Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Christian Heritage: Young Christian Women from Africa has noted that the practic
e of Christianity here is different from what they experience back in Africa. Th
ey feel it is hard making decisions regarding who is a real christian and who
is not.
Family Expectations: This is the big one, Parents have great expectations from
their daughters, they expect them to marry an African, they have specific list o
f the kind of a man they should marry. Some parents want their daughters to marr
y from their Christian denomination, example a Catholic Parent want their daught
er to marry a catholic, same thing applies to Anglican parents. They also expec
t that their daughters marry some one from their state of origin, example Africa
n that speaks same dialect. Their is absoluetly nothing wrong in these expectati
ons, they are all healthy except that in some cases it might not work out as par
ents wish.
Work & School: It is very difficult for Africans to adjust to this situation, be
cause they are used to going to school, graduating from school before having a j
ob. Here they have to go to school at the same time keep a job. This gives no ro
om and time for any one to socialize or meet the "right guy". For the men, this
might not be a problem, for the women, it is a big problem, because they also wa
nt to go to school, get a degree, and get married.
Distance between Africa & America: It is such a long distance and a lot of money
involve for air fare and traveling. This creates stress, puts limits on dating
some one from home or dating some one here. The fear of distant relationship and
not being able to keep up creates limit and put strain on such relationships.
Immigration: Immigration /Visa issues is a big problem that creates limitation a
nd course dilemma for young women, even when they are able to keep a long distan
ce relationship and finally gets married, it remains a problem, they are not sur
e if they will be able to bring their spouse here,how long it will take to proce
ss paper and save up money for relocating the man. what is the waiting period be
fore they can finally be together. This is scary, because it could take years. M
ay be 5-10 years. No young couple wants to be apart in their early married life.
Financial Issue: Money Plays an important role in the life of Africans, first if
your parents are back home, than you are thinking of saving up money to have yo
ur wedding back home and that is allot of money. Given financial challenges you
are thinking of marrying some one from Africa to give you opportunity of going b
ack home other wise, it becomes more difficult.
Educational level and background of the man. It is obvious that as a lady livin
g in United States, you tend to be established settled in a job or what ever the
case might be. Given the fact that No matter the level of your education in for
eign Country, once you get to United States, your degree is not so much as worth
any thing, since you have to go through process to prove your qualifications an
d in some cases, you have to go to school all over again. This creates a problem
and concern for our young women, because than you have to deal with the waiting
period and than you have to deal with your spouse to be or husband going throug
h the period of adjustment and settling down, to have a harmonious relationship
as husband and wife. All this creates stress and strain to a relationship.
What can we do as women of God and Parents to help support and make it easier on
our young women in making these great important decisions in their lives?
Our young women have suggested that first of all they need their Parents to unde
rstand the frustration that they are going through, be realistic about some of t
he expectations they are making on them.
Inter-racial marriage