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the amygdala. This is the most primitive part of our mind, the part that our distant ancestors relied on to 101 Healthy Habits that
decide whether to flee a perceived threat, or stand and fight; also known as the “fight or flight” response to Anyone Can Follow
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The reactions of the amygdala are so quick that they are for all intents automatic. The first thing we often
recognize when it fires cognitively distorted automatic thoughts into our mind is a physical sensation, like rapid
breathing, muscles tightening, temperature rising, rapid pulse, etc. We often do not even recognize the actual
thoughts, or self-talk, that is escalating the physical and emotional reaction to whatever is happening around
us. For a cave man facing a tiger, this is a very healthy thing. For modern people, in most situations, this is not Support Balance In Me
usually very healthy as our responses are often inappropriate when we are hijacked by the amygdala.
Another reason why automatic thoughts are so powerful is they are directly linked to, if not originated by, the
unconscious mind. I would argue that the rapid emotional responses caused by the amygdala are actually the
generated by our unconscious mind. The self-talk that happens after the initial, unconscious response, which if
it is cognitively distorted, escalates the emotional reactions, may not originate from the unconscious but it is
often so hardly noticeable that it must at least form a bridge to the unconscious mind.
In other words, automatic thoughts are so powerful because we typically do not have conscious awareness or
control over them. They act directly within our unconscious, which controls our emotions, and our physical
responses to our environment. Even more powerful, the unconscious mind actually creates our perceptions of
the world around us. It creates our maps of reality, in effect creating our reality.
1. All or nothing thinking. I also call this “black or white” thinking. Everything is all good, or all bad. There
is nothing in between.
2. Overgeneralization. You tend to view any single negative thing as an eternal pattern of negativity. If
one bad thing happens, the world is obviously coming to an end.
3. Disqualifying the positive. You can’t accept anything positive ever happening. So if something good
happens, you always find a way to turn it into a negative thing, or explain why it was a fluke or it doesn’t
count.
4. Mental filter. You filter out all good qualities of something so you can focus on the negative. In this way
everything becomes negative.
5. Jumping to conclusions. You become a mind reader and a fortune teller. You interpret everything in a
negative way without any supporting evidence.
6. Catastrophizing or minimization. You blow minor things out of proportion, and minimize positive
things.
7. Emotional reasoning. You assume that your negative emotions and feelings reflect actual reality. If you
feel bad, everything is bad.
8. Should statements. You try and mold the world to your vision of reality, instead of accepting the world’s
reality. A very common version of this in relationships is, “If he (or she) loved me he (or she) wouldn’t ….”
9. Labeling and mislabeling. Overgeneralization in the extreme. You actually believe the
overgeneralizations and make them reality in your own mind.
10. Personalization. You take things personally. You become very defensive at even the slightest perceived
criticism.
While the automatic responses of the amygdala can still be of benefit to us even in modern society, these
responses can lead us to overreact, or react inappropriately. This is why another part of the brain, the orbital
frontal cortex (OFC), developed as we evolved into social beings. The OFC is the rational mind. It’s the part of
the mind that keeps us from overreacting to ordinary stress and challenges. It keeps the amygdala in check…
usually.
But we must make an effort to actually engage the OFC. It does not often respond to our environment as
automatically or as quickly as the amygdala seems to. The best way to start developing a habit of recognizing
your automatic self-talk (thoughts) is to consciously think about the thoughts that are going through your
mind at the very first sign that emotions are welling up inside you. This first sign is usually physical, as
discussed above.
When you first recognize that your breathing is becoming rapid and shallow, or your temperature is rising, or
your pulse is rising, etc., STOP. Take a deep breath, or two or three, until you feel yourself start to calm down,
and listen to your inner self-talk. What is it telling you?
Most likely a large portion of that talk will fall into one of those 10 cognitive distortion categories. Once you can
recognize the thoughts, try and label them. Are they emotional reasoning, catastrophizing, personalization, or
one of the other cognitive distortions? Once you know what they are, then counter them with a “cooling”
thought. Let your OFC do its work by bringing logic and rationale into those thinking patterns.
With time you will get very good at recognizing and cooling those hot automatic thoughts. In doing so you will
become a more productive problem solver, and a much happier person as your reality will be filled with glasses
that are half full.
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Thanks for commenting. The fight or flight response has been with us since the very beginning
of our species, and is one of the strongest of our instincts. It predates the development of our
executive centers of the brain. We must always be vigilant if we are to counter and moderate
the strong instinct to simply react.
Chris
2. Mandi says:
May 16, 2010 at 10:51 am
This explains so much for me. Thank you for this post!
Chris
Great to know the actual science behind all our negative talk – and thanks for your tips on how to
recognise such talk and to transform it.
I have been applying the teachings of Eckhart Tolle in his book “Power of Now” and lately have
become more and more aware of just how much small talk goes in my head. Now to quieten this
negative voice down, using your tips:-)
Chris Akins says:
May 18, 2010 at 12:13 pm
I also like Tolle. He is very philosophical, and I think he ties in a lot of our instinctual
reactions into his works.
Chris
Beliefs are the filters through which we pass information received by our senses. Im actually
working on a book right now that addresses the roles of beliefs in reality creation.
Chris
Lisa
Ive found the best way (for me) to manage automatic thoughts is through meditation and
journaling. If I can reflect on situations where I was angry or in some other way did not respond
as well as I would have like, I can almost always identify distortions and try and counter them,
usually in my journal. This is sort of like “practicing” for the next situation to respond better.
Chris
I really enjoyed this practical guide to our thoughts and emotions. I know that the automatic click-
whirr patterns that everyone learns can be unproductive in many situations. Stepping back and taking
a more rational approach puts us back in control and in a position to CHOOSE. I really like the 10
negative thoughts and one I’d add is perfectionism. Great article – thank you.
Phil
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