” are dreams. Dreams generate access to our source of clarity by
invigorating our soul with psychological ideas. The process we use to achieve our
dreams can involve anything from winning competitions, earning money, being
philanthropic, meeting certain people, becoming certain people, traveling certain places,
helping others in specific ways, or simply dancing with sources of truth in a way that our
very patterns become dream-worthy. Transforming your life into something “dream
worthy” becoming the dream is what this chapter is all about.
Didactic Lessons from Caveman Ancestors
In order to evolve our everyday life, which may be bland, denied, subtly suppressed or
subdued, or mediocrity inadequate in some way, into an extraordinary exhilaration of our
passions, pursuits and personal truths is precisely what allows us to encourage growth in
the area of dreams. This area has a development, an evolution, just like humans. Human
evolution started with the dryopithecines branch of ape diverged from the monkey line 20
to 30 million years ago. However, the first hominids didn’t arise until about 20 million
years later around 4.4 million years ago as australopithecines (southern ape), who walked
upright and whose brains were, relatively large, but much smaller than modern man’s
cranium. The fact that this new breed of hominids walked upright allowed them to use
their arms while walking, carry tools or weapons, and simply be more flexible in their
day-to-day behavior, not being stuck with all fours on the ground. It is quite amazing that
our ancestors roamed around on hind legs and four feet! The earliest australopithecine
found was called australopithecine ramidus, meaning “root”. After the
australopithecines, 2.4 million years later, 2 million years ago from now homo habilus
evolved, which was the first primate to ever use crude weapons and tools. Then 200,000
years later (1.8 million years ago) homo erectus appeared, and had a brain the size of
some of the smallest human brains today, allowing them to produce even more
sophisticated tools. After the Homo erectus species had been around for 1.4 billion years,
200,000 years ago, Homo sapiens emerged in Africa and migrated east to Europe and
Asia. A variety of the Homo sapiens species was the Neanderthal, which has bones as
earlier as 100,000 years ago, which have a very similar make-up to us: fully erect walk,
dexterity to manufacture stone tools, and had brains, actually, slightly larger than those of
modern humans. 110,000 years after Homo sapiens first emerged, came the Cro-Magnon
variety of Homo sapiens, which first evolved 90,000 years ago. Apparently, the modern-
looking Mediterranean Neanderthal evolved into the Cro-Magnon or the two varieties
may have co-existed for awhile. Scientists don’t know if Neanderthals died out because
of inbreeding, competition, or open warfare, but that is where the evolution of man ceases
for now. There are millions of paleo-anthropological (what a word) details that
emphasize the skull and behavioral changes of each species, but these nuances have filled
books. To understand the evolution of the human, just know this: (mya = Million Years
Ago Thousand Years Ago)
Let’s examine the growth of Dreams.
 Dryopithecines (20 to 30 Million Years Ago)
 Hominids (4.4 Million Years Ago)
o Australopithecines (4.4 Australopithecines)
o Homo Habilus (2 Million Years Ago)
o Homo Erectus (1.8 Million Years Ago)
o Homo Sapien (200,000 Years Ago)
 Neanderthal (200,000 Years Ago)
 Cro-Magnon (90,000 Years Ago)

20 Million Years of Fine-Tuning
It took over 20 million years of evolution to get the “all fours ape” to lose hair, walk
upright, use hands for tools, and grow the mind a bit, so the modern man could be
transformed into the beings we are today! Having been around for only 90,000 years, the
Cro-Magnon Homo sapiens that we are today represents % of the entire roughly 25
million cycle of evolution from Dryopithecines to modern man! Talk about elongated,
gradual changes! But evolution operates that way. Evolution adapts and cycles and
repeats itself with incredible sources of expansiveness. It is the most stable form of
growth because it ensures that the most stable, developed, strongest, fastest, species gets
developed. We should try to evolve with our everyday thought. I realized I spend too
much time making decisions. Decisions are awkward and the heuristics of decision-
making can result in a broad range of odd and wild collections trains of thought that lead
to a decision.
The best “decision”, therefore, is the absence of decision-making. The presence of

simply adapting and evolving is slow and cumbersome but it is always 100% certain.
Evolution doesn’t “make mistakes”. The entire idea of a species evolving and having to
“backtrack” because they made an error, doesn’t make sense because when a species
evolves they grow and learn and change. It is not like building a house, where you could
have forgot a key structural design element.
Instead, the decision-making process is like a wave of change, you don’t “backtrack” a
wave, it just occurs and washes away an older species, smoothing the sands of time for a
nascent adaptation.
Our dreams, like our species, has a similar process of change that is evolutionary-based.
We must honor the natural state of evolution, heed its slowness, but authentically validate
our certainty to invigorate the nature of the evolving mind. When we allow ourselves to
truly immerse ourselves in a pattern, or state, we can quickly illuminate our awareness to
the presence of dreams. This presence creates incredible certainty in our knowledge of
life and our future, and allows us to examine the evolution of our dreams. Let’s examine
this incredibly illuminating process of dream growth.
The Evolution of Dreams
I started out creating tutorials for a web-page design program called Dreamweaver. After
I transitioned to a more psychological, emotional, and spiritual emphasis, I am still
“weaving dreams”, per se, but instead of web pages, I am weaving actual dreams,
aspirations and goals. Here’s the tutorial of the psychological version of real-time
Dream-weaving.
It’s amazing how easily we can drift into thinking we are learning from something simply
because that learning mechanism is highly praised. For example, I have tried reading a
lot of Anthony Robbins in the past and realized that I connect with the reading and enjoy
learning about his psychological ideas, emotional concepts, and methods to increase
success, but I get beat up during the read because I too similar to his style. I would rather
be debating if, for example, disappointment really is the loss of an expectation. It could
be the brain’s expectations set in overdrive. The point is, I would much rather, and be
much better off by challenging his ideologies because this leads to a copious proliferation
of consummating my essential authenticities.
In other words, instead of implanting Anthony Robbins ideas of emotional management

and success on me, I have done enough thinking about these matters to create a reservoir
of dynamic incitement of my own longevity, which leads to the abandonment of a
formulaic and rigid potential. The point is that I would benefit infinitely times more
doing the empowerment that Robbins incites and writing about my own ideas of success
and emotion. When I have thought and generated an authentic variety of my own
insights on such a matter, reading a formulaic author’s ideas on the same topic is actually
vilifying to my soul and weighs an incredibly heavy burden on me. The effect was so
strong one time that after reading just a few short chapters my entire body ached. Now, it
could’ve been attributed to allergies, but the bulk of the affect was my devastating
psychological reaction turned painfully cramped and physiological because reading

another’s ideas, when I had cultivated my own, suffocated me.
We all have our emotions, inner thoughts, and generate a deep capacity for
paramount veracities. We must recognize what we “don’t know” as “safe to read” and
what we “do know” as stuff that we should be writing about. These simple classifications
create tremendous opportunities for inner grace and the deterioration of unoriginal ideas
because you will be focused on learning from your self. This is the most empowering
form of didacticism.
Where do you think books come from? When an author writes a book, the words
and the text and the ideas aren’t copied from other books. Sure, other books and authors
aided in generating some of the beginnings of the ideas of a book, but a book is an
authentic example of pure creation. What’s so fascinating to me is that those who create
books (notice that I am purposefully emphasizing the “creation” and not just the
“writing” of a book) had all of those ideas and material in their brain. People who write
fiction novels once a month like John Grisham and other prolifically qualitative writers
are generating those entire 400-500 page books in their brain. Could you imagine how
chaotic and disillusioned and “out of it” their life would be if they didn’t write? They
would be generating complete novels in the back of their mind, and have to focus on
something else at the same time. I am using this example because it ties in with the idea
of idea suffocation and locating your life’s work.
When you deliberately avoid what your brain and you emotions are doing, you
destroy your essence. Your road to success is the focus of your brain, soul, and emotions.
Whatever those three things have committed themselves, too, is what you will be doing
for emotional lucidity and tranquility and social success. Could you image how much of
a struggle John Grisham would be having, for example, if he tried to be a rugby player?
He would be manufacturing books in the back of his mind out on the field, making him
extremely dissociated, disoriented, and confused.
So how do we generate an alignment of our actions with our inner mental and
emotional emphases? First know that tailoring your brain and emotions to any kind of
outlet you desire is possible. There are millions of stories about paraplegics that become
top athletes and financially impoverished people who become billionaires. The key to
any success is committing your mind, emotions, and spirit (through faith) to your dream,
and then aligning that dream with your actions. Aligning the genuine idea with your
actions is the most crucial element of this process. Let’s explore how to develop the
brain and spirit and emotions to commit to any desire and to take actions that synchronize
those dreams with reality.
Dream is Destiny: The Dream Process
Identifying the dream (recognize what you want, way options, decide best dream
for you, society, friends, American dream
The trick to getting your brain, emotions, and spirit to become committed to the
pursuit of your dream – the right dream -- is understanding that quality dreams have
criteria. You must first recognize what you want. The power of emotions, mind, and
spirit all focused on pursuing your dream creates enormous results. After you decide
what you want, weigh options. After weighing and considering a variety of options, pick
the best dream. It is difficult to decide on a dream that will be ideal for your emotional
health, society, and your personal integrity. Take the example of the American Dream,
for example. Many people who have pursued this ideal resorted to drugs and experienced
a devastatingly painful life, when they did not find happiness after acquiring their
American Dream. The American Dream – being a famous celebrity, rich and famous,
having expensive everything – doesn’t make you happy. It is always the simple things
that make us happy. For this, seemingly ironic reason, we must choose a dream that is
simple. The best way to discover the simple dream is to investigate the path of the
dream.
Discovering the Dream’s Path with DREAM

To first begin progressing down the dream’s path you may need required skills, talents,
financial, emotional, mental, and/or physical resources, and certain types of motivation
and commitment. When we celebrate our inner strengths and facilitate the capacity for
inner knowing, we can create tremendous reservoirs for change. First, ask questions.
Ask what do I need to pursue this dream? Where do I get those resources? How do I get
started with this project of suiting my mind, emotions, and spirit to getting on the dream’s
path? For example let’s say your dream is to make a million dollars, have a loving
family, and learn how to scuba dive. These dreams pass the simple test. We’ve already
mentioned simplicity as criteria for dreams. Here are the five requirements of the
DREAM criteria for an authentic, impassioned, and emotionally healthy dream:
Dynamically Simple
Redeeming Personally
Eternally Motivating
Authentically Captivating
Mentally emotionally, and spiritually synchronizing
Dynamic simplicity is the idea of having a dream that is simple in its idea, unlike the
American Dream, but dynamic enough to create stimulation. For example, being able to
buy a pack of gum is certainly simple, but it is dull, bland, drab, and certainly not
dynamic, making it a poor dream. Starting a line of gum and creating a factory like
Wrigley’s, however, is simple in its idea – simply creating some gum – but its dynamism
incites nourishment and accomplishment. Dreams that are dynamically simple are easy
to convey, describe or explain but challenging and difficult to accomplish.
The next criterion for healthy dreams is the idea of you dream being redeeming
personally: if your dream is personally motivating, you could accomplish the dream
without telling anybody. A simple and effective test to determine if your dream is
redeeming personally is simply asking yourself, “Could I accomplish this dream and not
tell anyone?” “Is this dream personally worth so much to me, and only me, (not in a
selfish sense), that I wouldn’t need to broadcast my accomplishment?” The key here
revolves around the question of necessity. If you need, if you must, if you are compelled
to broadcast any success of your dream pursuit, the dream isn’t redeeming personally.
Your dream must be redeeming to you, and only you. If you need to tell others about
your dream, it isn’t authentic and your agenda was boasting, to try to impress others.
Impressing others is a dream of some people, but it doesn’t fulfill any of the dream
criteria, making it, to say the least, an unsound pursuit. Finding a dream that is
personally satisfying will give you integrity, confidence, and purpose on your dream path.
Motivating the Captivating Dream
Also, you dream must be eternally motivating, your dream inspires you to pursue it and
you inspire the dream in a cyclical pattern. You and the dream feed of each other and
grow exponentially in the case of an eternally motivating dream. You will be inspired
and motivated in the act of pursuing the dream, and your pursuit of the dream will
catalyze inspiration from the dream itself. In other words, you will be receiving a push
(generating motivation to pursue the dream) and receiving a pull (acceptance and
magnetism from the dream to continue pursuing it). This push/pull nature of an eternally
motivating dream makes the dream perpetually intriguing, interesting, and worthwhile.
A dream that the fourth set of criteria for a purposeful, rejuvenating dream, is that it must
be authentically captivating. This is different from having a dream that is perpetually
motivating, which is the idea that the dream cyclical motivates you and you it, in this
rebound pattern. A captivating dream is one that draws in your emotions, mind, and
spirit. It is something you can truly get involved with because, if the dream is honestly
captivating, it will be as much internally satisfying as will be externally engaging. A
huge idea of the authentically captivating component of a quality dream is that it
contributes to society and community as well as to yourself. In other words, in addition
to being something personally meriting, the avenue for acquiring that dream will be
peppered with the need to form contributions from you to others. A captivating dream
will provide opportunities for generosity, for contributions from yourself, and compassion
for others throughout its process. Every aspect of it will be escalating.
An example of a dream that is captivating but not authentic, for example, is starting a
cigarette company. This satisfies the first three criteria. It is dynamically simple
(difficult to accomplish, but easy to explain), personally redeeming (providing wealth and
self-accomplishment), eternally motivating (you are inspired by it, and the dream is
inspired by you), and captivating (it is interesting to start a business). But such a dream
is not authentically captivating. The idea of an authentic dream must involve
contributions to society, compassion, and expansion of others and yourself. A cigarette
company would cause people to continue smoking, possibly jeopardize the lives of
thousands of people, and be the opposite of a positive contribution. Having a dream that
is authentically captivating is an essential element.
Finally, after creating a dream that is dynamically simple, redeeming personally, eternally
satisfying, and authentically captivating, you must ensure that your dream must have
mental, emotional, and physical synchronization. . In other words, you must genuinely
have commitment towards pursuing your dream from your mind, emotions, and soul. If
you don’t have this fusion of passion towards accomplishing the dream from all three of
those areas, 2 things could happen:
1. You won’t be able to accomplish the dream because of lack of mental (processing,
logic, calculating), emotional (motivation, passion, perseverance), and spiritual (faith)
support.
Or
2. You simply won’t be satisfied with the accomplishment of the dream. The dream will
seem unfulfilling. Synchronizing mind, emotions, and spirit is the gateway to accessing
your true potential, generating new skills, and soaring down the dream’s path.
Accessing the Dream
After you have acquired a dream that fits all the DREAM criteria, you must generate the
necessary skills, talents, money, people, credentials, training, resources, and support for
fulfilling the dream. The first step to doing this I asking yourself what do I need?
Creating Dream Confidence

 Let’s face it, dreams require an enormous amount of confidence and commitment.
Creating a reservoir of dream confidence is essential to fulfilling a dream.
 Linking the Mind, Emotions, and Spirit with Actions.
 Finally, after you have clarified a quality dream with DREAM, accessed the
necessary skills you will need on the dream path, and generated enough
confidence to pull you through the difficulties and to inspire from within, you
need to link your emotions, brain, and spirit to you actions to put your dream into
reality.
This process is known as tethering. For example, using the John Grisham example, say
Grisham had down the criteria checks, taken hundreds of writing classes, and personally
motivated himself by creating the necessary confidence to pursue a dream of becoming a
best-selling author, he would not be fulfilling his dream if he went and tried to play
football. He would certainly not be tethered on the football field because playing as a
linebacker would not be the dream he chose, built up talent for, and created confidence;
the focused to-be writer, would certainly be dissociated to say the least. Tethering your
brain makes you intellectually committed to calculate weighs to enrich and expedite
success, while emotional commitment and tethering generates perseverance and passion
in your dream. Spiritual tethering causes you to contribute to others, maintain generosity,
and truly ignite your dream with something more powerful than cells, tendons ,blood, and
bones, and brain – our soul. Once we put our actions where are mind, emotions, and soul
are, we will be seriously on the path of the dream moving very quickly towards
rejuvenating success.
Man, there is nothing more redeeming than having a clean desk. All paperwork
cleared off, just that open space. Similarly, the same is true with the pursuit of your
dream. Getting things accomplished and emotionally, mentally, and spiritually “cleaning
of your desk” is incredibly nourishing and clarifying. Remaining lucid about our
relationship to the universe when pursuing a dream is crucial, as well. The universe
always provides us with integrity and purpose and has the right people show up at the
exact same time, continually. Anyone we meet in the pursuit of a dream comes bearing a
tremendous lesson, gift, challenge, or essential component to meeting the dream. After
all, if people weren’t around would your dream even exist? It would not. Because all
dreams are generated from the existence of yourself and others, dreams are accomplished
by respecting your focus and the focus of others.
I knew this one couple who were very harmonious and peaceful. They didn’t
have the need to excessively communicate with others nor boast because they were
completely redeemed and nourished by each other’s presence. Finding a lasting, intimate
relationship should be one of most prominent dreams.
Chapter 9: The Necessity and Affluence of

Servitude
Seizing the Opportunities to Serve
The world is full of lost opportunities to serve, but this is gradually changing.
Einstein not only encourages us to think expansively, but states that our current problems
cannot be solved without changing our thought process: "The problems that exist in the
world today cannot be solved by the level of thinking that created them." Not only does
he call for a different way of thinking, but he emphasizes the need for a more advanced
way of thinking, as well. Our current modes of thinking create incredible problems for
ourselves. The problems in our life arise because of patterns of thought. They are at first
mistakes, and then the pattern of thinking is what perpetuates the mistake evolving it into
a problem. Einstein calls for an advanced method of thinking to eradicate this
problematic cycle. The advanced mode of thinking that is beyond the mental circuitry
that creates the problems of today is servitude. We must seize those rare and courageous
opportunities to serve. It is our answer to the clarity of tomorrow.
When all we do is think about ourselves, we live a pointless life. When we spend
our life caring only for ourselves, instead of others, we waste our life. Einstein also said,
"Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile". We must associate ourselves with
doing things for others by devoting our life to the service of others. That type of life not
only becomes the most meaningful existence, but it becomes the most fun, as well. Many
people I have met in my life try to prevent others from leading such a life of service
because they think it will result in the server being drained and depleted -- having used up
all their resources for others.
True, some balance is required and you must supply yourself with needs -- but
only needs. You are, in the process of serving others, endowed with a grace and a
wisdom that allows you to certify your strengths to the extent where you are empowered
with an electrifying and limitless force. Some people call this force Chi, Energy, Power
of God, the Tao, a “Second Wind”, but it doesn’t matter what it is called, just understand
it is the charge received from plugging into the collective soul.
You are empowered with this force of a collective soul simply because you
become a force that generates towards the collective conscience -- serving it, devoting
your time to it, and loving it. The more we connect with our passions and sense of grace,
the more we recognize the power of living a life for others. It doesn't deplete and drain
our life. It makes it more fulfilled, nourished, and enjoyable.
Picture yourself doing everything for yourself. You eat the cereal you want to eat,
take classes only you are interested in, go to sleep when you want to, abandon people
who don't want to do what you want to do. You wouldn't be happy -- you would be an
obese, nocturnal robot doing things that you assume would make you happy. Not only
are those assumptions false, but, as Miguel Ruiz, author of “the Four Agreements, says,
they are the Dream of Society, based on cookie-cutters and societal advertising -- it's a
joke. You don't get happy from eating a Big Mac, anymore than you do from sleeping on
the "perfect mattress". Happiness is a summation from the lifestyle you live for others.
The more often you connect with personal happiness and connection through giving to
others, the more certified your existence will become.
The Focus of a Problem
Quite often, we focus on creating problems for ourselves instead of living towards
a greater idea. Although the source is incredibly different from Einstein, in Batman
Begins Liam Nissan’s character says, "If you make yourself more than just a man, if you
devote yourself to an ideal, you become something else entirely". That "something else"
is a force fueled not be selfish, blinded, internalized, myopic personal needs, but the
expansive, loving, enriching needs of others. That life force is something focused on
happiness, conviction, truth, and honesty. Live a life of devotion to sincerity and you will
access innate verisimilitudes that open incredible doorways of happiness in your life.
When you have embarked on your quest and find yourself at a junction where you
confront your antagonist, refer to Eric Hoffer to discover how to dismantle your worst
enemy: "You can observe what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to
frighten you." The best approach, obviously, is to be personally at peace and avoid the
cultivation of enemies, altogether. This acclimates our body away from personal
disparagements because we look for the good in everything in everyone not with naivety,
but realistic clarity. This relates to altruism because by not creating enemies, we have
more time for serving and caring for each other. The more we create enemies, the more
time we are forced to put into conquering and overcoming them. The smart approach to
defeating our enemies is to never create them in the first place. When we simply don't
create enemies, we establish a frontier of acknowledgement that allows ourselves to
exceed our preconceived passion for resilience.
Contributing with Highly-Evolved Servitude
Francis Bacon, 16th century Renaissance author, and father of deductive

reasoning, enunciates that devoting your life to the process of serving mankind is
anything but draining and problematic. So many associate depletion and "going out of
your way" with the idea with serving, when, in reality, it is very much in line with your
process of connecting with your true epicenter of happiness, while simultaneously
resonating with and engendering the happiness of others. Bacon said, "Believing that I
was born for the service of mankind, and regarding the care of the commonwealth as a
common property which, like the air and the water, belongs to everybody, I set myself to
consider in what way mankind might be best served, and what service I was myself best
fitted by nature to perform". This service that one is "best fitted" to perform -- to most
effectively serve mankind --is not easy to find and not simple to execute. It also,
however, is not a struggle. It is a scintillating challenge that clarifies your mind and
enriches the presence of those around you not in some way where you are some light of
being, but in a way that allows you to prolifically certify your graceful understanding and
promote happiness and certainty in many aspects of your own life and the lives of others.
It is important to note that “servitude” doesn’t necessarily mean following the Bible or
Koran line by line. Serving could be anything that allows you to contribute from your
maximal potential to fellow man from your highest level of evolution.
The methods that are undertaken to serve, however, are incredibly important.
Gandhi was such a vehement supporter of any methods with good intent that ended
oppression. Despite his strongly supportive relationship to anything that ended British
oppression of Indians, he knew the method used to acquire any cessation was more
important than the end result. He said, "However much I may sympathize with and
admire worthy motives, I am an uncompromising opponent of violent methods even to
serve the noblest of causes". The process is infinitely more important than the end result.
What good is freedom from a despotic government if the rebellion results in a pyrrhic
victory where women and children are killed and many innocent lives are lost? An
attempt to acquire peace through violent means only enchains itself even more with the
violent process. Serving the process and the methods used in that process is the core to
serving, not the end result. This is the pathway to serving others from a very deep and
poignant source.
You should commit to serving others so deeply that we recognize it as a birthright

– that you were born with this goal. As Bacon says, the act of caring for the
commonwealth is similar to owning property; you must nurture that commonwealth like
your own home. When you breathe in this nurturing compassion, like the air you breathe,
you quickly experience enormous amounts of liberation. When you associate with this
aspect of clarity, you arrive at a level of functioning that exceeds patterns of maladaptive
growth because you begin to evolve -- through a spiritual birth -- with the most expansive
force of mankind. You begin to evolve with the grace of the commonwealth and
experience the radiance of man. Once you have begun not the practice -- that is far too
lackadaisical of a word -- once you begin the lifestyle of serving it is not a burden, but
something that energizes, expands, invigorates, and permeates peace in your life. Focus
on connecting with this higher good and you will connect with incredible amounts of
certainty. The key, however, is action. Take action when you get an idea. Read brilliant
authors and commit yourself to evoking sincerity and truth in your lifestyle -- become a
force of change. "You must be the change you want to see in the world”, says Gandhi.
Let’s return back to Einstein's comment about eradicating the problems that exist
today by thinking differently from the thought process that was used to create those
problems. The key to eradicating difficulties in the long-term is analysis. We expound
out of problems by analysis. When we analyze our problems and focus on what loops
and cycles cause us to end up incessantly at dead ends, we are liberated with the
knowledge of a pattern. Analysis reveals patterns. Patterns are so incredibly liberating
because they allow us to see flaws that we would not even be aware of. Flaws that cause
us to blindly make the same mistakes every single day that cause us to, every day, suffer
again and again. We don't spontaneously change and put the endeavor of removing our
suffering in the hands of luck -- that would take far to long, and wouldn't have resilience.
Instead, we must focus on creating clarity and certainty in our life. When we expand
beyond truth and open up doorways to happiness it is through the process of dissecting
our lifestyle and thought processes, eradicating the maladaptive processes and
extrapolating the enriching patterns. Such a process is conducted through, and only by
the means of, analysis. It is the doorway to opening up a nirvana that has always been
present, but we were blinded from seeing because of the web-like mesh of maladaptive
patterns that cocooned our awareness clouding our insight from seeing the door that has
always been right in front of us. It's time to engage analysis and serving and open the
door to nirvana -- to true happiness!
Multiple Perspectives of Servitude
The opposite effect of serving comes from Voltaire’s opposition to servitude.

Voltaire argues, "The poor man is never free; he serves in every country." Unfortunately,
dear Voltaire is dreadfully wrong with his declaration. The two most inspirational people
in existence -- two of the greatest leaders -- both disagree with this simple-minded French
philosopher. Jesus Christ said, "Blessed you who are poor for yours is the kingdom of
heaven". Siddhartha Guatama said, "The thoughtful do not delight in an abode. Like
swans that have fled their nest they leave their house and home". Jesus Christ and
Siddhartha Guatama, the originators of two of the world's greatest religions, argued that
the poor were anything but enchained; they were truly liberated. The thoughtful, the
travelers without a home, are "free" like graceful swans, and the poor have access to
heaven. This is definitely not saying that you should pursue poverty to acquire liberation,
but disproves Voltaire and shows that anyone – rich or poor -- can acquire the wealth and
liberation by helping others.
Serving is a form of power. Martin Luther King remarked, "Everyone can be

great because everyone can serve". Serving is a power and quality that doesn't require
any special skills or talents from anyone, but is the most challenging endeavor to pursue.
To truly serve you don't need tactical knowledge, money, wealth, or experience (although
experience could help). Instead, you simply need intention and awareness of your
inexhaustible capacity to serve.
The Variable Roles of Happiness and Rationality
French mathematician and philosopher, Blaise Pascal, divided the world, quite
accurately, into three distinct groups of "servers". Pascal says,
"There are only three types of people; those who have found God and serve him; those
who have not found God and seek him, and those who live not seeking, or finding him.
The first are rational and happy; the second are unhappy and rational, and the third are
foolish and unhappy.”
In other words, if you seek God you are rewarded with rationality and if you find
God you are rewarded with happiness Pascal creates a four permutation from the two
dichotomous variables of happiness/unhappiness and rationality/irrationality. Depending
on the type of serving (or absence of serving) you would produce different results in your
life. His four permutations were all the possible outcomes of different relationships with
servitude:
1. Total happiness AND rationality (servers)
2. Total happiness but NOT rationality (fantasizers)
3. Total rationality but NOT happiness (seekers)
4. NEITHER total happiness nor reality. (neglecters)

. The servers have engaged their mind, acquiring a process to serve, and savor the
happiness from serving and, thus, experience both joys; they are the most affluent
because they understand the necessity of servitude. The people who know they should be
serving (the seekers), endeavor to serve and are constantly engaging their mind to acquire
an effective way to serve. They possess rationality, but lack the happiness resulting from
actually serving mankind; they are the seekers. The worst group, the neglecters, is those
who are unaware or deny the importance of serving, and have no experience actually
serving. Therefore, they lack both happiness and rationality. The fourth permutation,
either not discussed or not considered by Pascal, could be a group I call the "fantasizers",
who possess happiness, but not rationality. These people create a fantasy world where
they are happy and pleasurable, but have not engaged in authentically serving. They are a
step above the neglecters because can envision a Utopian ideal where people serve, but
lack the rationality and the mental caliber to enact upon it. The evolution out of the third
(fantasizer) or second (seeker) phase to the enlightenment of the first state of mind ( the
stage of the ‘server’) is through the combination of the second and third phase of
servitude.
The seeker possesses what the fantasizer lacks, and, vice versa; the fantasizer
possesses what the seeker needs. The seeker has the rationality -- the means -- of
acquiring an end result, but lacks the vision. The vision -- the end result -- is all the
fantasizer has, but lacks the means -- the rationality of acquiring that ideal. The fusion of
these two qualities will generate the enlightened -- it truly is enlightened – state of the
server. The people who serve are the most are the happiest and have the greatest mastery
of their mind. They stand out in a crowd because they are usually helping people in the
crowd or directing it someway with their powers of benevolence.
A “server’s” quest for pleasure and mastery is complete through the process of
serving. The people who simply endeavor to serve lack the pleasurable rewards
achieving servitude serving, but have engaged their mind into the mastery of serving, and
are, therefore, rewarded with the mastery of rationality. Those who neglect serving are
the most pathetic. The have no authentic pleasure, being completely unhappy, and have
not discovered the joy of mastery by attempting to approach life rationally, to serve. The
conclusion is to serve and be complete in that process. Serve, because it is the only thing
you can truly do.
Anthony Robbins says, "Everything happens for a reason and a person, and it
serves you." The key ingredient into that formula is the make sure you are the force that
“happens for a reason” – a force that is motivated by a strong intention.
When you commit to service, you will see the good in everyone. That is the source of
intention.
Chapter 10: Emotions Signal Intuitive

Actions
Validating Emotions as Signals to Action
The power of validating emotions is revealed in myriad ways. I remember a very specific
incident during a screenwriting class I took in college where the power of validating
emotions was made incredibly clear. In this class, we were supposed to incessant writing
and then rewriting, and then rewriting some more for Act One of a movie we designed
entirely on our own. Although this class was remarkably fun and creative process, I
couldn’t handle the rewriting. By the time we had met in our fourth workshop, I had
written, rewritten, and then completely reorganized and rewrote the opening sequence to
my movie, spending about fifteen hours on the revisions. In this fourth workshop I was
asked to remove the entire opening scene – a battle scene. This wouldn’t have been a
problem, but I had been told to revise that scene in the past three workshops, and now I
was being asked to remove it. I couldn’t take it. I felt like having me reconstruct, re-
cement and refill the foundation and first floor of my house three times over, only to, on
the fourth time, completely get rid of the blueprints.
I erroneously responded to the “suggestions” as if they were blatant insults because I had
reworked so much of the battle scene already. Although it was wrong for me to look at
the advice, which were really simple suggestions, as insults, it wasn’t logical to have
someone give you advice on a re-writing an opening scene two to three times only to tell
them to completely remove it later on the fourth meeting!
I became intensely irritated and started to get defensive. Even though this wasn’t the
case, I felt like I was truly getting pushed around and bullied in the process of rewriting.
I couldn’t believe that the workshops had told me to rewrite a scene three times and then
completely remove it on the fourth time. I soon realized that “the big stones” hadn’t been
put in first. There is this old saying I heard from a professor during a commencement
speech regarding academic priorities. The professor said that you have to put your big
stones in first (he adds big, huge rocks to this jar), then asks if it is full (it looks full), he
proves this wrong by then adding smaller stones that fill in the gaps and asks if it is full
(it now certainly looks full), he then adds sand, filling in all the gaps, showing that it is
“now” full, but he proves this wrong one last time by filling it up with water so it is
completely full. I felt as though the first few workshops had been putting the sand and
water in first – having me shift around the sand and water only to then, later be told to
add in these huge boulders!
The frustrating process of the workshops began to feel humiliating. I responded to the
situation, first, by emailing the professor an email of apology, explaining why I had got
somewhat feisty and defensive because of the way the advice had arrived. I felt
humiliated because of the ordering the advice had arrived (small rocks and sand and then
the huge rocks – the sequence of the play had been changed).
After sending that initial e-mail, I realized my entire reaction was justified – I shouldn’t
have to apologize for my emotions! I had spent twelve to fifteen hours on something that
got chucked entirely in the fourth workshop! Although the teaching was remarkably
advanced, the sequence of my workshop’s advice was poorly prioritized because I was
asked to redesign my foundation before being told to completely remove the blueprints!
That is torture.
After sending the second e-mail where I validated my reaction I felt incredibly more lucid
and empowered. It resulted in mutual understanding between the professor and I,
generating greater rapport. The important thing was that I had validated my emotions and
felt sincerely alive and clarified after sending that second e-mail. Being a very
reasonable professor, he realized how frustrating the warped sequence must have been
and registered how much work I had been suggested to do in the earlier drafts. By
validating my emotions I became more empowered, created a more valuable and genuine
relationship with the professor, dissolved frustration that impeded me from writing, and
wrote an even better screenplay than the original. Clearly, this process of validation helps
accomplish tremendous growth.
The Involuntary Nature of Sincere Emotions
The importance of expressing and validating our emotions creates opportunities for us.
Mark Twain said, “Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary”. If most of our emotions
are sincere, and, according the brilliant mind of Twain, involuntary, why should we try to
bury them? Emotions truly are involuntary. They are as useful as the strong sensation to
yank our hand away from a hot skillet. Emotions protect us and warn us, just like our
reactions to cold or heat, prevent us from getting frostbitten or burnt. With the
screenwriting class, if I hadn’t validated what I was feeling (humiliating frustration) and
why I was feeling it (because of the ridiculous sequencing of small stones before large
stones; foundation before blueprints) I would have become embittered at a professor and
a class that I truly loved and gained a tremendous amount of insight from. When you are
jubilant, trust that happiness, and when you are pissed, trust that frustration.
For the longest time, whenever I was pissed, irritated, frustrated, or discouraged, I felt
ashamed for feeling that way. I said, “Jeez, you’re a bad person for feeling humiliated
and frustrated. You need to apologize”. I always made myself out to be the origin of my
problems. Sometimes this was true, but the reality was that in most of those situations, I
was the victim. When you feel negative emotions, almost 99% of the time, you are either
misinterpreting something or are the victim. But 99% of the people doubt themselves,
considering them to be at fault – to be “bully”, the problem-maker, or the bad person.
Whenever you feel berated, vilified, depressed or down immediately recognize that you
are either misinterpreting something or are a victim. There exists tremendous amounts of
personal power in recognizing a misinterpretation or that you are the victim to something.
Recognizing that you are a victim doesn’t imply that there has to be a “bully” at all.
Clarifying and declaring this, allows you to de-activate your inner Critic (the source of
most of our problems), inner Judge, and truly experience the emotions that you are
experiencing.
Using Emotions Advantageously: Avoiding Being Led Astray

Oscar Wilde said, “The advantage of emotions is that they lead us astray”. Unfortunately,
Wilde’s interpretation of emotions generates an erroneous connotation that emotions put
us off track. While it is true that they are advantageous, they lead us to our center, away
from situations that have led us astray. Avoiding the reactions to our emotions is what
leads us astray. Trusting in our emotional responses leads us away from our wandering
very much directing us back to our center, our core.
Plato says that “human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and
knowledge”. If the world’s most influential philosopher believes that 1/3 of all our
behavior comes from emotions, don’t you think we should treat those gems with more
respect and reverence, heeding them as advice? Emotions offer a very illuminating
potential for consistency. When we heed them and trust them our life and our behavior
evolves towards things that make us incredibly happy all of the time!
It is incredibly invigorating and enriching to have certainty, capacity in our lifestyle by

trusting our emotions as incredibly powerful signals. When we use our emotions as
guides we “control” our reactions to emotions. Anthony Robbins recommends us to,
"take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately
reshape your daily experience of life." While Robbins is a little off in his phrasing,
because we can never control our emotions, learning to use them as powerful sources of
direction, advice, and wisdom, truly does allow us to reshape our daily life experiences.
Emotions Purely as Signals
While emotions can get confusing and distorted at times, all emotions happen for a
reason; they are signals. All emotions signal our awareness, our conscience and reveal
our relationship with our state. When we are frustrated and irritated with a group, state,
place, or comments, we are misinterpreting our emotional signals or are being treated a
victim. When we feel empowered, joyful, enriched, and excited, we have a healthy
relationship with our “sense of place”, comments, people, or group. The problem with
emotions arises when people deny their validity and avoid recognizing them as extremely
useful and essential indicators. Most of the time people don’t have a problem feeling the
latter reaction – the joy, excitement, and enrichment – but when they feel the frustrated,
humiliated, irritated emotions they think, “Jeez something must be wrong with me? I am
such a jerk for feeling this way.” That is ridiculous; that interpretation is the Judge
speaking.
The good thing to know is that our Judge, which tries to use false logic and reason, will
rarely triumph over emotions. Richard Bach said, “Compelling reason will never
convince blinding emotions”. When are emotions are incredibly fervently set on
something, they see no boundaries and register on confrontation; they simply just “go”. I
remember one time my junior year I became so emotionally charged and set on moving to
California that it seemed like nothing would stop me. I was so emotionally convinced
and directed towards that move, that I when my friend started to ask me “Why would I do
that?” trying to evoke compelling reason, my blinding emotion caused me to run away
form the conversation infuriated. While emotions can appear impulsive and radical, if
interpreted the wrong way, I disagree with Bach’s quote because it is the fusion of reason
and emotions – not their separation -- that allows one to evoke the true source of
emotions. Combining reason and emotions squeezes the most juice out of an experience,
generating incredible clarity.
Emotions are simple and can be interpreted directly. Many times they are not complex at
all. We must choose to embrace the mystery of emotions to truly experience growth and
avoid “death”. Einstein pointed this out: "the most beautiful thing we can experience is
the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is
a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead:
his eyes are closed." If we create these disassociative, destructive labels of “positive”
and “negative” it segregates and divides our poignant and valid inner emotions, making
us a stranger to the experiences of life. Not only does emotion allow us to embrace the
mystery and truly connect with ourselves through originality, it is the source of some of
the world’s greatest music. Leo Tolstoy said, “Music is the shorthand of emotion”.
Emotions are music in its raw, elongated and original form. To truly experience our own
music, we must open our eyes to the world and love the mysterious clarity derived from
emotions and rapt in awe of our emotional response to our environment.
Your emotions are neither positive nor negative. Instead, they are always objective and
neutral responses to a very positive or negative environment. The environment (the
people, the group, the comments, and the place) is what changes, and it is the only thing
that can be positive or negative. Labeling your emotions as “positive” or “negative”
would be like assigning positive or negative qualities to stoplights! You can’t go around
calling stoplights (red, yellow, or green) “good” or “bad”. Red isn’t any more “negative”
than green is “positive’; they are simply directors of traffic. When you are stuck in traffic
and are in a hurry the red light becomes “negative”, just as the green light becomes
“positive” but that is reflective to your environment. The interpretations would be
reversed if you were tailing someone and couldn’t’ catch up to them; a red light would be
“positive” because it would enable you to catch up to them, while a green light would be
“negative” because it would be more difficult to catch up! Depending on the
environment, our emotions (like stop lights) change, and it is the environment that causes
us to interpret these signals as helpful or unhelpful – good or bad. The point is that the
lights of an intersection – just like emotions – are a filter. They objectively direct traffic
or our reactions; treating these signals as “good’ or “bad” is not only ludicrously illogical
(because such signals are entirely objective) but distorts our relationship with the
environment. Negative and positive emotions don’t exist; there is only neutral, objective,
indicating emotions – that’s the only type that exists.
Connecting with Positive Environments
Now, environments, on the other hand, are a different story; with black-and-white
thinking there are negative or positive environments. However, the key is to trust your
emotions as indicators of a shifting environment. By validating your emotions, you
instantiate them as indicators, and make them teachers, not annoying, confusing
reactions. Think about how many times you have been in a place and experienced
“negative emotions”. If you had simply acknowledged the validity of those emotions,
and recognized they were corresponding to the “negative place”, you could have
completely changed or removed yourself from that situation, saving you time, frustration,
and episodes of self-doubt. Validating your emotions allows you to embark on a
personalized journey of discovery where your map and navigation system become your
heart – your emotional responses. The typical interpretation of such an emotionally
driven journey is one of absurdity.
People consider it absurd to equate emotions to a beacon for guidance because the
common outlook on emotions is that they are mercurial and shift and change with such
unpredictable caprice. However, that impression is still derived from the idea of
emotions being “negative” or “positive’. When you truly realize and truly trust the fact
that emotions are neutral, reliable, and resourceful (the best and only resource) indicators
to how your environment is treating you, you will realize that there is no other way to
navigate and feel out your life. Life becomes an incredibly authentic journey of
happiness and connection through energizing decisions when these decisions come from
a place where your emotions have been validated. I can’t get over how long I spent – and
how long I see other people spending – believing that there were good or bad emotions. I
was plagued by emotions; thinking I was evil or corrupt when I felt emotions of anger or
irritation. But when I learned to trust those emotions as incredibly poignant and valuable
updates – debriefings – to the environment, I changed my life and found myself doing
things that made me happy.
From listening to your emotions, you will avoid things that frustrate you, engage things
that make you happy, and become incredibly successful. I found that doing 5k races made
me irritated, as did hanging out with certain friends, while teaching made me happy.
Instead of burying or trying to “burn off” (which is impossible) emotions, I trusted them.
I stopped hanging out with that group of friends because they treated me like I wasn’t
around. It’s empowering to leave people that treat you with indifference so more of your
time goes towards people that treat you with love and compassion, creating a
harmoniously synthesizing relationship and health exchange. Also, I stopped doing 5ks
competitively and just did them for recreation and health because I realized I didn’t like
competition. My emotions “knew” that about me but I kept erroneously telling myself,
“the emotions are the enemy; you have to be competitive”. Emotions are the truth! The
brain can warp you interpretation of them into incredibly misconstrued outlooks, but, in
reality, they are a reliable source of veracity, when you learn to trust and not to
misconstrue them. When you acknowledge that you are the victim of a situation, you
remove inner conflict and simply adapt, always evolving towards happiness and success!
Emotions are a reliable filter – a comprehensive translator to the myriad languages and
dialects that formed by reactions to our environment. This translator provides us with
incredibly informative information and integrity. Learn to not only trust in this
translation, but to live by it!
Respecting Intuitive Intentions
Have you ever felt a very strong inclination, an inexplicable tug or pressure,
pulling you to talk to a certain person, enter a certain building, or do something
completely random? Completely unrelated to peer pressure and outside the realm of
obligation, what is occurring is much deeper – something more penetrating -- than a pull
of the curiosity; these tendencies access more individualized component of ourselves, and
these subtle internal “suggestions” are much more intricate than the inquisitive
suggestions of the intellect. These strong inclinations are remarkable enunciations of our
intuition.
At the time that they occur, these inexplicable pressures seem completely pointless
irrelevant, or even slightly frightening. Many times we get these random, seemingly
pointless pulls or ideas to do something unexpected, and we cast them off, discarding
them as puerile, immature wastes of time. However, these intuitive intentions are truly
engaging gems of development that offer us some of the most profound life lessons. We
must heed them or risk experiencing a struggle in attaining peace and self-actualization.
Of course, you aren’t are that it is intuition at the time; it sounds, simply, like
some ludicrous idea. You must remember that the intentions of intuition are almost
immediately attacked by intellect and labeled as unproductive or purposeless. Intuitive
lessons are anything but spurious, however, the methods in which our reason standardizes
them into pointless ideas, is the counterfeit logic. Despite their innate brilliance, heeding
these intuitive ideas, at the time that they occur, usually seems very immature or
ridiculous.
I remember one specific time where felt a very deliberate pull from my intuition
after going for a run and picking up some Indian take-out and a smoothie. So after getting
the food from downtown, I passed the buildings and offices that I always had passed and
on my way back to school. One of the places I passed, just as I always had, was called
"Swan-Law". I had always assumed that this was a business emphasizing legality --
lawyers, attorneys, judges, and the like. However, upon closer inspection as I walked by
the same building I realized I had been in error for the past three years; "Swan" and
"Law" were actually surnames, not the nature of the business. My intellectual curiosity,
naturally, tried to fill in the blank and I read the subheading underneath the name and
discovered that it was a morgue and crematoria! What a shock that was! That close to
the school and such a common, well-labeled building I had mistaken for a law firm. Who
knew? Logically, which would be more likely -- law firm or morgue?
Suddenly, my intuition pushed my intellect out of the driver seat, grabbed the
wheel, and wanted me to make an immediate U-Turn and literally go inside the morgue
and crematoria. I, as everyone does, cast off this absurd idea providing countless reasons
for its impracticality -- it could be a possible invasion of privacy going into the building;
it seemed completely pointless and random; and it was would be incredibly jarring to
visit a morgue. I did not want to step inside a morgue. Nevertheless, my intuition was
strong-- stronger than my focused intellect at that time -- and I actually, muttering to
myself about how ridiculous this was, followed the signs that led to the entrance. I
assumed, and secretly hoped, that the building would be closed, seeing it was after 5:00
pm. However, the door showed no resistance as I pulled, and seeing that it creaked open
easily, I entered building.
In addition to the fact that there was no secretary, manager, nor person welcoming
you, when I walked into the building I couldn't get over how thick and heavy the air was.
The actual atmosphere seemed to have a creepy, heavy, feel to it. I saw a darkened
corridor without about ten rooms, 5 on each side of the corridor in front of me. I walked
down the corridor, peering into the rooms, and saw that they all were exactly the same.
Those uniform chambers, containing 3-4 chairs and sofa, were probably the rooms where
“jovial” discussions regarding lives of the dead and the actual coffin or urn took place.
The corridor wasn't exactly a spine-tingling tomb, but it was definitely eerie, and I felt
thoroughly ill wandering in the dense, cadaverous air. As I made my way down the
corridor and all the duplicate dimly-lit rooms, I saw one that was illuminated. There were
actually people in it, when I thought the entire place was vacant. I peered into the lit
room and saw what appeared to be the conclusion to a funeral procession. There were a
few people bustling about that seemed to be somewhat cheerful, or at least, optimistically
bereaved. It was definitely a service, though, because as my eyes covered the room, they
stopped dead on a coffin, and I actually saw the dead body of a woman. I saw this dead
body with flowers in the coffin. I hadn't seen an actual dead body in real-life since my
grandfather died about seven years ago. But there truly was a real corpse that I was truly
seeing. My intellect clicked in and seemed to say, oh so benignly, "This intuitive
adventure has been great, but it's time to go." I didn't bolt out of the morgue, but I
hastened my pace and quickly made my way through the 2 sets of double doors at the end
of the corridor, passing a hauntingly vacant and small, shadowy chapel, complete with
pews and an altar.
When I exited the building, I caught my breath and bolted out of the place so that
it probably looked like I had just robbed a bank the way I was running. It felt so
exhilarating and fun to run. I have been a runner for over six years, but have fluctuated in
my definition of and commitment to running. I have vacillated between the idea of
running being a healthy exertion that nurtures the mind and body and, at times,
considered it draining, tedious burden. At that moment, however, my first definition was
the only one available to me; I never felt so crisp and clear in all my life -- my legs
churning, heart racing, and mind authentically alive -- as I bolted down the rainy street
back towards the school. Before my little intuitive adventure to the morgue and coffin-
room, I remembered hearing about this one seminar where low expectations and high
expectations were being discussed. A person with low expectations, but high attitude,
had been interviewed and he had said, "Any day was a good day that he was above the
ground". I authentically understood what that guy meant -- carpe diem, seize the day,
appreciate the little things, and appreciate life for simply the opportunity to exist -- when,
before, I had only known what had had meant.
Intuitive Creativity
Authenticity is when the creativity of your soul, intuition, and/or deeper

component of your being ingeniously fuses with the world. When you understand
something authentically it means it has stimulated your soul or intuition, which, in turn
motivates and inspires your entire body. Because simply knowing is comprehension
limited and solely isolated to your brain, it is enormously different from authentic
understanding; authentic understanding is a cohesive experience of expansive
comprehension that permeates your mind, body, and entire existence.
Many people encourage us to simply “let go”, to surrender and let intuition take
control. “It is better for people to be like the beasts…they should be more intuitive; they
should not be too conscious of what they are doing while they are doing it.” Do you
know who said that? No, it was not some zany zookeeper obsessed with animals and
beasts, nor a Hobbseian philosopher believing man is innately, but the genius, Albert
Einstein.
Great minds like Einstein have experienced paramount moments of creative

authenticity on numerous occasions. Einstein’s intuition was what sparked, and made
accessible, the brilliance that facilitated the creation of “the special theory of relativity”,
“E=mc^2”, and other keystone ideas and formulas of the 20th century. How else would a
young German claimed unable to speak until age of four, who failed his college entrance
exams, go on to become a Nobel Prize-winning physicist whose ideas not only
revolutionized the field of physics, but have altered and enlightened our everyday life?
Sure, you could point out that he started reading physic books at age 12, and was on his
way to becoming a genius at a young age, but Einstein, the great mind himself, even pays
respect to intuition as his source of brilliance: “The only real valuable thing is intuition”.
Even the great Plotinus, the philosopher who started Neo-Platonism and is said to
have equaled Plato in terms of brilliance, remarked on the inspirational powers of
intuition. Plotinus said that their exist three degrees of knowledge. In order from least to
most genuine, he believed that knowledge fell into the categories of “opinion-based
knowledge”, “scientific knowledge”, and “illuminated knowledge”, or, simply,
illumination. So opinion-based knowledge held the least amount of veracity, while
illumination held the most genuineness and truth. Furthermore, he described the “means
of instrument”, that is, the method or the instrument used to attain each of the types of
knowledge. He said that the uncertain “opinion-based knowledge” was produced by our
sense; favorable “scientific knowledge” was manufactured by dialectic, or logical
discussion; and the most profoundly pristine type of knowledge, illumination, was
generated by our intuition. There exist countless qualitative accounts of intuition
expanding the meaning of people’s lives and illuminating their life perspective. This is
not some “used car salesman” trying to sell scandalous deals of intuition. Look it up
yourself: whether the field be science, literature, history, politics, philosophy,
empowerment, or communication – intuition leaves a remarkably monumental impact.
Before the morgue trip I enjoyed the idea of respecting life for life’s sake. I
referenced the raw appreciation of life as a concept, as a little "reminder", as a small
dainty "sticky note" in my brain that prompted me to breathe a little bit easier on occasion
or temporarily put a smile on my face. But that's just the problem. You can't remind
yourself to love life; you simply have to experience the gusto and uplifting rejuvenation
and gratitude for your passionate experience as it occurs. The concept of “present
moment” is vital here. Returning back to the story...so after I bolted down the street for
awhile, I actually swerved off the road towards the park and did sprints on this nearby
trail because I felt so deeply refreshed and spiritually nourished to simply be alive. Just
from respecting my intuition and taking a simple 4-minute visit to a “random” building, I
began to feel so thoroughly connected with the refreshingly generative sensation of
existing "above the ground", that I instantaneously began to move and run and live with a
vehement respect of my breath, blood, capacity, and motivating existence.
It is amazing the rejuvenation and instantaneous motivation that we experience

from the evocative suggestions and inclinations of our intuition. We must make a
deliberate and conscious effort to not simply acknowledge our intuitive voice, but to
facilitate an awareness of its messages. The impact our intuition’s intentions host
the most profoundly illuminating and personalized life lessons in existence. Think
about it; when you take a class on any subject, you are learning generic information. You
may have an outstanding instructor, guru, or teacher, but it is up to you for that generic
information (be it historical facts, mathematical equations, mechanics of grammar, or
ideas for personal empowerment) to take root and activate your intuition -- to incite
expansive meaning and poignancy in our life. When your intuition actually takes the
initiative and deliberately tries to teach you a monumental "life lesson" for free, not
heeding our intuitive messages out of carelessness, fear of appearing immature, or
simply fear of spontaneity, would be a discarding an incredible rejuvenating
opportunity. Even if the intuitive intentions seem completely spontaneous, they are
always intricately planned and personalized to achieve enormously effective results.
Because no one knows you better than your intuition -- not even the closest family
members or lifelong friends -- no one can inspire you the way intuition can. Look at
the "morgue" example; I was compelled to, literally, drop everything and run because of a
restored appreciation for life. The fervent gusto and energized clarity that our vitality
experiences from our intuition makes it one of the most illuminating things we will ever
come across.
Sure, you could say that the "morgue incident" was simply an intellectual
curiosity turned into a motivating lesson, completely separate from any intuitive
involvement. But ask yourself, "What catalyzed the curiosity? What inspires us to drift
off our typical path and find gems of authenticity in the first place? From personal
experiences and myriad people that I have questioned and interviewed, it is clear that
intuition provides incredible gifts of insight, motivation, and rejuvenating vitality. From
deciding to spontaneously (intuitively) make a left turn, when we would normally make a
right, to actually saving our life, to intuitively deciding to revisit an old friend, and re-
embrace powerful memories, our intuition is the source of passionate resilience in our
life. Respecting and vigorously connecting with our intuitive intentions is the pathway to
clarity, exhilaration, and happiness.
Our Creative Reservoirs

We have all these three different reservoirs.
Compassionate
 The “Fuel” for fixing things
 The motivator/ the engine
o Positive inspiration and encouragement to over come anything
o Find doubt in any situation, compassionate reservoirs helps overcome the

walls
o Provides calmness and patience to overcome problem
 Peace
 Serenity
 Loving
 Motivation through tough times
 Determination to get through any obstacle
Intuitive
 The Evidence/Pin-pointing the problem “Knowing needs to be fixed”
 The detective – gathering clues and learning about the problem
o When the problem occurs
o How it occurs
o Why it occurs
o The frequency and consistency of occurring
 Inner knowing
 Locating the source of the problem

 Awareness of others and self
 Awareness of what patterns produce what behavior
 Knowing what needs to change
Creative
 The Process: “How to fix it”
 The engineer – solving it and making a solution
o The ideas on how to make a solution work
o How to implement a solution and create a solution
o How to design your life
o How do design a way around the problem
 Idea creation
 Designing
 Implementing
 Installing
 Transformation : turning bads into goods, letting go of problems
 Understanding how to change maladaptive patterns

Proofs of Compasionate Reservoirs
Proofs in Progress
As I wrote them Down:
1. Love & happiness are inexhaustible.

2. Love & happiness are embers of – derivatives of – the compassionate reservoir.
3. Love & happiness are derived from the Compassionate Reservoir by galvanizing
the CR (but still never leave the human-system).
4. CR= Nature.
5. Nature is most Congruent with UR.
6. Ultimate Reality = 0 = 100% Nature (Nature Adaptation).
7. Compassionate Reservoir exists.
In Correct Order (to prove #7, inexhaustibility of happiness and love, and possibly
success)
1. Compassionate Reservoir exists.

2. Ultimate Reality = 0 = 100% Nature (Nature Adaptation).
3. Nature is most Congruent with UR.
4. CR= Nature.
5. Love & happiness are derived from the Compassionate Reservoir by galvanizing
the CR (but still never leave the human-system).
6. Love & happiness are embers of – derivatives of – the compassionate reservoir.
7. Love & happiness are inexhaustible.
Compassionate Reservoirs Glossary
Authentic Love – Love without expectations, possessiveness, nor grasping; it is love

that is fulfilling from the gesture of giving, not the gift of receiving.
Authenticity – experiences, ideas, and/or emotions that are new and uniquely
inspiring for the individual; all new ideas stem from authentic ideas.
Behavioral Action – somatic actions directly executed from CFJ choice; the only type
of actions are behavioral conscious actions, any other bodily event is autonomic
nervous system
Cognitive Functional Judgment – cognitive judgment that is voluntary and
functional; perpetuates the neglect of the Inner Critic; galvanizes the
Compassionate Reservoir; and utilizes self-interrogation and/or choice. (Note: for
the health of humans, CFJ should be more common, but given those 4 defining
parameters, it is, in actuality, quite rare.
Cognitive Dysfunctional Judgment – see Involuntary Cognitive Functional Judgment.
Compassionate Reservoir – the self-contained, non-transferable, invariant quantity,
impermeable vessel and substance beholding and molding Nature in a human that
derives embers of love and happiness within that human; compassionate
reservoirs only vary in the quality in which they've been galvanized.
Conscious Action – any bodily event that occurs from cognitive functional judgment
or behavioral actions.
Emotional Reaction – a spontaneous, instinctive feeling distinct from reason;
emotional reactions can have a positive or negative impact on the human, but they
occur involuntarily.
Data Structure Tree of Compassion –
DataInformationKnowledgeWisdomCompassion -- This describes the
evolution of Data to Compassion Data TO (organize) TO Information TO
(component of) Knowledge. Going backwards: You have knowledge, composed
of experience, information, and skills. Cut off all experience, and skills and
you’re left with information. Disorganize that information, and you have data.
Work up: organize data so it becomes information, add that information to your
skills and experiences to get knowledge. Then wisdom supersedes knowledge – a
gestalt of knowledge, intuition, and awareness – and finally compassion is the
application (action) of that wisdom, combined with happiness. In the data
structure tree of compassion (compassion being the root node), data, therefore is a
leaf node (except if you include randomized language which could be a child
node of data). Thus the data structure tree of compassion has a height of 4
(compassion 0 to data (or talents or gifts) at node depth 4. Talents, gifts, and data,
then are three examples of leaf nodes in this data structure tree of compassion.
The data structure tree of compassion looks as follows.
 Compassion
 Action
Types_of_Actions

 Happiness
 Passion
 Peace
 Wisdom
 Knowledge
 Information(Facts)
 Data
 Skills
 Talents(learned)
 Gifts(intrinsic)
 Experience
 Intuition
 Awareness
Fear, Types of
Healthy – See Fear
Irrational – See Fear, Fabricated
Perceived – See Fear, Fabricated
Phobic – See Fear, Fabricated
Fear – (rational fear; healthy fear; life-threatening fear) the self-preserving
biologically-instinctive autonomic, safety device of the peripheral nervous system
utilized for survival, ingrained in our DNA; implemented by the human nervous
system to shield, protect, and evade humans from bodily hazards in Reality.
Fear, Fabricated – (phobic, irrational) originating from (and perpetually extending)
unconscious panic reactions triggered by resisting and fearing previous unpleasant
physiological reactions triggered by previous events, variables, and/or
environments, fabricated forms doubt, restricts, and constructs fallacious
obstacles preventing one from galvanizing his or her compassionate reservoir;
our Inner Critic manufactures and maintains fabricated (phobic) fear.
Groundedness – the condition of external connection through what neuro-linguistic
programming calls, external ecology checks (Joseph O'Connor writes, “An
external ecology check examines how your outcome will affect other significant
people [and events and decisions] in your life”); groundedness is linked to
originality, as opposed to authenticity, which is related to stability.
Happiness – an achievement of a goal or desire that is actually desired by your
identity galvanizing an ember of your compassionate reservoir; in short, wanting
what you get and getting what you want.
Healthy Fear – see Fear.
Illusion -- An illusion is an erroneous perception of reality that can alter conscious
and unconscious actions and reactions. but does not affect reality.
Inner Critic – aka the Inner Judge; the destructive inner fabricated voice that catalyzes
DUME, distracts humans from CHAT, and manufactures phobic fear and
irrational rage; the antithesis of the Compassionate Reservoir.

 References: Urizen (William Blake's Judging spectre); what occurs from
doing, saying, or being anything (Aristotle); the destructive inner voice to
which the artist doesn't have time to listen (William Faulkner), Judge-and-Jury
system (Tony Robbins).
Involuntary Cognitive Functional Judgment –cognitive functional judgment that
would normally be functional except that it's involuntary nature cripples it to
dysfunction; combines emotional reaction with voluntary CFJ producing a
“broken record” marked by repeated self-declaratives, imperatives, and/or self-
interrogation.
Irrational Fear – see Fear
Jubilation – a form of happiness derived directly from the compassionate reservoir; an
ember of the compassionate reservoir.
Nature – the perpetually and instantaneously adapting capitulation, ocean,
simulacrum nearly congruent with Ultimate Reality, immersed in Reality; because
Ultimate Reality remains completely independent of and removed from Reality,
and Nature changes and adapts with such reproductive precision to almost
flawlessly embody Ultimate Reality, the image of Ultimate Reality nourished by
Nature is the closest thing to actually experiencing Ultimate Reality from Reality;
infinity nature = flawless simulacrum of Ultimate Reality = 100% congruency
with Ultimate Reality.
Originality – experiences, ideas, and/or emotions that are new and uniquely inspiring
to the world, but not to the individual; all new inventions are original, but all
originality is first derived from an authentic idea and/or feeling.
Perceptual Reaction – any alteration of the perception; perceptual reactions are
cognitive and may be cognitive judgment, but are not cognitive functional
judgment because of their proximity to illusion.
Physiological Reaction – events of the autonomic nervous system and bodily events
that are completely under the control of emotional reactions.
Possessive Love – an imprisoning and absurd form of love resulting an a debilitating
debacle of misery and depression where one party “waits” for vindication and the
other party is never satisfied.
Rational Fear – see Fear
Reality – the void, space, arena of all matter and energy in the entire universe.
Stability – internal interconnection and knowing thyself through what neuro-linguistic
programming calls, internal ecology check(s) (Joseph O'Connor writes: “An
internal ecology check is when you check with your own feelings that a course of
action would be a wise one to follow” ; it's aligned with authenticity as opposed to
originality, which is aligned with stability.
Success – the fulfillment of an aim, completely disparate from the human's identity
actually desiring that aim.
Ultimate Reality – the unmoved mover, the axis, the mountain, zero, a white orb, void
emptiness, Sunyata, universally constant entity-existence, completely independent
from Reality, completely independent from the Universe, to which all Nature and
Reality strives to connect, emulate, adapt, change, and evolve; the image of
Nature and Reality is derived from Ultimate Reality. While true, ultimate reality
and illusion are separate and removed from reality, but Ultimate Reality is the
source from which all reality is created (even though it is completely distinct from
it), while illusion is merely a deceiving digression and misrepresentation of
reality. When Einstein said, “Try and penetrate with our limited means the secrets
of nature and you will find that, behind all the discernible concatenations, there
remains something subtle, intangible and inexplicable.” He new of the intangible,
inexplicable Ultimate Reality and its relationship to Nature (Note: Ultimate
Reality is anything but subtle, it's prominent and bold, but simultaneously sleight
and compact).
Unconscious reaction – any bodily, emotional, or cognitive event that occurs within a
human's body or mind, without the human's awareness of the event's occurrence.
There exist three unconscious reactions: physiological reactions, emotional
reactions, and perceptual reactions.
Voluntary Cognitive Functional Judgment – Cognitive Functional Judgment.
Wu Wei – action non-action; the highest level of living our lives by allowing rather
than forcing; the Zen of just doing things without contemplating a plan, without
thinking; in basketball this is going “unconscious” in Japan it's Satori;
experienced at high levels of galvanization and/or highly adaptive elements of
Nature.

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Our Compassionate Reservoirs

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Introduction: Reality, Illusion, and our Compassionate Reservoirs .................................... 8

Chapter 5: The Mind's Eye Essence.................................................................................. 85

Our Creative Reservoirs .................................................................................................. 147

Introduction: Reality, Illusion, and our

The PAS is an illusion. We begin generalizing about the safety of

It goes without saying; each of our existences is a individualized teetering Matryoshka

Chapter 1: Our Compassionate Reservoir

We grow internally as well as externally. Allowing is the highest level of performance;

Is struggle “bad”? Struggle is bad. Struggle creates unnecessary suffering. Challenge is

For example, I remember being in an extremely challenging computer science class.

I developed a new relationship to learning with meditative edification as the core

A nonproductive atmosphere of growth would generate random growth, sporadic growth

Accessing Our Compassionate Reservoir

When we access our reservoir of compassion, we inherently access freedom. We

Accessing our Compassionate Reservoir allows us to move into state of clarifying

Manufacturing change utilizes dynamism – the instantaneous change adaptation.

Ubuntu, the south African ideology, of which I am a strong believer, lumps

If you're looking for a long-term relationship or a marriage, gauging this

Contributing from your Compassionate Reservoir by Framing

Copernicus had to use his inner knowing to calculate the heliocentrism.

Take time in your day to practice framing. Framing is a tip designed by

Additionally, Fannin reminds us to do the 5-second rule after a performance. The

Deposit into our Optimism Bank

The idea of an Optimism Bank account is extraordinary because it creates a

1. See the world as abundant.

3. Stay in the attitude of allowing and know that resistance is disharmony.

b. The source of authenticity is even more fulfilling. It provides a validated

7. The Universal embodiment of intention is synonymous to a derivative of our

9. “Become as generous to the world of abundance as the field of intention is to

Being the King of the Hill

Understanding another naturally leads to love. That loving is not so much as a

1. “Father of Intention”. Bob Condor. DragonFly Media. January 2005.

Chapter 2: Inspiration over

Doubt: No Chance, No Way

In addition, to blinding us from seizing opportunities and infesting our lives,

The Disease of Dubiousness: Harmful affects of Doubt

This section sets up doubt as a disease, which is tremendously helpful to

 Forgetfulness: I experienced “mind farts” (where I completely forgot what I was

 Incoherency: I spoke less articulately, sometimes to the point of slurring my

 Self-Incrimination: I began to criticize and insult myself and my work.

Symptoms of confidence and the absence of doubt are:

• Remembering deeply and comprehensively

• Personally loving your message and its delivery

• Speaking with Solid certainty

speakers, business consultants, authors, and lecturers if they experienced similar

The Strains of Doubt

 Destructive: Destruction and Disparagement of others that sustains or protects

 Preventive: Doubtful Indifference of others that sustains your own beliefs.

 Strengthening: Personal questioning that strengthens your own beliefs

Preventive doubt” is the second-most harmful kind of debilitating doubt. Less

“Where there is doubt, there is freedom” – Latin Proverb

Strengthening doubt is not so much a flavor of doubt as it is a form of questioning and

A Viciously Violent and Volatile Combination: “Destructive

Here is the equation that led to German preventive doubt:

3. Jews rise into a superior situation by owning the banks.

Here’s an equation that lead to German destructive doubt: