Speed Seduction®

Coaching Program
Answer to Students
Brian P.
Transcript

November 2008

Created By
Ross Jeffries
The “Guru of Getting Some”
Website:
http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging,

buying, bs or booze, in his pursuit of happiness.
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Ross: This “Answers to Students” module is for Brian P. This is going be
really interesting. Brian P. is interested in a topic that most people
are interested in. That is how and whether he should get women
who are already with other men. Let’s get to it.

Here’s his email again. His situation is that he’s had great success
using Speed Seduction®, except when he meets women who are
already involved, especially married women.

He says that he has a history of being cheated on. He knows how

bad it feels and he doesn’t want to do that to anybody else. He’s
wondering at what point he has to say, “Wait a minute, this guy is a
real loser. He’s lost her. It’s my turn now and I’m going to get to
know her.” That’s the essence of what he’s asking.

My first rule in these situations is to gather more information. You

have to ask what kind of relationship is she in, if it’s a real
“hatetionship” as I like to say. Is she happy with the relationship? Is
she unhappy? Is she married? Does she have a serious boyfriend?
Is she just dating someone? What’s the situation?

Equally important, what are you looking for? What do you want,
Brian? Are you looking for a one-night stand? Are you looking for a
girlfriend? Are you looking for a fuck buddy? What is it that you’re
looking for? You have to know that.

My personal rule is that boyfriends are fair game. Boyfriends are

more than fair game. Unless she’s unhappy and she’s already
decided to leave the person, married women are not fair game.

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 That’s for me. You can have a different set of rules. Understand, no
matter what your rules are, what the consequences of those rules
are, and know whether you’re prepared to pay those
consequences. If you’re not, then don’t do it.

My second rule is as much as possible, leave women better than

how you found them. We’ve been teaching this since 1997. I’ve
believe in it. If you think there is a good chance of doing harm, don’t
do it. Just few minutes, an hour or a week of pleasure isn’t worth
doing harm to another human being. It’s just not.

On the other side of the cover, women aren’t children. We can’t act
like their guardians, parents, caretakers or nannies. We’re not that.
They’re adults. I’ll assume that they’re responsible. They know what
they’re doing and they’re making their choices.

If your perception is that she’s emotionally immature or that she

can’t take responsibility for her actions, then don’t deal with her. My
assumption is that women are adults. They’re not children. They
know what they’re doing.

My third rule is no drama, ever. I once had an opportunity to be with

an extraordinarily, super-hot married woman. She was a massage
therapist. She was drop-dead gorgeous, but I didn’t do it. One of
the reasons I didn’t do it was she talked about how she liked to
make her husband jealous. I thought, “No, I’m not going near this.”

If you sense there is any kind of genuine emotional instability or

she’s doing this to create some drama in her primary relationship,

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 just stay away. People die. People get killed because of this kind of
thing. It is not worth it.

Not only is it not worth dying over, it’s not worth breaking a bone or
spilling any of your precious fluids, like your blood plasma, nor is it
worth doing it to anybody else. Any time you think there’s a chance
there will be drama, don’t do it.

Here’s good news. My fourth rule is that boyfriends mean little or

nothing.

Let’s go over some basic sub-principles. First of all, I’d like to talk
about the monkey branch idea. Women are monkey branchers.
What do I mean by that? The monkey is not going to let go of one
branch with both hands. Generally speaking, he’s not going to
totally let go of the first branch until he’s got at least one hand
around the next branch.

Women are monkey branchers. They don’t want to let go totally of

that old boyfriend until they’re sure there is someone else they can
move toward.

If she has a boyfriend, think of the monkey. It’s a good visualization

to have if she tells you that she has a boyfriend. Even if it’s true,
just imagine the monkey reaching out for the next branch before it
totally lets go of the first one.

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 Here’s my second idea. This is crucial: female autopilot. A lot of
times the “I have a boyfriend” response is just her autopilot
response to her perception that she’s being hit on.

When she says, “I have a boyfriend,” there are all sorts of

responses you can come up with. My favorite nowadays is to say,
“You don’t need to convince me someone else finds you attractive.
That’s not how I’ll make up my mind about you.”

What is that doing? That’s taking her presupposition that she’s

rejecting you and turning it around to say she’s trying to convince
you that she’s an attractive person. That’s one good one.

What’s another good one? “I’ve only known you five minutes and
you’re already telling me your problems?” then you change the
subject. Another good one, “Boyfriends are like colds. You can
catch one at any time, but it doesn’t mean you can’t shake him off if
you want to.” You’re looking for that little, unconscious head nod. If
she nods back like that little nod, you’re in.

Another one I’ll say is, “Boyfriend? Are you telling me the bridge is
out, or there’s just a little bump in the road?”

Here’s the next principle I want you to get. A hell of a lot of

relationships start when one of the parties is already dating
someone else. Most attractive people, if they have any self-esteem
or any kind of skill set, will be with somebody. Most relationships
start when at least one of the parties is already involved with
someone. That’s just the way it works.

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 The final rule is to have a prosperity mentality. Don’t have a poverty
mentality. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and even more
poontang at the party. If you’re doing this because you just so
happened to accidentally get some kind of attraction vibe from a
woman who is already taken, then you’re barking up the wrong
tree. You’re ignoring the skill set that you need to develop.

Often when a student comes to me, I’ll ask myself, “What skill set
has to be absent in order for this person to be presenting this
challenge?” That tells me what they really need to work on.

It may be that you just haven’t really developed your skill at meeting
a lot of women. In your case, it’s not true, but for many people who
get stuck on one woman or get stuck on someone who is already
married, it’s because they don’t have a good skill set at meeting lots
of women.

This is a really important thing. Make sure you’re not covering up

some skills deficit by over-focusing on women who are already
involved in some way. That’s very important. As a teacher, I will ask
it again and again. What is the skill set that has to be absent in
order for this person to have this challenge? What skill set would
need to be present in order for this challenge to just melt away and
disappear?

That’s it for the answers to Brian P. Brian, please email me and let
me know what you think. I hope all of you found this information
useful. Go out and use it.

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