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3. FRUSTRATION results from unfulfilled EXPECTATIONS. (What was I expecting that didn’t occur?)
8. The way of a FOOL is RIGHT in his own EYES. (Found in the Old Testament)
(Even a person who is “not” all there thinks he is always right)
Control group – That portion of the sample which is treated the same as
independent variable.
Hypothesis – A speculative statement about a variable or the relationship
between variables.
studied.
between given variables. (More he ate, the more the taste went down,
Probability (random) sample – A sample in which each person has the same
inquiry.
sample.
Validity – Occurs when the results the researcher finds reflect the true
Structure: the basic makeup of the family, Therapists pay attention to the
o Rules
o Roles
o Patterns
Functionalism – how well the individual; roles witing the family are
managed.
Homeostasis – balance
Definite male and female roles are assigned and maintained ( things have
now changed)
Societal and cultural contexts which surround the individual and the family
Microsystem –
Mesosystem
Exosystem
Macrosystem
Chronosystem
productive manner.
Conflict Theory
o Size
o Gender inequality
o Strength
o Money
o Secrets (knowledge)
other.
View families as a horizontal system, one is not bigger or better than the
No element should block or hinder the relationship between any two other
There is no way the mom should come between the relationship of a father
and child.
Each person needs to let individuals work out their own relationships.
homeostasis)
the system.
Maintaining Feedback = Status quo, satisfaction “That was a good job and
Motivating Feedback = Encourage positive change, “You did really well and I
People act towards one another on the basis of the meanings they perceive.
Emphasis is on the verbal and non verbal symbols used to convey meaning.
Our thoughts impact our perceived meaning and the language we use to act.
Parenting roles
stones can break the bones, when thrown with angry art. Words can sting
like anything, but silence breaks the heart.” The silence that is destructive
communication.
permeable in the female, which makes it easier to switch from the right
and left hemispheres. This is a theory, but probably true. This is why
Handout
Talcott Parsons
The Individual develops - Freud, Erikson, Piaget, Maslow, Skinner
Age of Child
Role of parent
Action taken
Parents made the mistake of staying in the advisor role when the child
turns 20, the parent should be the Consultant, not the Advisor.
(Consultant)
Systems Therapist)
other
one is not bigger or better than the other, this is what systems theory
reports.
should come between the relationship of a father and child. Each person
needs to let individuals work out their own relationships. This is why
homeostasis)
of the system.
Communication Process
Handout on BB
communicating.
productive.
"Sticks and stones can break the bones when thrown with angry art.
Words can sting like anything, but silence breaks the heart."
Impact = What possible effect might this message have on the receiver?
communication
*I DON'T REMEMBER HEARING IT" they do not ever accuse one another
chart.....
1. Sender - Encode
3. Receiver - Decode
and attention.
Share observations rather than inferences (the "what" rather than the
"why")
Recognize the ale of the msg to the receiver rather than to the sender.
(motive)
The filter may be affected by such things as: Lack of interest in the
Prolonged Silence
Criticism
mean another.
Demonstrate attention
communication
Paraphrase,
Poor timing
Incomplete statements
Assuming what your partner is thinking and feeling and not allowing
You can't prescribe medication until you know what is wrong. This is
why there is Con-joint therapy so you can see what is going on.
UNABLE UNWILLING
REMEMBER:
DIAGNOSIS MUST PRECEDE PRESCRIPTION
compare scores.
Re: Theories and Names connected w/ Family Studies (Very brief and general statements)
Uri Bronfenbrenner = Ecological theory, the individual and his or her environment
Albert Bandura = social learning theory, observational learning, person, behavior, environment
1. Talcott Parsons
* Stuctural Functionalism, homeostatisis, strict roles, rules and pattenrs, expressive and
instrumental roles. Know Instrumental and Expressive
Instumental - given to the man, to keep the family going
Expressive - schema is the emotional one, which belongs to the female.
Homeostasis-if nothing changes, nothing will change
2. Uri Bronfenbrenner
• Ecological Theory - 5 Systems, Meso, Micro, etc.., the individual and his or her environment
Learning Theory
Ivan Pavlov
- Classical conditioning, between two stimuli, salivating dogs
B.F. Skinner
-Operant Conditioning, behaviorism, response/stimulus, reward and punishment
Rewarded behavior continues....which is learning theory
Another way is Negative Reinforcement, take away a negative reinforcer.
Negative Punishment - you do this, you will be punished this way
Reinforcement will INCREASE the behavior
-Positive Reinforcement -
-Negative Punishment -
-Positive Punishment - something bad can be started, behavior decreases
-Negative Reinforcement - something bad can be taken away
Albert Bandura
-Social learning theory, observation learning, Person Behavior, Environment
Developmental Theories
Jean Piaget
-Cognitive Devleopment - stages
Erik Erickson
-(send note to professor to give us the summary sheet on these Theorists)
Lev Vygotsky
-no stages, children learn through environmental interactions
Psychoanalytic Theories
Sigmund Freud
-Psychosexual focus, stages and fixation
Anna Freud (his daughter)
-defense mechanisms, children and families
Alfred Adler (was with Freud)
-Individual psychology, family focus
Others
Sandra Bem
-does concept called Androgyny., can take a test to see if we have more feminine or masculine
traits.
-Sex role, inventory,
MMPI personality Inventory test...one of the scales is an MF scale. The more educated a person
is, the more Androgyny's they become.
Virginia Satir
-Conjoint family therapy, no "identified patient" (IP)
Book...People Making by Virginia Satir (dea of self and value of self)
Troy Beckert
-Dr. Beckert's son
-Cognitive autonomy, ability to make and analyze decisions (writing a book on adolescence as
far as their autonomy goes.) Encyclopedia of Adolescence is the name of the book.
CHAPTER 1:
1. Is it possible, even with patience and STUDY, for a couple to enter marriage totally
PREPARED for whatever they might encounter?
2. Family transcends RACE, RELIGION, ETHNICITY and SEXUAL orientation.
3. The better prepared we are for MARRIAGE, the GREATER the possibility for success in our
homes.
4. When it comes to understanding about working with families, the terms “EDUCATION” and
“INTERVENTION” are not synonymous.
5. Research indicates that “EDUCATION” is generally more effective than “INTERVENTION”
relative to helping families succeed.
6. The primary suggestion of the poem: “Ambulance in the Valley” is that PREVENTION is
better than a CURE .
7. The definition used to describe Family Life Education has CHANGED over the past forty
years.
8. It is NOT likely that any one individual or group could arrive at a one-size-fits-all definition of
“FAMILY.”
9. There is a significant difference between a “FAMILY” and a “HOUSEHOLD.”
10. The primary difference between our family of ORIGIN and our family of PROCREATION is
the role we play within it. In the former we are the CHILD, in the latter we are the PARENT.
11. Some say it is IMPOSSIBLE for us to overcome the influences of the family in which we are
reared, but they are WRONG.
12. The family is a DYNAMIC rather than a STATIC unit of society.
13. The “NUCLEAR FAMILY” no longer represents the most modern configuration of a family
unit. (MOM, DAD, KIDS)
14. The concept of an “EXTENDED family” suggests two or more generations of close family
RELATIVES living together.
15. The majority of single-parent homes are headed by MOTHERS rather than by FATHERS.
16. Couples consider themselves “CHILD-FREE” if they choose to not bring children into the
world, if they are trying but not succeeding, they are “CHILDLESS.”
17. A “RECONSTITUTIONAL family” is another label for a “STEP FAMILY .” (BLENDED)
18. COHABITATION refers to unmarried couples who choose to live together, whether or not
they are PLANNING on a future MARRIAGE to each other.
19. It remains politically INCORRECT to refrain from calling gay and lesbian couples living
together a family while LEGALLY they are not.
20. It would be INCORRECT to state that the American Family is in a state of decline and
deterioration. Each opinion is based upon individual EXPECTATIONS.
21. In reality, there remains a “SOCIAL class” in the American culture.
22. The terms “RACE” and “ETHNICITY” are NOT synonymous when referring to families.
23. Race refers to GENETICS and ethnicity refers to CULTURE.
24. In some cultures marriage is a “__________” rather than a “____________ .”
25. There is a FEDERAL law which confirms that marriage is a legal union of one man and one
woman as husband and wife. Passed in 1996 and is called the Defense of MARRIAGE Act.
26. In America, marriage involves a LEGAL CONTRACT .
27. MONOGAMY is the more widely accepted marriage union in America.
28. A POLYGAMIST can be either a man or a woman.
29. One man with two or more wives would constitute POLYGYNY.
30. One woman with two or more husbands would constitute POLYANDRY.
31. CENOGAMY refers to GROUP marriages.
32. Understanding the DEVELOPMENTAL processes we all experience will help us keep our
EXPECTATONS realistic and in perspective, thus avoiding serious FRUSTRATION.
33. Most DEVELOPMENTAL tasks we experience as part of a family are relatively PREDICATABLE
points in our lives.
34. There is a FAMILY life cycle as well as a HUMAN life cycle.
35. The family life cycle:
a. Leaving home (personal RESPONSIBILITY)
b. The new couple (COMMITMENT to a relationship)
c. Families w/ children (accepting new MEMBERS )
d. Families w/ teens (permitting and encouraging INDEPENDENCE)
e. Launching children and moving on (experiencing SEPARATION)
f. Families in later life (accepting GENERATIONAL roles)
36. The human life cycle:
a. Infancy (0-2 years)
i. SURVIVAL and ADJUSTMENT
b. Early childhood (2-6 years)
i. CURIOSITY and ACQUISITION
c. Middle childhood (7-12 years)
i. INDEPENDENCE and MASTERY
d. Adolescence (13-19 years)
i. PEER GROUP and SELF CONCEPT
e. Early adulthood (19-34 years)
i. COUPLING and FAMILY
f. Middle adulthood (35-60 years)
i. SANDWICH GENERATION; parents and children
g. Late middle adulthood (61-74 years)
i. WISDOM and COMPLETION
h. Late adulthood (75+ years)
i. RETROSPECTION and legacy
37. Research indicates that if your parents did NOT have children, it is UNLIKELY you will
experience having them.
General Differences between Men and Women (Note: Not all men nor all women fit
neatly into these general categories, but many do)
1. The primary source of self-esteem for men involves their OCCUPATION, the MONEY
they earn, and SERVICES provided to others while women tend to focus on their
HOME, HUSBAND, FAMILY and CHILDREN (APPEARANCE).
3. Men view life in COMPARTMENTS and SEGMENTS while women seem more
INTERGRATED and often see the WHOLES picture.
4. Men know they don’t UNDERSTAND women while women think they UNDERSTAND
men. (From female point of view)
5. Men tend to miss SUBTLE CUES while women tune into them.
6. Men have less MEMORY for detail while women seem to NOTICE and REMEMBER
everything.
7. Men tend to be TASK oriented while women are motivated toward PEOPLE. (Now
becoming less and less the case)
8. Men seek to PLEASE their wives while women tend to CARE for their husbands.
9. Men form and maintain relationships by DOING THINGS together while women
enjoy CONVERSATION.
10. Men like to work things out in their HEADS, while women prefer to work them out
with OTHER PEOPLE.
11. WOMEN TEND TO LIVE IN THE PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE, WHILE MEN TEND TO
ONLY LIVE IN THE PRESENT.
12. MEN TEND TO SHUT THE DOOR AND MOVE ON, MAY NOT LEARN FROM THE PAST.
1. Operational Definition:
2. “When the needs, wants, wishes, and desires of one partner are in opposition to the needs,
wants, wishes, and desires of the other.”
Levels of Support
1. Foundation Statements:
a. Conflict exists when the needs, wants, and expectations of one individual are
in opposition with the needs, wants, and expectations of the other.
b. Conflicts can provide opportunities for person and relational growth.
c. Conflict and contention are not the same.
d. Conflict is inevitable, contention is avoidable.
e. Most conflicts can be satisfactorily resolved.
f. Conflicts surrounding values are the most difficult to resolve
g. Frustration results from unfulfilled expectations.
h. Mutual motivation and participation are critical if a conflict is to be effectively
resolved.
i. Something has to change or the conflict will continue.
j. Negotiation generally requires movement by both parties from their points of
origin.
6. We are allowed to have an opinion which differs from others in the family.
9. We are able to share our thoughts and feelings without upsetting other family
members.
10. We are generally able to "talk out" our problems with one another.
12. We call "time out" when emotions are running too hot.
Financial Security & Support Domestic Support Shared Interests and Activities
* William Harley, His Needs, Her Needs, How to Build an Affair Proof Marriage
9. Your respect and admiration for me means more than from any other source.
10. I may look tough on the outside but I'm tender on the inside.
TEN THINGS WIVES WANT THEIR HUSBANDS TO KNOW ABOUT
WOMEN
3. Sex and affection are not the same and I need affection from you.
5. I need to hear how much you love me and if you talk to me before you touch me my response
will generally be more positive.
7. I am not asking for a solution when I tell you about a problem. I just want to share it with
someone.