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Haley Zeiler
Professor Williams
English A 8 AM
18 October 2018
We all desire to find our one, true soulmate, the one who we will tie the knot with and the
one that will be our forever love. However, divorce has been present in the United States for
centuries and has never remained constant. The fluctuation in divorce rates is due to several
factors that are both within and out of our control. The final decision to abruptly end what was
intended to have lasted forever has everything to do with those factors that are surrounding each
member in the marriage and have been factored in when calculating the ratio of divorce. The
complicated, give and take nature of marriage and difficulties that people have with finding unity
with each other contribute to the variations of divorce rates over the years.
Lowenstein stated it best when he said, “it should be remembered that divorce does not
occur for a single reason and that frequently there are a number of factors involved as to why
divorce and separations occur” (Lowenstein 154). Many factors come into play when finalizing a
divorce. “Falling out of love” could be just one of the many reasons that this challenging
decision has been brought to a married couple’s attention. Lowenstein bluntly states that,
“divorce is due to twelve prevailing factors: women’s independence, too early marriage and
arranged marriages, economic factors, poor intellectual and educational skills, liberal divorce
laws, sexual factors leading to incompatibility, role conflicts, alcoholism and substance abuse,
difference between the partners, religious factors, attitudes towards divorce, and various other
Shawn Leamon contributes to his clause by stating, “Divorce rates are at such a high rate
because independence is highly valued in our society, but marriage is not an independent
undertaking and requires sharing and yielding to your partners wishes in order for it to be
successful” (Leamon). Breakdowns in the communication between each partner played a role in
several divorces and can be controlled with assistances. If you fail to communicate with your
spouse, then you are lacking the most important thing that a relationship feeds off of. Sexual
divorce that can also be controlled. If one or both partners in a relationship are unhappy sexually,
then they will wonder amongst others to fulfill that craving, which can be defined as infidelity.
Once the secret of infidelity catches up to your marriage, then all of the trust you had for each
other vanishes, along with the marriage. Finances have been an extremely repetitive motive for
divorce. If one feels constrained because they are having to pay for too much or that they are
carrying the others dead weight, then they will most likely want that weight lifted off of them.
Quick changes in life style along with abuse is another commonly seen reason for divorce is
society and are uncontrollable in most cases. People undergo stress and anxiety when quick
changes such as a disaster or death occurs. This can affect their ability to love properly which
causes the other partner to feel unwelcomed. As the feelings fester within them they fight and
eventually agree to end things before they get any worse. Abuse is something everyone wants to
steer clear from, so it would only make sense that a person would have a desire to leave their
abusive situation and enter a healthy one. Another uncontrollable factor that causes divorce is
one’s upbringing. According to Leamon, “it is often said that how you are brought up can
predispose you to certain conditions in your own life. People that have a history of divorce in
their own family have an increased likelihood of getting divorced” (Leamon). You have no
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choice in who your parents are or how you are raised, but those two things definitely alter who
you are and how you respond to thing within your own marriage. Cherlin additional argued that,
“the turbulence in family life caused by frequent entrance into and dissolution of formal
marriages and informal cohabiting unions is the defining characteristic of American family life”
People who are married before the age of twenty-five are more likely to file for divorce
than those that prolong marriage. The older you are, the more mature and suitable you are for a
life-long commitment. If the current marriage is not the first marriage, then it has a higher chance
of ending. Once someone has gone through the process of divorce once, they no longer fear it
because it is not unknown territory. They have lived through it once and know they could do it
again if they needed to. If the religion between the two individuals does not coincide, then they
are more likely to separate. Religion is something individuals hold to the highest of highs and
trying to change that for someone else rarely happens or happens with extreme tension.
Uneducated people, or those who lack intelligence, are the ones who will most likely be seen
filing for divorce. Money is important. You cannot obtain large quantities of money without
holding a powerful job. You cannot hold a powerful job with education and intelligence. Lastly,
those who are addicts or contain a mental illness are at risk of getting a divorce in comparison to
others because addiction is hard to love. You are, in a sense, loving the drug rather than the
person and most individuals are not strong enough to stay with someone who is mentally ill.
Divorce rates have been recorded over centuries and have gone up some years and down
others. This is because, “before the twentieth century, courts would not allow a divorce decree
unless it could be proven that one spouse was at fault for abandonment, cruelty, mental illness, or
adultery” (Leamon). Due to this restriction, acquiring a divorce at this particular time was harder
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and therefore the rates of divorce were low. As time progress, the rates began to inflate because,
“during the 1960s when feminism was just gaining ground, the Uniform Marriage and Divorce
Act was passed, which allowed for a no-fault divorce” (Leamon). Now people had the freedom
to file for divorce without restrictions holding them back, and people wanted to test this freedom
which caused an increase in divorce. It only stayed fluctuating from there on out because there
were years that were more challenging than others and there were some years that provided more
money than other years, so the rates continuously changed. In present times; however, it is highly
present because of our drive for independence and our inability to give rather than receive. As
times continue, it will most likely mimic the previous patterns and lower before it shoots up
again.
We all fear change, but change is inevitable no matter where you are or who you are
with. Sometimes we want that change to happen, other times we do not. However, we are
required to accept it and move forward. Divorce occurs because of several elements that are both
controllable and uncontrollable and those elements happen to all kinds of people. Each divorce
case is not like the other, and each year is not like the next. Divorce can stay constant in one
year, increase the next, and vanish in the next two. These fluctuations happen as a result of the
factors and the people and have been calculated for centuries. It is obvious that although they
have been up and down, it has increased more than anything else but will continue to change as
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