eee ees Je oo? Basan oe the job oF to say fo a coworker, “If I got more interesting assignments, I might be able to get somewhere in this organization. ‘A final nonassertive behavior style is being umipulative. Manipulative people attempt to get what they want by making others feel sorry for or guilty toward them. Instead of taking responsibility for mecting their own needs, they play the role of victim or martyr inan effort to get others to take care of them. When this doesn’t work, they may become openly angry oF feign indifference. Manipulation only Works as long as those at whom it is targeted fail to recognize what is happening, The person being manipulated may feel confused or “crazy” up to this point, afterward they become angry and resentful toward the manipulator, A manipu Intive way of auking for a particular assignment at work would be to tell your boss, “Gee, Hf 1 get that assignment I think my boyfriend will finally have some respect for me,” or to tell a Coworker, “Don't breathe a word about this but if I don't get that assignment. in going, £0 finally use those sleeping pills I've been saving, Up. Assertive behavior in contrast to the above-described styles, involves asking for what you Want (oF saying no) ina simple, clirect fashion that does not negate, attack, OF manip- Mate anyone cise. You communicate your feelings and needs honestly and directly while