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There is this idea of being forged in the fire of misfortune that has appealed to me
recently. Those who are able to achieve greatness through adversity are my role models. My
parents divorced when I was eight years old, and I have found that growing up started at a young
age. I vaguely remember what it was like to have a nuclear family unit when my parents were
together. Going to each of their houses every other week had its toll on me. Even at this point in
my upbringing I was able to overcome the desire to be a victim and learn to be more dependent
Growing up, I knew there was something wrong with my mom mentally. I learned when I
was older that she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. When I understood what that was it
made sense that my mom wasn’t fit to take care of me full time, and my mom and dad went to
court fighting for custody of me. In the end I had as much to say in the verdict as they did.
Choosing to be with my Dad was hard, especially being away from my mom for so long.
However, that was one important decision that I had to make. This was an example on how I had
Of course I had my older siblings, so they helped me make decisions too. My sophomore
year of high school, my dad had full custody of me but fell ill. He was diagnosed with stage 4
bladder cancer my seventh grade year and was seemingly cured. With chemotherapy, radiation
and one big surgery, he recovered until the summer before my sophomore year of high
school. My brother took care of me as my dad was in and out of the hospital through the
summer. Eventually, we learned that my dad wasn’t able to survive anymore. A combination of
returning cancer and several strokes proved too much for him. He was my best friend, and I felt
so alone. I felt like an adult. This was the second moment in my life where I could take matters
into my own hands. I could choose to live with either my mom or older brother because my
dad’s wishes were for my brother to take care of me if anything happened to him.
My mom had been doing well at this point in time so I was considering living with her. I
remembered how stressed my mom got when she took care of me full time so I decided to live
with my brother. My mom and brother began court proceedings for who would have custody of
me until finally, I told her to stop and that I wanted to live with my brother. She respected that
There are decisions in a person’s life that are hard but have to be done. Fire is often hot
enough to melt steel and resolve can be just as powerful to overcoming any obstacle life throws
our way. All of the circumstances that I have been faced with during my lifetime have forged me
into the person I am today. Although some are unpleasant, there are good ones too. I have grown
as a student, sister and friend. Adulting at such a young age has given me a different outlook on