A scholar from Taba’een was asked,

“What is FAITH?”. He said: “faith is statement, is action, is

intention (Niyyat) and is Sunnah.
If it is statement without action then it is Kufr (disbelief), if
it is a statement and action without intention then it is Nifaq
(hypocracy), if it statement, action and intention without
the Sunnah, then it is Bid’ah (innovation)
Respectable Dr.Farhat Hashmi Sahiba
I find no words to appreciate what you have done and are doing for Islam. Thousands of
our Mothers, Sisters and daughters have benefited from your institution. May Allah give
you long life and accept what you are doing.
I am a retired Chief Engineer from a telecommunications company. My wife has the
privilege of being one of your students for Tafseer class back in 2006 or so. Thereafter
she engaged herself in Rabia Banglows , near DHA – 1 Islamabad and else where. She is
constantly busy in taking Tajweed classes at home and participates in classes held in
neighborhood.
I have facilitated her in her activities so far. However I have a concern and a question. Is
learning Tafseer and engaging in the activities mentioned above sufficient to make a
women a good daughter, wife and mother, I am sure not. What I see in my wife is,
 She has learnt that doing normal house hold work is not her responsibility and
husband has to arrange for a maid etc. If maid is not available, so be it.

 She is not responsible for the upbringing (Tarbiat) of her children because they
are my “Nasal”( now they are grown up , one is a Doctor and other is in 3rd year
of MBBS). With this thinking at the back of the head, she does not take any
interest in wellbeing of the family and house.

 She has no obligations towards her parents in law (who have passed away long
ago and she did not stay with them as we lived in Saudi Arabia for over 20 years).
She plants this idea in friends and sisters minds too, which in my view is
unjustified interference in their families and may result in destruction of their
peace.

 (Her parents have passed away too, mother passed away last year) She cares for
only her 4 sisters out of 5 and a brother, nobody else what so ever. She is
collaborating (on one pretext or the other) with other three sisters to hold the
distribution of their parental house where one of these four sisters is living. She
would not listen to me to back out her involvement saying that the sister who is
occupant of the house has no place to go. Brother has already sought legal help
from court few years back.

 She nourishes grudge against my parents ,my sisters and even myself

 As one incident while in Saudi Arabia, when I was at work she threw all her
jewelry worth in Lacs that time (1985-86) in the garbage container, which was
taken away by collector truck. Again she sold few of her Gold Choorian on
pretext that she gave Zakat. I came to know next year when I was calculating
Zakat. That year I was in debit of over 15 Lacs in building house and was not
intending to pay Zakat. Again in another incident while she was visiting her sister
who is occupying the house, and “lost” one gold Choory telling me that there is a
Jin in that house and he took that , Allah Knows best.
  Few days back she put a “Thomat” on me that one maid who she hired , fired and
rehired is my “Ghar Wali” and she emphasized on that twice. I don’t know what
to do. Had her parents been alive or she was in good terms with her brother, I
would have engaged them. I do not want to be harsh as she has no place to go.
Once before I engaged her elder sister but my wife did not listen to her either,
telling me that “I have not listened to my father and will not listen to my sister
too)

These are just few behaviors out of many that need correction. Such may be the case with
other women coming to your institution. Please help these women to become a good
daughter, wife and mother. Your advice will surely have a great impact on them.

Thanks for listening

Allah Hafiz