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Editor
PANTS Zine wanna do it?
Just do it. It is a simple statement, but it can mean
so much, particularly to college students who have a virtual
and physical cornucopia of opportunities available to us. But
we hesitate, we procrastinate, we avoid all that could be
messy and emotional. Yet, we have found that the messy and
emotional are pathways to explosive freedom and greater personal understanding. You
can't hit a home run without swinging the bat. So this issue is dedicated to you and your
dreams, fantasies, ideas, and imagination. It's time for you, yes you, to just do it.
Whether it be asking out the cute guy, tlying something new in bed (or out ), applying
for that job, or moving somewhere new and exotic for the summer, just for kicks. We all
too often get wrapped up in routine and forget to shake up our lives for that needed bit
of diversity and advcnture.
But, no one will deny that times are hard out there for sexual adventurers. The
last of the baby boom generation are clinging to the vestiges of decency and virtue with
such fervor, they have forgotten what it means to be human. The grownups are really
after young people lately, trying to contain all that dam interest in sex. We've seen a
dozen cases around the countly of prosecutors trying to jail teens for sexting. We've
seen governors vowing to veto equal rights legislation because the gays will take up all
the marriage licenses, leaving none for the breeders. We've seen newspapers at various
colleges challenged for running columns that discuss sex too "frankly" (that's code for
"honestly"). A Montana law professor, in fact, has called for censorship of the student
paper, saying its sex column is harming the reputation of the school and therefore her
career.
The latest attempt to demonize young people's sexuality involves a state legis-
lator's attempt to prevent a bunch of students from showing a porn film at the local uni-
versity. Screw the Constitution, he says, we're talking threesomes, girl-girl, and anal.
This is serious.
This doctrine says that sex is by its nature so dangerous, we must compromise
our liberty day after day after day to control it. Accordingly, as long as people are inter-
ested in sex, democracy is in trouble. Or to put it another way: that sex is so bad, any
action to contain it is justified, no matter how socially destructive it may be.
We aren't machines, created exclusively to have boring, vanilla, heterosexual,
monogamous encounters. Our psyche and human carnality are too volatile to be
crammed in such confined boxes. We are a species of innovators bodl in and out of the
bedroom. As a result of all this, we are calling for an outright sexual rebellion. It's time
for us to break down these boxes and walls and just do it. Literally!
Of course, every act of sex is an adventure. But beyond the willingness it takes
to take on the basic adventure of sex, there is another level of possible exploration, one
that takes you deeper into the recesses of you and your partner's desires. So put on your
harness; strap-on, diaper, glow-in-the-dark condom, or whatever it is that floats your
boat and give it a shot. Think of this zine as an orgasmic sexual oasis in a deselt of
frigid, vanilla ideology. College is a time for experimentation and wild exploits. It has
been a long cold winter, but finally the doors are opening with the freedom and possi-
bilities that summer brings. If you are looking for a sign, this is it. Go out dlere and take
chances, try something new. Swing your bat, you might strike out or you might hit a
grand slam. Weare young and have nothing to lose. Just do it.
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Road...to an Orgasm
By: Amanda Dunn

Your back is arched and sweat is beading up on your skin. Grabbing onto
the mess of blankets on the bed, you curl your toes and go deeper into numerous
paths in your mind that continue expanding. You feel yourself floating up through
your body and into a cavernous world of sensations. The smells of sweat and
pheromones, the taste of salt and the tingles beginning to stretch through your body
spin together as your breathing gets heavier. Suddenly, you feel a deep rush of
sensations and the tingles permeate your body, as if a flood of every emotion and
sensation ran through your mind and into your stomach, down your back and shot
out of your limbs in mere seconds and you collapse on your back.
If you've experienced anything close to this, then you probably had an
orgasm. Perhaps you haven't experienced something like that but you've felt a
release of energy, or the satisfaction of a good sneeze, a tickle, a mind-blowing
explosion, like you are melting, or maybe you've never had one. No two orgasms
are alike. Everyone has a different experience, whether it is from your own hands, a
vibrator, someone else's fingers or mouth, penetration by a penis, or warm apple
pie.
What is an orgasm? Orgasm- "intense or paroxysmal excitement; espe-
cially: an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual
arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by vagi-
nal contractions in the female" (Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, 2005).
So what the hell does that mean? Orgasm is a difficult word to defme, as it is
different for every person. Orgasms differ between males and females. Studies have
been done that show us that different parts ofthe brain shut down, while other parts
light up during an orgasm. People often enter a deep, emotionless state, with women
going into an even deeper state than men. Men have described orgasms to tingle, make
them numb all over, and feel like there is an explosion shooting out of their body.
For those women who are sexually active and cannot have an orgasm during
sex and find themselves feeling left out and unusual, consider this: "Only about 30% of
women have orgasms from intercourse alone," (Guide To getting it On, Paul Joannides).
The females' clitoris is designed solely for pleasure, which explains why most women
do not orgasm during sexual intercourse with only penetration.
What if you can only have an orgasm alone or you just can't have one? This,
in fact, is more common than most people know. Some women have their first orgasm
at 10 years of age, where
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trying to achieve an orgasm.
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relaxing to welcome the or-
gasm. If one is feeling
stressed, anxious, upset or
angry, it may hold them back
from experiencing an orgasm.
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trusting your partner. It is
then that you can relax and
allow your mind to drift off.
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contribute to your inability to
have an orgasm, such as
smoking, an unhealthy diet, a
lack of sleep or even hormo-
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beer and late night manifestos swaying to the tune of streetlight concer-
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freedoms
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I write holy hymns underneath forgettable happenstance and Swedish
thread counts
Our dreams now inhabited by chip and the old block talking incessantly,
bouncing all the checks
Escaping conservative heterological orgasms
Numbers on purple bands stretch further than drunken doorman candy
Misty midnight squeals pull back secret hand jobs and ejaculations
Thieves thick and pockets lined with masculinity
Dark dawn revelations and cyclic full moon absurdities
Dictionary arguments prove erotic
Writhing in words like books bound to text and pages
Cast aside orgies ofletters to put U and I together
And lay there side by side until the morning comes
W e know this is Demographics:
what you all have been Over 200 students responded
waiting for. Over 200
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our online survey and Males - 47% Age:
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I...--~ ~~_~ Who from GMC would you like


_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _""-_"_'---Joe to have sex with'?*
Rebecca Purdom (6), Vegan Steve Carpenter (4), John Sexy Man Van Hoesen (3), Ian
Foertsch (3), Brandon Gowdy (3), Zach Behney (3), Jenna Calvi (2), Becca Jean (2),
Steve Braunius (2), Mark Daily (2), Keith Drinkwine (2), Chris Wetzel(2), Tom Stuessy
(2) ,Jeff Davis (2), Oz Skinner (2), Jonathon O'Neil, Evan Dale, Kate Biller, Rob Pudner, ,
Matt Bloss, Chris Poneca, Jan, Julia Marcusa, Robbie Leeds, Mitch LesCarbeau, The
GMC Hotties -, Kate Menyo, Victoria Rafferty, Kelsey Dreher, Cassandra De Pecol, Kyla
Jaquish, Amanda Shippee, Courtney Coldon, Ashley Hill, Deirdre Bailey, Kara Savastio,
Kara Kessler, Blair Schutt, Melanie David Weber, Smajda, Cassie, Brandy Bunkley,
Karen Swyler, Laura Maki, Rachel Wonel, Corey Gilbert, Christina Jager, Alaina S
Cealie Dageese, Anthony Mango, Casey Bradley, Alaina Smith, Tom Wheeler, Rich Bai-
ley, The girl from the soccer team with dreadlocks, , Brian Commins, and a beautiful
bearded man, Danielle Phillips, Kelsey Eaton, John Warfel, Matt c, Kate Barcellos, Aaron
Ashton, Jamie Bernstein, Kevin Rockey, Kate Barcellos, Lucas Brown, Ashley Potter,
Kaitlyn Menyo, My boyfriend, , Lindsay Furbish, Matthew Heitmeyer, Carlee Williams,
Katie Jablonski, Emma Brinley Buckley, Ian Smith (The one who plays Frisbee), Brent
Duchesneau, Hilary Dernier, Deborah Deluca, JenniLee, Big Pete B, The lovely lady in
the GMC Bookstore, JT, Meredith Crown, Tristan, The women soccer team, Jacqueline
Petroski, Emily Piper, Ollie Gelinas, Paul Dahm, Lindsay Furbish, Kyle Peterson, Colin
Heaton, Joseph Pentzak, The entire financial aid office all at once, John Nassivera, Paula
Mann, Kelsey Eaton, Maggie Devine, Most of the freshmen class girls, Parker with the
long hair, Martyn, Ryan Rush, Francois, Dopp, Jon, Kyle, Victoria, Generic female, eve-
rybody at the Bruce table, She lives on the third floor of Cree. She is Brazilian and has
awesome curly hair and glasses
and is from RI but I don't know *numbers after names show number of times
here name name was chosen by respondents.
What is the wildest thing you have done sexually?
18 man orgy, I had an orgy with two brothers and my friend, My boyfriend and I had
sex no more than 10 feet from my parents while they were sleeping- in the same room.
Sex in college shower with someone i've barely spoken to. Had sex on a playground at 2
in the morning. Wearing a diaper under my clothes in public with others. My ex had a
fantasy to simulate a rape/forced sexual incident with me...so I let him. One beautiful
spring skiing day, in Skyeship Gondola #72 at Killington. We tried to get #69, but mis-
timed it. Either way, the view out the back is amazing, and as long as no one gets on at
the midstation, you're good for 13 minutes. Got head on the porch of a museum Having
sex in the woods outside of the restaurant and only a few feet away from the reception
area where my ex's father had just gotten married. Sex in my exes bed while she was in
Cape Cod, followed up by sex on her couch, brother's bed, kitchen, and finally her work
space at the camp we worked at. Sex on the Milford (Massachusetts) High School Lawn
at midnight Had sex on the side of the road against a tree at night. Had gay sex with my
best friend (male) while his girlfriend watched us. Using all forms of bondage, whips,
knives, etc. in her backyard. Macy's Dressing Room/three people. In a car...a small car.
Had sex while riding an elephant. Doing it while the dog was on the bed, watching us.
Having sex in a car on some back road. Having sex when my whole family was home in
a 3 room apartment. I lost my virginity in the public library. Given a blow job in the
gorge. I had sex in a canoe, on an open public lake with many other boaters... I got one
hell of a sun burn...Pictures came crashing down (and some broke) during foreplay.
And, for those that didn't come down during foreplay, later came down during sex. One
of them was a piece of art work, worth about $500.00. Once I got railed on the Rail
Trail. It was cold and miserable. Another time we did it on the serum sled. I wore a
skirt. It was cold but the sex was insanely hot. Have sex at a family friend's house in
their garage on the top of a tool table. Gave a blowjob on the front steps of a national
historical site and the porch ofthe campus-owned Bentley house. Masturbated to the
porn where my parents conceived me. Hiking naked. In build a bear stuffing. Masturba-
tion while driving. Viewing other furries while using a zeta toy vibrator. Water proof
cell phone on vibrate. Golf course mid-day. Church pool table sex

Agree or Disagree?
Most of my peers are more I am more attractive than
sexually active than I am: most of my peers:
Strongly Disagree - 6% Strongly Disagree - 6%
Disagree - 42% Disagree - 47%
Agree - 37% Agree - 41 %
Strongly Agree - 16% Strongly Agree - 5%
I often get intoxicated before I have sex:
Strongly Disagree - 52% Agree - 12%
Disagree - 34% Strongly Agree - 2%
Where would you like to
have sex the most?
Forest, Tree house next to the ocean, Ball pit at
chuckie cheese, Church, Ropes Course
The roof of Withey, In the middle of a pasture sur-
rounded by blue skies, mountains in autumnal col-
ors, & with cows hanging out nearby, In a canoe,
Boreal forest, Withey Computer lab, I don't want a
bear to eat me mid-coitus, In a cemetery, On a
beach, Under a waterfall, Moving vehicle (train,
car), Washing machine, On the Ames balcony, Gon-
dola, On the side of a cliff, My bed next to the win-
dow, On a snowy day with the covers off at 5AM
watching the sun come up, ANYWHERE!!! !, On a
dock in the middle of a lake, Hay mow, Empty
classroom, On a river, Bouldering cave, Roof or
mountain top ... something with a great view,
Woods, Shower, Laundry room, In my car, In Ice-
land under an aurora borealis, On a mountaintop in a
warm rain, kitchen table, I would like to have sex on
a very soft luxurious hotel bed overlooking a gor-
geous picturesque beach scene, The photography
dark room, In a confessional booth of a catholic
church. while the priest is in the other side and I'm
confessing my sins. On the Ackley stage, I'd love to
sneak into Chartwells when no one's around in the
middle of the night, a public place where we could
get caught, in the library on the black chairs up-
stairs, in the wilderness, the commuter lounge, on a
boat, in a field of zinnias with a blanket spread out
for us to lay on top of, Financial aid office or in the
library's study rooms, grassy hill in the (warm
weather) rain, Inside a cave, Pebble beach, In space,
Caretaker hut on the AT

Resources
National STD Hotline - 800-227-9822
Safer Sex Page - www.safersex.org
National AIDS Hotline - 800-342-2437
GLBT Legal Hotline - 877-452-8529
Planned Parenthood - 800-230-PLAN
Good Reads
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays My Gender Workbook-
(PFLAG) - www.Pflag.org Kate Bornsteine
Listening Ear Crisis Line - 317-337-1717 Making Stuff and doing
(Call them just to talk) things - Microcosm
Queer Zine Archive Project - www.qzap.org Beat the heat - Katya
Sexual Assault Hotline - 517-372-6666 Kmisaruk
Transgenderism Glossary:
Androgyne:a person who live without appearing or behaving particularly male or female.
Androgynous! Androgyny Having both masculine and feminine gender typed traits
Autogynephilia Component of a psychological theory intended to explain the development of Gender Iden-
tity Disorder (GID). Gill is said to be the result of a mis-directed sex-drive. According to the creater of this
theory, Ray Blanchard, a transsexual who is sexually attracted to members of their target sex has a sex-drive
directed at the idea of being the target sex.
BDSM An abbreviation for "Bondage, Domination, Sado-Masochism" sexuality characterized by the con-
senual exchange of power. This is echange of power can be either physical (e.g., spanking), psychological
(e.g., teasing), or both. Often BDSM involves gender-related play when the partner with power adopt a male
role and the partner without power adopts of female role.
Bigender The tendency to fliexbly shift between masculine and feminine gender-typed behavior depending
on context. While an androgynous person retains the same gender-typed behavior across situations, the bigen-
dered person purposely changes their gender-role behavior for the situation. It is particularly noteeorthy that
this concept emerged from within the transgender community rather than being adopted by the transgdern
community after it was created by another sub-culture (e.g. transsexual was defined first by the mental health
community).
Female to MalelFtM: A transsexual born as female and transitoning to male.
Fetish: Among the more common fetish objects are women's underpants, bras, stockings, shoes, boots, or
other wearing apparel. The person with Fetishism frequently masturbates while holding, rubbing, or smelling
the fetish object or may ask the sexual partner to wear the object during their sexual encounters.
Gender Dysphoria: Having negative or conflicting feelings about one's sex or gender role.
Gender Euphoria: Feeling positive about one's cross-gender activities. The term arises in the transgender
community as a pun playing on the psychological term "gender dysphoria"
Gender Fuck: To purposely present with strongly visible elements of both sexes (e.g., to have a beard and
wear a dress). The intent of gender"fucking is typically to provoke people to think about gender roles.
Gender Identity: An inner sense that one is or belongs to a particular sex.
Hermaphrodite: A person with primary or secondary sex characteristics of both sexes. Note that, though this
term continues to be used by mental health professionals, those classified as such often consider it derogatory
another.
Intersexuality! Intersex: Having primary or secondary sex charasteristics of both sexes. This is the preferred
term for intersexed personsadvocacy groups benefititing the intersex.
Male to Female! MtF : An abbreviation for "male to female" It refers to a transsexual born as male and tran-
sitoning to female.
Paraphilia: A sex-drive directed at any non-socially accepted object or activity. Kissing, though directed at
an object not directly linked to procreation is not considered a paraphilia because it is socially acceptable. A
fetish is a kind of paraphilia. Transgenderism is currently considered a paraphilia but homosexuality no longer
IS.
Queer: Deviation from societal norms for gendered and sexual behavior. Queer is an umbrella term to many
groups including those who are transgendered, those who practice BDSM, or those who are gay, lesbian, or
bisexual. Although originally a derogatory term of the larger society, it has been seized for empowerment as a
term of self-definition.
Sexual Orientation: Sexual attraction to a particular group of persons. Typical sexual orientations are to the
other sex (heterosexuality) and one's own sex (homosexuality).
She-male: A typically-derogatory term for a male to female transsexual with breasts and a penis. This ternl is
common in pornography but rarely used in other contexts.
Target Sex: The desired sex of a transsexual or transgendered person. This the opposite of one's biological
sex,
Transexual: Purposely spelled with only one "s", this term was intended to take the psychological term from
the mental health professional sub-culture and re-define it for the transgender sub-culture.
Transgender: An umbrella term referring to anyone who's behavior, thoughts, or traits differ from the socie-
tal expectations for their sex. This group includes cross-dressers, transsexuals, intersexuals, gay men, lesbian
women, and bisexuals.
Transvestitism! Transvestite: A psychopatholigical term that includes cross-dressing but also includes otller
opposite-sex-related clothing activity. Transvesitism includes behaviors from cross-dressing to masturbating
while wearing a single object of the opposite-sexes clothing
sex In the NEW8
Love at first sight
give or take a few seconds
Everyone's heard the saying "love at fIrst sight," but
is it true? And if so, how long does it take to fall in
love? A study in the journal "Archives of Sexual
Behavior," reported that a man could be in love after
just 8.2 seconds of staring at a woman. But ifhis
gaze lasts just four seconds, he may not be all that
impressed. The same can not be said of women,
however, as they stay focused for the same length of
time whether they fInd the man attractive or not. The
researchers believe that men use eye contact to seek
out mates, while women are more wary of attracting
unwanted attention.

Virginity: The lost genome?


We blame genes for obesity, mental illness,
and a host of other issues. But can they deter-
mine when we lose our virginity? Research-
ers are now saying yes, they can-or, at least,
that's what media reports are saying re-
searchers are saying.
Here's the real deal: According to a study out
of California State University, our genes may
playa role in the age at which people fIrst
have sex.
CSU psychologist Nancy Segal
looked at 48 pairs of twins who were sepa-
rated at birth to see how genes influenced
their sexual maturity. To compare the twins' sexual histories, the researchers found that
most twins lost their virginity at around 19 years of age. New Scientist calls the fIndings
"modest" at best-the genes "explain a third ofthe differences in the participant's age
of first intercourse."
Other scientifIc groups have pinpointed a gene-DRD4- that has been linked to age of
loss of virginity. DRD4 is known as the "risk taking" gene? People who are risk takers
also abuse alcohol and drugs or engage in delinquent behavior-virginity is only one
risk-taking measure, and an arguable one at that.
Environmental factors, such as coming from a divorced family, can also make
someone more likely to engage in sex earlier in life. Personality traits and hormonal
effects also playa role. Peer pressure in times like high school, or societal norms such
as the sexual promiscuity ofthe '60s also may have influenced virginity ages. The list
goes on. For what it's worth, it might be in our financial interests to wait: Recently a
22-year-old female supposedly sold her virginity on the Internet for $3.7 million.
Grab your whips - Kinky Sex on the Rise
Eroticism is in the eye of the beholder. In Japan, some women turn to electri-
cally charged squid for sexual satisfaction. In the American world of masochism, one
man begged to be tied on a spit and roasted over sizzling coals. His counterpart, a latex-
loving dominatrix, reached ecstasy merely watching his pain.
Educational films from the past are hard to take seriously by today's standards.
What is abnormal may not necessarily
be unnatural, according to sexologists
who study the outer limits of the human
psyche. And, increasingly, as seen in a
plethora of new books and films -- not
to mention thousands of sites on the
Internet -- kinky sex is getting more
attention.
Paraphilias -- or socially unac-
ceptable sexual practices -- are more
common than most ordinary "vanilla"
sexual behaviors
Though there is no hard data
on what whether a spike in interest
means a spike in actual activity, experts say anecdotally that couples are showing a
marked interest in exploring new sexual intensity.
In his 200 1 film, "Beyond Vanilla," Dunlap interviewed more than 200 sub-
jects who had one common denominator, some type of fetish -- bondage, flogging, knife
play and fire, among others.
When asked "What is kinky?" academics, doctors, lawyers and even a con-
gressman, shared fantasies like, "sex with a taxi driver in the back seat," "pouring can-
dle wax on his testicles," "anesting someone and patting them down on the bar," "being
gang-raped by many sets of twins, or better yet, triplets." The film was widely praised
and used by the University of Minnesota medical department at conferences on human
sexuality and development.
Also out this year are books that appeal to those interested in sex outside the
normal boundaries and that explore a world where pain, pleasure and often guilt inter-
twine. One, "The Adventurous Lover," which is part of the new "Joy of Sex" series, is a
handbook for couples who want to experiment in a safe environment. Researches note
that "what's weird, sick or kinky for you is what practitioners defend as 'normal' for
them," continuing, "A lot is changing culturally." The Adventurous Lover," is being
billed as "perfect for the couple who want to push the boundaries: sections include fan-
tasy, fetish, sex-clubs, foursomes and bondage."
Daniel Bergner, author of "The Other Side of Desire," states "No one wants to
talk about Freud any more," he said. "One thing he knew that no scientist or psycholo-
gist displaces is that this drive is so central, so essential, and so powerful. The fact that
we are living with that kind of powerful drive within in us is inherently threatening."
"Part of me thinks people are more receptive and comfortable taking risks
sexually," said Bergner. "But part of me thinks we are pretty much afraid -- afraid be-
cause the force of the erotic is pretty strong and probably anarchic, and therefore,
maybe we worry that if we step a little over the boundaries, we might not be able to step
back."
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In a slew of recent victories for the gay
marriage movement, Iowa and Vermont have
been the added to the list of states that provide , \.. S. .
eq~al marriag~ righ~s to all citizens regardles.s of ;..;..;. i'-~--
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theIr sexual onentatlOn. Same-sex couples wIll be ~~ i.H M R t.
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allowed to marry in Iowa by month's end, after a ~'·I·
ruling on Frid~y ~y the Iowa Supre~~ ~ourt that ~,! ,..
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A prayer vIgIl Fnday ou.tSIde the Iowa
Judicial Building in Des Moines before a ruling
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was issued by the State Supreme C o u r t . '


The unanimous decision moved the
heated battle over same-sex marriage beyond the
East and West Coasts to the nation's middle. Only Massachusetts and Connecticut now
allow same-sex marriages, while California permitted them for about six months before
voters approved a ban in November.
"We are frrmly convinced the exclusion of gay and lesbian people from the
institution of civil marriage does not substantially further any important governmental
objective," Justice Mark S. Cady wrote for the seven-member court, adding later, "We
have a constitutional duty to ensure equal protection of the law."
Opponents of same-sex marriage pledged to frght the outcome, but acknowl-
edged that there appeared to be no immediate way to undo it. The only avenue would be
a constitutional amendment, but under Iowa law that process would take at least two
years.
Members ofthe Iowa Family Policy Center, a group opposed to same-sex mar-
riage, spoke with state lawmakers after the ruling in hopes ofjump-starting the amend-
ment process. "A court decision doesn't change what's right and what's wrong," said
Bryan English, a spokesman for the group.
Meanwhile, halfway across the country in
Vermont, the state became the fourth to legalize gay
marriage - and the frrst to do so with a legislature's
vote. The House recorded a dramatic 100-49 vote,
: the minimum needed, to override Gov. Jim Douglas'
veto. Its vote followed a much easier override vote
1in the Senate, which rebuffed the Republican gover-
. nor with a vote of23-5.
e '.' Vermont was the frrst state to legalize civil unions
6~ for same-sex couples and joins Connecticut, Massa-
J chusetts and Iowa in giving gays the right to marry.

Tuesday morning's legislative action came less than


a day after Douglas issued a veto message saying the
';.I bill would not improve the lot of gay and lesbian

couples because it still would not provide them


I rights under federal and other states' laws.

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The difference between friends and "friends"
60 percent of college students report
commitment-free sexual relationships
Can two people have sex and still remain "just friends?" A recent study
found that 60 percent of college students have been in a "friends with benefits" rela-
tionship, but that the possibility for romantic feelings - and a lack of communication
- can complicate such an arrangement.
That may seem fairly obvious. But the study focused on why college stu-
dents have these relationships at all. Researchers from Wayne State University and
Michigan State University asked 125 undergraduates why they would or wouldn't
have sex with a friend, and what the advantages or disadvantages would be.
Two-thirds of participants said they had been in a "friends with benefits"
relationship, and 36 percent said they currently were in one. The main advantage of
such a relationship was "no commitment" (reported by 59.7 percent ofpmticipants),
which was followed closely by "have sex" (55.6 percent).
More than half of those who had sex with a friend said they had engaged in
all forms of sex; 22.7 percent said they had intercourse only, while 8 percent said they
did everything but have intercourse.
The relationships were perceived as providing a relatively safe and conven-
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Bi
crastination
~ Oz Skinner
oday I begin ar,~yolution, a First Amendment cause to wage a war on wayward

T vocabulary. Wliile I fight entirely for free speech, one must concede that certain
components CaI1i1~t continue. Hate speech never needs vocalization (as most
well-minded indt\tiduals admit), so I wish to add another word to the list of un-
acceptable speech. WhoreSi&- slut. Or slore, for that matter. All of these words must go
and flow from our minds fof;'-!'ternity.
It seems certain that one can exist as a whore in the minds of others without knowing
it. No, rumors of campus slu read like cold sores in February. Often times people
directly say it in said-whore's or mention it rather loudly in her vicinity, and this un-
necessary slander develops inpnll of emotional or sexual abuse. Effects of such
abuse include loneliness, inferi 'complex, anxiety, depression, and in some cases sui-
(fide; meanwhile, physical effec from mild headaches to great pains an4nausea.
. ot unsurprisingly, sexual conse ces often arise as a result of hearing otb:~:rs call
reo Going on the assumption the abuse victim should not conventf _c.
. as a whore, but rather suffe m blatant rumor spreading, she
or unpleasurable while ciating it with intense emotio
. ,,g,ined.
of self-fulfilling prophecy w
ell become one." This ration
cope . s. However, the victim u~Mlllly only
greater ris hysical consequel)c~§.dfsex (STDs;
nancy, or furfherse . " ._
The negativee .. . ""/'-<quite
cently, a female friend ofmiIlein 19l)~af
somebody calls you a slut, then maek'[j~~
As kids we learn that "if [we] can't sayan c.c. .'
because we never know what condition a personp
comment literally? Perhaps they hold a special Cdnh,
A dear friend of mine from high school lived \\II. ."" .' ,"
fashioned mother. As soon as she hit puberty, her mother't6ld her in notili
that not only will she never engage in premarital sex but that any sort of reia
guy constitutes her as a whore. Cavorting around with boys makes people ta
a good way, she always heard. When my friend wll$sixteen,\l\Iordreached her
her slutty sexcapades-she saw a movie with a boYai1dthe)'kiss~dgood?ight!
moment until she fmally left for college last fall, herm-9.th~rney~rforgotto daily
her that she remained a definite slut. Theemotional~t'f¢f>~s~fy.earsofverl1al abu
my friend to fear intimacy and mostcontactwitlltl1.eOPpcbSi!esex.To tl1i~cday, m
cannot bear hearing any ofthosewords,andfrank:ly,lleithercanL -
Why must we continue to use languageth~tupsetsalarge, silent portion
ety? One may jokingly call my friend a slut, and fail to know the memories and p
she associates with that word. How could they know? But realizing that the silent,'h
ing person could live amongst anybody, shouldn't that impact people enough to alter
words and attitudes?
Furthermore, we share life as humans. Every single one of us came into the
world the same way, so who are we to judge one another? Let's assume that a so-called
whore may indeed sleep with many people; who cares? Does it matter? Perhaps she hides
a secret reason for her promiscuity so just leave her alone, or maybe she really does enjoy
having sex with a variety of people. Is that any different from other sexual activities?
Would we concoct demoralizing names for people who readily relished orgies or
threesomes? As long as all practices remain safe, of course not.
So let people be. Let people live. Let us change our attitudes and vocabulary.
Let us foster a worldwide community of respect and love, and let it begin here at GMC.
Let us become conscientious and thoughtful. Let us grow into mature adults. We don't
need these stupid slurs; we are not thirteen anymore.
Is Anal
Sex Legal? /Galshave
Is Legal SOARIEB
SexAnal? SEt!
By :Amanda Dunn
People all over
the world have differ-
ent views on sex. In
2003, in Lawrence v.
Texas, the U.S. Su-
preme Court ruled 6-3
that sodomy laws were
unconstitutional in the
United States. Prior to
the laws being passed,
there were states that
were against sodomy
of any kind and others
with sodomy laws that
applied only to homo-
sexuals. Even now,
there are some states
that still attempt to en-
force their laws, such as Virginia, Oklahoma and North Carolina.
Everyone has their opinion on anal sex. Some people love it, are
disgusted by it, are intrigued by it or just don't want to go there. The goal
of my article is not to sway you one way or another but to educate. No
matter what your sexual preference, anal sex can be both fun and enjoy-
able if it's done safely.
The key to comfortable penetration is being aroused and feeling
relaxed with the person you are with. What would normally feel good to
you one day may not if you are feeling stressed or uncomfortable the next.
When first experiencing anal insertion, it is probably best to start with a
finger or two until you feel comfortable. Anal massage is also a good way
to stimulate without anal insertion. There are many nerve endings in the
anus which can stimulate pleasure with some lube and massaging. There
are natural lubricants secreted by the colon and the anus but keep in mind

ill the that it is a
different at-
mosphere
than the va-
ea~D~ gina and ex-
tra lubrica-
• tion is often
ill necessary
and prefer-

Be~ able. Con-


doms should
always be
used during
anal sex, as
it protects
both parties
engaged.
Males can
get prostate
infections
from anal
sex in the
absence ofa
condom.
Fluids are
actuallyab-
sorbed more
easily into the body by the rectum than by the vagina. Never switch from
anal to vaginal sex, as bacteria from the rectum can infect the vagina.
Whatever is being inserted into the rectum must go in and out
slowly. It is impOliant to ease in, as the rectum muscles can tense up.
Stmi off slow and do what feels comfOliable. If it does not feel comfOli-
able to you, stop. You can always give it a try another time. Also keep in
mind that anal sex isn't for everyone. People get pleasure from a myriad
of things. Go slowly when pulling out of the rectum to avoid extreme dis-
comfOlt and in some cases, physical damage.
Whether you are gay straight or anywhere in between, you can
experience the pleasures during anal stimulation and penetration. Re-
member to take it slow and be safe. If you are feeling intligued by anal
sex and want to try something new, lie down, relax and lube up. Who
knows, you could discover a new world of pleasure.
Sponsored by

P.A.N.T.S
People Are Not Their Sex - a Gender Studies Club

Mission Statement: To foster and promote, in an academic


setting, awareness in the field of gender studies; this will be
done by providing resources, discussions and sponsoring
campus events.

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Poultney, VT 05764

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