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Mrs. Gonaver
English CP {Block G}
1 December 2015
Have you ever walked down the street and noticed young couples together? Many people
have different opinions on this controversial topic. Some, people believe that the children and
their parents are insane for allowing young children to commit to a relationship at such an early
age. On the other hand, some people see dating as a great thing and want their child to be happy.
One thing all sides can agree on is that a relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic, is built
on three things: love, trust, and respect; without these three things a relationship will crumble to
the ground.
The word dating or relationship has different meanings to different people, but in general
it involves two people who are more than friends. A relationship can mean "hanging out", "to
chill", dating, hooking up, being in love, or having strong feelings for one another. Many people
stereotype teens in relationships; they assume that teens don't truly know what love is and
contradict this statement. They say that they are not only interested in a person's physical
attributes, but also their inner qualities such as kindness and intelligence. For example, Marley a
thirteen year old talked about his girlfriend and said, "She's deep and has real emotions, she acts
like herself and doesn't act fake... I also love her eyes. I get lost in them." Josh a fourteen year
old stated that some of the things he loves about his girlfriend are, "Her attitude, her eyes, her
simile. Regardless of what people say about her, she's beautiful in my eyes." Also a thirteen year
old girl named Pricilla declared, "They have to be honest, respectful, down-to-earth, won't judge
me, and love me for who I am. I hate he guys that just want to 'hit it and quit' or want a girl with
all the looks, even though she might not be the nicest."
Studies show that most parents are against teens dating. There are many risk factors that
can affect young teens in relationships: abusive behaviors, sex, and emotional conflictions.
According to the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence, 62% of teens who have been in
relationships know/experienced verbal abuse, and one in five teens in relationships have
experienced/know friends who have been physically abused by a romantic partner. These
statistics can be frightening for parents because they are very protective of their children and
don't want to see them get hurt, especially at a young age when they are still fragile and
developing. Statistics also show that 69% of teens who have had sex before the age of 14 are
either threatened to kill a partner or commit suicide in order to stay together. According to
Rosario Gonzalez, "There's a double standard depending on a child's gender. Although this may
not sound fair, I strongly believe that females are fragile and need to be protected. Females hold
the key to everything, and a male will only get as far as the female will let him... Females have
more to lose." All of these factors are reasons why parents are afraid to let their teens commence
Looking at this topic from an expert's opinion, psychologist and TV personality Dr. Phil
states, "Teenagers, especially younger pre-teens don't need to have boyfriends and girlfriends."
Data shows that approximately three in four teens say relationships commence around the age of
fourteen, and more than one and three pre-teens say they've been in a relationship. Dr. Phil
encourages parents to not allow teenagers to close their bedroom doors when someone of the
opposite sex is over, and to talk to teenagers more often so that they feel comfortable discussing
topics like love and sexuality. Experts also say that most romantic relationships in pre-teens last
up to 5 months; by the age of 16 average relationships last up to about 2 years. In addition, pre-
teen relationships can lead to problems because young children are just beginning to discover
who they really are, and being in a relationship can influence them to change their expectations/
priorities for school, act differently or change around people in order to impress the other partner.
Everyone has their own opinion and different ways of thinking about teen dating. Just
because children are young does not mean they do not understand what love is or how to express
it. Parents should be more understanding and supportive of young teens, but there should also be
boundaries set up. Some of these boundaries could consist of not allowing the child to date until
the age of sixteen so that they may become more mature, not allowing the couple to be home
alone with the bedroom door closed, and having a lot of trust and respect to encourage dialogue
Mrs. Gonaver
English CP {Block G}
1 December 2015
Works Cited
Caliborne, Liz. "Dating Violence." Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence. n.p., 2002-2015.
Dr. Phil. "Parenting. Teens and Dating." Dr. Phil. Pestski Productions, Inc, 2015. Web. 4,
November, 2015.
"Your Thoughts on Falling in Love." Teens Health. Nemours, 1995-2015. Web. 4, November,
2015.