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Lecturers
Danielle Carlson, MSMFT dcarlsonmft@gmail.com
Arthur Nielsen, MD a-nielsen@northwestern.edu
Chaaze’ Roberts, LMFT croberts@family-institute.org
Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD asolomon@family-institute.org
Purpose
To familiarize students with the intricacies and problems of close, committed, interpersonal relationships,
especially marriage. This course will increase students’ formal knowledge about marriage and intimate
relationships, while also improving their chances for success in such relationships. After taking the course,
students should be better prepared to choose compatible partners, to face inevitable relationship challenges, and
to experience greater marital/relationship satisfaction.
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Class Times
Lectures: Tuesdays 2:00-3:20 (First day of class is Thursday April 5th and we will have a lecture)
Breakout groups: Thursdays 2:00-3:20 (First breakout session is Thursday April 12th)
The last lecture is Tuesday June 5th and the last breakout group meeting is Thursday June 7th.
Location
Lectures will be in Annenberg G15.
Breakout groups will be held in rooms:
Annenberg G08 Group 1 (Maggie)
Annenberg G21 Group 2 (Margaret and Erin)
Annenberg G22 Group 3 (Shereen and Latalia)
Annenberg G27 Group 4 (Steven and Tiffany)
Annenberg G28 Group 5 (Katelyn and Rini)
Format
This course combines traditional academic methods (lectures, class discussions, readings) with experiential and
self-discovery assignments coordinated with the subject matter. Each week’s experience consists of a lecture
and class discussion, assigned readings, and an elaboration of the week’s topic through experiential tasks and
discussion in small groups. Each week students will also respond to relevant Relational Self-Awareness
questions. Equivalent to “labs” in other courses, students do three outside class experiential assignments and a
number of interviews (a mentor couple interview and a “love template” interview). These assignments are
explained in more detail below. The development, rationale, components, and overall philosophy of the course
are described in: Nielsen, A., Pinsof, W., Rampage, C., Solomon, A., Goldstein, S. (2004) Marriage 101: An
integrated academic and experiential undergraduate marriage education course. Family Relations, 53: 485-494.
Office Hours
Professor Solomon will hold office hours from 12:30-2:00 on Thursdays in Annenberg G22 (beginning on
Thursday April 12th). Meetings with other teaching faculty or with your teaching assistants are by appointment.
Written Assignments
Four written assignments (Mentor Couple Interview Paper, Love Template Interview Paper, Outside Exercise
Writeup, and Relational Self-Awareness (RSA) Journal) are required and are explained later in this syllabus.
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Quizzes
There will be three multiple choice quizzes on the required readings and the lectures. Each quiz will consist of 5
multiple-choice questions for each week covered (15 questions total/quiz) and will be 15 minutes long. Quizzes
are administered at the beginning of Breakout Group sessions 3, 6, and 9. They will cover the readings and
lecture material as follows:
● April 19: Quiz #1 (Lectures and readings for classes 1, 2, & 3)
● May 10: Quiz #2 (Lectures and readings for classes 4, 5 & 6)
● May 31: Quiz #3 (Lectures and readings for classes 7, 8, 9)
Grading
Final course grades will be calculated on the following basis:
Quizzes: 15%
Mentor Couple Interview Paper: 30%
Love Template Interview Paper: 30%
Relational Self-Awareness Journal: 10%
Outside Exercise Writeups: 5%
Class Participation: 10%
Emotional Demands
Some assignments in the course are emotionally-demanding. This is especially true of the Love Template
Interview Paper and some of the small group experiential exercises and discussions. Students who become upset
in response to assignments should discuss this with their breakout group leaders and/or with Professor Solomon.
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Readings
Books:
1. Fishbane, M. (2013). Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy. New York:
W.W. Norton & Company
2. Gottman, J. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the
Country's Foremost Relationship Expert. New York: Harmony.
3. Solomon, A. (2017). Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Written Assignments
● Specific guidelines for these assignments are on Canvas. The Mentor Couple Interview Paper and the
Love Template Interview Paper (not the Relational Self-Awareness Journal) must be formatted in APA
style. APA style related resources can be found on Canvas as well.
● Since an important part of a college education is learning to express ideas clearly, and since we wish to
encourage efforts in this direction, part of your grade will depend on writing proficiency and adherence to
APA format. Students at all levels of writing skill may also want to make use of NU’s writing resources
at: http://nuwrite.northwestern.edu/
● Students in this course are required to comply with the policies found in the booklet, "Academic Integrity
at Northwestern University: A Basic Guide." All papers submitted for credit in this course must be
submitted electronically unless otherwise instructed by the professor. Your written work may be tested for
plagiarized content. For details regarding academic integrity at Northwestern or to download the guide,
visit: http://www.northwestern.edu/provost/policies/academic-integrity/index.html
● All papers (not Relational Self-Awareness journal) must be submitted through Turnitin on Canvas.
● Due dates for each assignment are listed and are spaced to help you pace your work and to allow us time
to give your papers careful reading. Extensions on these assignments must be discussed with Professor
Solomon and will be granted only for the most extraordinary circumstances outside the student’s control.
● Late papers will be penalized 5 points (5%) for each day they are late. Papers are due at 2:00PM. If
you submit later that date, 5 points will still be taken off. If the paper is turned in the following day
(at any point the following day), 5 more points will be taken off, etc.
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2. LOVE TEMPLATE INTERVIEW PAPER
● Due May 24th at 2:00PM.
● Recommendations for conducting the interviews and writing them up are provided on Canvas. Grading
criteria are provided as well.
● If you have questions or concerns about whom you should interview for this assignment, consult your
breakout group leaders. If before or after the assignment you are feeling anxious or upset, consult your
breakout group leaders or Professor Solomon.
● Your report should be 10-12 pages long (double-spaced, 12 point font, 1.0 inch margins, APA style).
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Due Dates for Written Assignments and Quizzes
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Syllabus
Class #1: April 5 (NOTE: Our first lecture is on a Thursday due to the NU schedule)
Introduction to Marriage 101 and the 10,000 Foot View of Intimate Relationships
1. Fishbane, M., Introduction, Chapter 1, Chapter 2 (BOOK).
2. Gottman., Introduction and Chapter 1, Chapter 2, Chapter 3 (BOOK).
3. Real, T. (2011). A matter of choice. Psychotherapy Networker, 35, 37-43, 56-57.
4. Gross-Loh, C. (2014). The first lesson of Marriage 101: There are no soul mates. The Atlantic, February
12.
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April 5 “Introduction to M101 & 10,000 Foot View”
Class #1
April 10 “Good Love”
Class #2
April 12 Demographic Information Form DUE
Breakout #1-2
April 17 “Relational Self-Awareness”
Class #3
April 19 Quiz #1
Breakout #3 Talk about Outside Exercise #1
April 24 “From Here to ‘I Do’”
Class #4
April 26
Breakout #4
May 1 “Sex in Intimate Relationships”
Class #5
May 3 Mentor Couple Paper DUE
Breakout #5 Talk about Outside Exercise #2
May 8 “Conflict: The Art of Fighting Fair”
Class #6 (Guest Lecturer: Prof. Nielsen)
May 10 Quiz #2
Breakout #6
May 15 “Partnering across Cultural Difference”
Class #7 (Guest Lecturer: Mr. Chaaze Roberts)
May 17 Talk about Outside Exercise #3
Breakout #7
May 22 “Gender and Sexuality in Intimate Relationships”
Class #8 (Guest Lecturer: Ms. Danielle Carlson)
May 24 Love Template Interview Paper DUE
Breakout #8
May 29 “Unanticipated Challenges of Intimate Relationships”
Class #9
May 31 Quiz #3
Breakout #9 Write Ups of Outside Exercises DUE
June 5 “Ordinary Challenges of Intimate Relationships”
Class #10
June 7 (Breakout Group #10) Relational Self-Awareness Journal DUE
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