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EGO STATE ANALYSIS
reprinted with permission by
BOB AVARY & ASSOCIATES, 3211 KERMIT HWY., ODESSA, TX 79762
FROM SELF ASSESSMENT - TA FOR MANAGEMENT
The next several pages contain a series of optional choice statements. Make 2 choices for each statement.
Score a 2 for the choice that BEST describes you and a 1 for the choice that describes the NEXT best. LEAVE THE OTHERS BLANK.
When you finish this questionnaire, you will be given a sheet upon which to record your answers.
example: 1.
____ a. Show my concern for their feelings but do not offer advice.
____ b. Listen closely but do not offer advice unless specifically asked.
____ c. Try to get them into a better mood by suggesting something fun to do.
____ d. Advise them on how I think they could solve their problems.
____ a. I get fed up with the overall mess they have made.
____ d. I get sort of angry at some of the ridiculous laws they have passed.
____ b. Seem to know who they are and what they want.
____ c. Have the courage and confidence to think and act on their own.
OPINIONS AND FEELINGS ARE FREQUENTLY A PERSONAL TRIUMPH OVER GOOD THINKING
YOU DEFINE REALITY BY WHAT YOU KNOW, WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT.
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EGO STATE ANALYSIS
reprinted with permission by
BOB AVARY & ASSOCIATES, 3211 KERMIT HWY., ODESSA, TX 79762
FROM SELF ASSESSMENT - TA FOR MANAGEMENT
9. Generally speaking, people who get the most from life:
____ a. Are willing to give of themselves to help others.
____ b. Handle life's problems in a very practical manner.
____ c. Don't worry or concern themselves with small problems.
12. You are to take care of 3 four-year-old children for two hours while
their mothers are shopping. You will:
____ a. Help them find something interesting and fun to do.
____ b. Observe their activities so they do not hurt themselves or others.
____ c. Get down on the floor and play with them.
13. You have been planning several weeks on a "fun" type weekend with another couple.
At the last moment, they call and say they have decided not to go. You will probably:
____ a. Go ahead without them or find something else fun to do instead.
____ b. Postpone your plans and feel somewhat disappointed.
____ c. Try to talk them into changing their minds and going with you.
14. At a party, someone accidentally spills ice cream on your clothing. You will:
____ a. Clean it up as best you can and enjoy yourself.
____ b. Go home and change or leave as soon as possible.
____ c. Feel anger at the person who was so clumsy.
17. Perhaps my greatest personal assets are: ____ a. My ability to do a job well.
____ b. My concern to help others do better. ____ c. My sincerity in dealing with others.
____ d. My ability to evaluate situations and make decisions. ____ e. My ability to enjoy life and other people.
____ f. My loyalty to people, ideals and beliefs. ____ g. My ability to take care of myself.
NOW TAKE THE NUMBERS FROM THESE 2 SHEETS AND TRANSFER THEM TO THE NEXT SHEET - THE EGO STATE ANALYSIS SHEET
OPINIONS AND FEELINGS ARE FREQUENTLY A PERSONAL TRIUMPH OVER GOOD THINKING
YOU DEFINE REALITY BY WHAT YOU KNOW, WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT.
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STROKING QUESTIONNAIRE
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BOB AVARY & ASSOCIATES, 3211 KERMIT HWY., ODESSA, TX 79762
FROM SELF ASSESSMENT - TA FOR MANAGEMENT
FILL IN THE BLANK WITH THE NUMBER CORRESPONDING TO THAT WHICH BEST DESCRIBES YOU.
I ___ am quick to praise a job well done.
I ___ tell others what I like.
I ___ enjoy complimenting others.
I ___ like to help others feel good.
(1) Total - Giving Positive Strokes
OPINIONS AND FEELINGS ARE FREQUENTLY A PERSONAL TRIUMPH OVER GOOD THINKING
YOU DEFINE REALITY BY WHAT YOU KNOW, WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT.
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STROKE PROFILE
excerpted with permission by
BOB AVARY & ASSOCIATES, 3211 KERMIT HWY., ODESSA, TX 79762
FROM SELF ASSESSMENT - TA FOR MANAGEMENT
Take your totals from the boxes on the -- Stroking Questionnaire -- and put the score in the
appropriate column. Shade in the area to make a bar chart. You can use the extra chart
to make a stroke profile on your spouse, a friend, your boss or some other person
significant in your life. How do the profiles look together? Is there a problem area? For
example you give a lot of positive strokes and they won't take positive strokes. Maybe you
ask for a lot of strokes and they refuse to give positive strokes. Look for any patterns.
20 20 20 20
S S
16 T 16 16 T 16
R R
12
O 12 12
O 12
K K
8
E 8
E
8 8
S S
4 4 4 4
4 4 4 4
A A
T T
8 8 8 8
T T
E E
12 12 12 12
N N
T T
16 I 16 16 I 16
O O
20 N 20 20 N 20
24 24 24 24
(2) (4) (6) (8) (2) (4) (6) (8)
NEGATIVE STROKES NEGATIVE STROKES
OPINIONS AND FEELINGS ARE FREQUENTLY A PERSONAL TRIUMPH OVER GOOD THINKING
YOU DEFINE REALITY BY WHAT YOU KNOW, WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT.
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INTERNAL EGO STATE QUESTIONNAIRE
Instructions
For each statement, allocate a score to indicate how much it matches your own
thinking.
not true for me 0 moderately true for me 2
partly true for me 1 extremely true for me 3
Score
10. I can observe other peoples' reactions without necessarily feeling the same way.
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INTERNAL EGO STATE QUESTIONNAIRE -
SCORING
Step 1. Transfer your scores to the summary below, against the question numbers,
and add up each column.
1 2 4
3 6 5
9 8 7
11 10 12
15 13 14
18 17 16
20 21 19
Step 2. Draw a chart of your responses by marking horizontal lines at the score
points for each ego state.
21 -
18 -
15 -
12 -
9-
6-
3-
0 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
--
Internal Internal Internal
Parent Adult Child
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PERSONAL STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE
Instructions
For each statement, allocate a score to show how much the behaviour is like the way
you behave:
not true for me 0 moderately true for me 2
partly true for me 1 extremely true for me 3
Score
1. I tell people firmly how they should behave.
3. I do as I'm told.
12.When someone is new, I make an effort to show them where everything is.
PTO
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Score
22. I dress to match the sort of outfits that other people wear to work.
23. I do things for people when I think they can't manage for themselves.
26. I prefer to take control rather than following someone else's lead.
30. I take all points of view into account when making decisions.
36. I show my feelings whether I am happy or sad, so that people can congratulate
or sympathise with me.
37. I've looked after someone even though they could have managed on their own.
38. I'm tempted to analyse jokes, which spoils them for others.
© 2007 A D International, Wildhill, Broadoak End, Hertford SG14 2JA Tel: 01992 550246
PERSONAL STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE - SCORING
Step 1. Transfer your scores to the summary below, against the question numbers,
and add up each column.
1 4 2 3 5
8 6 7 10 9
14 12 13 11 15
17 18 20 19 16
24 23 21 22 25
26 27 30 29 28
32 31 35 34 33
39 37 38 40 36
------- ------- ------- ------- -------
TOTAL
Controlling Nurturing Functional Adapted Natural
Parent Parent Adult Child Child
Step 2.
Now draw a bar chart of your responses by marking horizontal lines at the score points.
Total score
24 -
21 -
18 -
15 -
12 -
9 -
6 -
3 -
0-
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
CP NP FA AC NC
© 2007 A D International, Wildhill, Broadoak End, Hertford SG14 2JA Tel: 01992 550246
Windows on the World - Questionnaire
Circle the number next to the statement in each group that best describes you.
Be honest with yourself – don’t just pick whatever you think is the ‘best’ answer.
2 I prefer to take a back seat in groups and let others take the lead
A
I do my best to avoid situations where you’re expected to give an
3
opinion
4 I let other people finish what they are saying before I speak
I stand up for myself when I feel that I’m right and expect others to do
2 the same
B
3 I insist that I’m right and expect others to go along with me
I tend to keep my voice low and avoid eye contact to prevent attention
1 being drawn to me
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1 I tend to blame and find fault with others
1 I let others get what they want but I often feel resentful about it
I talk through problems before they occur and find ways of coping
2
with them when they do
F
3 I make sure that things turn out the way I want them to
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Windows on the World - Scoring
Using the chart below, circle the A, B, C or D that is alongside the number that you chose
for each question. Then add each column to get a total score.
Q.A 4 A 2 B 1 C 3 D
Q.B 2 A 1 B 3 C 4 D
Q.C 3 A 2 B 4 C 1 D
Q.D 4 A 1 B 2 C 3 D
Q.E 3 A 2 B 1 C 4 D
Q.F 2 A 4 B 3 C 1 D
Q.G 3 A 1 B 4 C 2 D
Q.H 1 A 2 B 3 C 4 D
Q.I 2 A 4 B 3 C 1 D
Total Total Total Total
A B C D
Total
score
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WORKING STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE
For each item, give a score between 0 and 8, where 8 is totally like you, 4 is average
and 0 is totally unlike to you.
© 2007 A D International, Wildhill, Broadoak End, Hertford SG14 2JA Tel: 01992 550246
WORKING STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE - SCORING
Step 1 Transfer your scores to the chart below, against the question numbers, and add
up each column.
My working style(s)
Item Score Item Score Item Score Item Score Item Score
1 2 3 4 5
10 9 8 7 6
15 11 14 12 13
17 16 18 20 19
24 25 23 21 22
Total Total Total Total Total
Hurry Up Be Perfect Please People Try Hard Be Strong
Step 2 Draw a bar chart of your responses by shading in the columns below to the
appropriate level.
Total
score
40
35
30
25
20
15
10
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MANAGER WORKING STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE
For each item, give a score between 0 and 8, where 8 is totally like your manager, 4
is average and 0 is totally unlike your manager.
© 2007 A D International, Wildhill, Broadoak End, Hertford SG14 2JA Tel: 01992 550246
MANAGER’S WORKING STYLES QUESTIONNAIRE -
SCORING
Step 1 Transfer your scores to the chart below, against the question numbers, and add
up each column.
Step 2 Draw a bar chart of your responses by shading in the columns below to the
appropriate level.
Total
score
40
35
30
25
20
15
10
© 2007 A D International, Wildhill, Broadoak End, Hertford SG14 2JA Tel: 01992 550246
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS QUESTIONNAIRE
There is no time limit to this questionnaire. It will probably take around ten minutes to
complete. The more spontaneous and honest you can be, the more accurate the results
probably will be.
If you agree more than you disagree with a statement, mark a plus (+) in the box.
If you disagree more than you agree, mark a minus (-) in the box.
4. There are too few people nowadays with enough courage to stand up
for what is right.
6. I do not like it when people are not clear about what I say and ask me
to repeat.
13. I believe that absolute openness and honesty with others is possible.
15. Too many people nowadays allow others to push them around too
much.
16. Although most people are not, I seem to be quite comfortable with a
long period of silence.
17. I can recall situations where, as a child, other people made me feel
ashamed.
18. Sometimes children need to be slapped on the buttocks for their own
good.
19. We need more rather than less censorship in the movies, TV,
magazines, etc.
21. I know that sometimes I ought to eat and drink less than I do.
25. Even when one feels life is not worth living, no one is justified in
committing suicide.
28. A remedy for divorce would be to make the conditions more stringent
so that marriage would be considered more seriously.
35. Expressive hair styles seem to have to compensate for small brains
nowadays.
38. All work and no play add up to a dull life and that is not the way I
want to live.
39. Sometimes I hear myself say “I do not make the rules, I just follow
them“.
45. Most decisions carry some consequences and I like to evaluate those
consequences before making a decision.
49. Being a subordinate is not that easy but is better than being the
boss.
51. I believe that society would be better off if the laws were more
rigorously enforced.
54. I envy people who quit their career in order to start a new life style.
60. Things like working in the garden, swimming, sex and other forms of
physical activities make me feel good all over.
INSTRUCTIONS
You score one point for each item you have answered with a +.
1. 32. 3. 2.
4. 35. 7. 6.
5. 37. 9. 10.
8. 40. 13. 14.
11. 43. 16. 17.
12. 44. 20. 21.
15. 47. 23. 24.
18. 50. 26. 27.
19. 51. 29. 31.
22. 53. 30. 34.
25. 55. 33. 39.
28. 58. 36. 42.
61. 38. 46.
41. 49.
45. 54.
PARENT PARENT 48. 57.
SUBTOTAL SUBTOTAL 52. 60.
Nurturing, Controlling, 56.
Caring Organising 59.
Indulgent Critical
16
16
12
90%
14
80%
14 10
70%
12
60%
12
50% 8
10
40%
30%
8 10
6
20%
10% 6 8 5
0% 4 3
The highest percentage score of the three scores indicates the particular Ego
State mostly used by you. If there is a difference of twenty or more
percentage points between the highest and the second highest score, this
means that the highest scoring Ego State is your dominant ego state.