Integration of Learnings

“Now what I would like to do is to make a suggestion. And of course, this is

only a suggestion.

And what I'd like to do is to suggest to the unconscious portion of each of both
of you, [ whose communication I have been delighted to receive today (optional) ]

That since it has represented for you at the unconscious level all the
experiences which have occurred, both consciously and otherwise, that it
make use of the natural process of dreaming and sleep, which will occur
tonight as a natural course in your life, as an opportunity to sort through the
experiences of today.

And represent even more usefully than up to this point the material which you
have learned without fully realizing it, so that in the days and the weeks and
the months ahead you will be able to discover to your delight that you are
doing new things.

You had learned new things without even knowing it, and you will be
delightfully surprised to find them in your behaviour.

So if you should happen to remember, or not, your dreams, which we hope

will be bizarre this evening, allowing you to rest peacefully, so that you can
arise and be alert and refreshed, ready to learn new and exciting things.”
 Installing New Resources#1
Get comfortable and close your eyes. Take a couple of deep breaths
and relax.

“Sometime within the last five years, each of you has had a very strong
experience in which you learned something of great value for yourself as a
human being.

You may or may not have a conscious appreciation of exactly which episode
in your life history this is.

I would like you to allow that experience to come up into your consciousness.

Sit there for a moment, with feelings of comfort and strength, knowing you're
actually here, now.

With those feelings of comfort and strength, let yourself see and hear again
what it was that happened to you back there. There are additional things to be
learned from that experience.

I would like you to allow yourself the treat of seeing and hearing yourself go
through that again so as to make new understandings and learnings which
are embedded in that experience in your past history....

And when you've seen and heard something that you believe to be of value
for yourself, I would like you to pick a specific situation that you know will
occur within the next couple of weeks.

Notice—again by watching and listening with feelings of strength and comfort

—how you can apply that new learning and that new understanding to this
new situation that is going to arise in the next couple of weeks…

In so doing you are making elegant use of your own personal history, and you
are transferring understandings and learnings from one part of your personal
history, so as to increase your choices as a creative human being in the
present.

Take all the time you need… And when you finish, drift back,
[ and rejoin me....Now I'd like you to begin to drift back slowly (optional) ]

understanding that if you've completed the process to the best of your

conscious understanding, fine.... If you haven’t yet finished, you’ve set into
motion a process which can be completed comfortably outside of your
awareness as you return your attention slowly here to this room....”
 Installing New Resources#2
Get comfortable and close your eyes. Take a couple of deep breaths
and relax.

“Now what I would like to do is to make a suggestion. And of course, this is

only a suggestion.

That your unconscious minds would make a useful representation necessary

for your (wellbeing) [or what is useful for the client], so that in the weeks and
days and months ahead you can be delightfully surprised by new patterns
occurring in your behaviour.

And I suggest to your unconscious mind that you make use of the natural
processes of sleep and dreaming, to review any experiences that have
occurred, and sort out those things that your unconscious believes will be
useful for you to know, making a useful representation at the unconscious
level, meanwhile allowing you to sleep deeply and soundly, so that in the days
and weeks and months to come, you can discover yourself doing things that
you didn't know you learned about here, so as to constantly increase, at the
unconscious level, your repertoire in responding to people who come to you
for assistance....

And you didn't even know they were there… Not at all…

The last time that I talked to [...an authority figure that is appropriate for the
client], he said something to me.

And as I was sitting there in front of him, it didn't make sense. Most of his
covert metaphors have made... eons of sense to me.

But he said something to me which would have taken me a while to figure out.

[…..an authority figure that is appropriate for the client ] said to me

"You don't consider yourself a (……..), but you are a (……..)"

And I said "Well, not really."

He said "Well, let's pretend... that you're a (…….) who works with people. The
most important thing ... when you're pretending this ... is to understand... that
you are really not.... You are just pretending.... And if you pretend really well,
the people that you work with will pretend to make changes. And they will
forget that they are pretending... for the rest of their lives. But don't you be
fooled by it."
And then he looked at me and he said: "Goodbye."
 Could be said at the beginning
of a Therapy/Hypnosis session

"If anything begins to occur to your conscious mind which is too painful in any
way, I want to say to your unconscious mind that I think it has the right and
the duty to keep from your conscious mind anything that is unpleasant.

Your unconscious resources can do that and they should do it—protect

you from thinking about things which are unnecessary in that way, and
make your conscious experience more pleasant.

So if anything unpleasant begins to arise in your conscious experience, your

unconscious mind can slowly allow your eyes to flutter closed, one of your
hands to rise up, and your conscious mind can drift away into a pleasant
memory, allowing me to speak privately with your unconscious mind.

Because I don't know what the worst thing that ever happened to you
was...."
 The “Dreaming Arm” technique
(good for Kids and Adults)

First you ask

“Did you know you have a dreaming arm?”

When you have their interest, you ask

“What is your favorite TV show?”

As they access visually, you notice which side their eyes go to.
As they do that, you lift up their arm on the same side, and say

“I'm going to lift your arm, and your arm will go down only as fast as you
watch that whole TV show, and you can begin right now.”

So the kid watches his favorite TV show.

You can even reach out and stop their arm for a moment and say

“It's time for a commercial”

and install messages [insert suggestions]

 Useful Metaphor for Change

Some fifteen or so years ago when the Denver zoo [or any park which is
familiar to the client: eg. Seaworld] was going through a major renovation, there
was a polar bear there, which had arrived at the zoo before a naturalistic
environment was ready for it.

Polar bears, by the way, are one of my favorite animals. They are very playful;
they are big and graceful and do lots of nice things.

The cage that it was put in temporarily was just big enough that the polar bear
could take three nice, swinging steps in one direction, whirl up and around
and come down and take three steps in the other direction, back and forth.

The polar bear spent many, many months in that particular cage with those
bars that restricted its behavior in that way.

Eventually a naturalistic environment in which they could release the polar

bear was built around this cage, on-site.

When it was finally completed, the cage was removed from around the polar
bear.

Guess what happened? ...

And guess how many of those students at that university are still going down
the maze, still trying to find the five-dollar bill?

They sneak in at night and run down the maze to look and see if it just
might be there this time.
 Story for Motivation and Congruency and
promoting Generative Change
“Have you read Carlos Castenada?”

There's a section in book two or three in which Don Juan gives a piece of
advice to Carlos. I would not give this piece of advice to you, but we will
repeat it for whatever it's worth.

You see, what Juan wanted to do to Carlos—which I wouldn't, of course,

want to do to you—was to find some way of motivating him to be
congruent and expressive in his behavior at all times, as creative as he
could be as a human being.

He wanted to mobilize his resources so that each act that Carlos performed
would be a full representation of all the potential that was available to him—all
the personal power that he had that was available to him at any moment in
time.

Specifically what Juan told Carlos was

"At any moment that you find yourself hesitating, or if at any moment you find
yourself putting off until tomorrow trying some new piece of behavior that you
could do today, or doing something you've done before, then all you need to
do is glance over your left shoulder and there will be a fleeting shadow.That
shadow represents your death, and at any moment it might step forward,
place its hand on your shoulder and take you. So that the act that you are
presently engaged in might be your very last act and therefore fully
representative of you as your last act on this planet."

One of the ways you can use this constructively is to understand that it is
indulgent to hesitate.

When you hesitate, you are acting as though you are immortal. And you are
not. You don't even know the place and the hour of your death.

And so one thing you can do... to remind yourself that not to bother to hesitate
is not to act unprofessional... is to just suddenly glance over your left shoulder
and remember that death is standing there, and make death your advisor. He
or she will always tell you to do something representative of your full potential
as a person. You can afford no less. Now, that's a little bit heavy.

That's why I wouldn't tell that to you. I offer you an alternative.

 “If at any point you discover yourself hesitating, or being incongruent, or
putting off until tomorrow something you could try now, or just needing some
new choices, or being bored, glance over your right shoulder and there will be
someone there, sitting on stool, insulting you.”

And as soon as that person finishes the insults, you may ask me any
question. And that's just one way that your unconscious can present to you all
that it has learned and integrated.

[ Now, there's only one other thing that I would like to do. And that is to say....
“Goodbye!” (optional) ]
 What is NLP, a Simple Explanation
NLP can eliminate many of the difficulties and hazards of living that we now
experience, and make learning and behavioural change much easier, more
productive, and more exciting.

There is an old story of a boilermaker who was hired to fix a huge

steamship boiler system that was not working well. After listening to the
engineer's description of the problems and asking a few questions, he
went to the boiler room. He looked at the maze of twisting pipes, listened
to the thump of the boiler and the hiss of escaping steam for a few
minutes, and felt some pipes with his hands. Then he hummed softly to
himself, reached into his overalls and took out a small hammer, and tapped
a bright red valve, once. Immediately the entire system began working
perfectly, and the boilermaker went home.

When the steamship owner received a bill for $1,000 he complained that
the boilermaker had only been in the engine room for fifteen minutes, and
requested an itemized bill. This is what the boilermaker sent him:

For tapping with hammer: .50

For knowing where to tap: $ 999.50
Total: $1,000.00

What is really new in NLP is knowing exactly what to do, and how to
do it.