Professional Documents
Culture Documents
FUNERAL ETIQUETTE
Funerals are emotionally complex, and knowing how to act can present a challenge, or at least be
confusing.
Issues such as what to wear, where to sit, and how long to stay can seem overwhelming.
Knowing the proper etiquette in a funeral can help you feel more comfortable at the service.
WHAT TO WEAR
Traditionally, in many cultures, black is the colour of mourning, and those attending a funeral were
expected to wear black clothing. But these days, the expectations aren’t so rigid.
WHEN TO ARRIVE
ARRIVING EARLY TO A FUNERAL SERVICE OR MEMORIAL SERVICE
While funerals and memorial services are sombre events, they are also social events, and people
may arrive early to see other mourners and have time for personal conversations.
WHERE TO SIT
CHOOSING A SEAT
It’s common to feel a certain level of nervousness when deciding where to sit at a funeral or
memorial service. Many people worry that sitting too close to the family will convey a sense of
too much intimacy, while some worry that sitting too far away will convey a sense of
remoteness or isolated. Remember that the most important issue regarding seating at a funeral
is that family members and close friends have a place to sit in the front and don’t have to argue
or negotiate for a seat.
1. Lilies – Lily is the flower that most commonly associated with funeral services as they symbolise
the innocence that has been restored to the soul of the departed. The white lily expresses
majesty and purity, whereas white stargazer lilies symbolise sympathy.
2. Gladiolus – The gladiolus embodies strength of character, sincerity, and moral integrity.
3. Carnations – Are a popular choice for sympathy arrangements. The red carnation evokes
admiration while a pink carnation stands for remembrance. White carnations stand for pure
love and innocence.
4. Chrysanthemums – In some European countries such as France, Italy, Spain, Poland, Hungary
and Croatia, chrysanthemums are symbolic of death and are only used for funerals or on graves.
In China, Japan and Korea, white chrysanthemums are symbolic of lamentation and grief.
5. Roses – One of the most recognisable flower in an arrangement of funeral flowers. White roses
evoke reverence, humility, innocence, and youthfulness. Red roses convey respect, love, and
courage. Pink roses signify love, grace, appreciation, and gentility. Yellow roses are given by
friends of the deceased to symbolise their strong ties. Dark crimson roses denote grief and
sorrow.
6. Orchid Plant – Orchid says “I will always love you”. When giving an orchid plant as a gesture of
sympathy, it is important to give consideration to colour. Pink and white are traditional colours
of sympathy. Varieties such as phalaenopsis orchids and dendrobiums are suggested by florists
as appropriate plants to denote sympathy.
7. Hydrangea – Sending a seasonal spring plant is a nice and appropriate gesture to give a grieving
family. Hydrangea are is a gift of thanks in repayment for understanding and is given as a
gesture of heartfelt sincerity.
8. Daffodils and Tulips – Bright yellow spring tulips are a symbol of renewal and fresh new starts.
Tulips represent elegance and grace. Yellow tulips represent cheerfulness. White tulips
represent forgiveness. Purple tulips represents royalty. Lastly, red tulips represent perfect love.
Consider giving at least what you would have spent on a flower arrangement.
When you make a donation include a note saying whom it memorialises. Include your address,
as well, so the organisation can alert the family as to where to send the acknowledgement.
If you have been advised to give to your favourite charity, and wish to make a contribution, do
so, and choose one that mean something to the family as well.
Ordinarily, cash isn’t sent to the family but exceptions can be made. For example, if the
bereaved family is having a financial difficulty, a group or lodge members, or neighbours might
take up a collection for the deceased’s family.
GIVING A EULOGY
What is a eulogy?
Eulogy is a warm speech for praising someone.
As a close friend or a family member, you may be asked to write and recite a eulogy at a funeral. You
don’t have to accept if it makes you more upset, but be honest with the family if you prefer not to
speak. But if you decide to do it, how do you know what to say?
1. GET INPUT – Approach the task with great sensitivity and caring for the deceased and his/her
family. You might ask the family if there is anything they feel should be mentioned or not
mentioned. Relate stories that show the deceased positive light, and handle any humour with
care.
2. INCLUDE READINGS – If you like, include a poem, passage, or anything else you feel reflect your
friend’s life.
3. STAY FOCUSED – Remember that the subject of your eulogy is the person’s best qualities, not
your feelings.
4. LENGTH – The more eulogies to be delivered, the shorter yours should be – no less than two
minutes, but no longer than eight to ten minutes. It’s wise to have your friends read over your
eulogy before you finalise it.
5. DELIVERY – When giving eulogy, take your time and speak in a conversational tone. The
audience will understand if you get choked up, so simply take a second breathe if that happens.
RELIGIOUS CUSTOMS
A. Eastern Orthodox (such as in Bulgaria, Georgia, FYR Macedonia, Montenegro, Romania, and
Serbia)
WHAT TO WEAR:
The traditional attire are usually worn in an Eastern Orthodox funerals, such as what is
mentioned in the first part of this report.
Being sick is no fun at all. Being sick, like having a really bad cold or having a fever makes us
realise that we’re really not superhuman.
What are the things that we should do and we should not do to people who are ill?
If there are things not to do, there are things that we could, or should, do:
“Keep in Touch”
Many people said that once the crisis had passed, people told them “we were thinking of you”.
But there are some who felt that they have never known since people cut off all contact. Be in
touch so that the person does know that you are thinking of them.
You can keep in touch by:
Sending cards, notes, or emails
Sending flowers
Sending fruit baskets
Call, but don’t expect a call back