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ENGL 220
November 5, 2018
Jean Jacques Rousseau had the notion that being part of a society was analogous to
signing a contract where one stopped being a human to become a citizen. “What man loses by
the social contract is his natural liberty and an unlimited right to everything he tries to get and
succeeds in getting; what he gains is civil liberty and the proprietorship of all he possesses.”
(Rousseau 816). Civil liberty is one of the advantages obtained, he states, after conceding a
sample of our own individuality. After considering Rousseau’s perspective, we can think
about one of the most evident forms of social contracts: marriage. Whereas some are
convinced that one of the ways a developed society wields the right of choice is by allowing
its members to select a partner, others claim that the rate of success of such unions weighs
more on prioritizing long-term benefits instead of following one’s wishes e can find a defense
of this rational choice in Anjula Razdan’s writing What’s Love Got to Do with It. Razdan, an
editor of Utne magazine from Indian origins, where she “asks her readers to consider whether
arranged marriages might more effectively create lasting relationships than choosing mates
based on romantic attraction” (Razdan 406). This analysis was developed using resources
such as academic research, personal experience and a comparison of arranged marriages and
personal experience where she explains the variables with which such unions are set and how
these factors may encourage long-lasting relationships. The author provides her own parents’
experience to claim that love could be some type of process by saying that “yet both were
confident that their shared values, beliefs, and family background would form a strong bond
that, over time, would develop into love”. Though I concede that this example could illustrate
her perspective in some way, I find it difficult to sustain her whole argument under a single
case. In the one hand, she refers to arranged marriages in Europe during the Victorian Age as
some sort of trades where “love has nothing to do with it” (Razdan 407), while on the other
hand she determines that sometimes arranged marriages can actually “develop into love”
(Razdan 406). Therefore, Razdan’s claim seems misguided as her conclusions of arranged
marriages in the 1800’s west and in her family contain such discrepancies that they could
arranged marriages are compared with online dating services. My feelings on the issue are
mixed. Although I do support Razdan’s position that relying only in “proximity and attraction
(…) are terrible predictors of long-term happiness in a relationship” (Razdan 407), I am not
sure if online dating services can be compared to arranged marriages in the sense that online
dating servicbhes tend to be managed by the person who aspires to get married instead of a
relative who does the process by them. When comparing the matching system to a
“patriarchal grandfather searching for good matches…” (Razdan 408), Razdan overlooks the
deeper problem of free will as if it was irrelevant. Forced marriage is a delicate problem
present in several communities who practice arranged marriages. For instance, Gangoli, G et,
al. claim in their study that forced marriage “is a significant issue for all South Asian
communities in the North East of England” (32). Furthermore, the freedom of choice goes
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beyond the act of marrying or not. Freedom involves being able to approve one’s future
spouse. Unlike arranged marriages, online dating sites use the variables we select and
processes them based in the data we previously gathered, and not always lead to nuptials. In
contrast, matchmakers may recur to their own perspectives, preferences and subjective
considerations even if they attempt to show impartiality. There is the possibility that what is
good for our parents may not be the most suitable thing for us. Online dating, instead,
provides the option of having an objective filter that no person could provide.
disagree with much that Razdan says, I fully endorse her view towards the need of adopting a
more conscious view about romantic relationships. As Razdan quotes “compatibility and
rational deliberation ahead of passionate impulse” (Razdan 408). could lead to an enduring
love. We need to reassess the popular assumption that love is the only important factor and
relationships. However, I must insist that perhaps arranged marriages are not the solution for
this issue as they contradict the individual’s freedom and exceed the limits of what is needed
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References (MLA)
Razdan, Anjula. “What’s Love Got to do with It.” The Bedford Reader. Ed. X.J Kennedy,
Dorothy M. Kennedy, Marcia F. Muth, and Sylvia A. Holladay. 7 rd ed. Boston: St
Martin’s/Bedford, 2005. 406-410.
Gangoli, Geetanjali, et al. “Forced Marriage and Domestic Violence among South Asian
Communities in North East England.” Amazon Aws, University of Bristol, June 2006,
s3.amazonaws.com/academia.edu.documents/31198335/ForcedMarriage_report.pdf?AW
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