www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-2373 Introduction By the end of this Session, you will be able to---- Examine the forces that compel people to be difficult in such a variety of ways Examine the central communication skills that turn conflict into cooperation, conflict into reason, and hidden agendas into honest dialogue Focus on specific strategies for dealing with the ten most difficult behaviors of the people you can’t stand Bring out the best in people at their worst
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 Difficult People Characteristics Let’s be clear, you can’t change difficult people, you can communicate with them in such a way that they changed themselves. It’s a matter of knowing how to get through to them when they are behaving badly
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The 10 Behavior Characteristics We will identify 10 specific behavior patterns sane people resort to when they feel threatened. These represent the struggle with undesired circumstances.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The 10 Most Unwanted List Behaviors of people you can’t stand The TANK The SNIPER The KNOW-IT-ALL The THINK-THEY- KNOW-IT-ALL The GRENADE The YES PERSON
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The 10 Behavior Characteristics Behaviors of people you can’t stand The MAYBE PERSON The NOTHING PERSON The NO PERSON The WHINER
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 Strategies for Difficult People When dealing with difficult people, you always have a choice You can stay and do nothing You can vote with your feet You can change your attitude about your difficult person You can change your behavior
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 You can stay and do nothing
Suffering through it, and complaining to
someone who can not help you Doing nothing is dangerous because frustration with difficult people tend to build up Complaining to other people tend to lower morale and productivity Doing nothing postpones effective actions
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 You can vote with your feet
Sometimes our best option is to walk away
When it no longer makes any sense to continue to deal with a person If everything you say make matters worse When you find yourself losing control, remember that discretion is the better part of valor
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Learned to see them differently
Listen to them differently Feel differently around them Focus on your attitudinal changes A change in your attitude is absolutely necessary, if you want to be successful
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 You Can Change Your Behavior
You must change the way you deal with
difficult people Learn to bring out the best in others Understand what brings the worst out of you Learning strategies for dealing with problem behavior
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The TANK The TANK is confrontational, pointed, and angry, the ultimate in pushy and aggressive behavior. Pushy and ruthless, loud and forceful, or with the quiet intensity and surgical precision of a laser, the TANK assumes that the end justifies the means. Expect no mercy.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The TANK Whenever you’re being verbally assaulted, attacked, and accused, your goal must be to command respect because TANKs simply don’t attack people they respect.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The SNIPER This covert operator identifies your weaknesses and uses them against you, through sabotage behind your back and well-aimed putdowns in front of the crowd. Whether through rude comments, biting sarcasm, or a well timed roll of the eyes, making you look foolish is the SNIPER specialty
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The SNIPER Your goal when dealing with a SNIPER is to bring the SNIPER out of hiding. Whatever type of SNIPER you face, whether the playful SNIPER, the controlling SNIPER, or grudge SNIPER, you only need to remember this: a SNIPER can’t snipe if there’s nowhere to hide.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The Know-It- All This person knows 98 percent of everything. Just ask them! KNOW-IT- ALL will tell you what they know, for hours at a time, but won’t take a second to listen to your clearly inferior ideas. Seldom in doubt, the KNOW-IT- ALL has a low tolerance for correction and contradiction. If something goes wrong, however, the KNOW-IT-ALL will speak with the same authority about who’s the blame ------ you!
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The THINK-THEY-KNOW-IT-ALL This character doesn’t know much, but doesn’t let that get in the way. Exaggerating, bragging, misleading, and distracting, and pulls you off the track. THINK- THEY-KNOW-IT-ALL can’t fool all the people all the time, but they can fool some of the people enough of the time, and enough of the people all of the time, all for the sake of getting some attention.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The GRENADE When they blow their tops, they are unable to stop, and shrapnel hits everyone in range. When the smoke clears, the dust settles, the cycle begins building to critical mass again. After a brief period of calm, the GRENADE explodes into unfocused ranting and raving about things that have nothing to do with the present circumstances.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The GRENADE Your goal is to take control of the situation when the GRENADE loses it. Though it is impossible for you to stop a GRENADE from exploding once the pin is pulled, GRENADE can stop themselves given the right circumstances. You can create those circumstances.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The YES PERSON Quick to agree, slow to deliver up, the YES PERSON leaves a trail of unkept commitments and broken promises. Though they please no one, Yes People over commit to please. In an effort to please people and avoid confrontation, Yes People say “yes” without thinking
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The YES PERSON Your goal with this problem person is to get commitments you can count on, by making it safe for the person to be honest, teaching him or her task management strategies
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The MAYBE PERSON When faced with a crucial decision, they keep putting it off until it’s too late. But there comes a point when the decision makes itself. Then it’s nobody’s fault but their own. In a moment of decision, the MAYBE PERSON procrastinates in the hope that a better choice will present itself. Sadly, with most decisions, there comes a point when it’s too little, too late, and the decision makes itself.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The MAYBE PERSON The MAYBE PERSON does not know a systematic method for choosing between imperfect choices. Your goal is to give this person a strategy for decision making and the motivation to use it.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The NOTHING PERSON You won’t know what’s going on because they give you no verbal and no nonverbal feedback. They seal their mouths and stare past you as if you’re not there.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The NOTHING PERSON Regardless of why NOTHING PERSON tells you nothing, your goal is to persuade the NOTHING PERSON to talk. That is not only possible, it is probable, because when you use this strategy, nothing can stop you.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The NO PERSON Discouraging, they drive others to despair. More deadly to morale than a speeding bullet, more powerful than hope, able to defeat the ideas with a single syllable. Disguised as a mild mannered normal person, the NO PERSON fights a never ending battle for futility, hopelessness, and despair.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The NO PERSON When dealing with a NO PERSON, your goal is to move from all fault finding toward problem solving, from stagnation toward innovation, from declining toward improvement. You may not stop the flood of negativity completely, but you can succeed in turning the tide back to its proper course.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The WHINER They wallow in their woe, whine incessantly, and carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. A WHINER feel helpless and overwhelmed by an unfair world. Their standard is perfection, and no one and nothing measures up to it. But misery loves company, so they bring their problems to you. Offering solutions makes you the bad person, so their whining escalates.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 The WHINER You goal is to team up with them to form a problem solving alliance and if that doesn’t work, then your goal is to get them to go away.
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By now you’ve probably recognize
that you to have days when you are at you worst. So what can you do about it? You may find the answer by looking back at the 10 behaviors we just discussed.
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 Summary Behaviors of people you can’t stand The TANK The SNIPER The KNOW-IT-ALL The THINK-THEY- KNOW-IT-ALL The GRENADE The YES PERSON
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 Summary Behaviors of people you can’t stand The MAYBE PERSON The NOTHING PERSON The NO PERSON The WHINER
www.pmpacademy.com 800-239-0263 678-578-0263 Where to Get More Information Dealing With Relatives (...even if you can't stand them) Rick Brinkman, Rick Kirschner The Wisdom of Teams Jon R. Katzenbach, Douglas K. Smith
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