Yeldez Arra N.

Fabillar SOCOR 1 Th 11:30-1:00 pm

The time in my life where I want to be a better communicator was when I was in
my undergrad and my group of friends had a huge fight because of a simple
misunderstanding that lead to a very huge confrontation. We are a lot in this group of
friends of mine and the fight started because my friend was annoyed of my other friend
and the group made sides. There was not really a huge deal of it but as time went by all
the pent up tension just blew up during the intramurals. We had an open forum at that
time and which was full of shouting and never listening. Our emotions were all over the
place and we say things that are very insensitive and below the belt. I just wish that I
could have stepped up for my friends who were attacked by those insensitive and very
hurtful words. I also wish to turn back to that time so that I can explain our side better
and not get my subjectivity and emotions in the way. I let my emotions get the best of
me and stripped away any rational and unbiased judgement on the situation. I am also
sure that my friends regretted that confrontation and just wished that we could have
made that open forum into a more mature and more understanding in a sense that we
gave and take the confrontation we were receiving. This was a learning experience for
me because I became more skeptic on the people I let in to my life and I also restrain
myself in being tactless with my words. I also learned to be a better listener because
being a better listener tends to make you a very cautious and gentle person overall.
Also, being a good listener is what is needed in this world today because people
nowadays are very selfish and would not care what other peoples’ insights are and that
is just very sad.

I prefer both communicating the way I find easy and communicating in a way that
other people would understand because when a person does not a hard time doing
something it would reflect on the outcome on what he/she is doing, so if I am not having
a hard time communicating with people, people would not have a hard time listening to
me. It is just like “The Principle of Reprocity”. Principal of reciprocity is when you give
something to someone they would return something to you because of that favor. We
can also understand it as a “give and take” situation. I gave someone a thorough
information about something which I did not have a hard time formulating, then the
respond I would receive would be positive because I did it positively and did not have a
hard time.