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Early marriage was borne of ancient societies' need to secure a safe environment in
which to breed, handle the granting of property rights, and protect bloodlines. Ancient
Hebrew law required a man to become the husband of a deceased brother's widow.
But even in these early times, marriage was much about love and desire as it was
social and economic stability. In its roundness, the engagement ring, a custom dating
back to the Ancient Rome, is believed to represent eternity and everlasting union. It
was once believed a vein or nerve ran directly from the 'ring' finger of the left hand to
the heart.
Many other modern day marriage traditions have their origins in these ancient times.
Newly-weds are said to have aided fertility by drinking a brew made from honey during
certain lunar phases and it is this tradition from which we derive the origins of the word
'honeymoon'.
ONE WIFE OR TWO?
Understanding of marriage contrasted greatly from culture to culture. Some cultures
viewed the institution as endogamous (men were required to marry within their own
social group, family, clan, or tribe), exogamous (marrying outside the geographical
region or social group) or polygamous (allowing men to take more than one bride).
Polygamy was formally banned towards the end of the Roman Empire with laws against
The seeds of modern marriage were sowed here and they extended into the modern
Western world.
IN HOLY MATRIMONY
In European nations, marriage was traditionally considered a civil institution. Around
5AD great Christian theologians such as Augustine wrote about marriage and the
ministers in Christian gatherings, but it was in the 12th century that the Roman
In Catholicism, it is still believed that the Sacrament of Matrimony is between God, the
man and the woman, while the Reformation of the Sixteenth Century CE re-valued
woman.
VICTORIAN COURTSHIP
During the Victorian era romantic love became viewed as the primary requirement for
marriage and the rituals of courting became even more formal. An interested
gentleman could not simply walk up to a young lady and begin a conversation. He had
to be formally introduced and only after some time was considered appropriate for a
Once formally introduced, if a gentleman wished to escort a lady home from a social
function he would present his card to her and at the end of the evening the lady would
review her options and chose who would be her escort! She would then notify the lucky
gentleman by giving him her own card requesting that he escort her home.
Almost all courting took place in the girl's home, always under the eye of watchful
parents. If the courting progressed, the couple might advance to the front porch. It was
also rare for couples to see each other without the presence of a chaperone, and
The ancient Greeks liberally allowed divorce, but even then the person requesting
divorce had to submit the request to a magistrate, who would determine whether or not
the reasons given were sufficient. In contrast divorce was rare in early Roman culture.
However, as the empire grew in power and authority, civil law embraced the idea that
Throughout the last thousand years, divorce was generally frowned upon and from the
earliest years of the Christian age the only 'proper' way to dissolve a marriage was by
annulment - a status that was granted only by the Church. Of course, one British king
changed all that during the Sixteenth Century by having arguably the most famous
In 1533 Henry VIII famously broke England's ties with the Catholic Church and changed
the face of our nation forever purely because he wanted to divorce Catherine of Aragon
was widely used. This process allowed courting couples to share a bed, fully clothed
with a 'bundling board' to separate them. This allowed a pair to talk and get to know
In some parts of 18th Century Europe a biscuit or small loaf of bread was broken over
the head of the bride as she came out from the church. Unmarried guests scrambled for
the pieces, and they would place them under their pillows to aid their own fortunes in
marriage. It is believed that the tradition of having a wedding cake stems from this
strange custom.