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MEDIA SHAKE UP
YOUR
RELATIONSHIP?
Mary Schiele
5/9/2019
ICT Capstone
COM 479, Spring 2019
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Abstract
The line that separates the virtual world, with reality has blurred over the past decade due
to social networking sites. Social networking sites have become an important aspect within
society, specifically effecting our relationships. To get a better understanding of how these
virtual realities effect romantic relationships, a survey was conducted including nine multiple
choice questions and five open-ended questions where participants could fill-in. Seventeen
couples participated ranging from different age cohorts, of 18-70 years old. At the end of the
survey, it was concluded that while social networking sites have a negative effect on
relationships, in most cases it has built a different sense of trust. When comparing the different
age cohorts, couples between the age 18-35, have issues involving social networking sites
throughout the longevity of the relationship, couples between the age of 36-50, only had issues in
the beginning of the relationship, while couples in the age group 51-70 had no issues from social
networking sites. When looking at genders, more female participants felt social networking sites
took away from spending quality time together, while male participants, believe issues stem from
there partner being jealous. Lastly, Instagram was the most widely used platform. While, social
networking sites are used as a form of pleasure, they can affect our relationships destructively.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
ABSTRACT……………………………………………………………………………………....2
TABLE OF CONTENTS……………………………………………………………………….…3
LIST OF TABLES………………………………………………………………………………...4
INTRODUCTION………………………………………………………………………………...5
LITERATURE REVIEW…………………………………………………………………………7
Relationships in Youth…………………………………………………………………….8
RESEARCH QUESTION………………………………………………………………………..11
VARIABLES…………………………………………………………………………………….11
METHODOLOGY………………………………………………………………………………11
Participants………………………………………………………………………………13
Sampling Procedure……………………………………………………………………...13
Data Collection…………………………………………………………………………..13
FINDINGS……………………………………………………………………………………….14
DISCUSSION……………………………………………………………………………………16
CONCLUSION…………………………………………………………………………………..18
Limitations……………………………………………………………………………….18
REFERENCE…………………………………………………………………………………….20
APPENDIX………………………………………………………………………………………21
Survey Questionnaire…………………………………………………………………….21
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List of Tables
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Introduction
Social networking sites have become a part of life that most of the modern society cannot
live without. We use social networking sites to connect with distant relatives or friends, to stay
up to date with the latest breaking story, to laugh for no reason, and much more. It’s importance
to society is like a snowball rolling down a hill; Becoming bigger and bigger as time goes on.
From the significance, social networking sites impose on a singular person, I wondered how it
affected their romantic relationships. This is a territory that is personal but is also made public
through social media. How does social networking sites improve or destroy relationships? From
this study, I hope to give clarity on if social networking sites affect relationships at all. If they do,
is it negatively, or positively? Generally, how does it affect relationships? And, while each
relationship is unique in their own way, is there a pattern between different age cohorts or
gender? This study, is beneficial to everyone no matter where they stand in life right now. Even
if you are not on social networking sites, someone close to you probably is, and it is an
affordance that is attaining momentum as time goes on. Social networking sites have become
intertwined in all aspects of life. Whether you are in high school and using Instagram for your
social life, or in your late thirties using LinkedIn searching for a new job, or in your seventies
connecting with distant relatives, keeping in touch on what is happening in each other’s lives.
Today, showing our peers our relationships, romantically or socially, has become
significantly important. Before society could hold the internet in their hand, relationships were
private, shared with family and close friends, but for the most part between the two-people
involved. From the advances in technology people are able to share every part of their lives.
From this, there is a new pressure that is put on relationships. People feel the urge to post when
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their significant other does something for them, or to post there significant other to show their
Another aspect that social media sites have heightened in relationships is jealousy. Being
able to get a form of temptation 24 hours out of the day, can bring a sense of uneasiness to your
partner. This is a problem that is growing, and has made it harder to have a serious relationship
in current time. Even though, this can bring out the green monster, it also can form a special
bond. From being drawn at all times during the day, it can create a form of trust that would not
A relationship formed today, compared to 50 years ago, has many different sides to it but
in reality, goes back to the core values. Trust, honesty, and attraction. Social media sites have
made these basic concepts more challenging to relationships, but it is another factor that society
must evolve with. As well as, showing its effect on an individual and how much it can change
our views on relationships and ourselves; going back to changing our views on those core values.
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Literature Review
Uncertainty, and Partner Surveillance on Facebook, discusses the different ways someone can
learn about an individual, and the easiness social media sites have provided to monitoring a
person, and seeing their interest. They discuss the different ways to interact through social
networking sites such as posting messages on each other’s profiles, searching a partner’s
extended network of friends, examine a partner’s history of post and pictures, and becoming
‘Facebook official.’. They explain, how someone may go through mutual friends to gain
information, or watch from afar – seeing how they interact with others, or go on to social media
sites to see the individual’s common uses. They discuss Tokunaga’s identification of the four
characteristics of social networking sites that promote interpersonal electronic surveillance (IES).
First, the easiness in accessing information. Secondly, there are multiple medias one can post,
giving the user access to different information. For example, a picture compared to a written
post. Next, how social networking sites are an archive of a person’s life. Lastly, being in close
While most of society is on a social networking site, there activity on the application
differs. In the article, The Role of Social and Parasocial Relationships on Social Networking
Sites Loyalty, it discusses the relations of a parasocial relationship and interpersonal relationship,
and social behavior. Three ways a parasocial relationship resembles an interpersonal relationship
are how each relationship are voluntary in nature, they both provide a form of companionship,
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and social attraction is a prerequisite. Showing, parasocial relationships form between people
Next, the role of social relationships. Social relationships refer to the sum of the social
interactions between people over time that can be positive or negative. It goes on to state the
positive aspects a social relationship may bring to a person. First, giving a person a sense of
identity, deterring them from feeling as if they were isolated. Also, the help of socializing online
can help a user deal with difficult and stressful situations better, then if they were to discuss in
person.
The last article I chose to explore a person’s presence online was, Why Men and Women
Continue to Sue Social Networking Sites: The role of gender differences. They discussed the
different affordances each gender gained from using social networking sites. First, they look at
each gender social norm. By an early age, girls are expected to be social and nurturing, while
boys are expected to be independent and assertive. But by looking at the belongingness theory,
both men and women are actively seeking a need for social connection, through different
strategies and criteria. Through the gender theory of self-construal, they look at what each gender
expects to help self-enhancement. Women tend to be motivated by maintaining close ties, getting
social information, and by relational uses. While men are driven by obtaining general
knowledge.
Relationships in Youth:
In the article, Youth and Intimate Media Cultures: Gender, Sexuality, Relationships, and
pertaining to adolescent’s perspective towards social networking sites. It examines how young
people consider online spaces an important part of their performances of intimacy, and thus are
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continuously balancing what they make public or private. For example, making a romantic
relationship public through a social networking site. Also, how young people present themselves
through social networking sites, and create an identity. Focusing on a picture, showing how a
picture can be used to judge if a person is authentic or not. By expressing oneself, but also
performing and promoting your real, authentic, self is the identity the younger audience
The next article brought to light, discusses two previous studies done on adolescent’s
romantic relationship. In, Exploring the Role of Social Networking Sites within Adolescent
Romantic Relationships and Dating Experience, they explored the characteristics discussed in
both studies. One of the similarities was the importance younger people had with sharing of
passwords. Both studies noted that teenagers regarded password sharing as a sign of trust and of
a committed relationship and that monitoring each other’s social networking sites was common
In the article by Daria J. Kuss and Mark D. Griffiths, they discuss, Social Networking
Sites and Addiction: Ten Lessons Learned. They observe the claims made by others that believe
social networking sites meet the basic human needs discussed in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. In
Maslow’s hierarchy, it is broke into different sectors. First, safety needs. These are met by social
networking sites being customizable with regards to privacy. Next, the associative needs are met
by letting users to ‘follow’ or ‘friend’ their peers. The need to estimate is fulfilled by users being
able to obtain ‘likes’, and compare themselves to others. Lastly, the need for self-realization is
fulfilled by presenting oneself in a way the person wants to be presented. From this relation to
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Maslow’s hierarchy they believe it to be the reason social networking sites are popular in today’s
society.
The benefits of social networking sites have been debated since social networking sites
emerged. In the article, The Social Side of Sustainability: Well-being as a Driver and an
Outcome of Social Relationships and Interactions on Social Networking Sites, shows the benefits
and contradictions. Through analyzing data from 2003 and 2011, they found for each minute of
online leisure time led to a decrease in socializing by .05 minutes. Also, by taking a look at
Facebook users over a fourteen-day period, they examined the impact social networking sites
have on a person’s well-being. Although, they were able to see the negative effects, there were
Some highlights from social networking site usage was from having the ability to be
intensifying one’s life satisfaction. Lastly, it stated that when a user is focused on close friends it
will enhance their own self-esteem, compared to someone focused on the quality of their social
network.
The last article, A Critical Consideration of Social Networking Sites’ Addiction Potential,
discusses how social networking sites may be considered addictive, but are also looked at as
problematic. They acknowledge how in the eighties, 65-70% of adults believed that TV was
addictive, but only a few considered themselves addicted. They correlated this to teens and social
networking sites. Younger generations use the word ‘addiction’ in passing making it have a less
significant impact when used. While addiction in most cases is used in a more serious tone, from
using it so vaguely, it does not mean that people are addicted to social networking sites because
they will dedicate more time to the application; but instead is considered problematic.
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Research Question: How does social networking sites improve or destroy relationships?
Variables
Dependent Variable: Effect social networking sites have on one’s romantic relationship
Methodology
For my research question, the effect social networking sites have on improving or
destroying relationships, I will be using a quantitative approach. From this research method, I am
able to reach a wide range of couples varying in age, and be able to compare my findings with
answer online. The questions I asked my participants included nine multiple choice, and five
open-ended questions for them to fill-in. I hope by giving my participants the option to express
themselves, it will not limit them to the multiple-choice answers, but let them freely express their
own opinions. Some of the multiple-choice questions were, “Do you trust your significant
other’s online activity?” and offered the options, yes-trustworthy, maybe-uncertainty, and no-
untrustworthy. Another question asked was, “Would you say the impact of social media sites on
your relationship was mostly positive or mostly negative?” with the options, positive, negative,
questions like, “What is the most you have done, in changing your relationship because of social
media?”, and asking how often they compare their relationship to others through social media.
When researching this topic, I found a multitude of studies done on adolescents, college
students, and the relationship between child and parent. This brought the curiosity to surface, of
does growing up in different eras effect someone’s outlook on relationships and social
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networking sites. This led to the decision of using relationships in three different age cohorts.
First, the millennial generation and generation Z. Generation Z, is the newest age cohort of them
all, and includes anyone born in 1997 and up. I only gave this survey to people above the age 18,
because from recent research it shows relationships that start before 18, are not deemed as
significant and long lasting. Since this age cohort is only including a couple of years in it, I also
included the millennial generation; Making the first age cohort participants between the ages 18-
35. Next, generation X, ages 35 to 50. Lastly, the Baby Boomer Generation, ages 51 to 69. I
chose to stop my population at 69 years of age because the last two generations, only make up
about 13 percent of adult population, and are not as likely to use social networking sites. While
the baby boomer generation is still considered more mature, they are still young enough to be on
In order to obtain enough couples from each age group, I decided to share this survey
with couples I personally knew, that were able to have access to the questionnaire through an
online link to Qualtrics. The survey was shared through text, and was kept anonymous to respect
the participant’s relationship, as well as in hopes to get answers that are more honest. To identify
my gathered data once collected, Qualtrics provided answers given by participants. Using charts
Participants
- The objective was to survey at least 5 couples within each age cohort.
Sampling Procedure
- Convenience sampling: data collection from members who are willing to participate due
to time restriction
Data Collection
- Fourteen questions will be asked through Qualtrics; nine multiple choice, five open-
ended.
boyfriend/girlfriend).
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Findings
A total of 34 participants answered the survey;14 people ranged from the ages 18-34, 10
users, followed by Facebook with 8 users, and YouTube with 4 users. Out of the 34 participants,
men said they use these applications two to three hours a day, while majority of women stated to
use social networking sites for an hour a day. Participants were also asked what stage their
relationship was currently in with the options, married, been together for 7+ years but do not
it on a scale of 1 to 10, with majority choosing 10, there was a mean of 9.29, showing almost all
relationships in the study were considered serious. From the results above, it showed the
significance within a person’s everyday life. From this I wanted to see how social networking
First, I asked whether the participant felt social networking sites had a positive or
negative impact on their relationship. As well as, if participants trust their significant other on
social networking sites. Almost all participants deemed their significant other trustworthy, with
one participant choosing maybe, having some uncertainty. While, all participants trusted their
significant other, 8 participants said it has had a negative impact on their relationship, 7 said it
had a positive impact, and the remaining 18 stated to have no impact on their relationship.
Lastly, when looking at the age cohort, 18-35, 50% of participants stated to changing
their behavior. Many of the answers received were, “stop following an ex”, and, “not liking other
dude’s photos”. Another question asked was how often they monitor their significant others
social media profile. Looking at the results above, one can see most people stated to trusting their
significant other, but 81.25% participants between the ages 18-35, admitted to checking their
significant others profile. With 100% of the participants between the ages 36-50, admitting to
checking it, and 40% of participants checking their significant others profile between the ages
51-69.
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Discussion
The data collected agreed with the academic scholars in my literature review. Looking at
my literature review, Ouystel, Gool, Walrave, Ponnet, and Peters, discusses the significance of
trust. Looking at sharing passwords as a form of trust. My findings agreed with this, that trust is
a major aspect within a relationship, by sharing passwords with one another, it forms a new sense
of trust and makes uncertainty diminish. Also, looking at how the different genders value social
networking sites. Krasnova, Veltri, Eling, and Buxmann observe the different characteristics
each gender is naturally drawn too and what they deem important. This is shown through my
research by looking at the results from participants. When men were asked to leave any
additional comments, most stated that these applications have made their significant other more
jealous. A male participant stated, “It doesn’t affect it too much, but definitely adds to some
uncertainty and being jealous on her end.” While women are looked at as nurturing and caring.
This related back to my research by most women participants stating an emotional pull towards
conflict within their relationship. A female participant stated, “It takes up a lot of time when you
From my findings, we can also conclude there is always some sort of minor impact from
social networking sites. Whether that is uncertainty within oneself, or not trusting one’s partner,
or being the root of conflict. While most couples stated to have no impact from social
networking sites, when asked if they would change anything within their relationship due to
social networking sites, majority responded with some sort of changing statement. From this we
can see that while the change may be a small act, it is still some sort of change that we should be
aware of. Looking at the impact social networking sites have on strong relationships, we should
be aware of the growing popularity social networking sites have opposed on society, specifically
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within younger generations. This research helped recognize the areas in which people feel
effected by social networking sites. Also, how these applications can test a relationships trust, by
looking at how they interact with others through social networking sites, access to accounts, and
When conducting this research, it brought to mind a couple different questions. Since this
study was strictly with participants in relationships currently, I feel it made their answers shift to
showing how strong their relationship is now, instead of looking at if there was any issues or
uncertainty within the relationship. With that said, I think it would be interesting to look at
couples who have separated, and see if there was any influence from social networking sites. If
this study was to be conducted, I would change a couple aspects of the study. First, I would want
to make almost all questions open-ended, besides questions about a person’s demographics. I
found, by putting the open-ended questions, participants answered with more detail, and was able
to say exactly what had happened; instead of being limited to answers already provided. Also, I
would like to ask a couple more questions such as, what reason do you use social networking
sites for? Or, when using social networking sites, has it ever effected your outlook on yourself?
Please explain. From these, I believe it could give a better insight on why a person can justify
certain actions through a social networking site involving their relationships. Also, I think it
would be interesting to see these aspects within a younger generation. Looking at romantic
relationships in adolescents, I think it would be interesting to see the difference in actions and
concerns. Since the younger generation has grown up with social networking sites, it is
understandable to see why they value these applications. By studying a couple who are together,
and ones who have broken up, I wonder how big of an effect social networking sites have on
Conclusion
With social networking sites becoming extremely popular in today’s society I knew
researching something with social networking sites would not only be beneficial to the reader,
but also to myself. After, brainstorming multiple topics I chose social networking sites and
romantic relationships. As part of the research, the data collected allowed me to analyze what
features in social networking sites, affect a romantic relationship. As well as, letting me explore
the differences between generations, and genders. My findings showed that while all couples
trusted there significant other, there was always a sense of uncertainty from either side.
Therefore, suggesting that social networking sites are a big factor in negatively affecting
relationships, supporting my research question. Looking at the different age cohorts, social
networking sites had the most effect on the millennial generation, but still had some effect on the
other age cohorts as well. Likewise, women valued quality time with their significant other,
saying how social networking sites created issues by taking away time with each other. While,
men stated social networking sites created jealousy within their relationships. Creating conflict
Limitations
Due to this being conducted over a short amount of time, it made the project have
limitations on its data collection. I believe the method of choice was appropriate, but if was
conducted again, I would like to make all questions open-ended. Also, from having a limited
time to conduct the research, the number of participants was limited to people I personally knew.
From this, it made me consider if I was able to conduct random sampling, how the results would
differ. Lastly, location was my last limitation. Most of my participants were from California and
Hawaii, two very democratic states. If I was able to open this survey to anyone, I would like to
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see how location plays as a factor in a person’s perspective with social networking sites and
relationships.
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Appendix:
Survey Questionnaire:
2-3 hours
3-5 hours
5 or more hours
Snapchat
YouTube
4. Do you have access (i.e. passwords) to your partner’s social media sites?
Once a day
2 times a day
3 times a day
4 times a day
6. Relationship Status:
Married
Legally married (been together for 7+ years but do not have an official marriage
license)
Engaged
Boyfriend/girlfriend
Single
7. Age/Gender:
Yes, trustworthy
Maybe, Uncertainty
No, untrustworthy
9. Thinking about your current relationship, would you say social media sites have had a
Major
Minor
None
10. Would you say the impact of social media sites on your relationship was mostly
Positive
Negative
11. On a scale from 1-10, how serious are you about your current relationship?
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12. What is the most you have done, in changing your relationship because of social
media?
13. At what point (if ever) did social media sites start to affect your relationship?
Never
1-2 months
3-5 months
6-8 months
9-11 months
1 year+
Other: