Translation of Khutba （Friday December 3, 2010）

2010） （Bringing up Children）

Children）

Bismillah-r-Rahman-r-RahimW All praises be to Allah, Lord and Sustainer of the worlds, and may the peace and
blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and upon his family and companions.

Abu Dawud and Al-Baihaqi narrated on the authority of ‘ Abdullah bin ‘ Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who

said: “ One day, my mother called me, while the Messenger was present in our house, and said: O ‘ Abdullah! Come!
I want to give you something. The Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ What will you give him?”
She said: I want to give him some dates. He said: “ If you did not give him anything, it would have been recorded as a
lie on your part.” It was also narrated that the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ Whoever says to a child

‘ Come and take this!’ but does not give him anything, it will be counted as a lie.” (Ahmad). This is a way of
inculcating in children to tell the truth and not to tell lies.

Al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority of “ Al-Nu’ man bin Bashir (may Allah be pleased with him and his
father) that his father took him to the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) and said: I have given my son this servant

as a gift. The Messenger (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said to him: “ Have you given to your other children a similar
gift?” He said: No. The Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ Then take back your gift!” In

another narration he said: “ Bashir! Do you have other children?” He said: Yes. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa
Sallam) said: “ Have you given them the like of him?” He said: No. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:

“ Then do not expect me to witness this; I do not witness injustice” or he said: “ Seek a witness other than me” . He
(Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) then said: “ Will you be pleased if all of them will equally be kind to you?” He replied:

Yes. He (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ Then do not do that” . These Hadiths represent an asset to be resorted
to, in order to inculcate justice in the hearts of fathers, since injustice is always a cause of enmities, especially if it

comes from a father. The result of hatred is that the children will lose the right way. If we examine the incidents of
adversities and hatred among brothers and sisters, it will be seen that these incidents are the result of injustice. The

Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) stressed in words and in deeds on the kindness towards children and avoiding
hard-heartedness when dealing with them.

It was reported from ‘ A’ ishah that “ the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) kissed Al-Hassan and Al-Hussain,
the sons of ‘ Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) while Al-Aqra’ bin Habis Al-Taimi was in his audience. Al-Aqra’
said: I have ten children, none of whom I have ever kissed. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) looked at him
and said: “ Those who do not show mercy to others will not be shown mercy” . ‘ A’ ishah narrated: “ A Bedouin came

to the Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) and said: You kiss your children, while we do not kiss them.
The Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ I can not help that Allah has removed mercy from your
heart.” Supposing that mercy towards a child is removed from the heart of his a father, mother or relatives, can

education avail that child who is deprived of this mercy? Will he accept advice or admonition? Can advice avail
someone who has gone astray or about to go astray?
The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) was a practical example for children. It was reported by At-Tirmidhi and

others on the authority of ‘ Abdullah bin Buraidah from his father (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) who
said: “ I saw the Messenger of Allah (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) while he was delivering a sermon, Al-Hassan and
Al-Hussain (may Allah be pleased with them) came wearing red garments and stumbling while walking. The Prophet
(Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) descended Al Minbar (the pulpit) and carried them and put them in front of him. He then

said: “ Your property and children are only a trial. I saw these two boys stumbling in their walk and could not help
stopping my sermon and raising them” . Al-Nasa’ i and Al-Hakim narrated: “ While the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi
Wa Sallam) was leading people in Prayer, Al-Hussain came and rode on his neck while he was prostrating himself. The
Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) prolonged prostration, until they (the worshipers) thought there was something

wrong. When Prayer finished, the people said: You prolonged prostration, O Messenger of Allah, until we thought that
there was something wrong with you. He replied: “ My son rode on me i.e. rode on my back, and I disliked to disturb
him until he satisfies himself (and gets down)” .

Some people may rely on the pretext that they cannot control their children, because they are disobedient and that they

are adults. If we are to acknowledge this pretext, we will find after some deliberation that the fathers and guardians in
such situation are to be blamed for losing their prestige, as they have neglected the commandments of Allah concerning

their children in the first place. They have given their children unlimited freedom to do what they want, without
checking their affairs, counseling them, having meals with them, etc. Thus, estrangement prevails in the relations

between parents and their children and each feels averse to the other. How can parents, then, expect that their
children will obey them or abide by their directions? To whom will children resort to when they face a problem or are

in a dilemma?

If from the beginning parents fear Allah and rear their children in a way that pleases Allah, Allah would improve their
conditions in this worldly life and in the Hereafter.

Allah the Almighty says in the Quran in Suratul Al-Ahzab:

“ O ye who believe! Fear Allah and (always) say a word directed to the Right” (S.33 V.70).

O Allah ! Give us affluence with Your Grace. untill we don’ t need favor from any one.
O Allah ! Guide us to the right path. Strengthen our Iman
O Allah ! Give shifa(cure) to all who are sick
O Allah ! Give Barakah and HalalRizk on our business.

O Allah ! Give us Taufiq and strength to serve Islam and Muslims

O Allah ! Provide Halal Rizq to all Muslims in Japan and all over the world
O Allah ! May Grant peace and safety for Musmims in Japan and all over the world

O Allah ! Accept us for spreading Islam in Japan and all over the world Ya Rabbil Aalameen