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INTERPERSONAL
UNDER WORLD
By Williavi C. Schutz interpersonal differences existing within a group
setting can be effectively handled by ignoring
Although the businessman must spend a ma- them — as if by the magie of closing your e\es
jor part; of his time dealing with other people, you could make problems go away. Rather, in-
he lias in the past had little help in overcoming terpersonal problems must be understood and
the difficulties that inevitably arise when people deaJt with. If ignored, they are usually trans-
get together. The terms which have been used formed so that they are not expressed direct-
to describe these problems — terms like "disci- ly as open hostility but find their expression
plinary problems," "human relations troubles," through the task behsvior of the group. Failure
or the currently popular "communications diffi- to allow these group processes to work in a direct
eulties" — have served only to hide the real fashion will decrease tlie group's productivity.
difficulties, for they are descriptions of symptoms. The types of bcha^•ior that result from inter-
The real causes must be sought at a deeper personal difficulties are various. In many cases
level; they lie in interpersonal relations. it is difficult to reeognize their conneetion Avith
In every meeting of two or more people two interpersonal relations in tbe work situation. To
levels of interaction occur. One is the overt — illustrate some of these more subtle connec-
the play that is apparently being played. The tions, T shall deseribe several behaviors result-
other is the covert — like a ballet going on in ing from, or symptomatie of, interpersonal diffi-
back of the performanee on the interpersonal culties, and then present a sampling of situations
stage — a subtle struggle for attention and status, giving rise to these behaviors.
for eontrol and influence, and for liking and
warmth. This ballet influences the performanee Behavioral Symptoms
by pushing the overt players into unusual pos-
tures ant! making them say and do unusual Generally, interpersonal problems lead indi-
viduals to resist eaeh other and each other's in-
things. Thus, the objective, hardheaded execu-
fluence in various ovtit, but more often covert,
tive is overtly very resistant to a splendid idea
ways. Eaeh individual may oppose, delay, fail
suggested by the brash young fellow who may to support, or saboti^ge another. The mecha-
someday replace him. But this example is mueh nisms to be diseussed here are largely covert, or
too obvious. The ballet's effect on the actors is unconscious; the individual does these things
usually more subtle. without being aware of his intention to resist
The importance of these covert factors can or obstruct.
hardly be overestimated. The productivity of
any particular group is profoundly inffuenced Communications Problems
by them. One of the main funetions of this ar- These days "eommunications problems" are
ticle is to attempt to dispel the idea that strong greatly emphasized as a souree of industrial difli-
AuTHOii's NOTE: For a fuller discussion of the points DUncnsionaJ Theory of Interpersonal Behavior, to be pub-
covered licrc, see my fortheoming book, FIRO: A Three- iished Jn August 1958 by Eincbart & Company, Inc.
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culty. This emphasis, however, seems misplaeed. C Tf a group member is supposed to look up some
For one thing, problems which are eaused by information which is needed for other members of
communications are due not to inadequate eom- the group to complete their work, he may just miss
munication but to too adequate communication, getting to the eompany library hefore Friday night
since what is transmitted most accurately be- elosing time. Therefore he will have to wait over
tween people is how they feel rather than what the weekend and, in the meantime, hold up two
they say. Thus, if the boss really feels his re- other people who are waiting for his report. Or
search scientist is not very important, tbat feel- perhaps some morning he will oversleep when he
shoukl be at the eoinmitlee meeting.
ing will be communicated to the scientist mueh
more readily than any words that pass between « Another individual does only what is required
them. T^or another thing, communications diffi- of him and nothing extra. Tf he works from nine
culties are primarily the result of interpersonal to five, he will leave promptly at five, for he eon-
diffieulties; they are seldom themseTv^es a pri- sidcrs his work a ehore, a task to be aceomplished
mary cause of problems. Resisting another per- and nothing more. Tf something goes wrong be-
son is of"tcn accomplished through the medium cause of someone else's error. Tie wiTT make no effort
of eomuiunication. Thus: to eonipensate for it. Tf Tie is not very busy and
someone else needs a hand, he will not lend it.
«[ \ person may find it difficult to understand All in all, he will do only the very minimum re-
what is being said, or, sometimes, actually not quired to retain his job.
hear what is said. Often a person feels eonftised; he
just eannot follow all the things that are going on. C Another manil;estation of a man's loss of moti-
Another sign of resistance is incoherent speech, vation is a sudden realization that his outside in-
mumbling, not bothering to make a point clear, or terests and commitments are mueh stronger than
not making sure that the listener has heard. All he had thought when the group began. T^e finds
of these oceurrenees impede the process of verbal that he has eonflictiiig meetings and other things
communication. to do whieh foree him to leave meetings early, to
arrive late, or perhaps even to miss one. Or he
C Tlesistanee may also take the form of forget- may have reports to write that prevent him from
ting to pick up a message that was to have been coming or working for this committee.
left on one's desk. Or one may forget to mail a
memo or leave a message of importance to someone € Chronic absenteeism or lateness is still an-
else; or the message may be garT)ied, ambiguous, other manifestation of an interpersonal difficulty.
of aetually contain a factual error. Similarly, mis- Perhaps a group member has an aetual illness or
reading and misinterpretation increase greatly in some conmiitmeut at home that preveuts his com-
situations of interpersonal strife. ing; there may be any one of a large numljer of
reasons for his absence or lateness, many of which
Tndividually, tlicse behaviors aTT appear to be are rational. But these situations may happen too
simpTe human failings and, indeed, in many often to make the whole pattern a rational one. Tf
cases may be only that. However, it is always a man has a meeting and the snow is heavy, it may
a good bet, especially when the incidents recur, be that he eannot make the meeting beeause of the
that they are unconsciously motivated by in- traffie situation; hut if it were a meeting which he
terpersonal differences. In short, interpersonal really wanted to attend, the snow would not be a
problems frequently find expression througb the great enough obstacle to prevent him from going.
obstruction of valid communication. Excessive € Also, a los.s of motivation very frequently ex-
communications problems can usually be inter- presses itself in an actual feeling of physical tired-
preted as a symptom of intcrpersonaT troubTe. ness. Handling emotional and interpersonal diffi-
culties is hard work, espeeially if it involves hold-
Loss of Motivation ing baek eertain strong feelings. This work actu-
Another expression of interpersonaT probTems ally makes the individual so tired that lie has great
is tTie Toss of motivation to work on a task. In difficulty in bringing himself to work and to perse-
vere on a job onee it is begun. It often happens
innumerable ways the individual s work beeomes that an individual who feels completely exhausted
ineffective because he Tacks the desire to pro- in one part of his work situation miraculously perks
duce. The accumuTation of many minor ineffi- up when a new task comes along or when he goes
cieneies amounts to the equivaTent of Tosing tTie home to a more enjoyable activity. Again, this is
serviees of a group member or a part of one not a case of deliberate malingering. TTie person
or more members' resources and abilities. For actually feels tired. When the conBict-inditeing
example: situation is removed, the tiredness lifts.
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In general, what is happening is that a person group is unable to tell anybody no, sinee to make
sudden!)' fintis that other groups in which his such a decision involves saying yes to the pro-
interpersonal relations are happier are more im- ponents of another view. Compromises are then
portant than the present group, and hence his put through that satisfy neither side and that
motivation to work in tbe situation is reduced. certain]} do not accomplish the task as effec-
\ man will seek a situation in which lie is tiveh as the group could under optimal c(jndi-
happiest and will attempt to avoid unpleasant tions. The compromise is really one between
situations as far as possible. In other words, the individuals who are in conflict, and not a
hv escapes the situation h)' withdrawing his compromise, essentially, of tbe issues of the case.
involvement. Another s\mpto!ii of interpersonal problems
in a group is incfficiert division of labor. If the
Tndiscriminatc C)])p{)sili()ii relationships among the men are poor, difficul-
ties arise as soon as it comes time to assign dif-
Another category of responses to interpersonal ferent roles and di^ ide the labor so that the group
difficulties involves direet blockage of aetion. ean operate more clfectively. Strongly held in-
This mecbanisin is often (|uite overt and con- terpersonal feelings pievent the group from say-
scious, liut it likewise has many covert and ing no to somehody who wants to he in a
uncoiiscicnis forms. particular position in the group hut vvhtmi the
A symptom of a bad relationship is resistance other mcjubers eonsitier unsuilcd to that posi-
to suggestions. It uiay happen that an indivitlual tion. This person may, therefore, he put into
in tbe group makes suggestions which are op- the role anyway, to the detriment of the func-
posctl hy atiother member regardless of their tioning of the group. For example:
merit. As soon as the first member begins to
talk, the seeond man •— because he feels hos- In one groLip of marketing personnel ibere was
tile to the first — feels a surge of resistance or a man of clearly outstanding abilities regarding
reluctance to acccjit anything he is going to ideas for the solution of tlie group's problem. Be-
hear. Tbis is, of eourse, not beneficial from the cause of his strength and dominance in the group
standpoint of tbe group, because a very good he vvas aeceptetl as the leader. One result of this
suggestion may he rejected for irrelevant per- was that he was nol in a very good position to ex-
sonal reasons. press his ideas, since ;:s the leader he had to as-
Tbe manner in vvbicTi such opposition is sume a conciliator role; thus, his virtue as a mem-
ber who could contribute to the suhstanee of the
manifested is often very subtle. Tf an antagonist group's task was diminished.
makes a suggestion, ratTier than use direct at- A second result was that he coukl not aet as a
tack an individiuiT may say smilingly, "That good administrator, that is, eouki not effectively
sounds interesting, hut perhaps if we tried this coordinate the efforts of the other group memhers.
other method it would be even more effective." So, hy not being able to say no to this person, or by
Another techni(jue is to postpone a decision on not being able to diseuss more openly the best use
an oji|i()ne7it's suggestion. The parliamentary lo be made of his abilities, the group lost in two
procedure of "tabling'' is one formal method, as verv important ways.
are setting up investigating eommittees, consid-
ering other matters first, offering amendments, Another frequent instance of this difficulty is
or being unavailable for a meeting to decide on putting a man who is extremely capable in a
the suggestion. Undoubtedly the experienced subordinate role, with the result that his abili-
husinessuian can extend this list indefinitely. ties cannot be utilized by the group. Thus:
Again, it is important to note that, although In a diff'erent group the phejiomenon opposite to
the techniques are often deliberately used, they the previous example occurred, resulting in equal
are perhaps used even more often without the injury to the group's performance. T3ecause of per-
user's avvareness of his motivation. sonal hostility from several other members the
most competent man vvas relegated to the role of
Operational Problems secretary. There his time was consumed taking
jninutes, and his stellar abilities were wasted.
There are several ailments ol total group
functioning that are symptomatic of interper- In general, then, ability to jilace men prop-
sonal diffieulties. In most eases, difficulty in erly within a group is one indication of good
reaching decisions is a sure indication of inter- basic interpersonal relations, while inahility is
personal strife. This usually implies that the a sign that there must be something wrong
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among the people that prevents them from using /Vgaiu, observations of tbe group throughout the
their resources optimally. term indicated a possible reason. 'T'he group had
had a serious interpersonal blowup at one point,
Task Distortions and the members had decided to go their separate
ways. The result of this tieeision vvas autonomous
Interpersonal difficulties are almost invariabh' operation hy the individual members of the group.
refleeted in a group's performanee on its task, Apparently tlie group members were luicoiiseiously
although at times these effects arc more obvious influenced by the faet that their group coukl oper-
than at others. Here are three examples of in- ate more effectively as autonomous individuals.
terpersonal problems heing expressed directly in
work hehavior, taken from groups of eight grad- Interpersonal problems are often worked out
uate students working on aetual industrial prob- on some aspect of the task that closely approxi-
lems at the Harvard Business School: mates the relationship which is of concern to
the group (eompany to dealer, company to con-
fi One of those groups was working on the prob- sumer, and so forth). In this way the tensions
lem of bringing out a new product for a major generated by the interpersonal problems can be
manufacturer. The members developed a market- relieved by symbolically displacing them into
ing strategy for this produet in which the big stress the work situation. Ihe drawback of this phe-
was on the image tliat the product would present nomenon is that, although it appears tbat the
to consumers. In fact, they put so mueh stress on group is very task-oriented, its work may in fact
the image that they neglected certain other factors. he quite inappropriate and inefficient at many
My observations of this group in operation indi-
cated the reason for the inefficient emphasis. From points.
the beginning certain men were assigned by the
group, not to the actual task, but to the presenta- Common Issues
tion to be made to the eompany at the completion
of the work. Some of them became very concerned W^e have looked at some of the behaviors
with the impression they would make — in fact which may be eonsidered symptomatic of inade-
more ct)ncerned with this than with the impression quate interpersonal relations. Certain problem
the product would make. Therefore, they uneon-
sciously sought the aspect of their assigned task situations that occur In group and interperson-
which vvouki allow them to work on their inter- al dealings vvith great frequency generate these
personal problem and anxiety and concentrated on symptoms. As an illustration of the nature of the
it to the consecjuent neglect of other factors whieh problems and some of their vicissitudes, I shall
were also important. now discuss three ol" them.
II Another group evolved a marketing strategy Consensus for Decision
for bringing out a family of products. On examina-
tion, it appeared that this product family was not In every group, sooner or later, a decision-
particularly well integrated. Tn addition, there vvas making apparatus must he agreed on. Whether
reason to helieve that a single product would be it he consensus, majority rule, luianimity, or any
more effective. other method, there must he some modus oper-
From interviews with the individual members andi for the grouj) to make decisions. By con-
and from observations of their working as a group, sensus 1 mean, here, that everyone in the group
it became clear that the family of products vvas is agreed tbat a certain course of action is best
a compromise solution. Certain memhers of the for the group, regardless of whether or not he
group had wanted one product; others Tiad wanted individually agrees with it. Ordinarily, if the
a different one. Tnstead of trying to w^ork out these group does not have consensus and a deeision
differences of opinion in terms of marketing con-
siderations, the group decided implicitly to bring goes through, the group pays. For instance:
out the whole family as a solution to their inter- Let us suppose that a group, perhaps a com-
personal problem. mittee, has gotten together with the task of decid-
•I Still another group devised a marketing solu- ing a particular issue. The issue has come to a
tion with a heavy emphasis on a decentralized dis- vote, ant! the vote is fairly decisive, say six to two.
tribution system. Tiut the company representatives The two people in the minority, however, do not
immediately wondered about the wisdom of using really t'eel that they have had an opportunity to
such autonomous distributors, since company-hired express their feelings about the issue, Although
distributors should lead to more profits. The group they are committetl to go along with the deci-
was at a loss to justify its own suggestion. sion, thev have an Inner reluctance to do so. This
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covert reluctance may manifest itselj" in any of the «l Another good indicator of lack of consensus
sunjitoms alreatly mentioned. Perhaps the most is any attempt by a member to postpone a decision
common svinptom is a loss of interest, although hy further discussion or by further action of some
this situation could be expected to give rise to any kind. Comments like, "What is it we are voting
of theni- on?" or "Weren't we supposed to tliscuss something
else first?" or "I ha\e no objection to that, but . . ."
I h e (juestion of consensus is central in de- all indicate that the individual is not yet ready to
cision jiiaking. in a deeper sense, consensus cast a positive vote for a given decision. He prob-
means that everyone in a group feels that the ably has an objection t.:iat ought to he brought out
group undcrstantis his position and his feelings into the open and discussecl.
about il; and he feels, then, that the group
shoukt take a particular course of action even Allov\ing the objector to raise bis jioint for
though he does not pcrsonaliv' agree. If the discussion is not just ,i hollow gesture. Ihe ob-
individual is not allowed to voice bis own feel- jector will be more likely to go along with the
ings and reasons for voting against the particu- final decision — or he may eventually carry
lar issue, he will, at least unconsciously, resist the day beeause he rellects some ohjections that
the efficient functioning of the group from that other people had but vv ere not avv are of. \Vhcther
point on. If consensus is not required, dceisions the group aetually changes its vote or not, it
can often he made more quickly (for example, will he more likely tc reach a correct decision.
hy majority rule or bv' fiat), but delay will prob- This opportunity for the group to discuss a
ably result, due to the unacknowledged mem- previously covert factor is \ cry important for its
bers hav ing various ways of resisting once the effectiveness.
decision has heen made and the action is under-
taken. Authority Problem
The ahiiity to detect a lack of eonsensus is, Another group phenomenon that leads to re-
of course, a very important attrihute for a group duced effectiveness concerns the relationship of
leader. A few rules of' thunih might he of help the group members to the leader of the group.
here. The clue is that it is very difficult to find (The term leader will be used loosely to mean
out whether there is a consensus, unless each the person who is, in tbe eyes of the group mem-
person is aTlow ed to speak: for lack of disagree- bers, supposed to head the group — usually
ment docs not necessarily indicate that the a formal leader, a designated person who has a
group has consensus. Frequently ]ieople simply higher title.) It is the nature of such relation-
are reluctant to raise their ohjections, flow- ships that members of the group bave amhiva-
ever, if each member is asked separately whether lent feelings toward the authority figure — hoth
or not he assents to the issue, the group leader positive and negative feelings. The negative
can usually pick up objections: feelings can be particularly disturbing since it
usually is hard for people to express such feel-
C Fie may be able to spot disagreement by notic- ings directly, because their jobs may be in jeop-
ing such things as changes in tone of voice. In one
group the leader asked if everyone agreed on a ardy or because they feel that they should not
suggestetl eourse of action. As he went around the attack an authority figure.
room he got the following responses: yes, yes, yes, Since the hostility must be expressed, how-
yes. yea, okay. This leader, being fairly astute, ever, they often transfer it to another member
immediately began to question the man who had of the group. Some other member, usually one
said okay, beeause this man apparently coukl not with characteristics similar to those disliked in
quite bring himself to be like the other members the leader, will be attacked more than be realis-
of the group vvith regard to this decision. This tically shoukl he for his behavior in the group.
inabilitv is usuallv a good indicatioii of an objec- He will he attacked not only for what he does,
tion. I'hc individual is reluctant to object directly
because of the weight of all the other members but also because the attack that the group vvouki
disagreeing vvith him. like to level toward the leader is displaced onto
After this man had been t(uizzcd for a while, it him. The term scapegoat is often used for this
became clear that he did have a strong objection. person. For example, if the group members are
Once he was allowed to talk it out, he went along dissatisfied because the leader is not giving suf-
vvith the group and vvas quite willing to say yes ficient direetion to the group, the dissatisfaction
and, in fact, to pitch in and work with the deci- may be vented toward a silent or nonpartici-
sion that was finallv made. pating member, the member in the group who
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comes closest to having the characteristic of the a group to deal with. Problem memhers are of
leader which the group memhers do not like. two main types — the overactive member and
For example: the underactive meiuher. Fither can disrupt
group functioning, and hoth are usually diffi-
In one marketing group the leader offered the
group \ery little tlirectiou, far less than most mem- cult to handle.
bers wouki have liked. Subsetjuently, everyone be- The overactive prohlem member dominates
gan to get very angry with one gmup member the group's attention far more than his abilities
who did not sa\ much and who occasionally missed warrant. The dilTiculties arise partly because
meetings beeause of his other commitments. The the apparent intensit)' of bis feelings leads to a
group attacked him for his lack of interest and general reluetanee of the group to hurt the indi-
unwillingness to contribute to the group. vidual while at the same time they cannot cur-
,\ kev to what was really happening is found in tail his destructive activities. To illustrate what
the fact that he was actually quite interested and can happen in such a situation:
was contributing a great deal, thus making the at-
tack somewhat untk'served; but significantly, the Tn one five-man group of military personnel
cliaracteristics which angered the group members working on a series of tactical problems, Mac im-
were precisely those that covertly irritated them mediately took over control of the group. Because
about the leader. .>\ppareutly they displaced their he vvas reasonably competent and highly forceful,
aggression from the leader, whom they felt they he went unchallenged for several meetings. The
could not attack directly, onto a group member who other group members were not \'ery compatible,
liad similar attributes. so they had a difficult time handling Mae. Gradu-
ally some members began losing interest in the
This same mechanism operates when the boss group until one discussion of a very trivial topic,
is too authoritarian. Somebody in the group who the postal rates from Washington to Chicago, came
lias similar tendencies will be severely attacked, up in one of their rest periods. Tbe exchange that
again as a displacement of the attack they would followed was amazing in that Mae was attacked
like to level at tbe boss. severely and at lengtTi by the other group mem-
bers for his dogmatically stated opinion about postal
With regard to dealing with this phenome- rates. The group used this topic to veiit their
non, perhaps the most useful thing to he said is stored-up feelings toward Mac. By this time, how-
that there are times when a leader, in order to ever, the group had no resources to cope with these
allow a group to operate more effectively, must strong feelings, and it quickly disintegrated after
himself heeome the scapegoat. If: he can absorb the conflict.
some of the hostility that is really meant for
Iiim or perhaps in some cases even absorb some The optimal solution to the prohlem repre-
of the hostility meant for other group members, sented hy tliis member is to liandle Tiini in such
he can be most useful in helping a group to a way that he can be retained in the group antl
function more effectively. Of course, in order his resources made use of and still not be al-
to do this the leader must be aware that the lowed to obstruct the group's functioning:
hostility is not necessarily directed at him per-
sonally; it is just an inevitable consequence of Another group had this problem vvith Bob. But
group activity that hostility does arise. If he this group (]uiekly deposed Bob and set up a leader
can absorb the hostility directly, it does not have of considerably less intellect but with superior co-
to he deflected into the group where it is most ordinating abilities. For a short time after they
tlestructive to the group and to the group's abil- had deposed Bob the group made sure he realized
he vvas not going to run the group; then they gradu-
it\- to fulfill its purposes. An important part of ally allowed him baek into the group hy paying
a leader's role is to be a scapegoat occasionally more attention to his ideas. Finally, after about
in order that the group may proceed and operate ten meetings, his ideas were highly influential and
more efleetiveW. This situation brings to mind sought by tlie group, althougTi he vvas not allowed
an old saying, ",\ good king is one whose sub- to dominate. In this way the group took care of
jeets prosper." the problem presented by an overactive memher
and was still able to utihzc his abilities. This is an
ideal solution and the sign of a strong, compatible
The Problem Member group.
Another frequently occurring group difficulty
ts the presence of a problem member, one of the Someone who will not become integrated into
most difficult of all interpersonal prohlems for tbe group also poses a problem for the group.
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The lack of commitment of this member, per- act minimally, to stay cut of groups, to maintain
haps even a lack of willingness to work, consti- privacy.
tutes a serious group problem. One solution is If a continuum were to be drawn between these
to eject the member from the group. This is a tw'o extremes, every pei'son coukl be placed at a
solution only insofar as it removes the souree of point (or region) at which he feels most comfort-
a difficulty; it does not allow the group to utilize able. Thus, to a certain degree each individual is
trying to belong to a group, but he is also trying
the man's abilities. The prohlem iriemher often to maintain a certain amount of privacy. From the
serves a useful function by enabling other mem- other point of view he wishes to some degree to
hers to direct their hostility toward him, so that have people initiate interaetion toward him through
they do not have to deal with the real differences invitations and the like., and also wishes to some
among themselves. Thus, it is not unusual tbat degree that people would leave him alone. For
if a chronically negative member 1:; absent, the each dimension these two aspects may be distin-
group finds that it still has disagreements. guished: (i) the behavior he initiates toward oth-
ers, Iiis expressed behavior; and (2) the behavior
he prefers others to express toward him, his want-
Framework for Behavior ed behavior. This distinction will prove valuable in
the discussion of eompatihility,
Now that T have described exampTes of sev-
eraT interpersonal problem situations and various The Need for Control. This is the need to
maintain a satisfactory relation between oneself
reactions to tliein, I shall present a brief outline and other people vvith regard to power and influ-
of a theory of interpersonaT heliavior. Tn order ence. Tn other words, eiery individual has a need
to deal with interpersonal hehavior it is neces- to control his situation to some degree, so that his
sary to have an understanding of the general environment can be predictable i'or him. Ordi-
principles of this hebavior, since formulas for narily this amounts to controlling other people,
handling specific situations are of limited value because other people aie the main agents which
at best. The follovving theory is by no means the threaten Tiim and create an unpredictable and
only one extant in psychological literature, but uncontrollable situation. This need for eontrol
it is offered as a possible framework for under- varies from those who want to control tlieir entire
standing phenomena of the type under discus- environment, incTuding all the people around them,
to those who want to control no one in any situa-
sion here. tion, no matter how appropriate controlling them
Interpersonal Needs would be.
Here, again, everyone varies as to the degree to
The hasis for evolving this theory of inter- which he wants to control others. In addition,
personal behavior is the individual's fundamen- everyone varies with respect to the degree to which
tal interpersonal relations orientation or, to ab- he wants to he controlled hy other people, from
breviate, FIRO, The basic assumption of this those who want to he completely controlled and
approaeh is that people need people. Every are dependent on others for making decisions for
human being, because he lives in a society, must them to those who want to be eontrolled under
establish an equilihrium between himself and no conditions.
his human environment — just as he must es- The Need for Affeetion. This is the need to
tahlish an equilibrium between himself and the maintain a satisfactory relation between the self
physieal world. This social nature of man gives and other people with regard to love and affection.
rise to certain interpersonaT needs, whieh he In the business setting this need is seldom made
must satisfy to some degree while avoiding overt. It takes tTie form of friendship. In essence,
threat to himself. Although eaeh individual has affeetion is a relationship between two people only,
different intensities of need and different mecha- a dyadic relationship. At one extreme individuals
nisms for handling them, people have three basie Tike very cTose, personal relationships with eaeh
interpersonal needs in common: individual they meet. At the other extreme are
those who like their personal relationships to be
The Need for Inelusioit. This is the need to quite impersonal and distant, perhaps friendly hut
maintain a satisfactory relation hetwecn the self not close and intimate.
and other people witTi respect to interaetion or be- Again, between these two extremes everyone has
Tongingness. Some peopTe Tike to be with other a level of intimacy which is most comfortable for
peopTe alT the time; they want to belong to organi- him. From the other side, each individual prefers
zations, lo interact, to mingle. Other peopTe seek that others make overtures to him in a way that
mueh less contact; they prefer to be alone, to inter- indicates a certain degree of closeness.
130 Harvard Business Reiieu'
l o clarilV the various orientations in ihcsc (.0 behavior), comprising a check list oF 54 state-
three areas, liXiiTurr T presents the exlrome posi- ments tlcsigncd to measure an individual's pro-
tions taken on each of the dimensions. I'xcry- pensities in eaeh of these six categories; a por-
one ills sujnewhcre between these two extremes, tion of it is shown in lixirii'-rr TTI. The resulting
most of them in the middle. scores for eaeh need area can be plotted on a
diagram, as In MXIUJJII' IV.
T. ExriuiME TTTF
IWo Kinds
EXPRESSED BFMAVIDR 8tHA'-lUF( that in iixiiuur fv there are two diag-
.Ti^TN-r Hl".i( rKil!Lr/t LOW onais, which may be used to explain two diiter-
U N11 n * SOCIAL COUNTLRSOCIAL ent kinds of eumpatibility — "originator eom-
patibility" (oK) and "interchange compatibility"
OVCRPLHSONAI UNUf.HMfFJKONAL
(xK). Individuals can be located on these diag-
onals from their scores (m FIllO-B.
fn popular literature there are at least two
Group Compatibility well-known and app;irently contradictory max-
ims relating to the bases of compatihility: "Op-
This theory of interpersonal relations ean be posites attract," and "Birds of a feather flock to-
very useful to businessmen in determining the gether." Considering the diagonals on EXHIBIT
compatibility ol' the members of a group. If at rv might aid us in coming to a sensible resolution
the outset we ean ehoose a group of people who of these maxims, since there seems to be some
ean work together harmoniously, we shall go far truth in each of them:
toward avoiding situations where a group's ef-
Originator Diagonal. Let us take an example in
forts are wasted in interpersonal contliets. the control dimension and consider the lower right
Our theoretical framework is designed to han- to upper left line. The people who fall in the low-
dle this problem. Suppose we consider in more er right quadrant are the ones -who want to con-
detail the two aspeets for each one of the three trol others and do not want to be controlled them-
interpersonal dimensions. One aspeet is what selves. These people ciin be called autocrat-rebels;
we do with relation to other people; let us eall they want to be the bosses and do not want anyone
this "e" for expressed hehaviof. The seeond is else to tell them what to do. In tbe upper left
what u c want Irom other people, how we want cjuiidrant we have just the opposite. These arc
them to act toward us; let us call this "w" for abdicrat-submissives; they want to be told what to
wanted Ijchavior. Then we ean use "e" and "w" do, and they do not want to eonlrol anyone else.
to try to find out how people will relate to each Fur .smooth functioning it would appear that if
we had one autocrat-rebel, we \^'()uid not want an-
other in the inclusion dimension ("I"), the con- other one, since they would both want to give or-
trol dimension ("C"), and the affection dimen- ders and neither would want to take them. This
sion ("A")> iis shown sehematically in EXHIBIT IL is called eompetitive incompatibility. Also, if we
had two abdicrat-submissives, a situation would be
II. ScirKMA o r INTEHI'KKSONAT.. B F H A \ IORS created wherein both people want someone to tell
them what to do and neither wants to do the tell-
F:XPR!:SS)£D BEHAVIOR WANTtID BEHAVIOR ing. This is called apathctie iiieompatibility. How-
ever, if we ha\e one autocrat-rebel and one abdi-
erat-subniissive, the relationship will probably be
peopip '0 conifnl harmonious, since one person nants to gi\e orders
t vjon' people 10 gel t!05t and the other wants to take them.
JiitL-rchangc Diagonal. Now, consider the other
diagonal 011 the diagram. Let us take att'ection for
ir we make a ten-point scale, from zero to an example this time. In the upper right quadrant
nine, and say that in each of the two aspects oi' are the people who express a lot of close personal
the three dimensions everyone has some propen- behavior and want the same expressed to them.
sity, some preferred behavior, we ean charac- These are the people of "high interehange," and
terize each person by six scores: e^ w^ e*^, w'^. they ean be called overpersonal-personal-compliants.
They like an atmosphere in wliicli there is a lot
In the course of my researeh I have developed of affeetion; so, for instanee, they woukl like a
a questionnaire, called FIRO-B (the "Ii" refers party hcttcr than a bi»ard of directors meeting. In
luterpersoiial Underworld 13 1
EXHIBIT III. S A M P L E O F QUESTIOP^NATRE
NAME.
GROUP
DATE
MALE
AGE
FEMALE,
FIRO-B
please place number of the answer that hest applies to you in the box at the left o ' the statement. Please be as
honest as you can.
c.
Reproduction in whole or p.irt peri^ilted lor ^iny iniipo>e oi iht Unitcii ^t.iie^ Gu>.Trii:nciu
(See other side)
the lower left quadrant arc people of "low inter- anyone. Tliey like tbeir relations rather reserved,
change," who like neither to give nor to receive at'- cool, and distant.
lection. They can be called iinderpersonal-counter- Here the complementary idea of the originator
personals. They do not want anyone to get very diagonal — that opposites attract — does not ap-
close to them, nor do they want to get very close to ply; for, if one person likes to be very close and
personal and the other person does not, they are
ExniurT iv. GRAPHIC REPRESENTATION OF INTER-
going to threaten each other. One who likes to
PERSONAL DIMENSIONS
keep his relations reserved is not going to like it
when the other makes overtures; and, in the re-
RECEIVER ONLY HIGH INTERCHANGE verse direction, the one who wants very close rela-
\
tions is not going to be very happy if the other
\
s
y
docs not. So it seems reasonable that the situation
W»WANTED \ would lead to harmony more readily il:' the people
OTHER-TO-SELF
BEHAVIOR
N ^
s / A
involved were close on this diagonal, unlike the
e-EXPRESSED
0 \
y
9 situation on the originator diagonal.
SELF-TO-OTMER , ' In the inclusion d,!mension, again, it would be
BEHAVIOR Q , ' '
better if both interacting persons were very close
s to being cither very high or very low on this diag-
f
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