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Going meta is an NLP term which means stepping outside or further away from the situation, seeing
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Meta Mirror Steps:

1. Identify a communication you (A) had with one other person (B). This exchange with B felt
unsatisfactory and you are curious to learn from the experience. It is usually easier to learn the
Exercise with an example of not so good communication rather than one of your worst memories.
If the communication lasted some time it is also useful to identify a particular part of it that seems
more significant for your learning.
2. Return to the time of the communication. Remember what it was like. What do you want to
achieve? What are you seeing, hearing, feeling and thinking? What do you hear yourself say? What
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is it that B says or does that you feel most strongly about?
3. Break state. E.g. jump up and down or think of something that you really enjoy doing.
4.  Go back to the time of the communication. This time imagine what it was like for B. Stand or sit in
“B’s place”. Assume their posture and facial expression. Using your imagination understand what it
is like to be B. What is B seeing, hearing, feeling and thinking? What is it that A says or does that
B feels most strongly about?
5. Break state
6. Return to step 2, being yourself. But this time you are better informed by your experience of being
B.
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7.  Break state.
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8.  Go to a third position (C) from where you can observe the communication between A and B.  It
helps to use as distance for this. As C you feel detached about what happens, it’s just data, you
are seeing things more clearly and objectively. Notice how A and B seem to be playing a game and
how you sense you understand the rules of that game. Accept all these insights as just NLP TRAINING ONLINE
information, like scientist watching ants at work.
9. Break state.
10. Return to step 2, being yourself. Again you are better informed by your experience of being
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11. Break state.
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12. Go to a fourth position (D). It is often useful to stand on something to give you a different
perspective. Look at the relationship between A, B and C. Be aware of the insights that C has
which A will use next time round. Now imagine A and C swapping places. As C communicates with
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let A try out communicating with the insights learned from being B and C.
13. Visit all the positions again to take from them all resources you want to make readily available for
future communicating. You might do this by spending time in each position, feeling the full
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strength of the insights and states and deciding what it is you want available as a conscious
resource.
14. When the integration is completed, go back to Step 2,  (A communicating with B). Check if there is
anything you still want to have as a resource from the positions.
15.  Go back to Step 4. (B communicating with A). Notice how different the experience is for B now that
A is using the resources from all of the positions.
16. Finally,future pace, step back into A and think of a time in the future when the resources you have
found within yourself might be useful to you. What sorts of things will first signal to you that now
is a good time to access the resources you have just added to your repertoire.

…and that is how to do the NLP meta mirror technique.

 

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This is an NLP process for discovering different points of view on a specific situation. It works
especially well in situations where you have have an awkward conversation with someone, or you are
not getting on with someone.

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First Perceptual Position:  Looking at the world from your own point of view, through your own eyes. 
You are totally associated and not taking account of anyone else’s point of view, your own referential
index.

How does this affect me?

Second Perceptual Position:  Considering how it would look, feel, and sound for another person. 
Looking through another person’s eyes; appreciating the other point of view.

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How would this appear to them?
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The stronger rapport you have with another person, the easier it will be for you to appreciate their
reality and achieve second position.
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Third Position or Meta Position:  Observing the system or feedback loop of first and second positions
from a dissociated position.  Seeing the world from an outside point of view, as an independent
observer, someone with no personal involvement in the situation.  (Meta from Greek meaning beyond,
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above, at a higher level.)

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How would this look to someone who is not involved?
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This creates an objective viewpoint from which you can generate and evaluate some useful choices in a
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All three “perceptual positions” are equally important and the purpose is to be able to move between
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them freely, taking the information gained from each, to inform the system differently.  This is the
basis of a Triple Description.

The benefit of looking at an event from different points of reference is that:

There is no right perspective in any situation

Not everyone shares our point of view
You build understanding from different perspectives

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Past, present, future, atemporal (free from limitations of time).   Certain emotions are time dependent, all levels
so if you shift the time, then you’ll change the emotion.

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"I have done lots of training courses over the
years and I must say that the thing that stands
out with your course was the fact that you
really seem to care about your students'
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Stevenage
"Oh I loved doing the course, it really taught
me so so much. It's made me feel so much
more in control of my own states and how I
choose to react to situations and life in
general. I really love this work.
I look forward to the next chapter in my life
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This is a rare skill that you have. I have really
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Massachusetts
"Excellence Assured exceeded my expectations
and have always delivered a high quality
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"Thank you for making this training available
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"I just wanted to thank you for the course it has
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have learnt lots and will look to build on it
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