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Saturday, April 23
April 8-9 Torah Study, 9:30 am
Parashat Metzora Shabbat Morning Service, 10:30 am
Friday, April 8 Havdalah, 8:52 pm
Candlelighting, 7:12 pm
Oneg Shabbat, 5:45 pm
Kabbalat Shabbat Service, 6:15 pm April 24-25
Seventh Day of Pesach
Saturday, April 9 Sunday, April 24
Torah Study, 9:30 am Festival Evening Service, 6:15 pm
Shabbat Morning Service, 10:30 am
Havdalah, 8:43 pm Monday, April 25
Festival Morning Service, 10:30 am
April 15-16
Parashat Achrei Mot April 29-30
Friday, April 15 Parashat Kedoshim
Candlelighting, 7:17 pm Friday, April 29
Oneg Shabbat, 5:45 pm Candlelighting, 7:26 pm
Kabbalat Shabbat Service, 6:15 pm Oneg Shabbat, 5:45 pm
Kabbalat Shabbat Service, 6:15 pm
Saturday, April 16
Torah Study, 9:30 am Saturday, April 30
Shabbat Morning Service, 10:30 am Torah Study, 9:30 am
Havdalah, 8:47 pm Shabbat Morning Service, 10:30 am
Havdalah, 8:57 pm
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April Birthdays
April 1 April 8 April 15 April 22
Laurie Davis Julian Bernat Marty Klein Evan Blackburn
Orit Eylon Ryan Miner
April 2 Bob Goldfarb April 23
Ali Gluck Shelly Gopin April 16 Oren Belkin
Michael Goldman Taylor Crossland* Elisa Lerer*
Rena Marcus April 9 Lee Schweitzer
Adele Siegel Aaron McCoy April 24
Stuart Shiloff April 17 James Keller
April 3 Joe Feldberg Lloyd Krapin
Brent Harris April 10 Linda Miner
Bud Ramenofsky Mike Batkin April 25
Rachel Weinstein Roee Belkin April 18 Joanne Farley
Sue Zaltz* Callie Blumenfeld* Sydney Goltz* Idell Rothstein
Thomas Krapin Etta Mae Scherr*
April 4 April 11 Nancy Laster*
Scott Blumenfeld Edi Brannon Mark Schrier April 27
Martha Schlusselberg Lory Goldberg* Arlene Ellenburg
Stephanie Shapiro April 19
Wendy Siegel April 12 Bill Berry April 28
Larry Anenberg Alexander Christiansen Barbara Behne
April 5 Brent Mobbs Helen Goldberg
Dick Fass Bob Nitzburg Julia Lerer April 29
David Westermann David Rothbardt Noam Belkin*
April 6 Bill Spier Lila Bowman*
Peggy Feinberg April 13 Susan Schecter*
Jeryl Marcus Alan Karp* April 20
Elaine Krasne* April 30
April 7 April 14 Max Schwartz Jordan Horn
Erline Gordon* Donna Leffman
Peggy Kovan April 21
Jessica Gopin
Ellen Hirsch
April Anniversaries
April 1 April 8 April 25
Josh & Jenny Meyer Steve & Ann Lauterbach Alejandro Restrepo & Michelle
Tony & Julie Mullen Assael
April 12
April 2 William & Cynthia Bass April 30
Fred & Ada Marcus Bob & Claire Jacobs
April 20
April 5 Michael & Melanie Alkov *Special 5 or 10 year Birthday or
Jim & Carol Parker Mike & Debby Robalin* Anniversary
April 6 April 22
Joey Taylor & Michele Alderete- Eddie & Laurie Knipp
Taylor
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Improv Workshop
The Improv Workshop has been meeting on Monday nights from 7 to
9 pm in Zielonka Hall.
The main goals of this group are to have fun, to build our skills of
listening, teamwork, imagination and spontaneity, to learn to be in
the moment, and to gain confidence with movement. Through
improv games, movement-based exercises, and scene work, they will
build toward creating—for themselves—longer improvised theatrical
experiences that will be powerful, funny, honest, and compelling. It
is not necessary to be a clever or funny person to join this group—it
is really about learning to trust others.
David Novick is leading the group. He brings a lot of experience
from attending many workshops, performing with ComedySportz in
Portland, Oregon, and leading team-building improv workshops
here in El Paso.
No experience is necessary to join! The group will be open to all
Temple members over Bar/Bat Mitzvah age. If you’re interested (or
just want to ask questions), please contact David at novick@utep.edu.
MSTY/mini-MSTY
On March 12, MSTY hosted a lock-in at Temple with BETY, the Las Cruces Youth
Group. The 8th graders from both Temples were also invited. The lock-in was a
huge success—there were a total of 17 kids in attendance. Thank you to Greta
Duran for helping out that night by staying at Temple to supervise.
This month, 14 MSTYites will be joining the rest of the youth groups in the NFTY
Southwest region for Spring Kallah in Phoenix, AZ. We will be choosing a new
NFTY-SW board, and two of our own are running for board positions, Kaylen
Duran and Melanie Shapiro. Good luck to both of them.
Mini-MSTY will be holding their annual Chocolate Seder right before Passover. If
any parent would like to host this event please contact Stacy Berry at 241-6627 or
sapurvin97@yahoo.com.
Gesher
The next Gesher get together will be Sunday, April 10 at 10 am. We will be learning all about Passover.
Assistive listening devices are available at the entrance to our chapel and
sanctuary. Please ask a greeter for assistance.
If you have inadvertently left Temple with one of these devices, please
return it as soon as possible. These headsets are programmed to be used
only in our Sanctuary and Chapel, and many of them have disappeared,
meaning that they are not available for congregants who use them at
services. If you find you have one of these (perhaps in that drawer with all
the yarmulkes!), please return it to the Temple office so that it may be put
back into service.
Thank you for your cooperation.
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a reason to get out of bed each morning. It’s hard learn to love life again.
to look forward to each day when you know you First, now that the person you loved is gone, what
will be experiencing pain and sadness. To counter- do you want? What do you want to do with your
balance your normal and necessary mourning, each time? Where do you want to live? With whom do
and every day plan—in advance—something you you want to socialize? Whom do you want to be
enjoy. Reading, baking, going for a walk, having near? These are big questions that may take some
lunch with a friend, gardening, playing computer time for you to answer.
games—do whatever brings you enjoyment.
Second, what is wanted of you? Who needs you?
Your mind is the intellectual ability to think, to ab- Who depends upon you? What skills and experi-
sorb information, make decisions and reason logi- ence can you bring to others? What are you good
cally. Without doubt, you have special needs in the at? Why did God put you here on this earth? While
cognitive realm of your grief experience. Just as considering what you want is important, it alone
your body and emotions let you know you have does not a complete life make.
experienced being “torn apart,” your mind has also,
Asking yourself these questions on a daily basis
in effect, been torn apart.
may help you focus on the here-and-now. What do
Thinking normally after the death of someone pre- I want from my life today? What is wanted of me
cious to you would be very unlikely. Don’t be sur- today? Living in the moment will help you better
prised if you struggle with short-term memory cope with your grief.
problems, have trouble making even simple deci-
sions, and think you may be “going crazy.” Essen-
tially, your mind is in a state of disorientation and Make a list of goals.
confusion. As C.S. Lewis noted after the death of While you should not set a particular time and
his wife, “At times if feels like being mildly drunk, course for your healing, it may help you to have
or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket made other life goals for the coming year. Make a
between the world and me. I find it hard to take in list of short-term goals for the next three months.
what anyone says.” Perhaps some of the goals could have to do with
Early in your grief, you may find it helpful to allow mourning activities (e.g., making a memory book
yourself to “suspend” all thought and purposeful- or writing thank-you notes to people who helped at
ness for a time. Allow yourself just to be. Your the time of death).
mind needs time to catch up with and process your Also make a list of long-term goals for the next
new reality. In the meantime, don’t expect too year. Be both realistic and compassionate with
much of your intellectual powers. yourself as you consider what’s feasible and feels
Your cognitive powers are quite remarkable. Will- good and what will only add to much stress to your
ing yourself to think something can in fact help life. Keep in mind that, because of your grief, you
make that something come to be. Think about your may feel more fatigued than usual. Don’t over
desired reality and make it happen. Following are commit, thereby setting yourself up for failure.
just a few ideas to help you care for your cognitive Try to include at least one or two “just for fun”
self during your journey through grief. What ideas goals in your list. For example, you might want to
can you think of? take a photography class or learn to tie fly fishing
flies.
Ask yourself two questions: What do I want?
What is wanted of me? Avoid making any major changes in your life for
at least two years.
The answers to these two questions may help you
not only survive the coming months and years, but (Continued on page 18)
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(Continued from page 17) for example. In these cases, know that you are do-
While it can be helpful to have goals to help you ing what you must and trust that everything will
look to a brighter future, it’s a mistake to march too work out.
boldly ahead. Sometimes, in an effort to obliterate
the pain and “move forward,” mourners make rash
Count your blessings
decisions shortly after the death. Some move to a
new home or city. Some quit their jobs. Some break You may not be feeling very good about your life
ties with people in their life or take on new relation- right now. You may feel that you are unlucky. You
ships too quickly. Typically these changes are soon may feel you are destined to be unhappy. You may
regretted. They often end up compounding feelings feel that the universe is conspiring against you.
of loss and complicating healing as well as creating That’s OK. There is, indeed, a time for every pur-
staggering new headaches. (For example, more than pose under heaven—including self-doubt. Indeed,
half of all remarriages within the first two years of self-doubt is as normal a part of grief as anger or
widowhood end in divorce.) sadness.
If at all possible, avoid making drastic changes for at Still, you are blessed. Your life has purpose and
least two years after the death. You cannot run meaning, even without the presence of the person
away from the pain, so don’t make things worse by who died. It will just take you some time to think
trying to. Instead, give yourself at least a full 24 and feel this through for yourself.
months to consider any other major changes in your
life. Think of all you have to be thankful for. This is not
Of course, sometimes you may be forced to make a to deny the hurt, for the hurt needs to take prece-
significant change in your life soon after the death. dence right now. But it may help to consider the
Financial realities may force you to sell your house, things that make your life worth living, too.
At Temple Mount Sinai’s Annual Congregational Meeting on Tuesday, April 12, 2011, the
following names are in nomination for officers and trustees:
Board Trustees: Rick Amstater, Bill Carvajal, Cindy Graff Cohen, Susie Goldman, Arthur
Leeser, Hal Marcus, Susan May, Josh Meyer, Debby Robalin, Danielle Scher, Mark Schrier,
Jane Snow, Maria Klein WRJ Representative, Scott Feldt MRJ Representative and Ellen
Goodman Sh’lichim Representative.
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Staff
Rabbi ............................................................... Larry Bach
Rabbi Emeritus ............................................... Ken Weiss
Temple Mount Sinai is the
Administrator ................................................ Sally Parke
Administrative Assistant ....................Buddy Schwartz
Reform Jewish congregation
Religious School Director................................ Grace Bir
Outreach Director ........................................Susan Jaffee
serving El Paso, Texas.
Youth Advisor ............................................... Stacy Berry
Rabbi’s Assistant ........................................... Elisa Gluck We are a congregation of
Building Manager .............................. Frank Hernandez
House Keeping ......................................Ramona Pinales supportive, caring and
Accompanist ........................................... Linda McClain
diverse people with a rich
Officers
David Kern ................................................................. President history.
Shari Schwartz ................................................. President-Elect
Marian Daross ....................................................Vice President
Greta Duran........................................................Vice President
Temple is a place for prayer,
Ellen Goodman ..................................................Vice President
David Leffman ...................................................Vice President ritual, spirituality, education,
Jon Sonnen ..........................................................Vice President
Stephanie Calvo ..........................................................Secretary wholeness and healing, social
Marcia Dahlberg ............................ Immediate Past President
action and celebration.
Trustees
Rick Amstater, Joyce Davidoff, Join us as we explore,
Scott Feldt, Lori Gaman, Susie Goldman,
Jack Heydemann, Maria Klein, Hal Marcus,
Susan May, David Novick, Debby Robalin,
through these elements of
Phil Rothstein, Mark Schrier, Jane Snow
sacred living, the richness of
Jewish faith and tradition.