Professional Documents
Culture Documents
If weddings are concerned primarily with love, then it should follow that the
wedding band musicians and participants, I was pleased to find that instances of
Although wedding bands are paid to entertain their clients and their guests,
an insistence on sounding good should not serve the sole purpose of “doing well in
society,” where doing well means personal financial gain. Instead, as Cheng notes,
“the primary purpose of sounding good isn’t to do well, but to do good.” 1 In this case,
it could be easy for any band member to become wrapped up in one’s own
freedom last week to choose the pre-ceremony music, I was faced with the choice of
performing songs that were currently in my repertoire – those which I knew I could
make sound good – or instead learning new songs that would have more of an
impact on the bride and groom. While the latter choice meant more work for me, it
was important that I “do good,” and exercise care and empathy for the clients’
This care for our band’s clients is exercised not only in our preparation, but
community musicians “are committed to the idea that everybody has the right and
1
William Cheng, Just Vibrations (Ann Arbor: University of Michigan Press, 2016), 8.
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ability to make, create, and enjoy their own music.”2 Throughout our show, the band
specifically calls for audience participation in singing, clapping, and dancing. Our
singers go out into the crowd, handing the microphones to audience members, and
valuing their personal contributions to the music. The bride and groom are called
up onto to the stage numerous times throughout the night and allowed to sing and
improvise. If any one of the guests want to perform with the band, we will cater to
almost any request. By enabling these music-making opportunities, the band allows
Empathy and care for others is also practiced amongst bandmates. This is
most often found in the support that the members of my band have for each other.
shooting me down. As another example, if one of our three singers isn’t feeling well
on any particular night, someone else will step up and sing the lead part on the sick
singer’s song. Rather than saying or feeling like it’s the sick singer’s problem and
not their own, the singers instead allow reparative time for each other whenever
necessary. This situation is especially surprising given the paranoia that could come
2
Lee Higgins, Community Music: In Theory and In Practice (New York: Oxford
University Press, 2012), 5.
3
Higgins, Community Music, 140.
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his paranoia about things going wrong can manifest itself into hostile and aggressive
behavior, frequently yelling at the stage crew during performances. Not only does
this negativity ripple throughout the band, but this tension can carry through the
music, impacting the audience as well. This particular strain of paranoia and the
resulting hostility can also be found in wedding planners and wedding venue
management, who are quick to chastise the band for perceived infractions, such as
playing a few decibels too loud, or taking too long to eat dinner.
Attitudes of care can vary from the community participants as well, having a
direct effect on the band members. For example, when a wedding guest goes out of
the way to praise our performance, that positivity is reciprocated back into the band
and cast off into the corner of a basement for dinner, this antipathy and lack of care
can have a negative effect on the attitudes of the band members. These feelings can
be tough to shake off as the night goes on, undoubtedly affecting the musicians’
serve as a significant impetus for showing care in turn and paying things forward.” 5
Although these last few examples show instances where care and empathy
are lacking, they are the occasional exceptions to a generally positive environment.
In fact, I have heard horror stories from my bandmates of other wedding music
communities filled with paranoia and antipathy, and I feel very lucky to have found
Bibliography
Cheng, William. Just Vibrations: The Purpose of Sounding Good. Ann Arbor: University
Higgins, Lee. Community Music: In Theory and In Practice. New York: Oxford