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GOOD NEWS FEATURE • How Can You Manage Marriage Stress in Troubled Times?
W
hen I was a teen, my
grandma used to tell me
stories of what it was like
being a young bride at the
start of the Great Depres-
sion. “Those were stressful times for me
and your grandpa,” she’d tell me over and
over again.
They worried about money and mak-
ing ends meet, and how long their jobs
were going to last. They never got laid
How Can
off, but my grandpa was required to work
12-hour days and take a pay cut to keep
his railroad job. My grandma worked
You Manage
equally long hours at a textile factory.
After my dad and his three siblings were
born, my grandma quit her factory job to
care for her children, but she still worked
as a seamstress on the side so they’d have
money to buy groceries.
“Back then, your grandpa and I did our
share of bickering,” my grandma would
admit to me. “We had different ideas about
how the money should be spent and about
how to raise the children.” During those
years, my grandparents felt perpetually
worn out, and they probably weren’t as
patient with each other as they wanted to be.
Then in the late 1930s my dad’s older
sister died at the age of 8, and my grand-
ma’s parents, who were unemployed and
homeless, moved in with them—further
InHow
Troubling
Can
Times?
You Manage
adding to household tension.
I can still picture my grandma with
tears in her eyes, telling me how she and
Grandpa used to blame themselves for
the death of their young daughter and
how they both got so depressed that they
stopped talking to each other for a while.
Sticking together through tough times
I’ll never forget those conversations
with my grandma. She wanted me to
understand that every marriage has its
“rough spots.” But as frank as she was
about the challenges she and my grandpa
faced, she always emphasized their com-
mitment to each other—to stick with each
in Troubled Times?
other through good times and bad. by Becky Sweat
Probably any husbands and wives
who’ve been married for a while have When half of all marriages break up in some countries,
their own stories about the tough times it’s obvious that many couples are in trouble. Sadly, the
they’ve been through. In one sense, this
is nothing new. Partners in marriage have stress seems to be only increasing from many directions.
always faced hardships—problems that
affect their relationship.
What are the pressures many husbands and wives face
today, and what can they do to manage them to be sure
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a large chunk of the who’s doing the most to keep the household
budget in the black. But in a down economy
especially if she’s still going to work every
day on top of doing most of the child care
budget—it can “rob a like we’re in right now, with high unem-
ployment rates, salary reductions, rising cost
and housework. “If the husband has trouble
finding another job, he may become dis-
couple of a sense of ofmeting
living, mounting credit card debt, plum-
home values and shriveling retire-
couraged and lose his motivation for seeking
employment. To the wife, that can seem like
their future together.” “on edge” aboutcouples
ment accounts, may be much more
finances.
a broken promise, because he no longer is
trying to be the provider,” says James Craig,
“Often one spouse is a saver and the other Ph.D., a marriage and family therapist with
a practice in Indianapolis,
Indiana.
Exactly how a couple
might react to financial
stressors varies. Some
people might yell, argue or
blame each other. Others
might turn within them-
selves and become more
anxious, depressed and
withdrawn.
“Any behavior that puts
distance between you
and your partner—you
stop talking, you pull
back, you’re not interact-
threatens a marriage. These can cause likes to overspend, and that can create a lot ing, you’re not showing affection, you’re
tension and discord between spouses, and of conflict, especially during lean financial not having sexual contact—is going to be
even fuel bitterness that can destroy a relation- times when couples may have a smaller detrimental,” warns Larry Barlow, Ph.D.,
ship. There can also be more subtle effects. monetary cushion to fall back on,” notes coordinator of the Center for Couple and
Some marital stressors cause husbands and Bradford Wilcox, Ph.D., director of the Family Therapy at Florida State University.
wives to just gradually drift apart—with little National Marriage Project at the University “So now, not only are your finances in bad
or no conflict between them. of Virginia. shape, your marriage is too.”
Common marital stressors include finan- If the household income is dwindling—
cial troubles, unemployment, intimacy
problems, infidelity, differing views on par-
perhaps one spouse got laid off or credit
card interest is eating a larger chunk of Toxic busyness
enting, chronically poor health of a depen- the budget—Dr. Wilcox says it can “rob a Our frenetic lifestyle is taking a huge toll
dent family member, the death of a child couple of a sense of their future together, on marriage too. Many couples today have
and clashes with in-laws. These issues have because they don’t have any money to put overloaded their schedules with work, child
long been sources of friction for husbands into savings for long-term goals like a trip care and household responsibilities, as well
and wives. or a house down payment. Instead, they’re as recreational pursuits and social functions.
Certainly, many couples struggle with worrying about cash flow and paying off After they’ve given their energy to all of
the same issues today. In addition, some debt, which looms over their marriage like these demands and commitments, they don’t
new threats to marriages weren’t present a a storm cloud.” have much left over for each other or even
generation or two ago, or at least to the same Obviously, shrinking home values and to just rest and unwind.
extent or in the same way they are now. retirement accounts can cause couples to Ann Shorb, Ph.D., has observed this a
Altogether it’s a long list, and obviously have a gloomy outlook too. lot in the couples who visit her Hanover,
every possible source of marital stress can’t be Any type of job loss or salary reduction Pennsylvania, counseling practice. She
addressed in one article. However, there are can be devastating, but especially if it’s the always encourages them to spend more time
certain issues that professional marriage coun- husband’s. “Even though there’s been a with each other, but “with so many of them,
selors are seeing again and again in their prac- great deal of change in contemporary fami- they just can’t fit ‘couple time’ into their
tices. Let’s look at what they believe are some lies, there’s still the implicit expectation that busy schedules,” she says. “Just about every
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couple I talk with lives under unending pres- It doesn’t necessarily stop there. Some definitely a threat to marriage.
sures and demands that cause them to be people add in individual hobbies and recre- At its simplest level, spending too much
overcommitted and overextended.” ation to their frenzied schedules—long hunt- time in front of the monitor can lead to
Of course, life hasn’t always been so ing weekends, baseball games with the guys, insufficient time for the marital relationship,
hectic. Back in the 1970s, about two thirds gals’ nights, etc. In his 2003 book Take Back undermining the closeness and subtly build-
of married couples had a spouse at home Your Marriage, Professor Doherty writes: “If ing barriers between a husband and wife.
(usually the wife). All the domestic respon- most parents were not already overbooked “There’s a dearth of undivided attention for
sibilities could get taken care of during the with children’s activities, perhaps the adult couples today, and that’s in big part because
weekdays. But today, only 40 percent of activities would not be such a concern. But of all these electronic distractions,” observes
families have a stay-at-home spouse. in truth, between chauffeuring kids and Barbara Koppe, a licensed clinical social
Couples now work a combined average of being personally involved in two or three worker in St. Louis, Missouri, who special-
63 hours a week, up from just 52.5 in 1970, adult activities, you know what will come izes in marriage and family therapy. “People
according to a 2009 report on workplace flex- last in your life—your marriage. are plugged into their electronic gadgets
ibility from the Georgetown University Law “It’s a function of what is scheduled and practically every waking minute of the day.”
Center. With both parents working so many to whom we feel accountable for our time. She says this is an issue that often comes
hours away from home, many feel they have We feel accountable to our children and up when couples come in for counseling:
no choice but to use weeknights and week- the commitments we have made to and for “A lot of people complain that their spouse
ends to run errands and do housekeeping tasks them. We feel accountable to the book club pays more attention to their BlackBerry than
that didn’t get done during the weekdays. we promised to attend monthly, to the reli- they do to them.”
Couple time becomes even harder to gious education committee we joined, and But it’s not just the new technologies
come by when marital partners work dif- to the fund-raising committee of the PTA. that draw spouses away from each other.
ferent schedules. One may work the day But most of us do not feel accountable to TV, which has been around for several gen-
shift while the other works nights, and their have face-to-face time alone with our mate, erations, continues to be an issue. Koppe
schedules may overlap for only a short time because we never schedule it” (p. 66). routinely asks couples how much television
each day. With the rapid growth of the ser- Busy schedules don’t automatically lead they watch, and more than half say it’s on
vice economy (which requires more around- to marriage problems,
the-clock employees than does manufactur- but they do present a
ing or office work), the number of people challenge that needs to
working nonstandard or night shifts has be addressed. “Marital
grown dramatically in the last decade. partners may find them-
Harriet Presser, Ph.D., a professor with selves disconnected from
the University of Maryland’s Department of each other because they
Sociology, has researched this trend exten- aren’t spending much
sively. Her studies have found that today one time together and are
in four dual-earner American couples has really leading separate
a spouse working the late-night or rotating, lives,” says Kelly Rob-
nonstandard shifts. erts, a clinical instructor
Typically these jobs require at least some and marriage and family
weekend work. “Such schedules under- counselor with the Okla-
mine the stability of marriages, increase the homa State University
amount of housework to be done, reduce Human Development and
family cohesiveness and require elaborate Family Sciences Department. from the time they get home from work in
child care arrangements,” she says. Couples Moreover, Roberts adds, “The super-busy the evening until they go to sleep.
in which one spouse works a late shift lifestyle can also cause husbands and wives “It’s even on when they’re eating dinner,”
report having substantially less quality time to feel worn down and stressed, which may she relates. “So I’ll ask them, ‘When do
together and more marital unhappiness than make them more testy with each other.” This you talk?’ And the answer is, they don’t. So
couples where spouses work only fixed is especially true if couples aren’t taking all of these distractions make it a whole lot
daytime jobs. They are also more likely to care of themselves with quality sleep and harder to have conversations—and to keep
separate or divorce. good nutrition. that communication going.”
On top of complicated work schedules, This is not to say that marital partners are
parents often have their children involved
in a wide range of extracurricular activities. Electronic distractions intentionally tuning each other out. Some
people have just let themselves get into the
“Weekends used to be a time for families to Another way time and attention is being habit of constantly plugging into their com-
just kick back and relax together,” says Wil- directed away from marriages is through puters or electronic gadgets. Others feel so
liam Doherty, professor and director of the technology. What used to be “couple time” exhausted after work that all they want to do
Marriage and Family Therapy Program at is often being consumed by computers, is crash in front of the TV. And some truly
the University of Minnesota. “Now parents iPods, iPhones, video games and countless do have work e-mails they have to read or
are busy all weekend shuffling their kids other electronic distractions. Granted, these send in the evenings.
to all the different sporting events they’re things may not make you feel anxious, Dr. Shorb finds it interesting that on one
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involved with.” like other stressors might. But they are hand “we have more means of communicat-
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That’s also when the “no-fault” divorce a relaxed setting. Be willing to share each bring the things that cause you stress to
revolution began, which allowed one spouse other’s concerns, fears and hopes without God in prayer. Ask Him to help you discern
to dissolve a marriage for any reason—or criticizing or judging. Talk about how you what to do to ease the stress in your lives
for no reason at all. can work together to improve the situation. and to help you stay committed to your
Since then, there has been a growing “In order for a couple to work as a team, marriage. Let Him know your needs. Phi-
acceptance of divorce. “It’s so easy nowa- the partners have to know what each other is lippians 4:19 tells us that “God shall supply
days to get divorced,” observes Koppe. She thinking,” says Pauline Boss, Ph.D., profes- all your need according to His riches in
says there certainly are reasons divorce is sor of family social science at the University glory by Christ Jesus.” Trust in God’s
sometimes warranted, such as in an abusive of Minnesota and author of Family Stress provision together.
situation. But today, “more often than not, Management. When you and your spouse Seek counsel. In Proverbs 13:20, the
couples just grow out of love with each stop talking with each other, that’s when Bible states the importance of seeking the
other and don’t try to solve the problems. marital problems escalate. advice of wise individuals. If you or your
People don’t work at marriage like they Show your affection. Make it a point to mate are struggling with any of the issues
used to. They don’t want to have to endure tell each other “I love you,” and say it often. discussed in this article, be willing to get the
any kind of difficulties.” “When you are in the middle of something professional help you need.
What a contrast from God’s intentions awful, that is the worst time to just assume Depending on the problem, this help
for marriage! We’re told over and over again your mate knows how you feel,” Dr. Boss might come from your pastor, a profes-
in the Bible that marriage is to be a lifelong says. “It’s during the tough times that your sional marriage and family counselor, or a
commitment. For starters, in Matthew 19:6 partner needs the reassurance of your love financial adviser. “It’s best to go to counsel-
Jesus states, “What God has joined together, even more.” ing as soon as you start having problems,
let not man separate.” This same admonition Cultivate a positive and thankful mind- rather than wait until they become breaking
is repeated in Mark 10:5-9. set. We’re told in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, “In points,” Roberts advises.
The apostle Paul wrote in Romans 7:2, everything give thanks.” No matter what the Look at challenges as opportunities to
“For the woman who has a husband is situation, there’s always something to be strengthen your marriage. The “rough
bound by the law to her husband as long thankful for. spots” you and your spouse face can actu-
as he lives” (emphasis added throughout). My grandmother used to tell me that ally bring the two of you closer. “When you
There is no concession for “if the marriage “Grandpa’s railroad job during the Great work together through it all in a construc-
is no longer gratifying.” Depression sure didn’t pay well, but at least tive way—you’re communicating, you’re
In 1 Corinthians 7:10-24 Paul addresses he had a job.” She had a positive focus. You appreciating each other, you’re putting each
the problem of divorce, which was quite should too. Be thankful to God for what He other’s needs above your own—you come
common during that time in cities like has done in your lives. Learn to appreciate out stronger and closer,” Dr. Barlow says.
Corinth. Verse 10 states that “a wife is not your spouse’s good qualities—rather than “You’ll then have confidence to face the
to depart from her husband,” and verse 11 dwell on his or her shortcomings. A thank- next issue down the road.”
adds that “a husband is not to divorce his ful mate is pleasant to be around. Not only Reminding yourself of this can help you
wife.” To put it in modern terms, face the that, but if you maintain a positive outlook, have the determination to hang in there.
difficulties and work out your differences. your spouse is likely to follow suit. We certainly live in a stressful world. Our
Finally, Malachi 2:16 states, “For the Plan for couple time. Carve out time in lives are full of challenges. What’s impor-
Lord God of Israel says that He hates your schedule, several times a week, to be tant is that you and your husband or wife
divorce.” It doesn’t get any plainer than that. alone with your mate and get away from support each other during the tough times,
whatever is causing you stress. Take a walk rather than allow life’s difficulties to pull
Weathering the storms together together. Go out to dinner. Have a picnic at you apart! GN
Ultimately, unconditional commitment is the park. Get up a half hour earlier during
the key to successfully resisting all these mar- the workweek so that you and your spouse
ital stressors. It is only when husbands and can have a quiet breakfast in bed before you To Learn More...
wives are totally committed to each other that leave for the office. Go out for coffee Sunday How can you enjoy a stronger,
they will be able to withstand the pressures of morning while your teens are still asleep. more vital marriage? What are
the keys to making marriage
life that are sure to come their way. Share a pot of tea after the kids are in bed. work? Is there a source to turn
That means striving to live by the stan- “No matter how terrible the stress is, you to for practical, time-tested
guidance? Few people real-
dards for marriage spelled out in the Bible. should give yourselves a respite now and ize it, but the Bible is packed
This includes putting each other’s needs then,” Dr. Boss says. “You need time to talk with sound advice on mar-
before your own, not giving up on each other with each other, without the tragedy facing riage—and we can be sure
that it’s sound because it comes from the very
during difficulties, and working through situ- you, so that you can regroup your thoughts One who designed and created marriage! We’ve
ations together as a team. This kind of com- and say to your mate, ‘Yes, I’m tired,’ or ‘I put together much of the Bible’s guidance in a free
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Traditional marriages—those between one man and one woman—are widowers, some have no interest in marrying
and, sadly, some marriages end in divorce.
facing increasing pressures from many directions. Does marriage really Divorce has become a worldwide prob-
matter? Just how important is it? What does the Bible say? lem. Sweden leads the world with almost
55 percent of marriages ending in divorce.
It’s followed in this dubious ranking by
Belarus, Finland, Luxembourg, Estonia,
Australia and then the United States. Being
married and remaining happily married is
becoming increasingly difficult no matter
where one lives.
So what are the pressures causing so
many marital unions to end? Is traditional
marriage worth keeping?
T
ings have a striking correlation to a proph-
he attraction of a man to a woman uted greatly to societal stability as well as ecy of what conditions will be like just prior
and a woman to a man has long our overall happiness and well-being. to Jesus Christ’s return to the earth.
been the inspiration for poems, As most of us grow up, we dream of find- The apostle Paul wrote: “But know this,
novels, chivalrous deeds and much ing someone with whom we can share our that in the last days perilous times will
consternation. The ancient sage lives, our hopes and our dreams. Young men come: For men will be lovers of themselves,
Agur the son of Jakeh said, “There are look for that special princess, and young lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphem-
three things which are too wonderful for women for that special man. Yet in spite ers, disobedient to parents, unthankful,
me, four which I do not understand: the way of this obvious tendency, the percentage of unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers,
of an eagle in the sky, the way of a serpent those married is not as high as one might without self-control, brutal, despisers of
on a rock, the way of a ship in the middle assume. good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers
of the sea, and the way of a man with a According to Sheila Weber, executive of pleasure rather than lovers of God”
maid” (Proverbs 30:18-20, New American director of National Marriage Week USA, (2 Timothy 3:1-4).
Standard Bible). “A new Marriage Index released in October, These all reflect an overall attitude of
The fact that almost everyone has an 2009 reports that in 1970 nearly 80 percent selfishness that is particularly hard on mar-
attraction to the opposite sex has served of all adult Americans were married; today riages. It’s difficult for people to remain in
mankind well. This special relationship that has dropped to 57 percent” (“Why You relationships with spouses who are selfish,
between a man and a woman has been the Should Care About Marriage in America,” unthankful, unholy, unloving and unforgiv-
building block of society—the basis for FoxNews.com, Feb. 5, 2010). ing. And sadly, many people in our world
the development of the human race. And in A number of factors account for why so today are focusing solely on themselves to
addition to producing children to populate many Americans are single. Some haven’t the exclusion of others.
the earth, traditional marriage has contrib- found a person to marry, some are widows or In this time of worldwide economic
difficulty, finances have also added stress
to many marriages. But contrary to what
many assume, a little less income doesn’t
As most of us grow up, we dream of find- automatically doom your marriage (see
“Finances and Marriage” on page 11).
ing someone with whom we can share our As we all know, those with good mar-
riages seem to easily handle whatever dif-
hopes, our dreams and the rest of our lives.
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Together, they were a unit—the first family. God created us, God also wants us to While God noted that it wasn’t good for a
O
notes: “There is a growing body of research “Research also overwhelmingly makes ver the years, many marriage counsel-
which suggests ‘Not being married can be the case that married folks live longer, enjoy ors and couples have cited finances
hazardous to your health’ . . . Compared to better health, greater personal happiness, as a major cause of divorce. In 2007
married people, the nonmarried . . . have more well adjusted children, and greater the Journal of Marriage and Family published
higher rates of mortality than the married: financial stability” (Weber, FoxNews.com). a study that found that issues over money
about 50 percent higher among women and In encouraging mankind to marry, God ranked second to infidelity as a leading
250 percent higher among men . . . was giving advice that would lead to better, cause of divorce. As a result, many assume
“Being unmarried can actually be a happier, more fulfilling lives. that a lack of sufficient income is the reason
greater risk to one’s life than having heart The institution of marriage has stood the so many marital unions dissolve.
disease or cancer. For example, having test of time. As Winston Churchill said: While failure to adequately provide for a
heart disease shortens the average man’s “Where does the family start? It starts with household can certainly cause hard feelings
life span by slightly less than six years. But a young man falling in love with a girl—no leading eventually to divorce, a study by the
being unmarried chops almost ten years off superior alternative has yet been found.” University of Oklahoma found that the two
a man’s life.” factors most responsible for the increase
On average, married cancer patients Good news for traditional marriages in divorces were no-fault divorce laws and
survive 10 years longer than those who are While traditional marriages clearly face higher income (http://patriot.net/~crouch/
single. A recent study of outcomes for hos- pressures in our modern world, there is adr/nakonezny.html). In short, when people
pitalized patients found that married surgical good news to report. In the United States don’t have to explain why they want a divorce
patients are far less likely to die in the hospi- the rate of divorce has actually been declin- and there is plenty of money, the rate of
tal than those who are single. Furthermore, ing. In 2005 the U.S. divorce rate was 3.6 divorce increases.
“the risk of being discharged to a nursing per 1,000 people—the lowest rate since Of course, some will note that it’s a good
home was 2.5 times greater for unmarried 1970, and substantially down from the thing people have sufficient money to divorce
than for married patients, even after taking peak rate of 5.3 per 1,000 in 1981. (Of if the marriage is irretrievably broken. But an
into account the severity of illness, age, course, a significant factor in this decline additional point to note here is that a lower
gender, race and diagnosis” (ibid.). is that fewer people are getting married in level of income doesn’t automatically cause
While the advantages of being married the first place.)
divorce. In fact, not being able to easily
are clearly evident in health and a willing- A growing number of churches in the
divorce because of a lack of money may posi-
ness to reduce unhealthy behavior, young United States require couples to undergo
tively influence partners to work on their rela-
men and women who live together without premarital counseling prior to the wed-
tionship and resolve their disagreements.
getting married do not experience the same ding ceremony. Approximately 28 percent
When it comes to finances and having a
benefits. Instead, these young people have of U.S. churches now offer at least one
marriage class to build, mend and deepen successful marriage, the real key isn’t the
high rates of behaviors that are hazardous
to their health. marriages. amount of money a couple earns but whether
In addition to enjoying better physical Some states are doing their part to the husband and wife work together in a lov-
health, married men and women report encourage couples to undergo counseling ing, respectful manner as they make their
better mental health—less depression and in preparation for marriage. For example, financial decisions. If you would like some
anxiety—than those not married. They also in Florida if a couple completes a premari- practical, biblical advice to help you better
report greater happiness, and it’s been docu- tal counseling course, the marriage license handle your money, request or download our
mented that married couples accumulate fee is discounted. Why do states do this? free booklet Managing Your Finances.
greater wealth than those divorced or single. Because it’s in their financial interest to do
Summarizing why we should care about so. Divorce is costly—both for the people
marriage, Sheila Weber wrote: “Marriage involved and for the state, which often ends To Learn More...
is the best way to overcome poverty, and up providing benefits to those partners and God’s Word has much to say
it is proven as the best circumstance for children impoverished by divorce. about marriage and family—
raising children. Research overwhelmingly Counseling programs to support couples and that shouldn’t be surpris-
ing since He’s the One who
shows that lack of marriage or divorce and offer training in life skills likewise exist designed and created these
impoverishes women and children. in many other countries. Healthy, happy institutions! He knows what
“In addition, boys reared apart from their marriages are beneficial to the individuals works and what doesn’t,
and He’s revealed a lot of
father are twice as more likely to spend and the community at large. that information to us in the
time in prison by age 32 as those who were While it’s encouraging to see churches Bible. To learn more about God’s perspective
raised in a married home headed by their and communities working together to sup- on marriage and what you can do to strengthen yours,
download or request our free booklet Marriage and
own mother and father. port marriage, individuals must also do Family: The Missing Dimension.
“Teenage girls who are raised by their their part. With God’s help, and with the
own father are much more likely to resist instructions He gives in His Word, you can Contact any of our offices listed on page 2,
the advances of boys or young men who do do a great deal to strengthen your own mar- or request or download it from our Web site.
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35 percent of adolescent girls whose father for possible future marriage. GN
November/December 2010 11
Hard truths about an America in decline Will the global
T he Economist has been watching events in
America for a long time. A recent issue reports
that “nearly six out of ten Americans now say that they
road. Massive defense cuts are already on the table.
Remember, however, that as the Economist editorial
above notes, “Even in an age of austerity America still
economy revive?
oppose even [U.S. President Barak] Obama’s ‘good’
war—the one against al-Qaeda and the Taliban. An
towers above all comers in military power.”
How soon will it be before even this enormous
T he nagging problems of the current reces-
sion have plagued us for more than three
years. Some of our readers lived through the
America that is bleeding economically at home, with advantage begins to wane? Great Depression of the 1930s. Food was
unemployment stuck at nearly 10% and debts as tall Stephen Robinson in his previously quoted review scarce, but it was more available for families
predicted: “The USA will no longer deploy in defence of on farms. City dwellers often ate only one
oppressed civilians in the Balkans, Somalia and Haiti. It meal a day, if they could find food. It was a
will act only if its specific interests are threatened, nota- frightening and depressing time.
bly in the Middle East, and in facing up to a resurgent Recent U.S. government reports state that
China” (emphasis added). the recession hit bottom in 2009. If true,
A full-page Times article from a Washington corre- one would expect the housing market to be
spondent was titled “US Poverty Soars to Highest in 50 noticeably recuperating by now. But that
Years as Obama Struggles to Revive Economy” (Sept. hasn’t happened. In fact, some say that the
14, 2010). Times columnist Anatole Kaletsky observes housing market is still going down and that
that “a toxic mood has gripped US politics.” He asks: home foreclosures are increasing.
“Is it just pre-election jitters or the sign of a much more How and when the global economy recov-
serious decline? . . . Is America in the early stages of a ers may well rest in the hands of One who
as the eye can see, is losing confidence in its ability, permanent decline in its standing?” (Oct. 6, 2010). directs world events according to His plan
and perhaps in its need, to shape events in far-flung The Times’ chief foreign commentator Bronwen Mad- and purpose as spelled out in Bible prophecy.
regions such as Central Asia and the Middle East” dox offers one reason in her article “America Is Strangling Scripture indicates major changes ahead in the
(”After Iraq,” Aug. 28, 2010). Itself With Green Tape” (Aug. 6, 2010). She observes, “If status of several great powers, including major
Writing in The Times of London, Stephen Robinson you add armies of lawyers to a vast pile of regulation on declines for the United States and the rise of a
makes this comment in his review of Michael Man- the environment and health, it’s a disaster for investors new European-centered superpower. To learn
denbaum’s book The Frugal Superpower: “America is [who normally help propel economic growth].” more, request or download our free booklets
becoming more like Europe partly by political will, but These questions should be asked: Can the United The United States and Britain in Bible Prophecy
mostly because of demographic forces Washington can- States really afford all these massive social and envi- and You Can Understand Bible Prophecy.
not control. As President Obama unveils socialised medi- ronmental programs without incurring massive long-
cine, ageing baby boomers have pushed up spending on term damage to its economy? In the long run, will
health and pension programmes to 40% of the federal European-style socialism really work in America? And Britain in Bible Prophecy explains the historical back-
budget” (“A Weakened Washington,” Oct. 8, 2010). while many Americans now see that the government’s drop of America’s current afflictions while also project-
He further observes that “it is the diplomatic/military economic policies are leading to looming disaster, will ing where the nation is headed in the future. Request
operation that will be slashed as politicians fail to cut that be enough to reverse course? or download your free copy today. (Sources: The Times
welfare spending.” Britain has already started down this Our free 110-page booklet The United States and [London], The Economist.)
and action to keep the value of its currency low, that US and China, continued to exchange rhetorical sal- climb out of the worldwide recession. (Sources: The
you have to feel something approaching compas- vos” (Alan Beattie, “Global Economy: Going Head to Wall Street Journal, Financial Times [London].)
November/December 2010 13
The Economic Meltdown’s Ugly Fruits—
and the Bible’s Practical Solutions
A recent murder-suicide within view of my own house inspired reflections education have also contributed.
For a nation founded by devoted religious
on some biblical solutions that could solve many of our national problems. believers and based on Christian principles,
the United States has clearly lost its way.
I
had just returned home from church ser- families beyond endurance. Typically, What would surprise many Americans is
vices and was preparing to take two of couples are both working long and irregu- realizing that the very Bible the country
our granddaughters out for a walk. When lar hours, making it very difficult to take increasingly rejects contains the answers
we opened the front door, we saw 10 care of their children or spend quality time to its current problems!
or more police cars, a fire truck and antogether. Additionally, when health issues Biblical solutions to today’s problems
ambulance about 300 yards away from our arise from the stress, couples increasingly
home. We started walking toward them, as lack health-care coverage or the money to A prophecy in 2 Timothy 3:2 warned that
this was the direction we wanted to go. seek medical help. in the end time “men would be lovers of
As we drew nearer, we learned that a man One lady I talked to recently had gone themselves.” This has certainly become the
had driven up to the house and twice shot a through a divorce and was now working case in our generation.
woman on the lawn before turning the gun seven days a week at two jobs, both at mini- There are reasons for this. With the inven-
on himself. He died instantly. And his body mum wage. Her total take-home pay was tion of the birth control pill 50 years ago
was now on the ground covered by a sheet. less than $1,000 a month, and she had no and the sexual revolution that followed in
The woman was being taken to the hospital health-care benefits. While such benefits are the 1960s, Western societies turned their
where she died the following day. He was normally provided by an employer, many backs on the marriage customs of centuries.
33; she was 29. If I had been looking out ofsmall businesses, themselves stretched to the No longer did a man have to work hard to
our front window I would have witnessed limit, can no longer afford them. be able to provide for a wife and children
this murder-suicide. On the same day, a young man shared his before he could enjoy the certainty of a
It turned out the couple had been married.
sense of hopelessness, stating his conviction regular sexual relationship.
She was in the process of leaving him when that things are not going to get any better. Now it was possible to indulge in wanton
he turned up at her new home on moving He went so far as to say that, as he put it, sexual relationships without consequences
day and fired the fatal shots. “America is on its way out!” (at least none that were readily appar-
They left three children behind to be Mort Zuckerman, editor-in-chief of U.S. ent at the time). There was no longer any
raised by the wife’s mother. News and World Report, soberly described requirement to grow up. The result has been
What amazed me is how quickly the world this period in American history as “The increasing self-centeredness among those of
moved on. The murder and suicide took End of American Optimism” in an Aug. 16, both sexes.
place just after 5 p.m. We walked by a few 2010, article in The Wall Street Journal. One consequence has been that children
minutes before 5:30, by which time I counted Another Wall Street Journal piece high- have been devalued. My local newspaper,
10 police cars and a fire truck. By this time,
lighted the plight of young working-class the Lansing State Journal, has been cham-
the ambulance had left to take the woman to people, the article being titled “The Genera- pioning a reversal of Michigan’s liberal
the hospital. By 5:47, when I looked at my tion That Can’t Move On Up.” The problem, divorce law to help the 30,000 annual young
watch, hardly anyone remained! the article says, isn’t just lack of money: victims of divorce—what the paper refers to
In less than an hour there was little evidence
“Not only are many members of the younger as “disposable children.”
that anything bad had taken place. Clearly, the
working class unprepared for the contempo- It’s not just that divorce has serious emo-
authorities were used to this kind of incident
rary job market. New research we have done tional consequences for children, but it is
and could clear the scene quickly. shows their striking inability to fit the middle- also the number one cause of poverty. This
class ideal in family and religious life. It’s a only adds to financial stress.
Economic pressures stressing families worrisome development for their lifestyle and In the Great Depression of the 1930s,
A few days later, our local newspaper our culture” (Andrew Cherlin and Bradford most families stayed together, each trying
mentioned the incident in a front page Wilcox, Sept. 3, 2010). to survive together as a family. In the cur-
article about how murder-suicides initiated Families are fragmented, and there is rent deep recession, many families have
by husbands are increasingly common, both no time for God—the biblical idea of a fallen apart, only exacerbating their financial
locally and nationally. One possible reason “day of rest” having died out long ago. Lax hardship. The number of households using
given for the increase is the state of the divorce laws and alternative living arrange- our local food banks goes up each month
economy. ments have also taken a hit when it comes without fail, a reflection on both a worsening
The economic situation is stressing many to family life. Antireligious teachings in economy and the state of many families.
fit of anger—a further reminder of how chil- called the Sabbath—from a Hebrew root Looking at the monthly statement I
dren are often unappreciated and helpless word meaning “to cease (from work)” or receive from the bank, we are paying almost
November/December 2010 15
$800 per month in interest. That’s $800 we include a great deal of money being effec-
cannot spend on anything else. Effectively, tively thrown away through a massive chunk
it’s money down the proverbial drain! going to interest.
There are tens of millions of people like I don’t have to tell you what an incredible
us in the United States and millions more in difference those hundreds of extra dollars
other countries. We are frequently being told per month would make to our lives. Mul-
by governments that the biggest problem tiply that by tens of millions of people and
right now is that people are not spending. think what a difference it would make to the
The result is that factories and businesses national and international economy! People
are closing down and unemployment is could start spending again, giving the needed
increasing. But if we did not have to pay boost to production and jobs.
so much interest on our house payment, Families might even be able to go back
we would have hundreds more dollars each to the way things were in the 1950s or ’60s,
month to spend, thereby boosting local busi- when most wives were able to stay home and
nesses and distant factories. If others could take care of the children, a far less stressful
I
f you like The Good News magazine, do the same, our national economies would time for those of us who remember it.
you’ll love The Good News Web site at start moving again. The large outlay for interest, along with
www.GNmagazine.org. Each of us is certainly responsible for the burden of over-taxation by government,
the debt we incur. However, with regard to has slowed our nations down. In fact, we
You’ll find past issues of The Good News,
home buying in the United States, few can have been brought to a grinding halt, yet
each packed with articles about world afford to do so without taking on consider- nobody seems to realize it, and none looks
trends and events, family and social issues, able mortgage debt. We could opt to rent, but to the Scriptures for guidance.
prophecy in the news and The Good News’ that often seems to be throwing money away Our present financial predicament has been
in-depth perspective of the Bible. when we could at least be building equity called “the debt crisis.” It’s not just mortgage
There’s much more too. Explore our large through home ownership. debt that is the problem. Tens of millions of
library of booklets covering a wide variety Compounding the problem, the ability people have overextended themselves, owing
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of dollars over 30-year repayment periods companies and banks in addition to what they
themes. Take a look at our publications
has served to drastically inflate the price ofowe for their homes.
in other languages—Spanish, German,
housing—leading to the recent burst housing Part of the biblical solution is to avoid
Italian, French and Dutch (and feel free to
bubble that devastated the American econ- borrowing and to pay back what we owe
share them with a friend overseas). omy. Government has helped to create and as soon as we can (Proverbs 22:7), as well
perpetuate the present mortgage system, even as the safety net of a year of release to help
requiring that lenders make loans to those families who have made mistakes or have
who could not afford to repay them—another fallen on hard times!
major factor in the recent housing crisis. As you can see from Scripture’s instruc-
tion regarding economic matters, far from
Why not try biblical solutions? being an irrelevant book written thousands
What could change not just our personal of years ago, the Bible is full of relevant
circumstances, but the entire system? solutions to contemporary problems. For
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While you’re there, be sure to take a look observe a year of release in which all debts Many people are faced with finan-
were cancelled. Effectively, the economy cial difficulties these days, often
at our companion publication World News from circumstances that are
and Prophecy. This revealing newsletter had to, in many respects, restart with every- beyond their control. But there
will help you understand today’s news one debt-free. This and other biblical laws are things we can control, and
the Bible offers a great deal of
in the light of Bible prophecy, giving you
would help to prevent the long-term poverty helpful financial advice and
we see around us. guidance. We’ve collected
a perspective you won’t find anywhere
Under a system of debt release every many of the Bible’s teachings
else—the perspective of God’s Word. about money in our free booklet Managing Your
seven years, obviously no one could take out Finances. Request or download your free copy today!
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M
spondent in the late 1890s in British India
embers of Western democratic (in what is today Pakistan) and the Sudan.
parliaments are known to voice Churchill summed up his perception of
concerns on issues beyond their Islam’s effects on its adherents: “The effects
own national borders. Topics like are apparent in many countries. Improvident
human rights, poverty, AIDS in habits, slovenly systems of agriculture, slug-
the developing world and other issues some- gish methods of commerce, and insecurity of
times echo from the halls of Congress, the property exist . . . Individual Moslems may
British Parliament, Germany’s Bundestag and show splendid qualities—but the influence of
elsewhere. the religion paralyzes the social development
Perhaps the most memorable example of of those who follow it.”
a member of parliament (MP) speaking out He concluded: “No stronger retrograde
on a perceived danger abroad was British force exists in the world” (The River War,
MP Winston Churchill during the 1930s. On 1899).
numerous occasions Churchill warned his Wilders, at the beginning of his politi-
country of the danger it faced from the ascent cal career, worked as a speechwriter for the
of German dictator Adolf Hitler. People’s Party for Freedom and Democracy
Though accused of “scaremongering,” Dutch anti-Islamist politician Geert Wilders sits (VVD). He moved to Utrecht in 1996 and
Churchill did not relent. When British Prime in court in Amsterdam, Netherlands, in October was elected to the city council and in 2002
Minister Neville Chamberlain was hailed as 2010, before charges were dropped in his trial to the lower house of the Dutch parliament.
a hero on his return from his 1938 meeting on accusations of inciting hatred against Muslims. Wilders had problems with his party’s posi-
in Munich with Hitler, proclaiming “peace in Wilders risked up to a year in jail or a heavy fine. tion on admitting Turkey as a member of the
our time,” Churchill predicted a future “day European Union, leading him to form his
of reckoning.” The rest of the story is history. Who is Geert Wilders? own party in 2004, now called the Party for
Flash forward to the present. For the last six Many people may not recognize Geert Freedom (PVV).
years one Western European politician in par- Wilders’ name. After all, the Netherlands is EU membership for Turkey would eventu-
ticular has made it his mission in life to warn not one of the world’s larger countries, and ally mean more Muslims living elsewhere
his own countrymen—and anyone else in most people—even in Europe—do not follow in Europe, although Wilders already sees
Europe who will listen—about a threat staring the Dutch domestic political scene closely. Europe’s cultural and religious heritage
Europe in the face within its own continental Wilders, 47, was born in the city of Venlo on threatened by the continent’s current Muslim
borders. The threat he perceives is the demise the Dutch-German border. He was raised a population. Wilders points out that 100 years
of Europe’s traditional cultural and religious Roman Catholic but left the church on reach- ago there were fewer than 100 Muslims living
identity as a result of the gradual Islamization ing adulthood. Despite leaving the Catholic in the Netherlands, compared to nearly 1 mil-
of Europe. Church, Wilders supports traditional Judeo- lion today out of a total Dutch population of
Who is he? He is Geert Wilders, a member Christian values. some 16 million.
of the Dutch parliament and a vocal opponent After completing his education, Wilders Wilders pulls no punches about his desire
of “Eurabia.” traveled to the Middle East, where he lived in to see limits placed on the influence of Islam
in the Netherlands and the rest of Europe. He
AFP Photo/Marcel Antonisse
November/December 2010 17
GOOD NEWS FEATURE • Eurabia: A Voice Cries Out in Defense of Europe’s Heritage
congregants. He also opposes the construction restrictions, he is able to see his wife only population. In 2005, for example, there were
of new mosques in his country. once every two weeks. He has described his more children of Islamic parentage born in
Speaking in the Dutch parliament, he once life as “essentially living in a prison.” France than people of a traditional French
said that the Koran should be banned in the background.
Netherlands, adding that if Islam’s holy book Muslim population growth in Europe Although not directly related to Europe’s
were to be stripped of passages proclaiming Wilders sees the increasing Muslim declining birthrate, it’s also interesting to note
violence, it would be reduced to the size of a population in Europe as one of the most seri- that the number of Europeans who profess to
comic book. ous threats to the preservation of Europe’s be Christians has declined noticeably in the
With this opinion, Wilders is on the same traditional cultural and religious heritage. It last 100 years. In 1900 approximately 95 per-
page as Pope Benedict XVI. In a speech given comes as no surprise that he opposes contin- cent of Europeans claimed to be Christian. At
in Regensburg in September 2006, Benedict ued immigration from Islamic countries and the beginning of the 21st century that percent-
quoted a medieval Christian emperor who Turkey’s bid for full EU membership, which age had dropped to 75 percent, with a sharp
equated Islam with violence: “Show me just would eventually open Europe’s gates to increase in the decline just in the last 25 years.
what Muhammad brought that was new, and unrestricted Turkish immigration. For example, since 1980 the population
there you will find things only evil and inhu- Muslims currently account for about 5 per- segment that identifies itself as Christian
man, such as his command to spread by the cent of the European Union’s population. If in Belgium declined by 20 percent; in the
sword the faith he preached.” Turkey’s bid for EU membership is success- Netherlands, by 18 percent; and in France, by
Accused of being a racist, Wilders counters ful, on the day Turkey becomes a member the 16 percent. Today’s Europe is also the only
by saying that he does not hate Muslims. percentage of Muslims living in the EU will continent witnessing a decline in the number
Instead, he just hates Islam. On his own blog, increase to 20 percent. But current population of Catholics. The annual number of infant
Wilders summarizes that viewpoint: numbers are only part of the story. Turkey baptisms in the Philippines is now more than
“The purpose of Islam is the total submis- would also soon be the EU’s largest country. the combined annual total for France, Italy,
sion of oneself and others to the unknow- Based on current population trends, Turkey Poland and Spain.
able Allah, whom we must serve through will surpass Germany’s 82 million inhabit- If present trends continue, Europe will
total obedience to Muhammad as leader of ants by the year 2020 and may have as many slowly become what Geert Wilders calls
the Islamic state (suras 3:31, 4:80, 24:62, as 100 million people by the year 2050. “Eurabia,” a continent whose traditional heri-
48:10, 57:28). And history has taught us that However, even if Turkey does not become tage becomes drowned out by a fast-growing
Muhammad was not at all a prophet of love a full member of the European Union, the Muslim community—now a minority, but
and compassion, but a mass murderer, a tyrant percentage of Muslims living in Europe will possibly a majority of Europe’s population
and a pedophile. Muslims could not have a still double within 15 years. Europe’s Islamic in the future.
more deplorable role model.” community is experiencing a population
explosion. At the same time, the traditional Europe’s religious future
Growing popularity and power non-Muslim population of Europe will Bible prophecy shows that Europe’s tradi-
Geert Wilders is typically characterized by decline by an estimated 3.5 percent. Europe’s tional religious heritage will wield consider-
the mainstream media as being a right-wing traditional non-Islamic population is slowly able influence in the future, but in a way not
populist, an anti-Muslim agitator or xenopho- but surely dying out. imagined by Dutch MP Geert Wilders. The
bic. And yet twice in annual public opinion Germany’s birthrate is a prime example of book of Revelation contains a prophecy about
surveys he was rated the second-most popular the population decline among Europe’s tradi- 10 “kings” or leaders who collectively form
politician in the Netherlands. tional nationalities. Statistically each woman a new geopolitical superpower called “the
In parliamentary elections of June 2010, in Germany currently has 1.36 live births beast,” which Jesus Christ will conquer and
Wilders’ party won 24 of the 150 seats in the during her childbearing years, far below the destroy at His return to the earth.
lower house, a remarkable increase over its 2.1 average considered necessary to maintain We read about them in Revelation 17:12-
previous result of nine seats in 2006. Wilders a country’s population. Given current trends, 14: “The ten horns which you saw are ten
has agreed to support a minority coalition the research by the private Institute for Popu- kings who have received no kingdom as yet,
government formed by two other conserva- lation and Development in Berlin indicates but they receive authority for one hour [a
tive parties, which will give him considerable that the number of children born in Germany short time] as kings with the beast . . . These
leverage in the new government. will drop 50 percent by the year 2050. will make war with the Lamb, and the Lamb
Wilders has had to pay a price for his The declining birthrate is most acute in will overcome them” (emphasis added).
stance on Islam, however. He has received the former East Germany, where the average Those 10 horns are part of a “beast”
numerous death threats and has been con- birthrate since the reunification of Germany described in verse 3 as having “seven
stantly accompanied by six bodyguards since in 1990 is 0.77 live births. Reiner Klingholz, heads and ten horns,” with the 10 horns—
a letter threatening his death was found in the the director of the private Berlin Institute for the final 10 leaders who will fight against
apartment of the Islamic fanatic who assas- Population and Development, summarized the Christ—apparently representing one of the
sinated Dutch filmmaker Theo van Gogh situation with some humor: “With the Vatican seven heads. Each of the seven heads is a
in broad daylight on a street in Amsterdam as the exception, that’s the lowest birthrate “mountain”—biblical symbolism for a king-
in November 2004. The bodyguards “stand anywhere in the world.” dom or empire—with its king (verses 9-10).
outside the door when I go to the bathroom,” If this situation continues unhindered, it Verse 10 clarifies that the heads appear in
he once said. is only a matter of time before the Islamic chronological sequence, and the final “head,”
Wilders never sleeps two nights in a row in community in Europe becomes a sizable or king (verse 10), will appear as the 10 kings
the same location. Because of these security minority and even a majority of Europe’s total symbolized by 10 horns (verse 12).
November/December 2010 19
GOOD NEWS FEATURE • Is Christmas Really Merr y?
Y
close and too numerous to be accidental.
oung newlyweds Josh and Candice censure from the early Church and despite They mark the compromise which the [Cath-
entered a shopping mall filled with the fact that Jesus Christ and the saints olic] Church in the hour of its triumph was
Christmas shoppers. As they walked gradually replaced pagan deities, it was long compelled to make with its vanquished yet
down the brightly lit corridors, considered completely out of character with still dangerous rivals.
Christmas carols competed with the Christian ideal. “The inflexible Protestantism of the primi-
the din of thousands of voices. The colorful “However, the festival was far too tive missionaries, with their fiery denuncia-
Christmas decorations were dazzling to the strongly entrenched in popular favour to be tion of heathendom, had been exchanged
eyes and the familiar strains of holiday songs abolished, and the [Catholic] Church finally
helped get them into the spending spirit. granted the necessary recognition, believ-
Other shoppers and store clerks alike greeted ing that if Christmas [read here ‘the mid-
them with a smiling “Merry Christmas!” winter festival’] could not be suppressed
We’ve likely all heard this greeting around it should be preserved in honour of the
the Christmas season. Sometimes it’s bel- Christian God.
lowed by a pot-bellied, red-suited Santa “It was only in the 4th century that 25
Claus, who shouts to mesmerized children, December was officially decreed to be the
“Ho! Ho! Ho! Merry Christmas!” birthday of Christ, and it was another 500
For something so common, most people years before the term Midwinter Feast was
are blissfully unaware of its origins. Where abandoned in favour of the word Christ-
does Christmas come from? What does it mas” (Richard Cavendish, editor, 1983,
mean? If Jesus were to walk through a shop- Vol. 2, “Christmas,” p. 480, emphasis added
ping mall in December, what would He throughout).
think? Would He be pleased with this cel- If Christ or the apostles instituted Christ-
ebration that’s done in His name and claimed mas, why then did it take 800 years to be
to celebrate His birth? accepted by the Catholic Church? The fact
is, Christ and the early Christians did not
How the pre-Christ Christmas got merry institute the holiday. The ancient midwinter
Surprising as it may sound, Christmas— festival came out of the closet, so to speak, This third century mosaic on the ceiling of the
though under several other names—existed reinvented as our modern Christmas. tomb of Pope Julius I under St. Peter’s Basilica
some 2,000 years before Jesus Christ’s birth! in Rome represents Jesus Christ as the sun god
Originally it was the midwinter festival, Post-Christ Christmas was not so merry Helios or Sol Invictus riding in his chariot. This
observed for many centuries by peoples It doesn’t take much research to see that demonstrates the mixing of pagan and biblical
beliefs that took place in the first few centuries
ranging from Babylon to Egypt to central Christmas is in reality a relabeled pagan
of traditional Christianity.
Europe, having absolutely no connection festival.
to Christ. It was unknown to the early New The early Catholic Church, when dealing for the supple policy, the easy tolerance, the
Testament Church, which observed only with the ancient pagan midwinter festival, comprehensive charity of shrewd ecclesias-
Photos, from left: Wikimedia Commons, Photo Pics
those festivals that Christ observed and found itself in a dilemma. If they forced the tics, who clearly perceived that if Christian-
taught them to keep, those that are found heathens to abandon pagan practices held for ity was to conquer the world it would do so
in the Bible (Leviticus 23). centuries, they risked driving them away. So only by relaxing the too rigid principles of
Notice what the Man, Myth & Magic what to do? its Founder [Christ], by widening a little the
encyclopedia tells us about how the ancient They determined that if they couldn’t pre- narrow gate which leads to salvation” (The
heathen midwinter festival gave birth to vent the pagans from observing their heathen Golden Bough, 1993, p. 361).
Christmas: “Christmas has its origin in two rituals, they would simply relabel those same William Sansom, in A Book of Christmas,
ancient pagan festivals, the great Yule-feast practices and celebrations as Christian. Thus discusses how Catholic Church leaders ratio-
of the Norsemen and the Roman Saturnalia. they added the name of Christ and applicable nalized the continuance of pagan customs by
“The Saturnalia involved the wildest liturgy to their unrepentant, in-name-only relabeling them as Christian:
debauchery. Naturally it came under heavy Christian parishioners. They pasted the name “Certainly the official Church inspired
November/December 2010 21
GOOD NEWS FEATURE • Is Christmas Really Merr y?
Is Thanksgiving Rooted
in a Biblical Festival?
by Mario Seiglie
colonies. ‘All Saint’s Day’ had been swept
Historians and Jewish sources point out that America’s Thanksgiving off the calendar along with Christmas and
holiday may not have been a totally new celebration—but that its roots Easter, on the grounds that these mixed
may go back thousands of years to the biblical Feast of Tabernacles. ‘popish’ ritual with pagan custom.
“Sunday, the occasion in Europe for
D
afternoon ball games, cockfights, plays,
id you know that the gambling, fishing trips and dances, became
first Thanksgiving in the Puritan Sabbath, a day passed in prayer,
the United States has church attendance and devotional reading . . .
some strong simi- Remaining to New Englanders were three
larities to the biblical holidays—Muster Day, Election Day and
Feast of Tabernacles? Although the day of the Harvard Commencement”
the pilgrims did not consciously (Thanksgiving: An American Holiday, an
observe this biblical feast, it is American History, 1984, p. 20).
interesting to study the parallels
between these two celebrations Biblical connection of Thanksgiving
that share the common spirit of So it seems the Pilgrims didn’t base their
thanksgiving to God. Thanksgiving celebration on English feasts,
Both were celebrated in the which when linked with pagan customs were
autumn in the northern hemi- generally shunned by them. Where then did
sphere, and both were a time they get their inspiration for Thanksgiving?
for giving thanks to God for the Could it have a biblical foundation?
blessings of the harvest season. Although the legendary first Thanksgiving, their Notice what David Stern says about the
forgotten by many, the American Pilgrims conscious frame of reference was Sukkot” Feast of Tabernacles in The Jewish New Tes-
were a deeply religious people whose heri- (“Sukkot,” Cyber-Kitchen.com). tament Commentary: “Families build booths
tage was strictly founded on the Bible, both of palm branches, partly open to the sky, to
Old and New Testament. English Harvest Home festival recall God’s providence toward Israel during
Why did the Pilgrims have this strong Now it’s true that the Harvest Home fes- the forty years of wandering in the desert and
attraction to the Hebrew Scriptures? Is it a tival was celebrated in England at that time, living in tents.
coincidence that the Pilgrims were the first but among the Pilgrims there was a general “The festival also celebrates the harvest,
successful colony in New England and were rejection of observing these English fall coming, as it does, at summer’s end, so that
able to set their stamp on American culture celebrations tainted by pagan traditions. it is a time of thanksgiving. (The Puritans,
and religion? Let’s explore these questions “The Harvest Home was a holiday,” notes who took the Old Testament more seriously
and see what history reveals. historian Diana Karter Appelbaum, “on than most Christians, modeled the American
Few realize how solemnly and literally which the villagers joined together to bring holiday of Thanksgiving after Sukkot [the
the Pilgrims took the Bible. Jewish sources the last loads of grain from the field and share Hebrew name for the Feast of Tabernacles])”
in particular continue to note, although rec- a merry feast when the work was done . . . (1996, comment on John 7:2).
ognizing there is not a direct link between There was sufficient taint of idol worship and This connection is not well known among
the two, the striking resemblance of the evidence of licentious behavior in the old most secular U.S. historians, but the Jews,
Painting by Jennie Brownscombe, Wikimedia Commons
Thanksgiving celebration to the Feast of Tab- English Harvest Home for Puritans to reject who also arrived very early at the New
ernacles, which Scripture also calls the Feast the custom summarily. They recoiled from England colonies, have kept track of this
of Ingathering. these remnants of the pagan customs that pre- historical parallel.
Here is one typical opinion: “Sukkot, the dated Christianity in England, but memories “As Leviticus 23 teaches,” explains Bar-
Jewish Feast of Tabernacles, celebrates the of the harvest feast lingered all the same. ney Kasdan, “Sukkot was to be a time of
autumn harvest; a similarity to the Thanks- “The Puritans’ shunning of the ancient bringing in the latter harvest. It is, in other
giving holiday observed in the United States Harvest Home left a void in the New Eng- words, the Jewish ‘Thanksgiving.’ In fact, it
which is not coincidental. Prior to making land year that might not have been problem- is widely believed that the Puritan settlers,
their way to the New World, the Pilgrims, atic had a similar attitude not been extended who were great students of the Hebrew
themselves the victims of religious persecu- to other holidays. But the Puritans had disap- Scriptures, based the first American Thanks-
tion, spent several years among Sephardic proved of so many causes for celebration giving on Sukkot” (God’s Appointed Times,
Jews in Holland. When they later celebrated that a holiday vacuum existed in the young 1993, p. 92).
November/December 2010 23
GOOD NEWS FEATURE • Is Thanksgiving Rooted in a Biblical Festival?
William Bradford, who became the first saw themselves, too, as chosen people of the next 20 years, 16,000 Puritans would
Pilgrim governor and proclaimed the first God being led to a Promised Land . . . migrate from England to the Massachusetts
Thanksgiving celebration, used the Scrip- “In addition to proclaiming a day of Bay Colony, and many more settled in Con-
tures—both Old and New Testaments—for thanksgiving, like the ancient Hebrews did necticut and Rhode Island—thus establishing
guidance in governing the colony. before them, Bradford and his flock also a lasting influence on American culture and
“Though it’s a uniquely American tradi- praised God’s loving kindness, the famous character.
tion,” adds a Jewish Web site, “the roots of refrain of Psalms 106 and 107 and Jewish
Thanksgiving go back to ancient Israel. In a liturgy (‘Give thanks to the Lord for He is The Pilgrims’ view of themselves
real sense, the Jews invented Thanksgiving. good, for His kindness endures forever’)” How did the Pilgrims view themselves?
I count 28 references to the word thanksgiv- (“Thanksgiving, The Puritans and Prayer,” “The Puritans in England,” writes Jewish
ing in the King James Bible—all but six in shalomjerusalem.com/heritage). historian Max Dimont, “regarded themselves
the Old Testament. For the ancient children as Hebraists. They took the Old Testament
of Israel, thanksgiving was a time of feast- Brief history of the Pilgrims’ journey as their model of government and tried to
ing and fasting, of praising God, of singing It’s fascinating to review the Pilgrim’s reshape the Magna Carta in its image . . . The
songs. It was a rich celebration—and still is history and their roots in America. British rulers rightly regarded them as Jewish
for observant Jews today. Attempting to reform the Church of Eng- fellow-travelers, and when they departed for
“Bradford himself studied the Hebrew land, the Puritans wanted to base their reli- the Colonies, the British ruling class wrote
scriptures. The Pilgrims took them very gion purely on biblical teaching—both from them off as good riddance.
seriously. The idea of giving thanks to God the Old and New Testaments. In England, “In America, the Puritans modeled
with a feast was inspired by that knowledge they pressured the government so much to their new homeland upon Old Testament
of the Bible. In a very real way, the Pilgrims establish its laws on biblical principles that principles. When Harvard University was
they provoked the ire of King James I of founded in 1636, Hebrew along with Latin
England. “King James vowed to make these was taught as one of the two main lan-
A History of deviants conform or he would ‘harry [harass]
them out of the land or else do worse’”
guages. Governor Cotton wanted to make
the Mosaic Code the law of Massachusetts,
Thanksgiving Day (Martin Marty, Pilgrims in Their Own and Hebrew at one point almost became
in the United States Land, 1984, p. 59).
So a group of Puritans fled from England
the official language of the state” (The
Indestructible Jews, 1971, p. 346).
1621: The first Thanksgiving at Plymouth, Mas- and sailed to Holland. There they enjoyed In the preface to his History of Plymouth
sachusetts, lasted three days. more religious tolerance, but eventually Plantation, Governor Bradford wrote of his
1639: Although records from the early years are became disillusioned with the Dutch way of strong desire to learn Hebrew: “Though I am
incomplete, a proclamation of thanksgiving for life, believing it was ungodly and that it had grown aged, yet I have had a longing desire
September 1639 survives, as do proclamations a corrupting effect on their children. to see with my own eyes something of that
for 1644 and for every year from 1649 onwards. A number of these Puritans, seeking a most ancient language and holy tongue, in
1775: Thanksgiving Day was celebrated by the better place to practice their religion, began which the Law and the oracles of God were
Continental Army besieging the British troops in to set their sights on America. They finally written and in which God and angels spoke
Boston. negotiated with a London stock company to to the holy patriarchs of old time . . . My
1777: Thanksgiving was for the first time pro- finance a journey to the New World. aim and desire is to see holy text, and to
claimed by a national authority, the Continental They sailed from Holland to Plymouth, discern somewhat of the same, for my own
Congress, for all 13 states. It was kept on Dec. England, and from there to the new Plymouth content” (p. xxviii, edited by Samuel Eliot
18 by Gen. George Washington and his troops they would reach after more than two months Morison, 1989).
at Valley Forge, Pennsylvania. at sea. They dropped anchor at Cape Cod in These remarks were followed by some 25
1863: President Abraham Lincoln established November of 1620. Only about half of the biblical passages in the original Hebrew and
the national holiday of Thanksgiving on the last original colonists were true Pilgrims. The their English translation.
Thursday of November. At that time, Abraham rest, whom the Pilgrims called “strangers,” It is no accident that the early settlers
Lincoln warned, “We have been recipients of the were hired to protect the company’s interests. called their Plymouth Colony “Little Israel,”
choicest bounties of Heaven … we have grown in The Pilgrims finally disembarked at and they even compared Governor Bradford
numbers, wealth and power as no other nation has
Plymouth Rock on Dec. 11, 1620. Their first to Moses. They felt that they had fled lands
ever grown, but we have forgotten God.”
winter was devastating. At the beginning of of oppression and had found a new home,
He then restored the neglected presidential
proclamations of prayer and thanksgiving during
the following autumn, they had lost 46 of the just as the Israelites had once fled Egyptian
the tragic years of the Civil War. “Intoxicated with original 102 who sailed on the Mayflower. slavery and settled in the Holy Land.
unbroken success,” he wrote, “we have become But the harvest of 1621 was bountiful and the It is, then, understandable from the associ-
too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of [God’s] Pilgrims decided to celebrate with a feast— ation the Pilgrims had with the Bible and the
redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to inviting Native American Indians who had traditions of Israel, that their Thanksgiving
pray to the God that made us.” helped them survive their first year. Histori- festival would be patterned after the biblical
Then he issued the first Thanksgiving Procla- ans believe that the Pilgrims would not have festivals of thanksgiving for abundance and
mation, establishing a date for Thanksgiving on made it through the year without the help harvest as found in the Bible—in particular,
the last Thursday of November (later changed to of the natives. The feast lasted three days. during the fall, the Feast of Tabernacles.
fourth Thursday). The fledgling Plymouth colony of Puritans Again, this is not saying there is an explicit
would not be the exception to the rule. Over link here, just a biblical framework for the
their new commonwealth on the Covenant Hebrew Bible. The Plymouth Colony had a America feel such a close kinship
with the peoples of the Bible?
entered into at Mount Sinai” (The Bible and similar law code as did the Massachusetts Why did they see themselves as
Civilization, 1973, p. 236). assembly, which, in 1641—after an exhorta- playing out a divinely ordained
tion by Reverend John Cotton who presented role in establishing themselves
Puritan laws in America in the New World? You need
the legislators with a copy of Moses, His to understand the fascinat-
What kind of laws was the United States Judicials—adopted the so-called ‘Capi- ing story behind the story, as
founded on? tall Lawes of New England’ based almost revealed in our free booklet The United States
and Britain in Bible Prophecy. Request or download
“In England,” writes Abraham Katsch, entirely on Mosaic law” (WorldPerfect: The your free copy today!
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prevented from doing so. In America, how- ing is a feast of giving thanks, not only for
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Magazines, TV and the Internet are obsessed with celebrities and celeb- Pinsky, a TV personality himself who is
better known as Dr. Drew, explains: “For
rity culture. How does society’s fascination with celebrity culture affect the narcissist, the whole world is a mir-
you and your children? How can you counter its negative influence? ror; life is spent in constant pursuit of a
gratifying reflection, a beautiful self-image
I
to stave off feelings of internal emptiness.
remember, as a child, watching the The modern narcissist seeks those reflec-
Jackson Five perform on television. tions in the pages of glossy magazines,
Young Michael Jackson’s stage pres- and on the screens of their TVs and com-
ence, voice and talent were mesmeriz- puters. The celebrity-media looking glass
ing. Years later, as I watched his “Thriller” responds with images of a privileged life
music video, a full-blown movie produc- where participants are beautiful, charis-
tion with Hollywood special effects turn- matic, powerful and free to act as they
ing Michael into a monster, it was clear choose.
to me that his persona was very different “The mirror of celebrity reinforces
from the earlier child sensation belting out every narcissist’s belief that a world of
puppy love lyrics to bubblegum rock. constant admiring attention is possible.
He seemed to have it all—fame, money, All you need to do is to act sexy, play the
adoring fans. We also know a little of the diva, demand privileges, and party with
other Michael Jackson—strange disfigure- abandon” (2009, p. 88).
ment, broken marriages and self-destruc- This dysfunctional view of life leads
tive behavior. Whether it was his perform- to dangerous behavior. In spite of public
ing genius or bizarre lifestyle, love him or emotional meltdowns, drug addiction and
hate him, the public could not get enough. broken relationships, millions of young
He remains very popular well after his people see celebrities as quintessential
untimely death in June 2009. images of the good life. Therefore, “all
Michael Jackson was both messenger and you need to do is act sexy, play the diva,
victim of a celebrity culture defining the demand privileges, and party with aban-
spirit of an age. People envy the fame and don” and you will find true happiness.
money of celebrities and imitate them as role It’s true that people have always been
models. At the grocery store checkout, peo- enamored with the lives of the rich and
ple grab the latest celeb magazine to revel in the famous, but never before has society
their sexual exploits and bad-boy or bad-girl been bombarded with an endless stream
experimentation with drugs and alcohol. of information about celebrities.
Many hold them up as glimmering stars A culture of narcissism Tabloids and tabloid TV, celebrity
until they come crashing down in the latest Drs. Drew Pinsky and Mark Young magazines and Internet sites, and even
Internet sex video scandal or announce- describe a societal trend towards narcis- mainstream news to an unwarranted degree
ment that they have just entered a rehab sism in their book The Mirror Effect: How have become “mirrors” for celebrities liv-
center. Fans worship celebrities until Celebrity Narcissism Is Seducing America. ing dysfunctional lives. And they have to
they become parodies of themselves, and The term narcissism comes from ancient continue perpetrating sordid behavior in
then the media turns them into cartoon Greek mythology. The tale is of a hand- order to maintain fame and thereby keep
characters. some young man named Narcissus, who these mirrors in operation.
In reality, many celebrities live emo- is so consumed by his own desires that he The drugs, raw sexuality, broken and
tionally and spiritually destructive lives. is unable to love others. Narcissus sees his cyclical relationships, bouts in rehab and
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With 24/7 media coverage and the need own reflection in a pool of water and falls emotional meltdowns are eagerly watched
for young people to have role models, the hopelessly and madly in love with himself. by impressionable young people—along
celebrity lifestyle of glamour and thrills Of course, every time he tries to touch the with many who are not so young—who are
seems attractive to many children, teens watery image it dissolves. He eventually led to believe that those moving images
and young adults. dies of a broken heart. and glossy, airbrushed pictures reflect
success and happiness. Desiring this for children the stories and messages of the celebrity culture:
themselves, many of those watching end Bible. When children understand the peo- • Eat meals together and talk to each other.
up modeling their own lives accordingly, ple of the Bible as real human beings, with • Play games with your children.
becoming mirrors themselves of those they feelings just like them, the biblical stories • Organize regular family experi-
essentially idolize. become personal. Positive biblical charac- ences: Learn to play a musical instrument
Hence “the mirror effect.” Everyone, it ters become heroes worth imitating. together, go camping or take up a hobby
seems, is narcissistically preoccupied with The most powerful, life-changing mes- that fits the interests of your child.
modeling himself or herself into the image sage for any human being is the under- • Get involved with service projects like
of other narcissists who will do anything to standing that: volunteering your family to serve at a nursing
maintain fame. People throughout society • He or she is made in the image of God. home once a week.
have become so in love with themselves • God loves him or her and has a purpose • Have them participate in a church
that they are losing the ability to love for his or her life. youth group that does service projects.
others. • The problems in life are a result of • Help them develop positive relation-
people not living the way God intended ships with grandparents and other adults.
Helping children navigate the celebrity them to live. • Give them regular chores so that they
culture • There is real good and evil, and there develop a sense of accomplishment in work.
Being mildly fascinated with celebri- are terrible consequences for choosing evil. We have to help children learn that hap-
ties, especially as a teen, is not necessarily • Jesus Christ is the Savior who died for piness is more than acting sexy, demanding
harmful, but parents have to help their chil- our sins and helps us to live as God directs. privileges and partying with abandon.
dren navigate the traps of the dysfunctional You must also limit the time your chil-
celebrity culture. dren spend surfing the Internet, watching A much better life is possible
The following are some symptoms your television and reading celebrity magazines. We excuse professional athletes who use
child may exhibit if he or she is adversely This may be a real battle at the beginning. illegal steroids as long as they perform.
affected by the celebrity culture: The rags-to-fame-to-riches-to-partying- When they can no longer thrill us with hit-
• Excessive fascination with celebrities. to-meltdown story has a strong appeal to ting the baseball out of the park, we turn on
• Obsession with wanting to dress or young people who have bought into the them in hypocritical condemnation. People
model the behavior of a celebrity. idea that uninhibited spending of money, like to hitch their wagons to the latest ris-
• Hypersexuality. partying, sex with a myriad of glamor- ing teenage singing star. When he or she
• Dangerous behavior like drug or alcohol ous people, and fame are the measures of predictably has a breakdown, they shake
abuse. success. their heads in disgust.
• Acting out wrong behavior on the You are competing for your child’s mind At the same time, all too many young
Internet. with media programmers who know how people see the celebrity lifestyle of fast
As noted, not just young children or to manipulate that appeal. Here is just part money, easy sex and fame as the ultimate
teens are entranced with celebrities. of a casting call put out by MTV: “Do you measure of success and happiness. The
According to one poll, 51 percent of 18- to long to strut into the world’s most elite results are empty and many times tragic.
25-year-olds said that being famous was hotspots without a care in the world except God has a purpose for you and your
their generation’s most important or second how fabulous you are? Ever wish the velvet children. Real success is rooted in a strong
most important life goal. ropes didn’t exclude you from the social sense of identity as a child of God and liv-
According to Dr. Drew, young people circle of the A-list? How about the fantasy ing by His rules of life. Ask God to come
first begin to feed their curiosity and emo- of jet setting around the world with the into your life and forgive you for living a
tional needs with a constant diet of celebrity ultimate BFF [best friend forever], whose way based on a wrong viewpoint of how
media, and then they begin to see the celeb- fierce style, charisma and star power is life works. The teachings of Jesus Christ
rity narcissistic, dysfunctional behavior as only matched by your own?” (quoted by will show you the real, eternal ways to
normal and desirable. The next step is mim- Pinsky and Young, p. 135.) happiness and success. GN
icking the celebrity behavior in daily life. Reality shows are designed to attract
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you teach them proper values?
replacing it with other activities, you’ll How can you help them avoid
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to devour them? The Bible
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Life’s
a while, anytime something didn’t go
right for me or something came up
that I didn’t want to do, I would run
away and commit some other offense.
When I was 15, my stepfather was
beating my mother, and I threatened
Choices
to kill him. That cost me three years
in reform school.
Shortly after being released and
turning 18, I continued the same pat-
tern. When things didn’t go right, I
would commit crimes. I allowed peer
pressure to affect my decisions and
to determine my choices. Eventually,
by William Ledford (with Dan Dowd) those choices cost me the best years
of my life. I ended up spending 28
years in state prison. I lost family
From the time we are small children and through- members, and I lost the respect of my
out our adult lives, we have to make choices that family and people I grew up with.
After 28 years in prison I was
affect the rest of our lives. As we grow older, paroled and then struggled to find
those choices become more complicated and a job—a search made even harder
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difficult—and the consequences more serious. because I am legally barred from cer-
tain jobs, such as work in the criminal
justice system, education, security, take the time to stop and think of the
health care and many other fields. I consequences. Just one bad choice can
couldn’t find even a simple job like affect and change your life forever.
stocking store shelves. I had by this Do not let others tease or bully you
point decided I wanted to find a job that into making bad choices. If in doubt,
didn’t conflict with the Sabbath, and stop and ask your parents or someone
that made the search even harder. in authority. Remember that God is
Wherever I looked I had to experi- also a good authority to ask! (Proverbs
ence the contempt and condemnation 3:5).
of others every time I had to check that I write this in the hope that you will
box on the employment application stop and consider your own choices—
regarding whether I had been convicted and never become what I have become.
of a crime. Choose to live your life well and within
I did find a job, a place to live and God’s laws.
had wonderful Church members who I didn’t have the opportunity to learn
tried to help me in my new life. Look- God’s way in my youth, but I did once
I
I had again let down the people I cared about the f you like reading our articles
most. I thought for sure God would give up on me, for teens and young adults
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so much concern and care in helping me. I very
magazine, Vertical Thought, at
nearly gave up on myself. www.VerticalThought.org.
ing back, I see God’s blessings in the I was in prison. I should have remem- This magazine is specially written
job I found, the apartment I was able to bered that training, but I let myself get for our younger Good News audi-
live in and the Church family who took caught up in the cares and pleasures of ence. Each issue is packed with help-
me under their wing. But looking back life (Luke 8:14) instead of keeping my ful insight and eye-opening articles
doesn’t move you forward. eyes on the prize (Philippians 3:14). I guiding today’s young people in get-
I thought I had learned my lesson, but have now recommitted myself to being ting the most out of life—both now
I quickly fell back into some old habits. grounded even more fully in God’s and in the future.
I then distanced myself from God and instruction in order to break the pattern
His people who were trying to help of bad choices. You’ll uncover lots of fascinating
me. I started drinking and hanging out By the time I am able to be released facts, meet many interesting peo-
with people who were not interested again, I will have spent 33 years in ple, discover what’s really going on
in what was best for me. I lost con- prison, and I will still be on parole for behind the scenes in our world,
trol and got distracted from what was five years after that. I know that God learn answers to your questions
important because I let go of my prayer has not given up on me and that I still and find practical, down-to-earth
and Bible study. I ended up justifying have much to learn. guidance on all kinds of subjects.
wrong choices again and was put back I encourage you to look in the Bible
in prison with additional time added to at the examples of people who made Visit VerticalThought.org today!
my original sentencing. I never felt so various choices and to follow those who
low in my life. made right choices. Hebrews 11 is a
I had again let down the people I great reference regarding choices made
cared about the most. I thought for sure by Abraham and Sarah, Jacob, Noah,
God would give up on me, as well as Moses, David, Joshua, Ruth and many
the Church members who had invested other men and women.
so much concern and care in helping I also encourage you to observe
me. I very nearly gave up on myself. those individuals you see making good
God did not give up on me, however, choices and talk to them about what
and so He wouldn’t let me give up. thought goes into those decisions.
Ask God for wisdom in making good
Choices and consequences choices and for His guidance.
There is no glory in bad choices. The alternative is demonstrated by
When you are confronted with choices, my past. Don’t let it be you. GN
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